Should I get back with my Ex-Girlfriend?

Hi everyone! So I broke up with my ex girlfriend a year ago and mainly because I moved out to another country (I’m an international student) I usually visit my country twice a year during summer and winter breaks.. the long distance wasn’t a good thing for our relationship and things didn’t go well for us. When I first met her we were both 17, a little young and immature. But now, as we are about to graduate from college (I know it’s besides the point lol) I think we’ve grown up a lot and are taking life more seriously than before (Also, we were together for 3 years). I feel like I never lost the feelings I had/have towards her even after the break up.. I’ve also talked and dated some girls for short periods of time after the break up but It just didn’t work out for various reasons (different cultures, mentality.. etc). I’ve also been getting rejected from all my crushes lately (Damn it!) which made me feel miserable and lonely af..I’ve been feeling down but I’m trying my best to lift up myself! My ex and I are still In touch on social media but we rarely hit up each other, and that’s to avoid negative discussions that will lead to the topic of our break up (I guess we are not over it) which will lead to a mixed up feelings situation.. Now a lot of things are going on in my mind, I’m thinking about getting back with her before it’s too late and someone takes her, which I’ll probably regret in the future. But at the same time, I don’t wanna be In the same situation as before that led us to separate from each other (long distance relationship and all what comes with it). Thus, I’m asking you guys what should I do? I also don’t wanna play games with her and hurt her by being selfish.. I don’t wanna get back with her just because I know she’s the easiest girl to get at the moment (Shame on me).. Therefore,I want to make a wise decision that will bring positivity to both of us hopefully. I personally don’t want to make a decision right now even tho I really want to lol (I miss the feeling of being loved and all those warm moments).. But I think I should be patient and wait till I feel better myself, so the decision I make about our relationship would be completely honest about my real feelings towards her and not just because I’m feeling down and I need attention, love, and some cuddles (which I won’t get cuz we live in different countries🙄). I’d love to get your opinions! Thanks



Submitted April 30, 2019 at 05:58AM

Hi everyone! So I broke up with my ex girlfriend a year ago and mainly because I moved out to another country (I’m an international student) I usually visit my country twice a year during summer and winter breaks.. the long distance wasn’t a good thing for our relationship and things didn’t go well for us. When I first met her we were both 17, a little young and immature. But now, as we are about to graduate from college (I know it’s besides the point lol) I think we’ve grown up a lot and are taking life more seriously than before (Also, we were together for 3 years). I feel like I never lost the feelings I had/have towards her even after the break up.. I’ve also talked and dated some girls for short periods of time after the break up but It just didn’t work out for various reasons (different cultures, mentality.. etc). I’ve also been getting rejected from all my crushes lately (Damn it!) which made me feel miserable and lonely af..I’ve been feeling down but I’m trying my best to lift up myself! My ex and I are still In touch on social media but we rarely hit up each other, and that’s to avoid negative discussions that will lead to the topic of our break up (I guess we are not over it) which will lead to a mixed up feelings situation.. Now a lot of things are going on in my mind, I’m thinking about getting back with her before it’s too late and someone takes her, which I’ll probably regret in the future. But at the same time, I don’t wanna be In the same situation as before that led us to separate from each other (long distance relationship and all what comes with it). Thus, I’m asking you guys what should I do? I also don’t wanna play games with her and hurt her by being selfish.. I don’t wanna get back with her just because I know she’s the easiest girl to get at the moment (Shame on me).. Therefore,I want to make a wise decision that will bring positivity to both of us hopefully. I personally don’t want to make a decision right now even tho I really want to lol (I miss the feeling of being loved and all those warm moments).. But I think I should be patient and wait till I feel better myself, so the decision I make about our relationship would be completely honest about my real feelings towards her and not just because I’m feeling down and I need attention, love, and some cuddles (which I won’t get cuz we live in different countries🙄). I’d love to get your opinions! Thanks
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