Today at work I was kind of annoyed that one of my coworkers wasn’t communicating with me properly, to the point that it interrupted my job and slowed me down, so I said something to my male coworker about it. “You guys need to do better with communication “ “Like when you sell something and you need to let me know, instead of leaving me hanging” (I was referring to the female coworker) My female coworker overheard, butted in, and immediately went ape-shit and started arguing with me telling me that if my attitude didn’t stop that she was “going to explode” and telling me how I could go the fuck home, yada yada yada. I laughed it off and was like “alright Abby whatever makes you happy” and walked away. Maybe when I said it I was a little irritated? But did it warranty a fight tho, or is this girl that I work with just manipulative as fuck…? This girl is kind of cute and occasionally we flirt with eachother, but sometimes she’s just so fucking bratty like sometimes she’ll purposely ign...

Been snap chatting this girl for a little over 2 weeks we went out Friday and everything seemed to go well. We’ve been talking since then until yesterday when she left me on read. Today after almost 24 hours I snapchated her then she sent me a picture of her and another dude at a bar but she responded to what i said so i didn’t think anything of it and kept talking. Then the next picture was just her and the guy. The dude looks 10 years older than us so idk if it’s just a cousin/ uncle or something or (more likely) she’s on a date and wants me to get the hint and stop Snapchating her. What do y’all think? Submitted June 01, 2022 at 01:10AM Been snap chatting this girl for a little over 2 weeks we went out Friday and everything seemed to go well. We’ve been talking since then until yesterday when she left me on read. Today after almost 24 hours I snapchated her then she sent me a picture of her and another dude at a bar but she responded to what i said so i didn’t think anything ...

😎 June 01, 2022 at 12:27AM

TL;DR: met young woman on dating app. Her profile said no hookups. After a day of chatting, she steered the convo in a sexual direction. I was down with it so I reciprocated the vibe. It went a little too well and she hit me with “we should hang out.” I felt intimidated bc of external factors and fumbled. She stopped responding. Now I am bummed. Asking about: how do I navigate the pacing of modern dating without screwing myself over? Ok so long story: My (29M) profile clearly states “I’m mostly just looking for someone to chat with but I might be down to get together at some point if we hit it off.” I have that in my profile because I find this whole process intimidating; I’m quite shy in some ways. The only successes I’ve had have come after becoming friends with someone first. Otherwise I feel rather uncomfortable/conflicted. I matched with this young woman (20F) the day before yesterday. On her profile she had something about not wanting a hookup, which I found encouraging. I ...

Test May 31, 2022 at 11:32PM

Okay, with your purposeful word picking, and taking it out of the context of the sentence, where it means the exact same thing you said. I literally said "essential in a relationship to them" maybe use the whole sentence next time you wanna tell me I'm wrong. May 31, 2022 at 11:30PM

Also, the clone wars is somewhat out of order. Look up, "every clone wars episode in chronological order" May 31, 2022 at 12:38AM

Hey a girl liked and viewed me on POF. I matched her and we chatted, I suggested we should get a coffee and she agreed. Without asking she sent me her number, she likes voice notes so we've been sending them on WhatsApp everything seems to be great but I asked her when she was free and she didn't respond to that just responded to the other stuff I mentioned in the chat. Then I subtly mentioned meeting again and she never responded about that but chatted about other stuff. She seems self conscious a bit and maybe she thinks I won't be in to her but I've no idea. We are still chatting but now I feel like I can't ask her out again. The whole point of her sending me the number was to meet up any opinions appreciated. Submitted May 30, 2022 at 11:56PM Hey a girl liked and viewed me on POF. I matched her and we chatted, I suggested we should get a coffee and she agreed. Without asking she sent me her number, she likes voice notes so we've been sending them on W...

I (23M) have found myself in a place I never expected myself to be. I’ve usually only ever pursued and then dated 1 person at a time. I spent the past year improving myself and building a business before I decided I’d date again. But now I find myself with 3 girls interested in me beyond hooking up. And I can see myself with all 3 of them in a long-term relationship. I’ve always avoided this sort of situation if possible because I don’t want to break the hearts of a person whose heart doesn’t deserve breaking. Here I am though with 3 absolutely amazing people. How do you even navigate this kind of situation? Is heartbreak inevitable or am I overthinking this? Submitted May 31, 2022 at 12:02AM I (23M) have found myself in a place I never expected myself to be. I’ve usually only ever pursued and then dated 1 person at a time. I spent the past year improving myself and building a business before I decided I’d date again. But now I find myself with 3 girls interested in me beyond ...

