i’m 16 yo male and i’ve been searching the internet trying to figure out if i have some condition to what but my situation is weird when i’m around my friends and family i can act normal no low self esteem feelings or anything like that but around random people or girls i’m literally a different person and i’ve wasted countless opportunities because i feel like they don’t think i’m attractive even tho i’ve been told they think i am or i fear that i won’t be able to hold a conversation without even trying to does anyone know what’s wrong with me Submitted June 01, 2023 at 02:11AM i’m 16 yo male and i’ve been searching the internet trying to figure out if i have some condition to what but my situation is weird when i’m around my friends and family i can act normal no low self esteem feelings or anything like that but around random people or girls i’m literally a different person and i’ve wasted countless opportunities because i feel like they don’t think i’m attractive even tho i’...

If I ever think about it, it's in third person, it's never my POV. But I honestly don't think about it that much. June 01, 2023 at 12:29AM

Okay ladies, I’m trying to figure out if I did anything wrong or if I can improve my game. Me: 25 W M 6ft 180 I’ve tried my hand at cougar hunting and have had mixed results. 3 this week and nothing to show for it. First was at the bar Friday night watching the Miami Heat game 6 and had a beautiful older woman come up and start talking to me, we chatted for a minute, she asked ME for my number and then went on her way. Never got a text back. Second was that same night at the hardrock casino and this beautiful woman in her 50s was sitting by herself (it’s 3am) playing slots. glances at me and smiles. I go up to talk with her and we start chatting about the games and we start playing slots together. We spent the next hour or so talking about south Florida and ourselves, she showed me pictures of stuff from her phone, gave me advice on slots, and moved to different machines together to play. She kept saying she was cold and then wanted to go outside to warm up I offered to go with her a...

I (26f) have been seeing a new guy and things have been going well. Recently he’s mentioned that he’s into sharing me with other men when it comes to sex. This is totally new to me and makes a bit uncomfortable as we both had expressed we were looking for a relationship. He’s assured me that it is just something he likes and is not a non-negotiable but every time things start to get sexual he makes some kind of comment about it. Is this something I should look to move on over? It’s very confusing as every other aspect has been going well and I’m unsure if I can handle someone who would be constantly trying to persuade me to try it. Submitted June 01, 2023 at 12:05AM I (26f) have been seeing a new guy and things have been going well. Recently he’s mentioned that he’s into sharing me with other men when it comes to sex. This is totally new to me and makes a bit uncomfortable as we both had expressed we were looking for a relationship. He’s assured me that it is just something he l...

Yep same! When I was 13, I had this crush on this person who I think identified as a girl. I really really liked them and imagined myself with them; spending time together, practicing our hobbies together (we both liked to draw and read manga). When the thought of sex potentially being on the table came to mind, I felt quite uncomfortable. I don't relate to you in the sense of romantic experience as you seem more on the aro spec while I'm allo romantic but for sexual instances I do relate. Aesthetics isn't what draws me to a person. I acknowledge people look nice but I don't feel any sort of pull to get into a relationship with someone and do romantic things with them because they're pretty or handsome. A factor for me to want those things (romantic stuff like holding hands, kissing and cuddling) is knowing about them, surface-level wise: are they nice, are they funny in my standards, what are their hobbies and interests.. stuff like that! Idk if that's an emo...

Check out Aegosexual! That's pretty much the definition. May 31, 2023 at 01:08AM

The title is definitely confusing but hopefully by reading this text it’ll clear up what I mean. Let’s take my profile for example because this is kind of what I’m referring to, I can imagine my profile gives off major fuckboy vibes just because of how I dress and present myself (bonus points on being black) and I feel like when women match with me they expect that personality but when I actually start speaking to them I’m a giant nerd, that loves to talk about philosophical stuff and spiritual things, I like to know you for you but I feel like this is not what women look for when they match me, which creates this awkward situation. Sometimes I feel like I’m matched just to be a sexual machine, because when I talk like that even though I find it cringe I get more responses, now this isn’t to say this is what all women like, it just feels like it’s the women who match me. Same for if someone gave off a soft poetic vibe and women matched with them to have intellectual conversations but...

