So my FWB has a birthday coming up and I want to do something special for him. I texted him letting him know that whatever he wants to do, we would do (no limits) and he said he would have to think about what he wants. Guys, what would you ask for? And what would be a pleasant addition to that? Any and all ideas welcome! Thank you! Submitted March 01, 2021 at 12:25AM So my FWB has a birthday coming up and I want to do something special for him. I texted him letting him know that whatever he wants to do, we would do (no limits) and he said he would have to think about what he wants.Guys, what would you ask for? And what would be a pleasant addition to that?Any and all ideas welcome! Thank you!

So basically I took a quiz about 4 months ago that helped explain what I was into in relation to kinks and whatnot. Since then I feel I have changed a lot and would like to retake the quiz. The results are given in a percentage basis and there is about 10-15 answers each with a certain percentage. Any help would be greatly appreciated Submitted March 01, 2021 at 12:32AM So basically I took a quiz about 4 months ago that helped explain what I was into in relation to kinks and whatnot. Since then I feel I have changed a lot and would like to retake the quiz. The results are given in a percentage basis and there is about 10-15 answers each with a certain percentage. Any help would be greatly appreciated

Been with my SO(F32) for a couple years now, we have been in constant disagreements lately. I have not been happy for a year or so in our relationship as well. She seems to be stressed out all the time from work and other factors that make her have anxiety, and then lashes out at me because of the stress. I reached a boiling point where I told her this won’t work, because of the way you treat me and take me for granted and don’t appreciate me. So we broke up... I initially want us to continue to work on this together because we have been together for a few years and it means we do care for each other and have something good (outside of her lashing). She told me she did not want to, and was adamant on ending it, that she too was not happy and she don’t think there is anything we can do to fix it. I told her I am not mad we are ending but I’m mad that she don’t even want to fight for us, and instead chose to a)give up b)throw it on to me as to why she was not happy and I always stress ...

23M here. Two nights ago was the third time in recent weeks where I really hit it off with a girl in conversation at a bar. Towards the end of things each time, we exchange contact info. Then I’m ghosted in the follow up about a day or two later. tl;dr: Things aren’t getting off the ground past this point. Despite the good body language, enthusiasm, other checked off boxes etc. Is this just bad luck? Submitted February 28, 2021 at 11:21PM 23M here. Two nights ago was the third time in recent weeks where I really hit it off with a girl in conversation at a bar. Towards the end of things each time, we exchange contact info. Then I’m ghosted in the follow up about a day or two later.tl;dr: Things aren’t getting off the ground past this point. Despite the good body language, enthusiasm, other checked off boxes etc. Is this just bad luck?

Sooo I'm reaching out here for advice because I'm 23 (M), and I've only ever been in one 2.5 year long relationship that turned out to be extremely toxic. That was about three years ago now and after working on myself for a long time and trying to be happy on my own I can't help but feel that my almost non-existent dating life and lacking social life are bringing me down more every day. I'm out of school and I have a full time job that's going very well. I also have a new puppy and a few other hobbies that kill some time when I'm not working and those make me happy overall but no matter what I do, I still come home to an empty house and find myself to be extremely lonely and I'm not sure what else I can do about that. I've tried a variety of dating apps multiple times each that all seem to be okay at first but they either lead to nothing or be a bad experience every single time. At this point it seems like I've done everything I can do to try an...

I'm turning 30 this year and it's still hard for me to accept that, even though I know at this point it's a certainty basically It's never really happened no matter how much I've improved myself physically and mentally over the years It's pretty depressing knowing I'll never have intimacy, a connection and a life companion Submitted February 28, 2021 at 11:27PM I'm turning 30 this year and it's still hard for me to accept that, even though I know at this point it's a certainty basicallyIt's never really happened no matter how much I've improved myself physically and mentally over the yearsIt's pretty depressing knowing I'll never have intimacy, a connection and a life companion

Would you lie about having a friend of the opposite sex and say you haven't talked to them in a year when in fact you actually talk to them almost on daily basis? Even if your intentions is good because you love that person you're dating and don't want to lose them. Submitted February 28, 2021 at 11:29PM Would you lie about having a friend of the opposite sex and say you haven't talked to them in a year when in fact you actually talk to them almost on daily basis? Even if your intentions is good because you love that person you're dating and don't want to lose them.