So i my sis has a friend that is supposedly going on vacation with the family and my sis told me she has told her multiple times that she wants to sleep with me this& that, i aint tryn wait until the lil vacay so how should I approach her we are friends on fb and we hung out a couple of times but never had a convo only hi and bye type i aint tryn come off a weirdo so should i chill out? Shes 30+ yo and im 25 Submitted May 31, 2022 at 12:04AM So i my sis has a friend that is supposedly going on vacation with the family and my sis told me she has told her multiple times that she wants to sleep with me this& that, i aint tryn wait until the lil vacay so how should I approach her we are friends on fb and we hung out a couple of times but never had a convo only hi and bye type i aint tryn come off a weirdo so should i chill out? Shes 30+ yo and im 25

I (25F) want to subtly show someone (25M) I am interested in them again and wish to do so by interacting with their Instagram story. I hadn't viewed any of their content since we stopped talking because the last few things they posted really triggered me. They have consistently watched me and recently interacted with a post (which I can't lie, I was waiting for). Our very brief exchange left a window open for me to ask how they were doing, but they could’ve done the same if they wanted. Still, I have purposefully muted all of their content because I don't want to spiral if viewing it is a trap, but I also don't want them to think I don't care about them anymore. I see motivational pages that encourage people to reach out instead of hiding their feelings, but at the same time, I want to protect myself because I know I am sensitive. Between a potential trigger and them saying “You’ll be back” when I mentioned cutting them off in the past, I can’t decide if I want ...

I saw this girl for a few months that I met thru a group project in a finance class. It was going pretty well, at least I thought. She told all her friends how much she liked me, how nice I was, and how much she enjoyed spending time with me. She would tell me the same and would say how much she cared about my opinion of her. Long story short, she started becoming distant for a few weeks. She would never say anything was up, or that she wasn't interested anymore. Even when she would flake (which was because she was busy), sometimes she'd offer another day. Even if she didn't, she'd reiterate that she wasn't trying to be difficult, and that it was just a rough point in the semester. I figured with it being finals season and her being legit the most involved person on campus with work/student gov/faculty senate/sorority/extra-curriculars on top of exams. We were still friendly and had a class together. She would text sometimes, reference when we would hang out, and ...

I (26F) had a massive crush on my brother’s friend (28F). He might have noticed but I never told him directly. I know for sure he doesn’t like me since there were multiple opportunities for him to try to get closer to me but he never did. His opinions about me, for which he shared to my brother, are not the greatest, and when he comes over, he barely talks to me. How can I get over this indirect rejection? Especially since I have a history of not being able to attract the guys I want (like him). For context, I sometimes get unwanted attention from guys I don’t find attractive and I’ve only had 2 guys irl tell me they like me. On dating apps, lots of guys ghost me and only one ever wanted something serious with me. Unsurprisingly, I am insecure about this. I’m sick and tired of having crushes on guys who don’t want me and I don’t like the few ones who express initial interest (but disappear eventually lol). Advice on how to get over him, especially since I see him almost daily. Sub...

I was supposed to meet a guy for a first date/coffee date today but because of logistics, we both decided to go for a walk instead socially distanced with a mask. it was quite nice I thought! he knew that I had a friend's housewarming to get to after so I met near the area and after about 45 min of walk/talk, I headed to my friend's. the ending was sort of awkward bc neither of us said definitively LETS DEF HANG AGAIN! I mean the convo was fun, at times funny and I thought it was nice but I havent heard anything from him so I think he isn't interested. Should I wait for him or just text the first text (and say it was great meeting him etc, something nice and neutral) ? It's been about 3 hours since the date. Submitted May 30, 2022 at 01:16AM I was supposed to meet a guy for a first date/coffee date today but because of logistics, we both decided to go for a walk instead socially distanced with a mask. it was quite nice I thought!he knew that I had a friend...

