I need an outsider perspective on this situation PLEASE!

I guess EDC is this weekend and it seems like everyone that I know is going, EXCEPT FOR ME. Don’t guess me wrong, I would go if my final exam wasn’t on this coming Monday. My boyfriend, WHO I LOVE DEEPLY AND TRUST 100%, spontaneously decided to go to EDC on Sunday for one day only. I told him that I don’t really mind at all and even encouraged him to go always. Honestly, I don’t want to stop/change him from living his fullest live cuz we got together. He told me and I was off at first. (Backstory: When I was dating my ex, he lied to me about going to a festival and cheated on me. I was devastated when I found out. That’s why I have my guards about situations like this. Anyways, I told him why and told him that I was wrong for being mad and told him why. After all, I learned that I should accept it and learn that i can’t let my past affects my relationship now. However, I told him that I wanted to chill with him tonight before he leaves, told him to wait until tomorrow to leave to Vegas. A couple hours ago, he told me that he’s leaving tonight because his friends want to carpool to Vegas after work. I got angry when he told me that and yelled, “I’m already learning to accept it and meet you half way. Why can’t you do the same and leave tomorrow morning?”. He said he doesn’t get it and asked why I am so mad for. He said let’s get dinner before he leaves tonight then. We didn’t really end on well after that conversation since he needed to go back to work. Later on, I texted him that we don’t have to see each other tonight so he can just go meet up with his homies to go to Vegas since I’m going to have to go to the library and study my ass off (mind you I will be on Adderall). BASICALLY, AM I BEING TOO PROTECTIVE AND SELFISH FOR FEELING THIS TYPE OF WAY? AM I THE CRAZY TYPE OF GIRLFRIEND? I just feel like he just need to go to prove me wrong and give me a reason why I should love and trust him more.



Submitted May 19, 2019 at 04:03AM

I guess EDC is this weekend and it seems like everyone that I know is going, EXCEPT FOR ME. Don’t guess me wrong, I would go if my final exam wasn’t on this coming Monday. My boyfriend, WHO I LOVE DEEPLY AND TRUST 100%, spontaneously decided to go to EDC on Sunday for one day only. I told him that I don’t really mind at all and even encouraged him to go always. Honestly, I don’t want to stop/change him from living his fullest live cuz we got together. He told me and I was off at first. (Backstory: When I was dating my ex, he lied to me about going to a festival and cheated on me. I was devastated when I found out. That’s why I have my guards about situations like this. Anyways, I told him why and told him that I was wrong for being mad and told him why. After all, I learned that I should accept it and learn that i can’t let my past affects my relationship now. However, I told him that I wanted to chill with him tonight before he leaves, told him to wait until tomorrow to leave to Vegas. A couple hours ago, he told me that he’s leaving tonight because his friends want to carpool to Vegas after work. I got angry when he told me that and yelled, “I’m already learning to accept it and meet you half way. Why can’t you do the same and leave tomorrow morning?”. He said he doesn’t get it and asked why I am so mad for. He said let’s get dinner before he leaves tonight then. We didn’t really end on well after that conversation since he needed to go back to work. Later on, I texted him that we don’t have to see each other tonight so he can just go meet up with his homies to go to Vegas since I’m going to have to go to the library and study my ass off (mind you I will be on Adderall). BASICALLY, AM I BEING TOO PROTECTIVE AND SELFISH FOR FEELING THIS TYPE OF WAY? AM I THE CRAZY TYPE OF GIRLFRIEND? I just feel like he just need to go to prove me wrong and give me a reason why I should love and trust him more.
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