Don't Know if I should give up

Well, after 3 long term relationships, many dates that went to nowhere. Being ghosted, manipulated, and led on, I don't know if I have it in me to keep trying. For context I'm a 5'5 Asian male. It's hard not to feel this way when everyone around you is pairing off and old exes getting engaged and living their lives.

It's been a long road. I'm young still in my twenties, but I'm not the partying type to go to bars and clubs. I honestly didn't even really plan to be single either, but maybe that's just how God wants my life to turn out. I don't drink, am relatively stable both economically and in a good place mentally.

I am writing this post after having been stood up at the coffee shop, again. At some point I don't know why I keep trying but I keep telling myself one day it'll happen for me. Am I bitter? Possibly. I've been cheated on, and you'd be bitter too if you have been cheated on before.

Do I take a break? I've done nothing but work on myself: diet, exercise, focus on hobbies and just try to let it go. Am I the problem? Could very well be. Are they the problem? I'm not sure. I'm just done with being told yes to a date, or being told they want to meet up with me then seeing on Facebook they're with their friends drinking.

Makes me the backup person... Which is even worse than just being stood up. And the LEAST I could expect or even really want for is just a note saying I won't make it so I could make other plans like to take myself out to a movie or dinner. But I was waiting on you and you never showed up. So, I'm deleting your # and blocking you on Facebook.

I wish I could say this were the first time this happened to me, but I'm wondering if this might be the last if I hang it up on the dating world.

Where are you? Have you given up? Or still going along?



Submitted April 30, 2019 at 03:08AM

Well, after 3 long term relationships, many dates that went to nowhere. Being ghosted, manipulated, and led on, I don't know if I have it in me to keep trying. For context I'm a 5'5 Asian male. It's hard not to feel this way when everyone around you is pairing off and old exes getting engaged and living their lives.It's been a long road. I'm young still in my twenties, but I'm not the partying type to go to bars and clubs. I honestly didn't even really plan to be single either, but maybe that's just how God wants my life to turn out. I don't drink, am relatively stable both economically and in a good place mentally.I am writing this post after having been stood up at the coffee shop, again. At some point I don't know why I keep trying but I keep telling myself one day it'll happen for me. Am I bitter? Possibly. I've been cheated on, and you'd be bitter too if you have been cheated on before.Do I take a break? I've done nothing but work on myself: diet, exercise, focus on hobbies and just try to let it go. Am I the problem? Could very well be. Are they the problem? I'm not sure. I'm just done with being told yes to a date, or being told they want to meet up with me then seeing on Facebook they're with their friends drinking.Makes me the backup person... Which is even worse than just being stood up. And the LEAST I could expect or even really want for is just a note saying I won't make it so I could make other plans like to take myself out to a movie or dinner. But I was waiting on you and you never showed up. So, I'm deleting your # and blocking you on Facebook.I wish I could say this were the first time this happened to me, but I'm wondering if this might be the last if I hang it up on the dating world.Where are you? Have you given up? Or still going along?
Labels:

Comments

Post a Comment

Add Comments, Posts, Links... etc.

Popular posts from this blog

The difference between being right and being understood

My boyfriend and I are 28. We’ve been together for about 1.5 years and recently moved in together. He’s a pretty patient and easygoing person (Type B) whereas I’m more particular (Type A). Of course there are two sides to every trait, and my Type A nature benefits us in some ways too. Like all couples, we have differences in perspective or preference. When this happens, he will usually say something like “I disagree (with your perspective) but fine.” I tend to push the issue in an attempt to get him to understand where I’m coming from. This escalates the disagreement into a fight because he perceives it as me trying to be “right”. I truly just want to be understood (and I want to understand where he’s coming from) so I’m looking for more of a dialogue whereas he avoids conflict and just wants it to be over as quickly as possible. His general approach is “agree to disagree” but that doesn’t make sense to me when it’s an issue that will keep coming up and requires compromise. I’m n...
Read more

My (27f) gf (27f) is getting tired of me not sharing intimate/ personal info about me

I’ve always been extremely private and introverted. We have more than a year together and we’ve been living together for like 6 months, we get along pretty good and I’m really in love with her, however I can not seem to open up... and I can tell it’s frustrating to her by the way she tells me it bothers her that she feels she’s the only one committed and the one that’s always sharing... At this point I don’t even know if it is that I’ve gotten too used to it, to the point I’ve became lazy to talk about myself or give any genuine personal opinion... it sucks, really, I need to communicate better... Where do I start? Tl;dr: I can’t be completely intimate with my gf and its frustrating her, I need to communicate better because I really love her... where to start? Submitted April 25, 2019 at 06:02AM I’ve always been extremely private and introverted. We have more than a year together and we’ve been living together for like 6 months, we get along pretty good and I’m really in love ...
Read more

My (23M) girlfriend (25F) relationship is confusing to me. I might be the problem, or maybe we are just incompatible.

I met my girlfriend after a few serious breakups that led me to change both intentionally and unintentionally over a few years. For better and for worse. She had just gotten out of an engagement with a verbally and physically abusive man who had a cocaine problem. We have been together about 8 months now. We hit it off and spent a lot of time together but she began to push our relationship as if there were a time clock for milestones. I was pressed beyond my comfort zone and went with it because of my affection for her. My living situation fell apart and I lost a few thousand dollars to shit roommates right around the time she and I met and she offered to let me stay with her. I agreed with some resistance. I pay for food, help her with bills, and throw money toward rent while trying to get back on my feet. As long as we have been together she has gotten more possessive, angry, and irrational. She is dealing with shit from her engagement and I feel shes looking for a level of seriou...
Read more