Ohmygosh i love it May 30, 2022 at 12:04AM

Dang, that sucks. A decent person woulda been upfront and been like 'this isn't going to work...'. I'd be somewhat bitter and at least unfriend them on xbox, that way its not a reminder every time they come online. Don't give up the hunt though. You deserve happiness just like everyone else. You did good, this person was just being inconsiderate, but I'm confident you deserve someone who doesn't go AWOL when you're just putting your cards on the table. May 30, 2022 at 12:02AM

For Context: 1st Person (Attracted To But Not Feeling Seen/Clicking): We’ve known each other and talked everyday for a year. We have fun moments of course but our relationship is basically online and we only see each other thru FaceTime or hanging out in person once a month. Very attracted to this person, and I can see a future with them. We’ve had a bunch of ups and downs and we can’t let each other go. I figure that if we were able to spend more time together in real life or just be in each other’s lives long enough, then that feeling of being seen/clicking would come naturally. 2nd Person (Feeling Seen/Clicking But Not Being Attracted): We’ve known each other for six years and we hang out in person often. We have great talks whether we’re in a group or just the two of us. However, I’m not attracted to them even though it feels like I should because our connection just fits. Like based on this could either of these relationships be sustained? Should I wait for a person who I’m at...

I'll keep it short and straight to the point. I met this 1 girl online about 5 months ago. I've met her IRL 2 times now, both times stayed at her house, met her mom, sister etc. (didn't sleep with her), and i really like her, and I'm 98% sure she likes me too. Also her mom love's me and i like her family too The only problem is that she has a guy best friend which I'm insecure about, because she goes to his place often, they hang out a lot and she even stops talking with me when we're hanging out so she can text him, and i know he has feelings for her, but she turned him down, and he has a different girlfriend now, but i can see that she somewhat seems him in more than just a platonic way, even though she says he's just a friend. So what should I do? Is it worth worrying about the guy best friend and should i just ditch her or should I trust that he's just a "guy best friend, with a different girlfriend, who she texts a lot" and start dati...

THEY ARE THE MESSIAH! May 29, 2022 at 11:12PM

Okay, so I asked a girl out today. Background is that we have been talking for a week. 19M and 18F. She first says she’s busy. But then after some time talking it, she says the reason she does not want to hangout is because 1. She’s actually busy (high school is about to end) 2. She barely knows me. It’s kind of confusing for the second reason as Ik a week is not long enough, but I asked a lot of questions and also responded to some. Idk what else to do, she says she doesn’t want to anything besides text. Also according to her, she doesn’t hang around of guys and isn’t used to getting a lot of attention from a guy. Before I asked her, she also said she had trust issues.A girl says she will let time will tell and she goes into things when it’s the right time. What does that mean, should I let time pass and wait or this her letting go of me. Or is it anything else? Submitted May 29, 2022 at 01:15AM Okay, so I asked a girl out today. Background is that we have been talking for a w...

If you want people to stop not doing something, then your best bet is to just tell them to stop not doing something. What you're asking for is a label, so you can make this easier, so why can't you just say "sex-favourable asexual" instead of "asexual" when you tell people that you're asexual? May 29, 2022 at 12:40AM

From updating my profile , I been managing to pull 28+ year old women , been exchanging phone numbers and having long text conversations through the day. And now I haven’t been asked out to go for lunch for this Friday. She is 30 year old and has a has a tv show as a career job. Im only 23 and work as a nurse. What should I know about older women, I don’t want to be talking to her like she my aunty nor push her away with me talking bout TikTok and playbook references lol. Seriously what do older women like to look for or see/hear? Submitted May 29, 2022 at 12:15AM From updating my profile , I been managing to pull 28+ year old women , been exchanging phone numbers and having long text conversations through the day. And now I haven’t been asked out to go for lunch for this Friday. She is 30 year old and has a has a tv show as a career job. Im only 23 and work as a nurse. What should I know about older women, I don’t want to be talking to her like she my aunty nor push her away wi...

So, they're people who don't understand what sexual attraction means and don't like sex? I'm so confused as to wth these people are on tbh. May 28, 2022 at 11:22PM

I’ve seen a number of people here tell stories similar to yours and find like minded people. Perhaps we just need to better organize our threads so everyone can find people to talk to. May 28, 2022 at 11:21PM

Well, your solution is better than mine lol. May 28, 2022 at 11:19PM

Me, an asexual, i agree May 28, 2022 at 12:57AM

So I'm in my early 20s (M) and never had a relationship, dated, had sex, anything other than kiss and cuddle just one time when I was 18. I've been told I'm good looking. I'm fit, I play guitar, passionate about music and art, I can cook, take care of myself and my apartment perfectly fine, I have some medical problems that I deal with myself, you get the idea. Most people are very surprised or often don't believe me when I tell them about my lack of experience. -----Don't read past this if you don't want to it's mostly a rant I was kinda one of the popular kids back in middle and high school and more so in college. Both me and my brother were quite well known in high school and we partied/did drugs etc. He could get plenty of girls while I never could. In college I smoked a lot of weed, partied a lot, made a lot of acquaintances but only a couple friends. Girls fairly frequently (for my standards) would talk to me in college but it always felt like ...