Your post/comment has been removed because it promotes an item for something other than the benefit of the community. May 30, 2023 at 11:39PM

hmm, gray area idk May 30, 2023 at 11:29PM

I have nothing against weed. I used to smoke a lot but I have stopped in the past year but on dating sites people just boast about smoking weed. I am fine with dating people who smoke weed. I’m just like, is it a deal breaker if I don’t want to smoke weed on dates? Maybe in the future I would but I don’t want it apart of my routine. It really messes with my sleeping lol. Was asked on a date recently and they said we can get high and watch a movie, like, sorry i don’t really smoke but hey i’ll watch a movie. I have also had incidents where i don’t smoke weed and when people around me do smoke, they end up just sleeping or freaking and that really is just no fun for me. not really any questions but just a little curious rant. Submitted May 31, 2023 at 12:09AM I have nothing against weed. I used to smoke a lot but I have stopped in the past year but on dating sites people just boast about smoking weed. I am fine with dating people who smoke weed. I’m just like, is it a deal breaker...

Met on a dating app and we had our first date and soon to have our second. I’ve had horrendous luck dating and haven’t seriously liked someone in about 4 years. Been on several dates since then but I was very indifferent to them and they didn’t go anywhere past two at most. This guy has been really different. We had a great conversation before he asked me out so I was actually excited for our date which I usually never am. We met at 7 and didn’t leave until 2AM and three bottles of wine in. It may have been drunken talk but I told him about my mental health problems (I’m borderline) and said that it would be a problem (I internalise my issues and try my hardest for it not to impact anyone). Usually, when I disclose this, guys are okay but don’t seem to want to deal with that. I get it because I hate dealing with it. He took my hands though and told me “no, it will be a problem at some point but we’ll deal with it”. That meant a lot. Anyway, we spent the night talking about marri...

I 28(m) am a generally good looking guy with a decent job, I'm in good shape, dress well and I'm good at playful teasing/ making people laugh. All my life however I've struggled with dating/flirting with girls. I never hooked up with anyone until college and never had a relationship until afterwards. My last relationship ended a year ago and I've been trying to navigate single life but again I'm having trouble. Some of my issues I know how to fix (not approaching enough women, confidence etc.) But one that I feel completely lost on is flirting. Twice now I've been told by girls, both of whom slept with me, that prior to being psychical they were thrown off by how I don't flirt or how there wasn't much of any tension built up. I know it's always been a problem for me and I've done a ton of looking for help online even buying a $70 course once but after being told this again just the other day I realized that none of it helped. The most recent t...

I don't think I get this one. What's this a reference to? May 30, 2023 at 12:23AM

ah i see May 30, 2023 at 12:07AM

I'm 21 and only date men in my age range. I'm noticing a pattern when I date that has happened across men of all kinds of backgrounds, races and looks. It's just one small thing. The ones who ended up having red flags do it and the ones who seemed really compassionate and caring do it, and it always makes me want to end things because it's usually a precursor to weirder behaviour. The worst case was with my first boyfriend. I was watching a movie with him and a really hot woman came on-screen. He goes "she's so hot." And I agreed. Unbeknownst to the men I date, I am bisexual. But it got weird because he kept gushing over her. He was like "ughhh I loveee thick latinas" because she was latina (They are beautiful, but that's weird considering I am not thick or a latina). Like five minutes later, a man comes on-screen, and I said he was hot because I assumed he'd agree. He said nothing and acted really cold the rest of the night. Looking ba...

Sometimes I go on online dating sites for companionship (but mostly just seeing the questions they have for people to put on their page or answer to boost their odds ar matching), ofc that’s not to say it works. May 29, 2023 at 10:34PM

I'm a cook and there's this waitress who's worked there since last year that I really like. She started last year then left for college but just came back 2 weeks ago. Ever since she's come back she's been talking to me a bunch and constantly finding reasons to talk to me 1 on 1. She's talked to me a lot about her life and will come up and talk to me and ask how my day's going or questions about myself. Sometimes we'll lock eyes for a while then she starts smiling and says my name and will walk over to me. Anyways, me and 2 other co workers were talking about a movie we watched and the girl came up and talked with us about the movie. I told her how all 3 of us watched the movie together and she says "Wow I can't believe you guys didn't invite me". I showed her a picture of us at the theater when we watched it but I didn't think anything of it then the conversation went on for another minute. Afterwards one of my coworkers started...

