Welcome to the Ace community. I almost cried reading this post because it was a lot like my experience—when I first found out I was Ace. It still gets difficult for me—months after my revelation. I just wanted to share these links about Ace Dad. He really helps me out. Coming Out Podcast with Partner January 31, 2022 at 11:57PM

I really never came out as I never really had any friends as I also have schizoid personality disorder and most of my friends didn't care that I wasn't interested in sex and being sexually attracted to someone. Only figured out I was asexual until I did some research in my 30's January 31, 2022 at 11:54PM

Thanks....suffice it to say I have always been conscientious to make sure she's ready through oral sex until she tells me she wants me. She always climax s either that way or if I side with her stimulating her clitoris. I think ...yes it's a libido thing...but never has she just wanted to help me out...in the past she always did get to "release" even if I didn't....I was fine with it,since it was what I considered intimacy with her...if she isn't in the mood...nothing happens ... period. Over years it's just gone from monthly to now nothing in the last year..... January 31, 2022 at 11:49PM

I only hear very strong opinions about this. I’ve been lifting for 10 years now, and I still can’t tell whether or not it’s okay to meet people there and score dates. Seems like 50% say it’s creepy and no one is there for that, then the other 50% say it’s perfectly normal and most single people who are working out are specifically doing it to look good and attract a partner, so it’s a perfect place to meet someone new. So I’m confused. I’m my experience, it works just fine. Most people are cool about it. I’ve been in relationships where I’m the “fit” one, and I really wish she would take fitness more seriously. So, instead of meeting people at bars or through work, why not meet someone at the gym? That way you know you’re both self-motivated to be healthy and you already have that in common. What do you guys think? Are you working out to look better for others as well as yourself? Is the gym not a good place to meet people? If you think it’s creepy, why? Submitted February 01, ...

I (24F) started dating my partner (23M) about six months ago. I dated one of his good friends years ago and after that relationship ended, my now partner and I, along with a handful of my partner's friends stayed connected through the end of college (spring 2020), and formed a smaller friend group that got to hang out online each week because we couldn't hang in person. This group consisted of me, my now partner, his then girlfriend, and three mutual friends. The girlfriend (23F today) and I were on good terms at the time; she helped me get through the breakup with the guy who first introduced me to them all and helped me feel included even though I went to a different college. It was tough staying in touch with the group in the beginning of the pandemic because everyone felt underwater, but by the winter of 2020, we were staying in pretty decent contact and started texting about things outside of the games we played online that brought us together. Then the girlfriend ended ...

Here’s some context: I‘ve had a bit of a fucked up upbringing. To make it short: My Dad used to be a violent asshole (He would beat my brother as a baby for crying too loud and verbally abused me all throughout my life) and my Mum was through and through a narcissistic manipulator. Everyday of my childhood was full of screams, objects breaking and me waking up in the morning terrified. So needless to say, I wasn’t given the best example of what a healthy relationship is. Because of that I have never really been crazy about the whole dating thing. I believed that a relationship can be nothing but painful and should be avoided. I have had a thing with a guy every once in a while but would stop it and push them away every time before it got too serious. I went through some tough years in my short life. I suffered from depression and almost killed myself, only to pull myself out of that state all by myself. Today I live on my own and have finally been happy and relatively worry free fo...

but you’re just here for emotional support :) Submitted February 01, 2022 at 12:14AM but you’re just here for emotional support :)

you’re just here for emotional support :) Submitted February 01, 2022 at 12:16AM you’re just here for emotional support :)

I saw the title and thought you cloned yourself January 31, 2022 at 12:34AM

"The crush would fade when it got too real" is a sentence that sums up so much of my experience with interpersonal relationships so well January 31, 2022 at 12:34AM

I dont think they were picking a fight or something, in my opinion they were just explaining how what they said could come off as homophobic. I totally agree with your point in general terms tho! Plus yeah, as an older gen z i agree, fighting all the time is exhausting, but it is in my blood hahah im sure we could learn to relax a bit January 31, 2022 at 12:33AM

Hi, I'll give a brief synopsis of where I'm at so far: First date: Nice Asian buffet, we talked a lot about philosophy and the state of the world (she has a white-collar job where she works 70 hours a week) and she said it was the most interesting conversation she's had in many months. We hug and she leaves after I walked her to the train station. Second date: Seafood restaurant, we drank and laughed a lot on this one, but there were also some pauses that I perceived as awkward, so I was surprised that at the end of the date, she asked me when my next availability was. We hugged again and she left. Third date: We went through a museum (it was fast, like less than 30 minutes), then we went to this SUPER upscale restaurant by the water. We again seemed to have a good conversation, and I made her laugh several times. I also made sure to get into deeper questions like whether she wants a family, or if she's religious, and we both have basically the same positions in tho...