A month ago, I started dating a new guy after getting out of a nine year relationship. I don’t have kids and have never dated someone with kids. I met a guy online and we seriously hit it off immediately! He is 6 years older than me and he has two kids (3 & 6), and he lives an hour away from me and he’s at the tail end of a divorce. He was everything I was missing. Our first date was amazing… picnic by the river, serenading me with his guitar, and dancing with my unexpectedly in his living room. I was swept off my feet right away. A week into us dating, his ex showed up at his apartment with the boys, and said, “I had something come up and I need you to take them.” I was sitting there… anxious as all hell because what do I do? Just look at the boys and be like okkkk you don’t know me but I have to go…? So I stayed and met them. It was overwhelming, but it was good! I definitely overthought it! So most weekends I’ve been staying here with him. He has the kids every other weekend an...

Ohmygod I remember that! My favorite part was when the interviewer was like, "What do you want to say to the viewers that were just jerking off?" Or something wild like that and Gerard just shouts, "Your MOM'S COMING" I need to watch that shit again lmao May 27, 2022 at 11:59PM

I am a victim of abuse from my family.Was always beaten in childhood and was insulted, belittled and made fun of in my teenage years.So as a young adult,I moved to another continent to get away from my family.And after a lot of therapy and self reflection, I am now in a position where I am emotionally stable.And promised myself I will never be in that kind of situation again. So when it comes to dating and relationships, I always tell my partner we can have arguments and constructive criticisms.But any kind of name calling,insults or throwing hands is out of bounds and I break it off immediately .My friends tell me I am being too much high strung and every girl I date has to be walking a tight rope. So is it too much to ask someone to respect my boundaries while I respect theirs? Submitted May 27, 2022 at 06:52AM I am a victim of abuse from my family.Was always beaten in childhood and was insulted, belittled and made fun of in my teenage years.So as a young adult,I moved to an...

I do think so, yes. Especially in regards to expecting Me to participate or observe or discuss other people’s sex lives or present/future/past sexual experiences. But I’m not gonna think or imply the people Themselves who want to/like to/choose to have sex are icky. I’m well aware my views on sex are atypical. It’s a fine line. People want a particular forum or real life place to be sex positive or sex negative? Neither fits me. I’d rather it be sex never mentioned and not a factor in any discussion that didn’t deliberately start out being about sex, but people seem to view that as sex negative. I’ve been told to my face that me not wanting to be hit on by strangers when minding my own business on a bus or at work is also sex negative. Uh, no. That’s called a personal boundary and also self preservation. Mostly I just wander off in person or virtually when a discussion about that new barbeque place or somebody’s trip to the Grand Canyon turns into speculation or confirmation of ...

Just got my wisdom teeth pulled out today, all four. It is really painful. But, I [19M] was introduced to this very young woman who was fucking gorgeous. I have had two gfs already in my past teenage life and am not bad at talking to girls. But holy heck, I can't stop thinking about her and have never felt this way over someone. I literally froze when she first came out to see me and bring me in for the procedure. [She was just a nurse and not the surgeon.] I didn't remember her name but I do remember lots of touch, a good conversation, and her eyes. It felt like a movie. Reddit, I don't want to seem like a simp or a loser. This is my first post on this subreddit and I had to tell someone because I have been holding this in. I will go back in 2 weeks for a checkup and will hopefully see her again, should I shoot my shot? [ you only live once right?] Submitted May 27, 2022 at 12:01AM Just got my wisdom teeth pulled out today, all four. It is really painful.But, I [1...

I'm (31F) seeing a guy (28M) since last November. We're not in a relationship but we are exclusive. Last December he went in vacations with his friend. We lived a situation that have hurt me deeply. We talked all the time the whole time he was in vacations, texting in the day and talking in the phone at night. He met a British girl on the hotel for less than 48 hours and he sent me a Pic of him with her. When he was coming back to his city he was so sad, and as we were talking he told me he kinda had a crush on that girl and they kissed. I felt so brokenhearted. I still feel hurt about that but time and multiple conversations with him made me heal most of it. The thing is, he just told me he is going in vacations for a month to the Caribbean in September. Since he told me about that I have been so anxious. The Caribbean it's a party place for a guy that goes alone and I'm so scared this gonna happen again. These six months we have developed a deep bond and he is alwa...

