What to do?

Okay, this is my first time posting here. I’ve looked through the post but haven’t found something that was relatable. Is it irrational to fear becoming pregnant by your spouse? How do you overcome it? I know it sounds silly and it is. For more information, my older sibling and I had to be mom and dad for our younger sibling, he has Autism, due to our parents being negligent. I’m naturally a care giver but I get burned out and was. So in my mind, I’ve already put in the time and don’t want to do it again until I’m ready. However, there are something’s I’ve noticed since we’ve been married and I’m not sure if I can manage being someone’s “mother” again. I’ve spoke with his mother to get a better understanding of how he was growing up. I think that and me being his first and me being his only girlfriend plays a role, he went straight from his mom to having a wife. I’m in no rush for kids, I’m just worried about the future.

To add more context we’ve been together for almost five years and married since September. There have been major changes in the last year or two such as him enlisting and me leaving a good job and my siblings to move to where he is stationed.

Any advice is appreciated.

Submitted May 01, 2019 at 10:05PM

Okay, this is my first time posting here. I’ve looked through the post but haven’t found something that was relatable. Is it irrational to fear becoming pregnant by your spouse? How do you overcome it? I know it sounds silly and it is. For more information, my older sibling and I had to be mom and dad for our younger sibling, he has Autism, due to our parents being negligent. I’m naturally a care giver but I get burned out and was. So in my mind, I’ve already put in the time and don’t want to do it again until I’m ready. However, there are something’s I’ve noticed since we’ve been married and I’m not sure if I can manage being someone’s “mother” again. I’ve spoke with his mother to get a better understanding of how he was growing up. I think that and me being his first and me being his only girlfriend plays a role, he went straight from his mom to having a wife. I’m in no rush for kids, I’m just worried about the future.To add more context we’ve been together for almost five years and married since September. There have been major changes in the last year or two such as him enlisting and me leaving a good job and my siblings to move to where he is stationed.Any advice is appreciated.