So I hooked up with a guy about 2 weeks ago. I don't generally have one night stands with people, but was okay with this one considering we didn't really know each other that well in the first place. In my opinion, things went really well. I left happy, though I didn't know if I'd see him again We texted for a few days afterward, just shooting the shit about meeting each other and sending pictures of the hickeys we'd given (lmao childish I know). Eventually the convo tapered off, which I was fine with, and we carried on with our respective lives. A couple of friends asked me if I'd want to hook up with him again, to which I said I wouldn't mind, it's really up to him if he wanted to reach out We follow each other on Instagram, and I posted a story of me in a low cut top today. He swiped up on my story and said something along the lines of, "One of the coolest shirts I've ever seen," to which I replied and he liked the message, end of con...

What is pro and con of doing it, recently i almost did that but girl told me eve before date she cant make it due to her job, i would try once again but not sure doe. Anyway, i mean not being complete stranger to that person and going crazy direct asking out, previous convo got to be in there. Anyone with exp in this sort of thing, how would that make you feel and etc Submitted February 28, 2021 at 11:40PM What is pro and con of doing it,recently i almost did that but girl told me eve before date she cant make it due to her job, i would try once again but not sure doe.Anyway, i mean not being complete stranger to that person and going crazy direct asking out, previous convo got to be in there.Anyone with exp in this sort of thing, how would that make you feel and etc

Guy I’ve been dating for two months is hot and cold. One minute he’s so emotionally depth, responsive and available. The next he’s pulling back. He’s done this now two or three times now. I’m beginning to think he likes the drama of keeping someone at an arms length and dispute how much he’s saying he’s just scared and wants to take things slow (and then subsequently speeds them up by wanting to hang out all the time), I’ve grown weary of it and don’t see how a wonderful foundation can come from this. My question is is this normal or common? I’m not pressuring for exclusivity either, just asking for some consistency in his attitude towards me. How do I handle this? Submitted February 28, 2021 at 11:49PM Guy I’ve been dating for two months is hot and cold. One minute he’s so emotionally depth, responsive and available. The next he’s pulling back. He’s done this now two or three times now.I’m beginning to think he likes the drama of keeping someone at an arms length and dispute ...

I (f29) kind of possibly maybe like this guy (m31?), and I've been thinking about asking him out. I don't actively have evidence that he likes me back, but we're on perfectly friendly acquaintance terms. I see him pretty regularly due to knowing a lot of the same people, similar activities, etc. I've been wondering and overanalyzing the situation for a while, and I'd just really like to know one way or the other if he likes me at all. My hesitation isn't the possibility of rejection. I'm in the arts, so I'm very accustomed to that. My fear is of him feeling put on the spot or something, not knowing what to say, and just saying yes without thinking, without actually meaning it. I feel like that's an easy thing to do. I've been on both sides of it, and it sucks for everyone. I know it's easy to say "no pressure," but have people still feel pressure. I think men in particular might be prone to that sort of thing because they aren...

Hey guys I think I'm kinda lost with the direction of the relationship of my boyfriend and I. To begin, me F/18 and He M/18 have met on Discord, and after a while we just started to go into love and now we were happily dating for almost 6 months. Though, today took a strange turn. I wanted to talk to him over voice chat for the very first time, but he didn't show up. I was really confused and I'm now not sure about if it was my fault or if he's cheating on me with another girl. I really love him and I don't want to lose him to some other girl I don't know about. Please, can anyone teach me how to show him that I am serious about this relationship and that I really love him... Submitted February 28, 2021 at 11:55PM Hey guys I think I'm kinda lost with the direction of the relationship of my boyfriend and I.To begin, me F/18 and He M/18 have met on Discord, and after a while we just started to go into love and now we were happily dating for almost 6 m...

Hey there, 1 month ago I met a girl through a dating app and we instantly clicked. We had a three hour video chat where she told me her birthday was coming up. I'm not into astrology at all, but for some reason after this video chat I decided to look up our compatibility through zodiac signs. Turns out were suppose to be "soulmates". Finding this out put the rosiest rose color glasses money can buy on me. I mean I started fantasying and expecting this to lead to something long lasting. A few days go by and I ask to hang out and watch ATLA (we're both fans). We end up cuddling & eventually kissing (I didn't feel any sparks when kissing her but I think it could be because I was sleep deprived and I didn't have a emotional connection to her yet, I had been up for 24 hours straight). We stop short of having sex and I end up staying the night because of my sleep deprivation (scared to drive home). We cuddle in her bed and end up having a honest conversati...

