Ex stringing me along.. Tell her im done, or just cut contact?

Gonna try and wrap this up in a short story.. We dated for 2 and a half months. Early on for the first 2 months id say she was heavily pursuing me while I was unsure of it. I figured she was sexy so why not keep going but i was unsure of a relationship. She would tell me things like " you scare me.. I havent felt this way about someone since my first love" id leave something like a hoodie at her place and she would send me a pic wearing it saying she missed me and could smell me on it.. She was obssesed with me. I eventually dropped my gaurd and we moved way to quickly.. Spending practically everyday together but we would tell eachother how much we enjoyed it, couldnt get sick of eachother etc. We were head over heels for eachother. Something happened that led me to telling her i was creating a boundary and I felt uncomfortable with a certain situation. It bothered me for a couple of days and led to an argument. We ended up breaking up over it.

A week later she reached out saying she missed me and asked if we could meet up. I agreed to it and we had a great time. After that day I began to feel the push pull.. She would be interested in me, then just stop contacing me again, act cold and distant until we met up again. Then it would be great again, id feel comfortable and pursue her more and she would then back off. Its been like this for a month now.. Last time I saw her she wasnt as affectionate with me. Still kissed me held hands etc. But I could just feel it wasnt as passionate. Now she has begun not answering if I call and not calling back.. Just showing low interest again. Im an idiot and asked her where we stood the other day and her reply was "im not wanting a relationship right now. I enjoy spending time with you and want to continue. But dont see myself in a relationship again with you right now. I want to just work on myself currently." I asked if this meant we were dating other people and she said "im not looking for anything right now, I would be hurt if you found someone new, but I dont want you to wait around for me"

So I began talking to new women and have a couple of dates lined up. One I feel is really into me already and im hoping to see where it goes. This leads me to what to do with the ex.. Deep down I love her and want it too work, but realistically I know that she doesnt want me, I am being strung along until there is someone new and I will get hurt again. I want to reach out and tell her I m done with this, I want more then what is going on and I am dating other women. The other part of me sees no point in it and thinks its better to just forget she existed and drop off. Not reaching out anymore, and if she does just ignore her.

I completely see why she has lost interest in me and Im not mad at her, im mad at myself. I lost my drive for anything else in life but her after the breakup. I became needy, insecure and overly pursued her. To make matters worse im in a tough spot in life that is definitely not attractive. Financially im in a tough place, my living situation is less then ideal etc. I pushed her way by the way I acted and where i let my life slip too. I made her the center of my life and I know it is extremely unnatractive. I have been working on bettering myself this week and fixing my situation so I know what it need to do in that regard. I feel like if I did talk to her i would bring this up too, which might look pathetic on her end.

Submitted January 27, 2022 at 01:07AM

Gonna try and wrap this up in a short story.. We dated for 2 and a half months. Early on for the first 2 months id say she was heavily pursuing me while I was unsure of it. I figured she was sexy so why not keep going but i was unsure of a relationship. She would tell me things like " you scare me.. I havent felt this way about someone since my first love" id leave something like a hoodie at her place and she would send me a pic wearing it saying she missed me and could smell me on it.. She was obssesed with me. I eventually dropped my gaurd and we moved way to quickly.. Spending practically everyday together but we would tell eachother how much we enjoyed it, couldnt get sick of eachother etc. We were head over heels for eachother. Something happened that led me to telling her i was creating a boundary and I felt uncomfortable with a certain situation. It bothered me for a couple of days and led to an argument. We ended up breaking up over it.A week later she reached out saying she missed me and asked if we could meet up. I agreed to it and we had a great time. After that day I began to feel the push pull.. She would be interested in me, then just stop contacing me again, act cold and distant until we met up again. Then it would be great again, id feel comfortable and pursue her more and she would then back off. Its been like this for a month now.. Last time I saw her she wasnt as affectionate with me. Still kissed me held hands etc. But I could just feel it wasnt as passionate. Now she has begun not answering if I call and not calling back.. Just showing low interest again. Im an idiot and asked her where we stood the other day and her reply was "im not wanting a relationship right now. I enjoy spending time with you and want to continue. But dont see myself in a relationship again with you right now. I want to just work on myself currently." I asked if this meant we were dating other people and she said "im not looking for anything right now, I would be hurt if you found someone new, but I dont want you to wait around for me"So I began talking to new women and have a couple of dates lined up. One I feel is really into me already and im hoping to see where it goes. This leads me to what to do with the ex.. Deep down I love her and want it too work, but realistically I know that she doesnt want me, I am being strung along until there is someone new and I will get hurt again. I want to reach out and tell her I m done with this, I want more then what is going on and I am dating other women. The other part of me sees no point in it and thinks its better to just forget she existed and drop off. Not reaching out anymore, and if she does just ignore her.I completely see why she has lost interest in me and Im not mad at her, im mad at myself. I lost my drive for anything else in life but her after the breakup. I became needy, insecure and overly pursued her. To make matters worse im in a tough spot in life that is definitely not attractive. Financially im in a tough place, my living situation is less then ideal etc. I pushed her way by the way I acted and where i let my life slip too. I made her the center of my life and I know it is extremely unnatractive. I have been working on bettering myself this week and fixing my situation so I know what it need to do in that regard. I feel like if I did talk to her i would bring this up too, which might look pathetic on her end.