Due to life circumstances such as being on anti depressants, focusing on school and my career, my Mormon upbringing, and not putting myself out there enough, I’ve (31F) never been in a serious relationship and have only had sex with two men. One was an on-and-off, casual relationship I had a little over 5 years ago that lasted about nine months with a guy who was emotionally abusive, selfish in bed, and raped me once. I’ve since gone to therapy and have dealt with it the best I can. The other was a semi-nice guy I went on three dates with a few months ago, but due to a bunch of miscommunication, my lack of experience, and not being able to tell whether he was interested or not, it fizzled out. This was the first time I’d dated and had sex since the guy previously mentioned. I’m thinking about getting back on dating apps, but I’ve lost what little confidence I had and would like to gain some of that back. Any tips for someone like me on how to approach dating and sex? I don’t think ...

Hi, so sorry I’m not really trying to go into detail abt the situation or explain how I know… we do. but basically a little fun w this couple happened abt 2 years ago where I was invited to the bedroom and you know things went a little further w/ the s.o and we reaaaally like e/o now…like not love, but we’d be in love if the circumstances were right or we met first… we don’t know how to truly stop, it’s selfish but he’s figuring things out in home life to be able to available not saying we’re gonna jump in something but where we can enjoy e/o without sneaking and stuff… have you ever been in this situation? Fell for e/o when one isn’t available Judgement free zone please. I’m trying my best to just walk alway but I feel like I really found my soulmate even if we’re just friends I feel like we crossed paths for a reason everything just adds up 😭 Submitted January 31, 2022 at 12:04AM Hi, so sorry I’m not really trying to go into detail abt the situation or explain how I know… we...

So I (M17) have been dating this girl (17) for two weeks now and we hit it off immediately. Things were great at the start and now I am just not really feeling that connection anymore. Problem is she has a few mental issues and was in the metal hospital because she tried to kill herself. I met her like a momth after she got out i think but i am not entirely sure. She said she has been doing a lot better since she met me which is important for later. She mentioned on at least three occasions that she doesn't think ahe could live without me and when I mentioned i need to talk to her bc she broke a promise she got really teary and when i said i wasn't breaking up with her for what she did (lied about something minor like a week ago) she said she'd probably kill herself if i broke up with her. As far as I know she doesn't have any friends she can rely on or whatever and i am worried she might actually kill herself when I break up with her. I really need some help here plea...

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Hello As the title says i want to dm a girl who i used to (still do) have a crush on highschool we were on the same class and i didnt want to make risky moves since i saw her everyday but now that highschool is over like 2 years ago we both in collage i thought about her a lot but am very shy and not socialy gifted person I dont know how to dm her. Do i just tell her right away that i like her does that come out strong? or do i begin with more of a friendly approach but when she will think that am just reaching as a friends I never had a girlfriend before and every time i dm a girl they usually leave me on read so can you guys give me some advice on how you would approach this situation. Submitted January 30, 2022 at 12:07AM HelloAs the title says i want to dm a girl who i used to (still do) have a crush on highschool we were on the same class and i didnt want to make risky moves since i saw her everyday but now that highschool is over like 2 years ago we both in collage i th...

So over Thanksgiving me (22F) and this guy (21M) matched on Tinder. We actually went to middle school together so we knew each other a tiny bit but hadn’t talked in years. We immediately hit it off over text but go to school 5 hours away from each other. We planned to hangout once we were back home for winter break and texted a bunch in the meantime. We went on 2 very long very perfect dates. He made time to hangout even though he had covid most of the break and barely had time to see anyone else. He texted afterwards both times and said he had a great time and seemed genuinely to really like me. Then we went back to school. We won’t see each other until May but after that he is moving to the city I live in for a job. He has been texting a lot less since we got back to school. We went from texting consistently throughout the day, having multiple conversations everyday, etc to one text a day and taking like 24 hours to respond. I know that we won’t see each other for a long time but I ...