So I (21M) have started going on dates with this childhood friend (22F) since we've both became single. We are over 10 dates in, so during valentines I though I would take her out and get her something to which she agreed. The day came and I presented the flowers + chocolate (typical, I know :P) and asked her to be my valentines, to my surprise, she was extremely hesitant. I didn't get a yes or a no but it was incredibly awkward on the spot. Well I asked again to where she blushingly responded with can I think about it. I thought it was pretty much doomed at this point so I just tried to enjoy our night without making it too awkward. She ended up accepting my gifts but didn't give me an answer to my original question. I thought it was time to move on at this point, but then I received a call a couple days later. She called and said she wasn't sure what I meant when I asked her that...so i told her it was pretty much just asking to be my date for the night. I jokingly ...

Starting a conversation with someone in real life I find quite easy. But starting one online I find quite daunting. What do I say to garantee success? And is flirting on social media different than in real life? Submitted March 01, 2021 at 12:02AM Starting a conversation with someone in real life I find quite easy. But starting one online I find quite daunting.What do I say to garantee success? And is flirting on social media different than in real life?

22F here, for the past 3 and a half years I’ve been single. I’ve had a few flings over this period but the last fling which I had actual feelings for is now coming up to 2 years ago. Around this point whilst things were ending with this fling, something quite traumatic happened to me which really knocked my confidence and gave a lot of fear of intimacy. Since then on, I’ve not slept with anyone and have struggled to find any motivation to form any form of romantic relationships even when I feel lonely and would like to. The last year I’ve really tried to work on myself and my confidence and it has really drastically improved, I know I’m a good looking girl and I’m fun to be around and do get quite a lot of attention from men both online and in person (sorry I know I sound like a bit of a knob here lol), but I have absolutely no desire to continue getting to know any of these people, I’ve been on several dates and they’ve gone well, but as soon as the boy starts to show any interest an...

My boyfriend (23M) and I (22F)broke up about 2 weeks ago and we’re together for a little over a year, he’s the one who ended things because he felt like he needed to work on himself, wanted to meet new people, etc. While I was hurt, I felt like a lot of anxiety that I had been carrying was lifted off my shoulders (our relationship was not perfect by any means and had some toxic moments). We agreed that we would continue to be in each other’s lives and for the first week I felt good. I felt like I was my own person again and had no expectations of when he would text me or what our communication was. Lately he has been calling and texting me more which I’m realizing is giving me anxiety, so I told him we should talk less which he understood. However I can’t shake this feeling that Im still his best friend and person he goes too for things. For context he has a small circle of friends, one close guy friend and a bunch of friends he games with online. But no one he calls when he’s at work...

Do you believe you should only go on a second date with someone only if there was chemistry? I met someone today and he was really nice and the conversation was good but I didn't feel much chemistry. I would like to see him again but don't know if that would be a bad idea since I don't feel a strong connection, granted it was only the first date. Submitted March 01, 2021 at 12:11AM Do you believe you should only go on a second date with someone only if there was chemistry? I met someone today and he was really nice and the conversation was good but I didn't feel much chemistry. I would like to see him again but don't know if that would be a bad idea since I don't feel a strong connection, granted it was only the first date.

Okay so currently I [m19] am dating this girl, lets call her A. [just turned 17] She's a few years younger than me, quite unexperienced and really held back most of the times when it comes to getting closer. I actually quite like her and think she is really cute, but I guess I am the first guy she is really getting more serious with. Now, we've been dating for 2 months already and there is not really anything going forward at the moment. Thing is, I will have my finals in a few months and am going to move away by the end of summer. Therefore we agreed, to atleast give the relationship a shot. I was the one to initially pitch the idea and I kinda talked her into at least trying even tho we know it's going to end not long after. The sticky situation I came to find myself in appeared a few days ago. I met this other girl, let's call her B. She's my age, definetly not unexperienced and in almost every way the complete opposite of A. We talked and on the same evening s...