I (F) asked the guy I like to let someone take a photo of us and he put his hand on my waist, where the ribs are, basically under the boob. I noticed he otherwise always puts his hand on everybody else's (girls included) shoulder when he takes a photo. What does it mean? Does it mean he is more comfortable with me than with others? Can I consider this sort of a flirt? Submitted May 26, 2022 at 03:47PM I (F) asked the guy I like to let someone take a photo of us and he put his hand on my waist, where the ribs are, basically under the boob.I noticed he otherwise always puts his hand on everybody else's (girls included) shoulder when he takes a photo.What does it mean? Does it mean he is more comfortable with me than with others? Can I consider this sort of a flirt?

Essentially the title, but more details here. I’ll name the friend that likes me Michael & the person I’m with Jack for clarity, though names are obviously fake. I’ve been friends with Jack for 4 years. We weren’t that close but would meet up / play games throughout the years. Last year, he introduced me to Michael and we became close friends in the last few months. Michael is one of the kindest people I know, he’s helped me through a lot. It became really obvious the last few months that he likes me (says he misses me, calls me cute, etc.) though he hasn’t said anything. Jack & I recently found out we’re more compatible than we thought and are currently discussing the potential of dating. Main thing holding us back is distance. Jack & Michael go to the same uni, which is how they met, and they’re decent friends. My question is - how do I tell Michael I’m with Jack, if we decide to date? I think Michael would be crushed - he’s told me it takes a long time for him to get...

Only known her like 5 weeks. And I honestly don’t think her getting off the pill is the difference in behavior. I’ve been around long enough to tell when a girl is losing interest. She used to respond within minutes and she’s rejected my last three invites to hang out, today I invited her to hang and she says her mood is still a mess from getting off the pill. We do have plans to go out Saturday, but honestly I’m thinking of just canceling cause she’s been acting this way all week, and I’m just over it. I’m the type of person that gets anxious quick in situations like this and I’ve been feeling it, and to stop the feeling I’m really just thinking of telling her I don’t think things are working out and we should move on. Submitted May 27, 2022 at 12:13AM Only known her like 5 weeks. And I honestly don’t think her getting off the pill is the difference in behavior. I’ve been around long enough to tell when a girl is losing interest.She used to respond within minutes and she’s re...

me (f19) and my friend/ex (m18) have been friends for about 3 years now on and off. we both have had feeling for each other on and off as well as we kept slipping in and out of relationships because we never got the timing right. well in december him and i started dating and it was perfect until he broke up with me to have time for himself. i am still completely head over heels for him, but hes very distant emotionally but we have mutual friends and he’s consistently nice to me and talks to me when we are all hanging out. the situation sucks honestly, its hard for me to move on when we both have mutual friends, ive even gone on a couple tinder dates here and there but its always him on my mind at the end of the day. does anyone have any advice on how to better the situation in any way? i dont want to ghost all my friends but idk it sucks seeing him and him being so emotionally detached from me. Submitted May 27, 2022 at 12:14AM me (f19) and my friend/ex (m18) have been friends f...

Yeah kinda, it's just libido that tends to throw me off sometimes. But thank you for the explanation! It was greatly appreciated<3 May 26, 2022 at 12:18AM

I've been using tinder and bumble recently, I've been able to get matches with people but feel like our conversations end super fast. I'm a guy trying to meet women so I get that it's expected I text first which I have been doing. I'll usually ask a question based off their profile or if they don't really fill their bio a picture or just a simple "hi! how has your day been going?" I'll usually get one or two replies then it's silence from then on out. I have just been trying to talk to them like an actual human instead of going for a cheesy pickup line or something like that. Being totally honest I don't really feel comfortable doing stuff like that and maybe just don't know how to flirt? How do you as a man matching with women keep a conversation flowing? Submitted May 25, 2022 at 11:46PM I've been using tinder and bumble recently, I've been able to get matches with people but feel like our conversations end super fast. ...

Whaat are ssome signs a guy is super confident! Submitted May 25, 2022 at 11:47PM Whaat are ssome signs a guy is super confident!

What does it mean when a girl gives you hugs like she does to her girl/guy friends but she gives long tigger hugs? She does this to me and to very few people. Me and her met at a volunteer event at school and I think we like each other Submitted May 25, 2022 at 11:54PM What does it mean when a girl gives you hugs like she does to her girl/guy friends but she gives long tigger hugs? She does this to me and to very few people. Me and her met at a volunteer event at school and I think we like each other

This girl and I matched on Hinge and everything conversation wise was going very good and she wanted to meet up and after I mentioned I was not religious she mentioned that it's important to her and it defines her and she doesn't impose it on anybody and nothing to worry about as well as she has friends and people she knows around the word who aren't religious. The last three message after that she only replied by saying "liked or loved followed by copying and pasted what I said." I don't know if this is a sign of ghosting me or what is going on now, thoughts? Submitted May 26, 2022 at 12:00AM This girl and I matched on Hinge and everything conversation wise was going very good and she wanted to meet up and after I mentioned I was not religious she mentioned that it's important to her and it defines her and she doesn't impose it on anybody and nothing to worry about as well as she has friends and people she knows around the word who aren't...