Link? I love to take stuff like this January 29, 2022 at 11:53PM

I got lower moderate, but i am a sex favorable cupiosexual, so....idk? January 29, 2022 at 11:53PM

you can answer the question or ignore it. dont care what your brain thinks my intentions are sir. January 29, 2022 at 11:51PM

And if you have sexual trauma January 29, 2022 at 11:51PM

Ooof, "Here. Postcards. How do they make you feel?" January 29, 2022 at 11:49PM

It looks stunning! I'm working on a bit of aroace artwork too, you just reminded me I should work on that a little more today. January 29, 2022 at 01:00AM

No, she just doesn't like the guy who wants to marry her, in a deleted scene Isabella had a boyfriend. This could mean that Isabella had to marry the man her grandmother chose for Isabella instead of Isabella being with the man of her dreams. January 29, 2022 at 12:57AM

I actually think she's bi January 29, 2022 at 12:50AM

sorry i didn’t make an update 2 days ago i lost internet for a second and could only get wifi at school, basically it was as you guys guessed, he was just busy and overwhelmed since he did kinda transfer from taiwan to cali for school- but basically he started talking to me again, sending me snaps n stuff, he sent me picture of the sunset at his house and i just got my ears pierced the next hole up on my lobe and sent him a pic saying how the sunset was pretty and that i got my ears pierced, he responded with a picture of him surprised and we had a back and forth over the last few days :) i asked him if he wanted to play video games this weekend if he was free but he said he’s stopped playing and left all his consoles and stuff in taiwan to focus on school and sports but he did start asking about what i played on minecraft (servers, single player, or hardcore) and i texted him back and still waiting for a response. also my close friend who’s really the only one who has inside on this ...

Back in my fanfic days I wrote a story about being at Hogwarts and dating Draco. So my friend says something like, “So when are they gonna have sex?” And I was just like uhhhh no. January 28, 2022 at 11:57PM

Hey all, So I’m not sure if that’s the right word for what’s happening, but anyways.. here I go with my question I met a girl on a dating app and we instantly hit it off through text, it was like a breath of fresh hair. So we exchanged our numbers and decided to chat there. Now the thing is, she leaves me on read a lot and comes back a day or two later saying that she’s busy and all that Fine, im busy to with school and work but I still can take a 2 minutes of my day to answer Also, I already asked her out for tomorrow, 1 day after chatting. She said “I gotta drop off my boss’s dogs first and I’ll let you know” and she never came back to me But still comes back to talk or check in Thoughts ? I’m not really the type of person to chase, just curious about what you would do To me it looks like a preview of her communication habits, but that might just be me Submitted January 29, 2022 at 12:14AM Hey all,So I’m not sure if that’s the right word for what’s happening, but anyway...

I've always found sex unappealing. I remember when I was like 13, I couldn't make sense of homosexuality because I couldn't imagine why anyone would ever want to have sex if it wasn't to have kids. So surely there had to be something not quite right about it? And then later in life I learned that people actually had sex because they enjoyed it.... What a concept lmao. I am to this day very sex repulsed. It's just not my cup of tea. But as I like to say to avoid misunderstandings: I don't think anyone is gross for having sex. I think of it like eating mushrooms. I find mushrooms gross. But I don't find people gross for eating mushrooms. A little crazy perhaps, but not gross ;) January 28, 2022 at 12:27AM

I forgot to say this was said by Dr Mayer (Played by the great Betty White). January 28, 2022 at 12:25AM

lol i've actually considered saying that, but i can imagine it being one of the most awkward conversations i'll have with them. honestly, they probably wouldn't let me get much words out before saying i'm lying (because any orientation is just loud annoying noise to them) but yeah, good point about sex being bad in the Bible January 28, 2022 at 12:24AM

Ran into this utterly gorgeous girl at my complex nearly half a year ago. Breathtakingly pretty even without makeup. Most of our values, humor, political views, and even upbringing seem similar to each other. From the start I got her number and we have on and off texted for most of the last half a year. Hung out a few times here and there. But there were these vicious cycles, at my own expense, that happened every time it was getting closer to going on an actual date. The cycles consisted of talking a lot over text and in person (hour+ in person here and there). Maybe hanging out in a friendly environment, then me asking for a date, her agreeing, and then starting to really distance herself leading to me to kind of bring it up and just be up front about my feelings. This would lead her to really distance herself. To the point of just not responding to the text for a long time and then being vague when she finally did get back about it. Obviously it made her uncomfortable. For the lo...