Yooo this is aesthetic as hell! February 28, 2021 at 11:18PM

I love kissing, mouth, cheek, forehead, shoulder - wherever is exposed really, because I am a hopeless romantic and I like the connection you can feel with someone when you do it. It’s absolutely not a sexual thing for me. More sensual or romantic. However I only ever kiss my partner or people I’ve previously been either aesthetically or romantically attracted to. February 28, 2021 at 11:12PM

I couldn't fit this in, but you don't have to credit me completely, as it is not my character. February 28, 2021 at 11:09PM

I recently met a stand up guy named (V.) He is the type of guy you read about in dating articles that you think doesn’t exist in real life. We’ve gone out on two dates and so far I’m blown away. Two months ago I got out of a relationship with (A). I was the first woman he ever actually dated in Canada. In his own way he showed me through his actions that he really cared about me. The problem is he is Muslim and I am not which will be relevant later on. From what he told me about his child hood I could tell he was never encouraged to display his emotions. He was emotionally very closed off and had a hard time communicating his feelings. This created a lot of problems for us as I often felt under appreciated and not cared for. After shit hit the fan, he told me he was visiting his family back home for awhile. Since we had been through so much (arguments, unplanned pregnancy and termination) I assumed he would have ended things by this point. We talked on the phone and a giant blow out e...

I matched with a guy on a dating app and we both said we are looking for a relationship. We hit it off texting on the app and he asked for my number. He hinted at a date a couple of times and I thought it was cute and was enjoying talking to him. I didn’t ever directly say anything about a date but was hoping his hinting meant he would ask me out soon. We texted for hours each day for a week and now suddenly he didn’t respond to my text and hasn’t reached out on his own either. It’s very confusing and hurtful to me because he had been texting me all day and night previously and there didn’t seem to be anything wrong. The change was so sudden. It makes me wonder if it’s because a date didn’t happen already within that week period but I would have said yes if he were to ask...I’m feeling down, I thought I made it clear I was interested and he definitely seemed interested and hinted at dates. So I’m confused and unsure if I did something wrong or if he really just suddenly lost interest ...

I (29F) have been seeing a guy, James (27M) for a few months. He recently invited me to a party where 3 of his other friends were also invited. His three friends are polyamorous: the girl, her "primary" boyfriend, and her secondary boyfriend. The party was going great and I had a nice time interacting with his friends, but it felt to me that the girl and her primary boyfriend were hitting on me and trying to sleep with me, which was very intriguing to me, given I was James +1 in the party. This was also the first time a girl was so openly yet subtly hitting on me -- I was flattered, sure, for a bit. I later brought it up with James and he mentioned that yeah they find me attractive and they have tried to sleep with his past dates as well. So they hit on all of his dates, understood. Although it was a small incident and it doesn't bother me much, but I was curious as to whether it is considered appropriate/normal to hit on a friend's date or +1 in western culture. Ja...

I feel like all of my openings are aiming to be witty and/or funny, but I’m just curious, what type of messages do you like receiving the most? Submitted February 28, 2021 at 12:04AM I feel like all of my openings are aiming to be witty and/or funny, but I’m just curious, what type of messages do you like receiving the most?

I (F23) have been texting this guy (M25) for about 2 months and we've finally decided to meet in person with restrictions easing up. He initially asked me out and attempted to make plans, and we decided on tomorrow. However, I still don't know the time or place. I last texted him yesterday afternoon asking a question, to which he never responded. It's getting pretty late in the evening now and still no word. I don't plan on reaching out again, because I feel like it's his responsibility at this point. I haven't had any reason up until this point to expect him to be shady or anything, but maybe I'm just nervous about finally meeting that my anxiety's acting up. Would you reach out again if you were me, or is it in his hands now? I don't even know if it can be considered being stood up if we never had concrete plans but it still feels shitty. Submitted February 28, 2021 at 12:04AM I (F23) have been texting this guy (M25) for about 2 months and ...