I work at a retail job and that’s pretty much all I do. I have nothing else going on with my life. Would it be appropriate to ask out girls at work? I honestly don’t know where else to meet women. I have no luck in online dating. Submitted May 26, 2022 at 12:03AM I work at a retail job and that’s pretty much all I do. I have nothing else going on with my life. Would it be appropriate to ask out girls at work? I honestly don’t know where else to meet women. I have no luck in online dating.

Hey guys! I seek advice on when to have a conversation about how shity my lifestyle is for being with someone. I have been dating a girl for some time now, and I know what I want. I can’t say that we will end up together just yet, we still need time but I just realised that there is something she doesn’t realise about me. Long story short, for at least next 10 years I’ll have to move around the world multiple times, I won’t be able to settle down and although we are not yet official, I started to feel like she deserves to know before investing more into us emotionally. When do You think is a good time to have that conversation? I just feel like she has to know and understand before going any further Submitted May 26, 2022 at 12:10AM Hey guys! I seek advice on when to have a conversation about how shity my lifestyle is for being with someone. I have been dating a girl for some time now, and I know what I want. I can’t say that we will end up together just yet, we still need time...

Talking exclusively about dates where you're not entirely sure how to feel about it at the end. Like the girl/guy is decently attractive to you, maybe a little boring, a little bit of a challenge to get the conversation flowing, but is not overall toxic. Would you give it another 1-2 dates to see how it unfolds? Or would you trust your gut and stop after the first date? Submitted May 26, 2022 at 12:14AM Talking exclusively about dates where you're not entirely sure how to feel about it at the end.Like the girl/guy is decently attractive to you, maybe a little boring, a little bit of a challenge to get the conversation flowing, but is not overall toxic.Would you give it another 1-2 dates to see how it unfolds? Or would you trust your gut and stop after the first date?

The date went well, We went out on a date Friday, she wanted to meet Sunday. I proposed sometime this week so we decided Wednesday at her house to watch a movie and hang. We talk daily, I just saw she updated her bumble profile, so I’m kinda overthinking. I usually see one person at a time. She compliments me a lot I just have this crazy anxiety for the second date. Do I ask her where this is going after the second date? I’m getting crazy anxiety from this uncertainty I guess Submitted May 25, 2022 at 01:13AM The date went well, We went out on a date Friday, she wanted to meet Sunday. I proposed sometime this week so we decided Wednesday at her house to watch a movie and hang. We talk daily, I just saw she updated her bumble profile, so I’m kinda overthinking. I usually see one person at a time. She compliments me a lot I just have this crazy anxiety for the second date. Do I ask her where this is going after the second date? I’m getting crazy anxiety from this uncertainty I gue...

Honestly... Yeah tho May 24, 2022 at 11:39PM

So for context this girl I work with was acting really flirty with me. She wanted to hangout and the day we hung out she told me how good I looked with “:))” in the text. She also said I was the only coworker she cared that made it to her school concert and things like that. When my mom came into our work when I wasn’t there she said she had a boyfriend in a town away from where we live (about an hour away) and when my mom said she was my mom this girl put her hand on her mouth and just sat there and looked at my mom in shock. The day after she spammed my phone when I wouldn’t respond and kept sending random pictures of herself to me (which she never did). And now today she’s completely avoided me and hasn’t even tried to text me, she’s acting really weird now. I wanna text her just so she knows I know, and to get it off my chest, is a text like this good? “I’m gonna address the elephant in the room. When my mom came into [work] she heard you say you have a boyfriend (which isn’t the...

