Does he like/love me I’m so confused...

Does he like me or love me? I’m so confused? 3 nights ago I was at a concert and the love of my life was there and he and I were smiling at each other a lot. I was smiling at him and he definitely kept smiling back and he couldn’t keep his eyes off me...all of a sudden, he right in front of me flirts with a group of skanky looking girls and then starts smiling at them! But there definitely was a connection or spark between him and I or at least I could feel it...but when he purposely went to flirt with those girls in front of me he looked over and saw that it was obviously getting me very upset like almost crying type of upset. And to put the icing on the cake when I went to talk to him afterwards and be friendly and nice towards him (but mind you he was in front of his friends too at the same time so I have no idea if his friends could have motivated his responses towards me... I dunno) but he was really mean towards me treating me like if I was a spectacle of some sort and when I went to go hug him he backed up but when I grabbed for his hand to hold his hand he let me hold his hands and long enough for me to give him the ring I’ve always wanted to give him to declare my feelings finally to him without having to say it because I am painfully shy... so he backs up from a hug but he lets me hold his hands and give him a ring... this has been tearing me apart for the past couple days because it makes me think he loves me but then absolutely hates me and doesn’t care what happens to me...I still can’t bare it honestly... I’m extremely extremely depressed over this and I just don’t know what this means honestly any of it... to give a little background on me ... I’m 25 years old and a virgin essentially as I was raised strict plus I’ve been pining after my love for 11 years and this kind of thing has been going on between him and I a lot the smiling and he does also mimic certain things I do and he’s incredibly sweet and adorable constantly but when he’s around his friends he’s god awful and I mean that in the sense that his friends won’t look me in the eyes and only one of them waved at me but nonetheless they won’t look at me when I try to be nice and converse with them and when he is around them he essentially turns into royal jerk mode and I don’t know why... and mind you he’s from japan Japanese so he is set in his traditional ways and he’s extremely extremely formal but he’s very gentle and sweet but I don’t know how to ready his mixed signals because I don’t have experience with men to be entirely honest ... never dated a guy in my life by personal choice really so if someone can give me helpful nice advice on how to read into him I’d greatly appreciate it so very much!! Thank you!!

Submitted May 19, 2019 at 06:12AM

Does he like me or love me? I’m so confused? 3 nights ago I was at a concert and the love of my life was there and he and I were smiling at each other a lot. I was smiling at him and he definitely kept smiling back and he couldn’t keep his eyes off me...all of a sudden, he right in front of me flirts with a group of skanky looking girls and then starts smiling at them! But there definitely was a connection or spark between him and I or at least I could feel it...but when he purposely went to flirt with those girls in front of me he looked over and saw that it was obviously getting me very upset like almost crying type of upset. And to put the icing on the cake when I went to talk to him afterwards and be friendly and nice towards him (but mind you he was in front of his friends too at the same time so I have no idea if his friends could have motivated his responses towards me... I dunno) but he was really mean towards me treating me like if I was a spectacle of some sort and when I went to go hug him he backed up but when I grabbed for his hand to hold his hand he let me hold his hands and long enough for me to give him the ring I’ve always wanted to give him to declare my feelings finally to him without having to say it because I am painfully shy... so he backs up from a hug but he lets me hold his hands and give him a ring... this has been tearing me apart for the past couple days because it makes me think he loves me but then absolutely hates me and doesn’t care what happens to me...I still can’t bare it honestly... I’m extremely extremely depressed over this and I just don’t know what this means honestly any of it... to give a little background on me ... I’m 25 years old and a virgin essentially as I was raised strict plus I’ve been pining after my love for 11 years and this kind of thing has been going on between him and I a lot the smiling and he does also mimic certain things I do and he’s incredibly sweet and adorable constantly but when he’s around his friends he’s god awful and I mean that in the sense that his friends won’t look me in the eyes and only one of them waved at me but nonetheless they won’t look at me when I try to be nice and converse with them and when he is around them he essentially turns into royal jerk mode and I don’t know why... and mind you he’s from japan Japanese so he is set in his traditional ways and he’s extremely extremely formal but he’s very gentle and sweet but I don’t know how to ready his mixed signals because I don’t have experience with men to be entirely honest ... never dated a guy in my life by personal choice really so if someone can give me helpful nice advice on how to read into him I’d greatly appreciate it so very much!! Thank you!!