I’m an extremely independent and free spirited person and I’m really comfortable being alone. I had my first serious relationship a couple years ago and we moved pretty fast. We moved in together and he became very controlling and smothering. Got mad at me for hanging out with friends. Got mad if I got home late from work. That relationship traumatized the fuck out of me. I’ve been single again for almost 2 years now, and dating around a lot since, just for fun, not to get in a relationship. Before COVID i lived in the city and mostly dated guys who were just traveling through, that way there was no commitment. I’m back in my hometown and I’ve gone on a few dates just to get some human interaction in, and grease my love wheels I suppose. They’re usually duds but this one guy I went out with a couple weeks ago, I had so much in common with, found really attractive, looks and style wise. So we went out again last night, that went super well, and so we went for a hike together today. We...

Yes, I know I should just ask her out so I can find out. However, I always fall into the same pattern: I start to like a girl, she starts to like me as a person/friend (although generally we are not friends by the time I ask her out as I try to avoid the whole "friendzone" / hidden expectations dilemma). Then, after getting what I interpret as signs she likes me, I ask her on a date, only to find out she was not interested in me in that way and doesn't want to go on a date with me. I never get offended because the whole thing came from my misinterpretation of things to begin with. I'm faced with a dilemma now because it seems like an introverted (but more conventionally attractive than me) girl might have started to like me *first*, which never happens to me. Sometimes I catch her sneaking glances at me, but after making an effort to interact with her, and get to know each other, I'm not convinced that means anything. Although through this process and discover...

I (39f) had a tiny crush on a male friend of mine(34m). We constantly flirt. We are both single. We were joking around about dating -- I thought. So I asked him out in the same joking way, over text. He didn't respond. Two days ago I had to text him about something I needed help with, then when I asked him in person about the favor(which he was totally down to do), I asked him about me asking him out and he said "I was talking in general , not about me and you." Ouch! Today we ran into each other out in public and I said hello, but he acted very rude and angry almost after saying hello. I haven't texted him since he rejected me or asked about the favor. My feelings are a little hurt, yeah, but it's cool -- I bounce back fairly quickly. I treasure our friendship and I'm disappointed that he's acting like this. Why would he do this?? Any ideas? Submitted February 28, 2021 at 12:13AM I (39f) had a tiny crush on a male friend of mine(34m). We constan...

Is there implied monogamy while dating? How far into dating is it assumed? Or is it ever implied or assumed? Submitted February 28, 2021 at 12:17AM Is there implied monogamy while dating? How far into dating is it assumed? Or is it ever implied or assumed?

I will try to find it. I'm on Reddit is Fun app and I scrolled down farrrrr. February 28, 2021 at 12:00AM

So you no longer have a gender if you're ace. Suuuuure because that's the only was allos can understand asexuality; it's like you don't have desires because you don't have a gender yourself! Nah, pretty sure I have a gender, I just don't care about yours. Also title is problematic, aromantic people have genders, too. February 27, 2021 at 11:59PM

my dreams fall into one of 3 categories: 1) mundane stuff, starring people I know irl 2) adventure stuff, like climbing or skydiving, driving snowmobiles etc., also starring people I know irl. Rarely have weird twists. 3) weird shit. next lvl bizarro abstract shit with absolutely no context, and no people I know irl. February 27, 2021 at 11:58PM

You’re loved here, and I see you’re also cultured February 27, 2021 at 11:56PM

wait, a post from here made it to r/all ? could you link it? February 27, 2021 at 11:53PM

Those are some wise words! February 27, 2021 at 11:52PM

ace isn't purple son, I am disappoint February 27, 2021 at 11:52PM

I definitely have a type but I am also ace. It can certaintly be confusing... It seems like regardless of why, sex might not be for you and that is okay. Welcome to r/asexuality , I hope you find what you are looking for here. February 27, 2021 at 11:49PM

same tbh February 27, 2021 at 11:47PM

last december, I told a friend "sometimes, I wish I was normal" and she said "you'd still have problems, just different ones from those you have now." doesn't fix the existing problems, but it's true. And if I'm honest, I wouldn't really wanna be 'not me' February 27, 2021 at 11:46PM

​ same not sure why it's on this sub but hey i'm not complaining February 27, 2021 at 11:41PM

Sorry. Over time she will change her mind. February 27, 2021 at 11:36PM

This February 27, 2021 at 11:24PM

It's hard to see but the dots and the lettering are purple February 27, 2021 at 11:17PM