Heck yeah! Also, cat :) May 24, 2022 at 11:38PM

wow. that’s quite.. ah.. what’s the word I’m looking for… oh yeah. WRONG. I can tell you… from experience that aces are capable of feeling things. In fact, right now I’m feeling everything all at once and it sucks May 24, 2022 at 11:38PM

In general, yes, doing something to celebrate the ace in your life is appropriate! I like the suggestions you made, and there are also lots of items available for sale in ace colors. If there's something she's really into, maybe try to find that in ace colors? My only caution is to keep it somewhat small and private so that you can gauge her comfort level. Maybe at the end of the day celebrating pride isn't her cup of tea, and that's perfectly okay. But the sentiment you want to share is wonderful, and I think that's ultimately what matters. May 24, 2022 at 11:37PM

I (27M) probably know the answer (to move on and forget her) to this but wanted some advice. I was talking to someone from Bumble for 2 weeks (she went out of town right after we started talking) and was supposed to see her (27F) tomorrow. She let me know today that she just isn't ready to date after trying Bumble out. I believe this as she's preparing to move (just across town) and starting a demanding job as a resident physician at a hospital. I normally wouldn't care and would just move on, but we clicked really well and much better than almost every girl I've talked to on dating apps (100+ over the years of being on/off). I think we would really hit it off if we went out. I responded already to let her know that I understand and wished her luck but to message me if she changes her mind. She thanked me for being understanding about it. A few hours have passed now and part of me wants to message her that I think we'd really hit it off if we go out and to give it...

I apologize but I wanted to read this but im literally too tired to comprehend it May 23, 2022 at 11:17PM

Demiromantic and demisexual May 23, 2022 at 11:16PM

Additional note she said she would love to see me again and we’ve exchanged numbers. I was just scrolling through bumble because I wanted to look at her pictures again only to find she’s deleted her app. Please help, I need the female perspective. Submitted May 24, 2022 at 12:12AM Additional note she said she would love to see me again and we’ve exchanged numbers. I was just scrolling through bumble because I wanted to look at her pictures again only to find she’s deleted her app. Please help, I need the female perspective.

I'm very curious on this topic. If you are a woman, or identify as a woman, please take a minute and say what YOU look for in a partner...thanks for your time! Submitted May 24, 2022 at 12:13AM I'm very curious on this topic. If you are a woman, or identify as a woman, please take a minute and say what YOU look for in a partner...thanks for your time!

Could I ask what a “double demi” is? How is it different to being demisexual? May 23, 2022 at 11:16PM

I (26M) have had a crush on my coworker(25F) for months. She’s quiet and a bit mysterious and loner. I finally asked her out and ended up spending the night with her. Best I’ve ever had by far. I’m still having flashbacks of it all. She also told me all about her life. She told me about how she cheated on her ex and fought with her siblings and won’t call her dad and how her college friends hate her and how she does risky things for fun. Way too many red flags but she was horrifyingly honest about it and surprisingly, I don’t feel repulsed or like running away. I’m confused as my friends say she sounds like bad news but I’m attracted to her even more after last night. Should I ask her on another date or act like it never happened when I see her at work tomorrow? Submitted May 23, 2022 at 01:14AM I (26M) have had a crush on my coworker(25F) for months. She’s quiet and a bit mysterious and loner. I finally asked her out and ended up spending the night with her. Best I’ve ever had ...

Texas? May 23, 2022 at 12:12AM

Oh, I meant like actual donuts - I have a bad sweet tooth and a weakness for desserts! ☺️ When it comes to sex though I don’t find any of it appetizing or feel any urges. May 23, 2022 at 12:11AM

I was talking to this guy for around 2 months and we hit it off great. At first, he wanted a relationship with me but then suddenly changed his mind and only wanted friends with benefits which I denied since I feel am too inexperienced. He was the best connection I ever had with someone, and it just sucks since all his friends said he really liked me so I just feel super disappointed. It's been over a month since we stopped talking, and I still can't stop thinking about him which is dumb since we never even dated. How do I get over him? Submitted May 23, 2022 at 12:14AM I was talking to this guy for around 2 months and we hit it off great. At first, he wanted a relationship with me but then suddenly changed his mind and only wanted friends with benefits which I denied since I feel am too inexperienced. He was the best connection I ever had with someone, and it just sucks since all his friends said he really liked me so I just feel super disappointed. It's been over a...

Growing up, everyone around me was having their first kisses, dates, relationships and so on... I probably noticed in middle school that this was more apparent. I was never one of these people, I was petrified of everything to do with dating and it took me until I was 15 to start. However, this was an online "relationship" where I had met this 16 year old on kik and we dated for almost a year. It got to the extent that in 2016 I flew to Vegas with my mother, my best friend, and her mother to go meet him. Few months later that had ended. I believe it was about March when I had met someone from another school on tinder and we began dating. He always tried to initiate sexual contact and asked for bjs and so on, yet i was petrified and never did. In April 2016, my brother committed suicide and shortly after the relationship with the guy ended because we didn't see each other enough. A year and a half go by and its senior year. For some reason "the popular guy" was...