I (M16) am talking with this girl (F16) we’ll call F. It has been 4 almost 5 months since we started talking, yet I feel amiss, and she has her issues with me. Basically, she asked for 3 things, for us to hang out outside of school, for me to ask her out officially, and for me to kiss her. Meanwhile I’m over here questioning myself. I get severely anxious for no reason whatsoever, I make dumb decisions like tell her when I have an issue I give myself for no reason. And she knows what she wants from me, I don’t know what I want from her bc i like where we are, we hold hands n stuff, I do wanna ask her out, cuz I can’t lose that, but I’m afraid my mental health will decrease if I do. I’m afraid of change, and I don’t want this to take over my life, cuz school and family are more important. How do I know my life was easier before? Is this right for me? Cuz whenever I get anxious it goes away after support but comes back. And I’m tired of getting anxious all the time and I’m upset becau...

I identify as aegosexual- i’m very uncomfortable with being a part of sex, but I’m okay with solo things. Sometimes sex can be okay too if it’s with someone i trust but i never desire to be with someone else if that makes sense. I just don’t understand being sexually attracted to someone, anytime I’ve had an interest in someone it’s always been about their personality. I find people attractive (aesthetically speaking) but even that doesn’t necessarily mean I’m interested in them. It’s complicated to explain but i feel like doing stuff but myself is fine because there’s no mess and it can be enjoyable, but with other people i’m genuinely grossed out by the mess it makes and how dirty your body gets while doing it. The few times I have done it I really had to focus on relaxing and enjoy the intimacy it brings with my partner. Sometimes it can be enjoyable too. Though I know this is a pretty unconventional way of experiencing asexuality, I still identify as asexual because after 22 years...

I always saw sexual attraction from the perspective of like a scientist observing a weird phenomenon. Always looking out at it all from the margins. I never felt left out or upset that I didn't know what attraction felt like, I was just neutral about it, and didn't know that it was asexuality. When I eventually came across the label, my main reaction was just "Oh. Huh. So that's a thing now, I guess", and not much more. I was never interested in relationships before finding out anyway (due to social anxiety and haphephobia), and I guess I'm glad I found an answer before I began questioning myself later on 🙃 January 27, 2022 at 11:30PM

Gonna try and wrap this up in a short story.. We dated for 2 and a half months. Early on for the first 2 months id say she was heavily pursuing me while I was unsure of it. I figured she was sexy so why not keep going but i was unsure of a relationship. She would tell me things like " you scare me.. I havent felt this way about someone since my first love" id leave something like a hoodie at her place and she would send me a pic wearing it saying she missed me and could smell me on it.. She was obssesed with me. I eventually dropped my gaurd and we moved way to quickly.. Spending practically everyday together but we would tell eachother how much we enjoyed it, couldnt get sick of eachother etc. We were head over heels for eachother. Something happened that led me to telling her i was creating a boundary and I felt uncomfortable with a certain situation. It bothered me for a couple of days and led to an argument. We ended up breaking up over it. A week later she reached out ...

where’s the credit January 26, 2022 at 11:32PM

What in the blazes? Okay yeah no that is rather toxic pattern of behaviour. Id suggest stepping away from the situation and if it persists maybe bring it up with someone. January 26, 2022 at 11:29PM

Hello everyone, so recently I got into a fight with my girlfriend and I wanted to see what you guys would do if you were in my shoes. So my girlfriend is friends with a girl named Anna. Her and Anna used to have a thing about three years ago and her exact words “we slept together once when we were drunk” (my girlfriend is Bi). I’ve expressed to my girlfriend that I don’t care if they hangout but I would feel really uncomfortable if she spent the night at her house. So for that reason, I would prefer if she didn’t. Monday she said she was going to her house to spend time with her. Which I was like cool whatever. However, later in the night she said that she was going to spend the night. She knows how I feel about that and said not to be upset. I obviously got upset and she was arguing that her and Anna had sex three years so it didn’t mean anything. So I’m like so if I were to hangout with some I spelt with it would be cool right? Since it happened 3 years ago. She wasn’t happy about t...

