Doubting husbands love

How do I get over the insecurity of my husband’s love? I often think “if I do that he’ll hate me” if I’m driving and I do something I’ve heard him complain about others doing I think “oh sh*t, he thinks the worst of me” And he tries to make me feel better by saying that he thinks all these negative things about himself. I’ve tried to be super positive and supportive and encouraging. I tell him things aren’t as bad as they seem or that these mistakes don’t define you... but he still curses st himself when he makes a u-turn because he missed the turn. He still rolls his eyes when the dishes aren’t done. And when we’re talking with his friends he lets his friends talk over me and takes the conversation where his friend took it without asking what I was saying. I brought this up and he said something along the lines of that if I was confident that what I had to say was important then people would listen to me..... He doesn’t want to go to counseling It’s just another bill on top of our 4 mo old baby..... advice would be nice Should I just toughen up and not care what he thinks? I know he wants me to be independent.... but i just want to be cuddled rn...

Submitted May 19, 2019 at 03:51AM

How do I get over the insecurity of my husband’s love? I often think “if I do that he’ll hate me” if I’m driving and I do something I’ve heard him complain about others doing I think “oh sh*t, he thinks the worst of me” And he tries to make me feel better by saying that he thinks all these negative things about himself. I’ve tried to be super positive and supportive and encouraging. I tell him things aren’t as bad as they seem or that these mistakes don’t define you... but he still curses st himself when he makes a u-turn because he missed the turn. He still rolls his eyes when the dishes aren’t done. And when we’re talking with his friends he lets his friends talk over me and takes the conversation where his friend took it without asking what I was saying. I brought this up and he said something along the lines of that if I was confident that what I had to say was important then people would listen to me..... He doesn’t want to go to counseling It’s just another bill on top of our 4 mo old baby..... advice would be nice Should I just toughen up and not care what he thinks? I know he wants me to be independent.... but i just want to be cuddled rn...