The standart for women is an obedient little creature that guards her virginity to give it to her husband and the standart for men is a "stud" who is so attractive that he can switch women like gloves and not run out. Both equally disgusting. May 22, 2022 at 11:23PM

Im 19m and There’s a girl i met at work not long ago and we had a few interactions but not many and I felt myself having a huge crush on her. Nothing really ever came of it though and I didn’t really know her that well but there was something about her which I just adored. She left my place of work not long ago and I never really had the chance to get close with her. She is still in contact with a lot of my work colleagues so I don’t know if our paths will ever cross again. But she is literally all I have thought about for about a month or so. I just keep thinking about her and it’s the what if that kills me. I sometimes just say her name randomly and i often dream about her. It’s gotten to the point where I feel genuine anger over this and I have extreme intrusive thoughts about it like her going off with some other person I could get in contact but if I do she’ll know that I’m interested and it will kill me right away because I can’t come off too over persistent. I don’t even really...

Me (23 y.o M) matched with a 22 y.o F on Tinder. First date was great! We both got along, had very similar interest and planned to go out again the following weekend. We are both very busy throughout the week but we texted a decent amount. Second date, again everything was perfect, we went to a bar, had some drinks and then she stayed over at my place. We texted a lot more during the week and she kept complimenting me, saying how much she enjoys spending time with me. Early into the week, we planned to go out again that upcoming weekend on Friday night. Leading up to the days, we had been texting and snap chatting a good amount. Friday morning, I ask her what her plans are for the day and she said something along the lines of " work in the morning, going to get lunch with a friend, then spend the night with you". That is the last text I ever got from her. I followed up with a text saying something like "great! just let me know when you think I should pick you up". ...

Bread 👍 May 22, 2022 at 12:31AM

I was just thinking about this, thank you /pos May 22, 2022 at 12:28AM

I have a crush on this girl at my work, I’ve never talked to her before. When we see each other in passing I can’t help but feel she may feel the same. How should I start interacting with her in a way that is not so obvious. I feel like if I just randomly start talking to her, she will know exactly my intentions. I need more reassurance before I ask her out, that way if I’m totally off about my feelings, the work environment won’t be weird. Submitted May 22, 2022 at 12:16AM I have a crush on this girl at my work, I’ve never talked to her before. When we see each other in passing I can’t help but feel she may feel the same. How should I start interacting with her in a way that is not so obvious. I feel like if I just randomly start talking to her, she will know exactly my intentions. I need more reassurance before I ask her out, that way if I’m totally off about my feelings, the work environment won’t be weird.

I've had a couple involving it, but not really depicting it. Like, my brain may tell me stuff has happened, but there's no visuals or sensations corresponding to it. May 21, 2022 at 11:15PM

Kinda yeah. At least in high school I was curious about it, always thinking about romance, what it would be like, and all of that. I assume that's romance frustration. Buuuut not anymore since I've been there and done that May 21, 2022 at 12:46AM

Yeah, no. Those are just words for sexual orientations. We have other suffixes for other types of attraction. You mostly see -romantic, but most people outside the aro and ace communities conflate sex and romance so it's sticky. May 21, 2022 at 12:46AM

We're taught that sex is the absolute best thing a person can ever experience and you're miserable if you don't. I had a friend in college who I explained asexuality to multiple times and he always went back to "well that doesn't make sense, how can you not feel sexual attraction? everyone does it's natural" Haven't talked to him in six years and it's saved a lot of headaches. Thankfully my family and friends understand and accept it May 21, 2022 at 12:45AM

Hey hey, I am sure to the objective person this will be clear as day, but to me it’s not. Me (F32) and this guy (M31) hooked up about 3 months ago. What happened after was pretty regular texts from him and VEEEERY regular booty calls every weekend night. I did not always engage, because duuuh I have a life. But after some hookups and cuddles, naturally some chemistry started to happen. He brought it up that he thinks we are on different timelines and that he would like to see me more and date. And even though I am in a phase in my life where I wasn’t looking for that, I said that I’d be open to see how that would go as I like him. Afterwards, he was very affectionate and texting for a few days then noooothing until a booty call that I ignored. Couple days later had a brief convo and I did some emotional offloading (never texting reactive again) and he responded to some of it. Then again nothiiiiing. Until, you guessed it - booty call. I told him no more booty calls, I’d rather be with...