Times you thought your marriage wouldn't last

I'm in a tough spot with my husband. We've been married for three years, we have two kids. Our boy is turning three next month and our girl just turned one in February.

My husband has always liked to go out to bars and hang out with his friends. I would say that if it wasn't for this, we wouldn't fight at all. We don't argue over day to day things, we get along really well. He just likes to go out and he always has. There's been times he has slowed down when it's really started to strain us. It isn't so much an alcohol thing with him, it's a always wanting to be around people thing. He is very social, a nice guy, really likes to be liked. He is 42, I am 28. He works on the road most of the time during the week. Some weeks its leave on Monday morning, come home Friday afternoon. It's pretty rare that he's home all week. Sometimes it's only a night or two, lately it's been all week. I bartend on the weekends, Friday and Saturday so that we don't have to put our kids in daycare. We live in a town of 200 people and that is where i bartend. I just started in this in September when we moved to this town, before I did daycare.

Anyways, for the past month anytime I am home and he is home, he goes to the bar. We've been fighting a pretty good amount because of this, and I'm so freaking tired of it. I'm home alone with our two kids every day of the week, unless I'm at work. He called me today and told me he was coming home (wasn't suppose to be till Friday) and I told him how excited that I was to see him and I would get the kids to bed early so we could spend some time together. He calls me like an hour later and asks if it's okay if he goes to the bar to play cards. I told him I would rather that he wouldn't and he said he hadn't played cards in awhile and he would have liked to. It just took the winds right out of my sails. I don't want him home if the only reason that he is home is because I said no to the bar. It hurt my feelings because I spent all week missing him and then he wants to go to the bar on the only time we could spend together. He was just there on Sunday, left for work Monday and Tuesday, home tonight (at the bar) and then gone again tomorrow and I work Friday and Saturday.

Part of me is so ready to call it quits, but we've only been married for three years. I do love him, he's a great guy, but constantly want to be out and the money he spends drives me crazy. Like I said, it's not so much an alcohol thing, it's a friend thing. I've tried everything i can think of to talk to him and explain and I just don't know what to do anymore. I keep thinking of leaving, but I feel like people give up too easily now days. Anyone have stories of hard times they've gone through and gotten through it? Advice?

Submitted May 02, 2019 at 02:15AM

I'm in a tough spot with my husband. We've been married for three years, we have two kids. Our boy is turning three next month and our girl just turned one in February.My husband has always liked to go out to bars and hang out with his friends. I would say that if it wasn't for this, we wouldn't fight at all. We don't argue over day to day things, we get along really well. He just likes to go out and he always has. There's been times he has slowed down when it's really started to strain us. It isn't so much an alcohol thing with him, it's a always wanting to be around people thing. He is very social, a nice guy, really likes to be liked. He is 42, I am 28. He works on the road most of the time during the week. Some weeks its leave on Monday morning, come home Friday afternoon. It's pretty rare that he's home all week. Sometimes it's only a night or two, lately it's been all week. I bartend on the weekends, Friday and Saturday so that we don't have to put our kids in daycare. We live in a town of 200 people and that is where i bartend. I just started in this in September when we moved to this town, before I did daycare.Anyways, for the past month anytime I am home and he is home, he goes to the bar. We've been fighting a pretty good amount because of this, and I'm so freaking tired of it. I'm home alone with our two kids every day of the week, unless I'm at work. He called me today and told me he was coming home (wasn't suppose to be till Friday) and I told him how excited that I was to see him and I would get the kids to bed early so we could spend some time together. He calls me like an hour later and asks if it's okay if he goes to the bar to play cards. I told him I would rather that he wouldn't and he said he hadn't played cards in awhile and he would have liked to. It just took the winds right out of my sails. I don't want him home if the only reason that he is home is because I said no to the bar. It hurt my feelings because I spent all week missing him and then he wants to go to the bar on the only time we could spend together. He was just there on Sunday, left for work Monday and Tuesday, home tonight (at the bar) and then gone again tomorrow and I work Friday and Saturday.Part of me is so ready to call it quits, but we've only been married for three years. I do love him, he's a great guy, but constantly want to be out and the money he spends drives me crazy. Like I said, it's not so much an alcohol thing, it's a friend thing. I've tried everything i can think of to talk to him and explain and I just don't know what to do anymore. I keep thinking of leaving, but I feel like people give up too easily now days. Anyone have stories of hard times they've gone through and gotten through it? Advice?