I made a girl fall in love with me and now I am going to break up with her because I got bored. What do I tell her without being an ass?

Okay so currently I [m19] am dating this girl, lets call her A. [just turned 17] She's a few years younger than me, quite unexperienced and really held back most of the times when it comes to getting closer. I actually quite like her and think she is really cute, but I guess I am the first guy she is really getting more serious with. Now, we've been dating for 2 months already and there is not really anything going forward at the moment. Thing is, I will have my finals in a few months and am going to move away by the end of summer. Therefore we agreed, to atleast give the relationship a shot. I was the one to initially pitch the idea and I kinda talked her into at least trying even tho we know it's going to end not long after.

The sticky situation I came to find myself in appeared a few days ago. I met this other girl, let's call her B. She's my age, definetly not unexperienced and in almost every way the complete opposite of A. We talked and on the same evening she texted me and invited me to a date. After, I found myself thinking about A. and how I am not quite happy with how things are. Everytime we meet I am the initiator, I choose the activity, how, where and when we are doing it and so on. I am the sole desicion maker and I got bored of that really fast. Meeting B. and getting invited by her was really much more fun in these 4 hours than the whole 2 months with A. I kinda got a crush on this girl because I feel we are at eye level with eachother. Now, I feel really bad because I came to the conclusion, that I haven't had any feelings for A. all along. This girl really has a huge crush on me but I feel like she is so unexperienced that she has to be led for everything.

I am certain that I will have to break up with her but it's just such a dick move from my side. I talked her into all of this and more or less made her fall in love with me and now I am breaking up with her because I'm just getting bored of her? There is nothing wrong with her besides being young and not the most confident in making the right "steps".

I am not capable of telling her some stupid lie because she does not deserve some stupid excuse. But I also don't want to sound like the biggest douche when explaining to her what happened and how I feel. There will be the right guy for her, but it's not me. I'm only mad at myself for talking her into getting up the courage to start this relationship with me and then quitting just a few weeks later because it bores me.

Submitted March 01, 2021 at 12:13AM

Okay so currently I [m19] am dating this girl, lets call her A. [just turned 17] She's a few years younger than me, quite unexperienced and really held back most of the times when it comes to getting closer. I actually quite like her and think she is really cute, but I guess I am the first guy she is really getting more serious with. Now, we've been dating for 2 months already and there is not really anything going forward at the moment. Thing is, I will have my finals in a few months and am going to move away by the end of summer. Therefore we agreed, to atleast give the relationship a shot. I was the one to initially pitch the idea and I kinda talked her into at least trying even tho we know it's going to end not long after.The sticky situation I came to find myself in appeared a few days ago. I met this other girl, let's call her B. She's my age, definetly not unexperienced and in almost every way the complete opposite of A. We talked and on the same evening she texted me and invited me to a date. After, I found myself thinking about A. and how I am not quite happy with how things are. Everytime we meet I am the initiator, I choose the activity, how, where and when we are doing it and so on. I am the sole desicion maker and I got bored of that really fast. Meeting B. and getting invited by her was really much more fun in these 4 hours than the whole 2 months with A. I kinda got a crush on this girl because I feel we are at eye level with eachother. Now, I feel really bad because I came to the conclusion, that I haven't had any feelings for A. all along. This girl really has a huge crush on me but I feel like she is so unexperienced that she has to be led for everything.I am certain that I will have to break up with her but it's just such a dick move from my side. I talked her into all of this and more or less made her fall in love with me and now I am breaking up with her because I'm just getting bored of her? There is nothing wrong with her besides being young and not the most confident in making the right "steps".I am not capable of telling her some stupid lie because she does not deserve some stupid excuse. But I also don't want to sound like the biggest douche when explaining to her what happened and how I feel. There will be the right guy for her, but it's not me. I'm only mad at myself for talking her into getting up the courage to start this relationship with me and then quitting just a few weeks later because it bores me.