Should I 25M detach from her 26F? How to do it?

I have been dating this girl for 4 months now and we both are not dating other people, also we talked about not hooking up with anyone else...However I still feel a lot insecure when she is going out. She is gorgeous and likes to drink...this make me think of her vulnerable during parties....I am feeling jealous right now because she will attend a birthday party tomorow dawn, she didn't invite me...actually we both don't know each other friends (I don't have many and they don't hang out anymore, so I am lonely now). I looking for something to do tomorrow, even alone...have a few drinks and check other women just to remember there are more out there...

What is funny she finds me a nice, good dude, not jealous. I really am, she just don't know it. We had some talks about us, and for now she doesn't want to label us because it takes a long time for her to feel for someone. I realized this because I am the one being kinda romantic while she is colder...it is weird for me because all my past relationships were intense. I am intense. This one is not. She has some problems and I understand that would be difficult and I need patience.

But how can I protect myself too? Because I am kinda attached to her, I want to have a serious relationship...but I am unsure of the future. I really get angry just imagining she could hook up with other men, afterall, we are not official. This make me think of hooking up with other women just to be sure I am not being by passed and cucked.

How can I take it easy? How to stop thinking too much of it? We text everyday it will be weird for her to stop talking and meeting. I know we can't make sure someone likes us back, but we can create more value for ourselves right? I want to do it because I feel too easy, this is not good. The problems is I think about her everyday, she probably don't do the same.

I think the ideal scenario is to just have sex and hang out for a while sometimes until she feels something and look for me. I want to be in control of it.



Submitted April 30, 2019 at 01:58AM

I have been dating this girl for 4 months now and we both are not dating other people, also we talked about not hooking up with anyone else...However I still feel a lot insecure when she is going out. She is gorgeous and likes to drink...this make me think of her vulnerable during parties....I am feeling jealous right now because she will attend a birthday party tomorow dawn, she didn't invite me...actually we both don't know each other friends (I don't have many and they don't hang out anymore, so I am lonely now). I looking for something to do tomorrow, even alone...have a few drinks and check other women just to remember there are more out there...What is funny she finds me a nice, good dude, not jealous. I really am, she just don't know it. We had some talks about us, and for now she doesn't want to label us because it takes a long time for her to feel for someone. I realized this because I am the one being kinda romantic while she is colder...it is weird for me because all my past relationships were intense. I am intense. This one is not. She has some problems and I understand that would be difficult and I need patience.But how can I protect myself too? Because I am kinda attached to her, I want to have a serious relationship...but I am unsure of the future. I really get angry just imagining she could hook up with other men, afterall, we are not official. This make me think of hooking up with other women just to be sure I am not being by passed and cucked.How can I take it easy? How to stop thinking too much of it? We text everyday it will be weird for her to stop talking and meeting. I know we can't make sure someone likes us back, but we can create more value for ourselves right? I want to do it because I feel too easy, this is not good. The problems is I think about her everyday, she probably don't do the same.I think the ideal scenario is to just have sex and hang out for a while sometimes until she feels something and look for me. I want to be in control of it.
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