I feel like there is a strong beliefs that aces identify with their pets... but I just don't feel that. It makes me feel guilty. I simply don't feel loved by pets. They feel very detached and I feel guilty keeping them from their natural impulses. I see our dog around the house, and she just seems so passive. Pets feel so restrictive to me, especially breeds that people keep and are naturally unhealthy. I still love animals, but they belong in the wild, not as pets. I don't want to own an animal. February 27, 2021 at 12:05AM

It's not. There are many As that could be included. Asexual, Aromantic, Agender, Androgynous and none of them were ever intended to be Ally. Let's put this another way. Let's suppose I am an ally of the Black Community, I support the Black Lives Matter movement and I've been to a couple of protests. I'm as white as you can get and I don't pretend anything else. Am I a member of the Black Community? February 27, 2021 at 12:05AM

I know I don't have your perspective on this, but I think it's really nice to have a group of people that don't experience attraction in the "normal" way. I don't really relate fully to gay men or pan people etc fully, but still way more than I do to cishet people. This might be due to how young I am, but I've found that LGBTQ+ communities I've been a part of, both online and off, have been very accepting of ace people. I've only known I'm ace for a few years tho and I know things change. February 27, 2021 at 12:02AM

Wait is this not how people normally feel when they have a crush??? Like if your crush doesn't wanna date then its just an awesome new friend and sometimes things get romantic and its nice but you are better as friends because of your life situations so let's just stay friends?? I've literally never felt any other way then this when crushing on someone... February 27, 2021 at 12:01AM

So cute February 27, 2021 at 12:00AM

And please note that the "+" at the end is to keep away vampires February 26, 2021 at 11:57PM

Libido is different than sexual attraction. And libido can fluctuate with time. People who were sexually active in their youth can lose it. I really can't speak to pleasing a partner's sex drive, though. February 26, 2021 at 11:55PM

Well, asexuals can be interested in sex itself involving genitalia. It doesn't actually affect your attraction to someone. If you find yourself desiring only acts (whether sexual or not) but not so much specific people, sounds pretty asexual to me. The meaning of "asexual" can change depending on context. In LGBTQ+ spaces, it tends to be used to mean a lack of sexual attraction. Some people use it to mean a lack of libido. It's kind of annoying, and I wish there were different words for the two actually. February 26, 2021 at 11:55PM

Same February 26, 2021 at 11:54PM

survey with ace representation February 26, 2021 at 11:52PM

fromge 🥺🥺 February 26, 2021 at 11:52PM

If anyone wants to take a survey aimed at increasing asexual representation as well as other sexual minorities please take our survey February 26, 2021 at 11:49PM

Growing more open minded and the vocabulary of terms to describe sexuality and gender has just exploded. It’s so much easier to figure yourself out now than it used to be. February 26, 2021 at 11:47PM

I completely understand your remarks, it is just that I already have a strong foundation on that idea. I probably will deconstruct that after some time, but as it stands now, there is just this thing within me that makes me think "I am tanking advantage of the LGBT label". Also, saying like that makes me wonder if I am just repeating what I heard... anyways, it's all cool for me February 26, 2021 at 11:47PM

Oops, I might have misread or read a comment. Some people argue that "A" is for "ace" instead of "ally", when really it's both. Ally was included so that they could be welcome to LBGT+ groups. Not everything is "because they are marginalized". The goal of LBGT+ is to not be marginalized anymore. Why would being marginalized be a requirement? Your entire argument relies on their identity needing to be marginalized to belong. I'm not really a fan of that being a requirement. February 26, 2021 at 11:45PM

Aah, I see! Like I said, I'm all for including allies, so I agree it wourd be unfair to hold this against them. I think people who nowadays say that the A stands for ally and not for asexual/aromantic are a different story, though. Then again, I haven't come across a lot of aphobia myself so I don't really know whether those people really exist. The realisation part is also too true. Though personally I am in favour of changing the acronym altogether, for example to GSRM (Gender, Sexual, and Romantic Minorities), just because the LGBTQIA+ acronym is getting unwieldy and keeps changing. It's not really a problem for us, but it does get confusing for people who are more disconnected from the community. February 26, 2021 at 11:44PM

Dang :/ at least some are starting to get with the program! February 26, 2021 at 11:42PM

It was a long general health survey. About campus life and health. Completely optional to take or answer anything specifically, you could skip February 26, 2021 at 11:42PM

