How do I meet people these days?

Sooo I'm reaching out here for advice because I'm 23 (M), and I've only ever been in one 2.5 year long relationship that turned out to be extremely toxic. That was about three years ago now and after working on myself for a long time and trying to be happy on my own I can't help but feel that my almost non-existent dating life and lacking social life are bringing me down more every day. I'm out of school and I have a full time job that's going very well. I also have a new puppy and a few other hobbies that kill some time when I'm not working and those make me happy overall but no matter what I do, I still come home to an empty house and find myself to be extremely lonely and I'm not sure what else I can do about that. I've tried a variety of dating apps multiple times each that all seem to be okay at first but they either lead to nothing or be a bad experience every single time. At this point it seems like I've done everything I can do to try and improve my social life and I can't help but feel like meeting someone is a waste of my time. I'm a good catch and all I want is to meet a girl that I can go out and have fun with who's actually good for me, someone I can get to know and have fun with and just be myself but is that really that hard to find these days? I took a break from the apps for a while and my first week back on a couple of them, I just got ghosted twice and friendzoned out of the blue after going on a fourth date and now I'm officially at my wits end. My main question is though, where else can a 23 year old guy go to meet other guy friends and especially potential girlfriends my age? What other options do I have here? I'm told I should be brave and go out to a bar by myself and maybe there's a chance that I'll meet someone but in my experience that doesn't seem very promising either. If you read all of this (I know it was long), I would appreciate any advice or ideas anyone may have.


Submitted February 28, 2021 at 11:22PM

Sooo I'm reaching out here for advice because I'm 23 (M), and I've only ever been in one 2.5 year long relationship that turned out to be extremely toxic. That was about three years ago now and after working on myself for a long time and trying to be happy on my own I can't help but feel that my almost non-existent dating life and lacking social life are bringing me down more every day. I'm out of school and I have a full time job that's going very well. I also have a new puppy and a few other hobbies that kill some time when I'm not working and those make me happy overall but no matter what I do, I still come home to an empty house and find myself to be extremely lonely and I'm not sure what else I can do about that. I've tried a variety of dating apps multiple times each that all seem to be okay at first but they either lead to nothing or be a bad experience every single time. At this point it seems like I've done everything I can do to try and improve my social life and I can't help but feel like meeting someone is a waste of my time. I'm a good catch and all I want is to meet a girl that I can go out and have fun with who's actually good for me, someone I can get to know and have fun with and just be myself but is that really that hard to find these days? I took a break from the apps for a while and my first week back on a couple of them, I just got ghosted twice and friendzoned out of the blue after going on a fourth date and now I'm officially at my wits end. My main question is though, where else can a 23 year old guy go to meet other guy friends and especially potential girlfriends my age? What other options do I have here? I'm told I should be brave and go out to a bar by myself and maybe there's a chance that I'll meet someone but in my experience that doesn't seem very promising either. If you read all of this (I know it was long), I would appreciate any advice or ideas anyone may have.
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