I'm a woman but reading what you read, parts of it felt very familiar in both what I experience personally and what I've experienced through men who have low sex drives or just aren't sex focused (haven't really known any asexual men personally) I've noticed how hard it is for men to feel comfortable not being super sex focused and it makes me really sad. I try to support those who share those emotions with me but I still see them struggling with it. I really wish sex could be less of a focus so people could feel more comfortable being themselves. Even as a woman I've come across so many people who just don't understand it and contradict what you try to tell them. I can relate to the just pretending to be hetero, I actually ended up doing that in the end after it was just too exhausting identifying as ace. Gone full circle back here and still reluctant to identify that way and definitely not comfortable telling people that's how I feel because even pe...

There are most likely more, but people don’t realise they are asexual as they are either sex-neutral or sex-favourable January 26, 2022 at 11:25PM

I’ve never been in love before and I’m seeing this guy and I want to know if I’m falling for him or it’s just a crush because I have a hard time understanding my emotions Submitted January 26, 2022 at 12:06AM I’ve never been in love before and I’m seeing this guy and I want to know if I’m falling for him or it’s just a crush because I have a hard time understanding my emotions

I was in long distance relationship with a bossy/tomboy girl since a month, she had abusive exes only had one relationship in person rest of them were online, had shitty dating life, always tried to dominate the conversation when we were in a relationship once she was playing a game she had a target to reach above 50,000 score I called her and she immediately lost the game when I told her it's just a game she immediately cut the call which was obviously rude , then afterwards I left her messages on seen where she said things like are you breaking up with me etc etc I woke up next morning and forgave her immediately , recently she went to her job without informing me ,and immediately disappeared out of nowhere I called and messaged her ,she left my messages on seen without a response I called her no response she came back and told me you made me almost lose my job thanks to you I said sorry to her multiple times but she said I need proof of your sorry because I've been hurt mul...

I (23F) went out with this guy (24M) who I dm'd about a year ago...we had an on and off chat game goin on for a year till we finally met. Both of us had a great time and even smoked a joint together...after we sat down in the skytrain he tried to touch my thigh with his thigh and we ended up holding hands. Idk what this means....since I made the first move idk if he really likes me or he's just being nice to me? Pls help Submitted January 26, 2022 at 12:15AM I (23F) went out with this guy (24M) who I dm'd about a year ago...we had an on and off chat game goin on for a year till we finally met. Both of us had a great time and even smoked a joint together...after we sat down in the skytrain he tried to touch my thigh with his thigh and we ended up holding hands. Idk what this means....since I made the first move idk if he really likes me or he's just being nice to me? Pls help

Yeah. Although one of the clone troopers deserted and settled down with a Twilek and started a family with her. Could be romantic asexual or (my headcanon) a slight defect caused by accelerated growing of the clones. Jango Fett being ace, and possibly, aro, would also be a factor that would make him a great template for a clone army built for nothing but combat. January 25, 2022 at 11:46PM

Do you mind me asking how old you are? And what part of the world? I have a feeling most of your friends feel embarrassed in the same way, and would love a hug 💚 January 25, 2022 at 11:45PM

Demiromantic or Demi-panromantic. Whichever works for you it's gonna be ok. January 25, 2022 at 11:45PM

What!? I live in Indiana and I hug all of my friends and family. We also tell each other we love another all the time. Compassion is IN!! January 25, 2022 at 11:43PM

Yeah, i found out about it the worst way, as i said, my innocent mind. Maybe because i was used to watch k-dramas, i didn't think about that. January 25, 2022 at 11:42PM

FUCKING THANK YOU, I had the exact same question about people before I realized I was Aro/Ace. THANK YOU! January 24, 2022 at 11:35PM

Thanks for the laughs during my break at work. I appreciate it. January 24, 2022 at 11:35PM

I have aesthetice attraction (one of the few I am certain that I have I think -the rest are a mess) but it's less of a type situation and more of a I want to steal your hair style than anything else January 24, 2022 at 11:25PM

This is just wrong. January 24, 2022 at 11:25PM

ok... got the first "I CANNNTG UNDERRSTAND YOUUUUUU??????" reddit comment, anyone else? January 24, 2022 at 11:23PM

Cat god January 24, 2022 at 11:21PM

Right??!! I think breasts are so beautiful and I love to look at it, but I try not to bc people tend I’m aroused or wanting to hook up. And I’m only “wow they’re really beautiful” January 24, 2022 at 11:21PM