I'm not sure if you're saying that I'm arguing against aces or not, but it's important to know that there isn't one governing body establishing the term. It seems like everywhere you look there's a different acronym to encompass the community with different meanings. Also that's a news article from BBC. Also there's no accredited author, so there's no way of knowing if the author is properly educated beyond a bit of internet research. Also this article is from 2015. February 26, 2021 at 11:40PM

I was chosen by the asexual forest spirit February 26, 2021 at 11:36PM

NICE February 26, 2021 at 11:36PM

If you like symphonic metal listen to Epica's albums. February 26, 2021 at 11:34PM

I don't associate myself with LBBQT+ irl the same reason why I don't resonate with the subreddit-- everything is oversexualized. It's a crowd of people shouting how much they love each other in a certain way and I'm the only one whose like 🙃 I just want cake and Ghibli thanks. No matter how many times I try, I always end up back with wherever the other Aces are hanging, ya know? February 26, 2021 at 11:32PM

Please help me to understand. I'm sincerely interested in increasing my awareness and understanding of asexuality. I have no intention of hurting anyone's feelings but this looks like a man who is wearing makeup and perhaps hair extensions. Am I correct in my understanding that this "ace" is simply presenting themselves in a manner they feel is attractive regardless of how general society wishes to categorize them, i.e. masculine or feminine? February 26, 2021 at 12:07AM

I am aro ace believe it or not February 26, 2021 at 12:07AM

FINALLY SOMEONE SAID THAT!!! February 26, 2021 at 12:06AM

I mean... what else is there to do im sure a lot of us in lockdown and we cant simp so what else is there to do xd February 26, 2021 at 12:05AM

I know right? Like how much of a big goof do you have to be to go along with an innocent trend on the internet. I'm really disappointed with the state of this place succumbing to just posting the same idea but with your own spin on it. Smh February 26, 2021 at 12:05AM

I don't think it is fair to assume "these people don't care and are being willful" I think many new people made a mistake because of the actions of others they saw post before them. An honest mistake or even careless mistake is not the same as "don't care and willful." February 26, 2021 at 12:05AM

Remember kids, always wear protection when hurling into glass doors: you don't want glass in your eyes (or anywhere else, for that matter). February 26, 2021 at 12:05AM

It's not fair to assume people's motivations are so petty. Maybe some of us are less cynical. I agree I would like to see more paragraphs attached with pictures that help tell a story or give a glimpse into a person's life. I think that could be cool really, especially compared to just "picture" February 26, 2021 at 12:02AM

Omg love a arrested development reference. I love how tobias is ace when the show never acknowledges it. February 26, 2021 at 12:02AM

Oh I might add you to my list of people to ask! I just started out myself! February 26, 2021 at 12:00AM

Is it more a selfie post or to inspire discussion? If it's just a selfie post no I don't think it belongs. Go to r/FaceofAce . Otherwise yes it might. February 25, 2021 at 11:58PM

I did not know that one user was doing it over and over and over for two days. See this is good information to know. Thank you. I am new here, I thought it was normal internet nonsense (I had only seem the meme page before this sub). I understand if it is against the rules, then that is fine by me and I will gladly support that and also gently remind people to use the appropriate sub. The 'never consented stuff' is too far for me though. I guess I feel bad that people are annoyed by them the flood of pictures, but also this idea that "Didn't consent to see pictures" like a person's face or a cat? I'm a big proponent of consent of parties at all times, but I don't understand why we need consent to see another person's face. I also did not feel their titles and posts were 'aphobic' or 'poisoned.' Empty and boring typically and devoid or content outside the picture which (I agree, lame that's really lame), but there has t...