Omg that’s so sweet, I love it! January 24, 2022 at 12:42AM

Of course it did. Datk humor is the best! January 24, 2022 at 12:42AM

There's none. There are people who inly realised that they were asexual in their 60's, others found out that they are trans in their 70's. In their cases, society obviously played a big role on not letting them know their true identities, but even us, younger people, can still go through this. January 24, 2022 at 12:38AM

Look at me I am somewhat sex repulsed so I would say yes January 24, 2022 at 12:38AM

I do, but I get a few minutes in and realize I'm not enjoying it and turn it off. I have better luck with written erotica, but even then I'd say I get to a point about 40% of the time where I'm either bored or disgusted and stop. I keep giving it a chance, and it keeps letting me down. January 24, 2022 at 12:38AM

Imagine you had a crush on someone for 4 years. They finally start talking to you and you’re excited so you talk to them everyday. A month later they tell you they have a crush you. But you don’t say “me too”. They take it as a close rejection so they reject you first before you can actually say how you feel. They put you in the friend zone a day later. You unfollow them on Instagram because it hurts to see their face. Then a few months later they tell you that they’re sorry and they actually do still like you. They say you should hang out together but they don’t plan anything. Then they treat you like a friend and invite you out with their friends. But they realize what they did wrong by being friendly and tell you they want to have a romantic relationship, not a friendship and invite you out alone on a date. You don’t go on the date and ignore their texts. Then a few months later they send a friendly text that was obviously sent to all friends. Would you ever talk to them again...

Thanks for your answer! As someone with long hair, I totally get it hahaha I tie my hair all the time bc it can tickle my wife. Also, your answer does get me to understand more of why my wife moves so much to straighten clothes when we are cuddling. As for nudity escalate to sex, yeah… it sucks. Sometimes I just feel like touching and caressing the more the skin I can get bc I wanted to show love. Which is also weird to want to touch to show love, but humans are crazy January 23, 2022 at 11:41PM

Granted its not the best phrased question but its something i’m trying to get the hang of. How can you tell if a girl is looking at you with interest or if its for a diff reasons? What are the queues and signs? I’m not the best at reading signals and sometimes get em wrong😅. Submitted January 23, 2022 at 12:10AM Granted its not the best phrased question but its something i’m trying to get the hang of.How can you tell if a girl is looking at you with interest or if its for a diff reasons? What are the queues and signs? I’m not the best at reading signals and sometimes get em wrong😅.

Hey reddit I think I fucked up. The last week I've been flirting with the girl that said no to my friend. I (17M) sent her (17F) to ask her if a friend of hers had a boyfriend and we ended up flirting and I like her a bit but I think it's wrong because of my friend. Submitted January 23, 2022 at 12:12AM Hey reddit I think I fucked up. The last week I've been flirting with the girl that said no to my friend. I (17M) sent her (17F) to ask her if a friend of hers had a boyfriend and we ended up flirting and I like her a bit but I think it's wrong because of my friend.

Thanks to previous advice on here, I've accepted a date invitation. I haven't been on a date for a very long time (long term relationship). So, I'm a little lost on what to wear. The date is for drinks at night time tomorrow (Sunday). It's at a nice bar in the city. It's pretty cold where I live so I'd like to avoid a dress/skirt but should I brave it? Or it it okay to wear jeans? (I only wear fitted jeans, never baggy). Any advice would be appreciated. Thank you :-) Submitted January 23, 2022 at 12:14AM Thanks to previous advice on here, I've accepted a date invitation.I haven't been on a date for a very long time (long term relationship). So, I'm a little lost on what to wear.The date is for drinks at night time tomorrow (Sunday). It's at a nice bar in the city.It's pretty cold where I live so I'd like to avoid a dress/skirt but should I brave it? Or it it okay to wear jeans? (I only wear fitted jeans, never baggy).Any advice...

31F here! I have been actively dating since last summer as I feel like I am in a good place in my life, had my cup full and was ready to get my feet wet in the dating pool and pour into someone else's cup. Although I do get a lot of matches and there are many people interested, I've found it hard to connect with someone. When I do connect with someone, we date, some don't go too well, others go great but ultimately leave... out of nowhere. I can't help but feel defeat. I feel like I am doing things right and putting myself out there, being genuinely myself and challenging ideas that 5 years ago would have petrified me. I want to think this is a universal feeling and it's part of the human experience. Has anyone felt like this before? Is there any advice to avoid feeling like this? Is giving up the only option there is? Submitted January 23, 2022 at 12:15AM 31F here! I have been actively dating since last summer as I feel like I am in a good place in my life,...

As a demisexual who is a bit (maybe more than allos would consider good) by genitalias, I totally understand you. Question (just to understand further, but if this is uncomfortable for you I totally get it you don’t answering): would you be adverse to cuddle a women without a bra too or this is just for bottoms? January 22, 2022 at 11:47PM

Panromantic asexual 🙂 January 22, 2022 at 11:45PM

It’s really cool when you have someone to do it with. But I’m one that only wants/feels comfortable doing it with my wife January 22, 2022 at 11:45PM

That’s good to know. As someone who only started feeling this need when I began dating my wife, I don’t think you’re missing out. It’s good and amazing, but only if you do with the right person. Doing with anyone is kinda disgusting to me and frightening as well January 22, 2022 at 11:43PM

Anyone that wants to know if you can find true love I give you 3 names... Pete Davidson, kanye west, ok 4, Seal, and the late great Bob Saget. Stop doubting yourself find some confidence and live your life. Submitted January 22, 2022 at 01:11AM Anyone that wants to know if you can find true love I give you 3 names... Pete Davidson, kanye west, ok 4, Seal, and the late great Bob Saget. Stop doubting yourself find some confidence and live your life.

Ooh that's a good idea, I'll try that if I paint my nails again, thanks! I suppose you probably get a little desensitised to it after a while too? (And yes, totally agree with that one! I found another like that is also if you get a necklace chain caught on the tiny hairs on your neck where your hairline ends) January 22, 2022 at 12:29AM

There aren’t any besides the one I’ve mentioned, unfortunately. Guess I’m screwed lol January 22, 2022 at 12:29AM

I find it nice, it's a compliment when someone thinks I'm hot! Even if I don't fully get it , it's still nice to know or hear. I'd especially appreciate a partner who thought I was hot while knowing I don't really feel aroused :> January 22, 2022 at 12:27AM

nah, people just don't communicate jack shit with each other and would rather assume you must want to fuck instead. or they just assume anything you feel, really. January 22, 2022 at 12:25AM

like do you just walk past a person and think that u want to have sex with them? Do u feel sexual attraction the same ways someone would feel romantic attraction(like the feeling)? January 22, 2022 at 12:21AM

Hi, I am currently a junior in high school and I wanted to talk about this girl. Back in freshman year, after barely knowing her for six months I asked her out over text over winter break (Winter break 2019, Yes I know that was stupid), and she said she "wasn't interested in dating anyone freshman year". After that I didn't like her or really talk to her for a while until November this school year (2021), and now we're back in person and have some classes together. Unfortunately the problem is that I think I am in love with her, because I can't stop thinking about her and I admire her a lot not only for her beauty but for her personality and intelligence. I was talking to her today briefly and I looked her in the eyes and realized how absolutely beautiful they are. I have no idea what I should do or if I should just be friends with her and maybe ask her out for homecoming next year or something like that? I'd really appreciate it if some people could help...

Okay, we've talked Turns out she is fraysexual. She thinks it fits how she feels & how she actually is very well & explains her past relationships perfectly Imagine that, mid-40s and married for best part of 20yrs before you discover your sexual orientation She tells me she is sexually attracted to others & had just told me she wasn't because of worry for my feelings She's had a lot of partners & hookups, loved the thrill of it all, the chase, the new person novelty sex, but then after a doing the deed or after a few weeks at most felt nothing & killed the relationship She said I was the first person that she didn't have sex with until after a few months of being together & by the time we attempted it she said it felt wrong & she was repulsed by it I was a virgin, & very intimidated so I messed it up too, it could barely count as sex and I blamed myself Each time we tried, her repulsion seemed worse until we just cuddled instead a...

Physical attractiveness. Especially for guys. I feel a lot of men including myself would not want to date a mediocre looking girl (as good as her personality is) for many reasons (we think we can do better, we are afraid of friends, family saying "he settled for someone who isn't that good looking") As dumb as it sounds. So it ends being a "good for sex and fun, but I wouldn't commit to you" type of situation, which is quite awful honestly. Submitted January 21, 2022 at 12:02AM Physical attractiveness. Especially for guys. I feel a lot of men including myself would not want to date a mediocre looking girl (as good as her personality is) for many reasons (we think we can do better, we are afraid of friends, family saying "he settled for someone who isn't that good looking") As dumb as it sounds. So it ends being a "good for sex and fun, but I wouldn't commit to you" type of situation, which is quite awful honestly.