I honestly detest cats. At most I’m tolerant of their existence February 25, 2021 at 11:55PM

I celebrate cute dancing. February 25, 2021 at 11:53PM

Solidarity in being cute and ace. I wish I could be cute, bot more power to each of us. February 25, 2021 at 11:51PM

I wouldn't say that it is our choice. We belong. We have no choice. We deserve to be represented. February 25, 2021 at 11:49PM

The LGBTQ+ community is crowded, busy, and frankly sometimes obsessed with sex. Gay and lesbian rights are dominant, bis get representation though it is a fight, but everyone seems focused on hooking up. It can be hard to argue that we even belong, much less get defended. Every outside media poll on LGBTQ+ I see completely avoids asexuality. I try to relate to it by realizing that they also ignore other minorities and relating to them. February 25, 2021 at 11:48PM

I respect your opinion for certain, but I'm having a hard time supporting the memes over people's humanizing photos, Hell I had leave some reddit called aaaaaaaaaacccccccce (I dont know how to spell it) because it was JUST memes. I stayed here because there was not posts featuring spongebob or whatever (he's fine I suppose but I don't see the connection). February 25, 2021 at 11:43PM

Search for BlueButtonBoho on Etsy; I’m sure it’s still available! February 25, 2021 at 11:41PM

Can trauma make you bisexual? I don't buy into this point of view at all personally, and it would straight up be offensive if you tried to swing it with any other orientation. Trauma can 100% develop disordered views or feelings towards sex, and can lead to several disorders related to sex drive or libido, but that's just not what asexuality is. Whether you would like to identify as asexual as a result of that... I dunno. It's up to the person. I don't want to tell anyone how to identify. I am speaking personally as someone who has had significant childhood trauma and is on antidepressants which reduce libido. I don't speak for everyone, but I had to do a lot of soul searching, introspection, and research on it to feel even a modicum of comfort. February 25, 2021 at 11:41PM

I have to legitimately ask: would it be inappropriate to add a self-portrait in with a post that prompts some related discussion? I thought about posting asking for some relationship advice because part of me wants to continue to dating this allo- but I'm very conflicted. And also, I asked my friend to team up with me and we would take a group pic, and post it with a throwaway line of also this is what an Ace can look like after my text prompt. They were mega-excited to join with me. I didn't do that because of the complaints about the selfies, which whatever, I've already expressed my opinion, but there are like 15 sub reddits related to spectra, memes, art, pride, discussion, relationships (how is this different from discussion? I'm not being a dick, I'm being serious, I don't get it.) etc. If I take a self-portrait does it belong in face of ace? Is it Ace art? Is it both? I don't really care I guess, but y'all make sure we hear about it ever...

Thank you! If you can believe it, the dress was only 50$ from Amazon! But don’t tell anyone! ;) February 25, 2021 at 11:37PM

That would be true... aces can be hot... too bad the game forces you to fuck them. February 25, 2021 at 11:37PM

Aww you are so cute! :))) February 25, 2021 at 12:04AM

Yumm hotdogs. Do you remember when they made green and purple ketchups? February 25, 2021 at 12:04AM

I’m sex indifferent and usually also have a childish sense of humor but this just didn’t do it for me lol February 25, 2021 at 12:03AM

stunning !!! :D February 25, 2021 at 12:02AM

Deffinately also too squishy. February 25, 2021 at 12:01AM

Thanks February 25, 2021 at 12:01AM

I'm a sex-repulsed asexual, yet I have a dirty mind and a childish sense of humor. February 25, 2021 at 12:00AM

beautiful smile :)) February 25, 2021 at 12:00AM

Thank you you're so sweet 😭 February 25, 2021 at 12:00AM

In a perfect world just "No" would be enough. February 25, 2021 at 12:00AM

WHO GAVE YOU THE RIGHT TO BE THAT PRETTY?! I WILL BE SUBMITTING A CEASE AND DESIST ORDER IMMEDIATELY February 25, 2021 at 12:00AM

!!!!!! Blue rose!!!!!! What botanical magic did you use to create that???? February 24, 2021 at 11:59PM

Gorgeous! February 24, 2021 at 11:59PM

awesome hair :D February 24, 2021 at 11:59PM

cutie! February 24, 2021 at 11:59PM

you're stunning !! February 24, 2021 at 11:58PM

your hair is so pretty!!! February 24, 2021 at 11:58PM

I saw weird gummies, then vibrators, then eggs February 24, 2021 at 11:58PM

Hooray! I'm in my 40s and also came out as ace after many many years with a partner (and had to go no contact). Really thought I was bi for a while there because everyone has good qualities lol. February 24, 2021 at 11:57PM

gorgeous! February 24, 2021 at 11:57PM

this is so aesthetically pleasing! looks like a pic from a magazine :) February 24, 2021 at 11:57PM