Hi! I (F18) was just in a situation-ship with a guy (M19) and I’m kinda confused how things ended and why they did. I met this guy on a dating app and we immediately hit it off. We had many similarities with minor differences which seemed like a perfect balanced. He made it very clear he was looking for something serious which I was ok with. We made plans to see each other in a couple days from the , but once we found out that we love the same tv show he asked if I wanted to come over the next night and watch it with his roommates and him. I said yes and everything went wonderfully, we had a great time and I overheard his roommates talking about how they liked me. When I got home that night we kept texting and texting. This continued for the next couple of days, seeing each other everyday. He asked for my snap and I gave it to him. He’d send me random pictures throughout the day telling me how cute he thinks I am and how he hopes I have a good day. He always checked in on my and kept...

I (M21) recently just transferred from a community college to a university in the same State, and I met this girl in one of my classes. She sat next to me and I started talking to her about the class size because I never experienced it before. She mentioned that she also transferred from out of state. After talking to her for a bit, I got her name and then phone number. She then texted me later on that day asking how my classes went. We continued texting since then and even met up to do home work but we just talked instead. We also have plans to go to a college basketball game too. I really like talking to her and she's very pretty. I could see us maybe being together, but I'm sure that she doesn't want to rush into anything, and I kind of don't really want to rush into anything either. My worry is that if we do end up getting into a relationship, she may realize later on that she might of been just dating me because I was the first person to talk to her here. Am I may...

Lately I’ve been on a first date or have been talking to men in super technical fields- software engineer, physics post doc, mechanical engineer. And I studied Business Information Sciences and work as a business analyst. I make a good salary for a woman my age and am fairly driven but my job is not nearly as technical as the jobs these men have. I have interests outside of work like reading and ceramics. I’m wondering if really smart guys that work in super technical positions look down on a girl that works in a sort of technical field that’s probably easy to them? Submitted January 21, 2022 at 12:05AM Lately I’ve been on a first date or have been talking to men in super technical fields- software engineer, physics post doc, mechanical engineer. And I studied Business Information Sciences and work as a business analyst. I make a good salary for a woman my age and am fairly driven but my job is not nearly as technical as the jobs these men have. I have interests outside of work ...

So I’ve been seeing this guy since beginning of December. I like him a lot, we’ve got lots of common interests, he’s very attentive and respectful and I could imagine a future with him. So far we’ve seen each other about 8 times. We kissed on the first date, had sex on the third (it was amazing) and I’ve met his friends. Over Christmas he visited his home country for three weeks. He said I am open to meet other men but implied that he would not be happy about it. I didn’t because I like him. This Monday when he came back he asked if I went on dates I said I didn’t. He seemed pleased with that. So today he said he had a white wine night with a friend at his friends house (a guy). I jokingly said that I only know girls to have white wine nights. He didn’t reply to that at all and I thought that maybe it was indeed a girl he was seeing. My gut feeling says I’m right but I also don’t know if I’m completely overreacting and reading too much into this. We didn’t say specifically that we’r...

I am single because I am asexual. Am i impotent? No. Do I like the idea of having sex? Yes but I don't feel like doing it. Do I want to get married? Idk. Some of the most intelligent people who have ever lived were Asexuals for example, Nikola Tesla. January 20, 2022 at 11:22PM

It’s hard to like it when you are in the middle of the spectrum and can’t fit the societal standard on sexual stuff. Yet, can’t fully relate to being ace either. So it’s a no but working on it being a yes :) January 19, 2022 at 11:38PM

I posted on here the other day about a girl I am seeing and asked if I should keep meeting her. So I met her the 2nd time yesterday and we had a really really good time and we had a lot to talk about. We kissed like 30 times and held each other’s hand. Pretty romantic you know. I know her friend and he’s like “She have never been so happy after a date” “She loves being with you she think you are attractive and kind” So like only positive stuff and she sends hearts etc. She asked me if I wanted to “Watch a movie at her place on Friday” Hahahhaha. The dilemma as I’ve mentioned here before is that she had been dating a guy much longer than me but she says she likes me 100 times more to her friends. She’s a bit weird there because she have said she hate him but like him in a way. So pretty unclear. I get that we have only met 2 times and I can’t just expect here to not talk to any guy. I just feel it’s double signals because she says she love being with me and ask me out, She also tol...