Epic May 29, 2023 at 12:08AM

Does this turn you off and make you not like the girl? Submitted May 29, 2023 at 12:12AM Does this turn you off and make you not like the girl?

I went on a date in march with this girl on a coffee date. She was probably the most compatible person I have ever met. We organised a second date to go to the museum. Unfortunately the day before I had developed a blocked nose and sore throat. We said we would reschedule and then nothing. Not even getting left on read she just vanished. I know I really shouldn’t but I tried to get in touch a couple times and still nothing. Its safe to say she no longer is interested and that’s fine. It’s just so frustrating to finally find get a date and then have them disappear. I have only managed one second date. Theres been a few times where I have just been rejected and that’s okay. But there has been several times now where something comes up for the other person. Submitted May 29, 2023 at 12:13AM I went on a date in march with this girl on a coffee date. She was probably the most compatible person I have ever met.We organised a second date to go to the museum. Unfortunately the day be...

I'll turn 30 in a month... Still waiting to grow out of this "phase" :P May 28, 2023 at 11:08PM

Y'all know where it's at. May 28, 2023 at 11:06PM

Hi guys, So basically I had a crush on this girl I’ve known her since like 8 years now. Now we in our 20s n I moved away from the town we were in. Why does she suddenly add me on snap saying she liked me but was shy? Is she playing me? Nothing really changed on me but maybe my locs lol. Submitted May 28, 2023 at 02:10AM Hi guys,So basically I had a crush on this girl I’ve known her since like 8 years now.Now we in our 20s n I moved away from the town we were in.Why does she suddenly add me on snap saying she liked me but was shy?Is she playing me?Nothing really changed on me but maybe my locs lol.

I am very glad they let me do a custom flag! May 28, 2023 at 01:07AM

I am a 30 y/o single dad. For the past 10 years i have been completely content on just focusinc on my daughyer and living ny best life. Latley i have had this growing urge to find a female companion. It more then a urge now. It has to happen. This is so much different then dating in high school. How do i get the ball rolling? I dont expect a miracle. Submitted May 28, 2023 at 01:13AM I am a 30 y/o single dad. For the past 10 years i have been completely content on just focusinc on my daughyer and living ny best life. Latley i have had this growing urge to find a female companion. It more then a urge now. It has to happen. This is so much different then dating in high school. How do i get the ball rolling? I dont expect a miracle.

No bro, I agree with you lol May 27, 2023 at 11:06PM

"Average men" (no ones actually average or ugly, we just have messed up beauty standards but I'll still use the word average just to be dramatic) guys who arent 10/10 to the majority of women are a 11/10 to me. I 18f am pretty confident in my looks, I wouldn't say I'm insecure at all. I'm tall, slim with really long dark hair and a pale complexion with blue eyes. so I'm not insecure butttt if a really attractive man slides into my dating site dms, I ignore him. Simply because I wanna be taken seriously. I feel like a man out of my league wouldn't take me seriously at all. So i only prefer men who are average or a little on the lower side of average as I feel more comfortable. I also feel like average guys have more drive to chase me/win me and I love it. It's so cute. I mean obviously I want my future man to be a little active, take care of himself and groom himself as well as have good hygiene, good habits and values, is open about his boundaries...

Should I be worried about it she used to respond fast but now she always says she's busy or asleep and I know I might be over thinking it but I just wanna know if it's normal for gf to take all day to respond Submitted May 27, 2023 at 02:13AM Should I be worried about it she used to respond fast but now she always says she's busy or asleep and I know I might be over thinking it but I just wanna know if it's normal for gf to take all day to respond

It sucks that's happening to you, id say clear and firm boundary setting will be your best bet. "Im not looking to do or talk about anything sexual, that makes me uncomfortable" "I don't wanna talk about that" "I dont want to receive/send sexual pictures" "That comment make me uncomfortable" You wanna try shut it down right away in clear terms if someone if overstepping. When people step over that line repeatedly after you've stated those boundaries its fine to just ignore or block them, they aren't entitled to talk w you if they aren't gonna respect you. Boundaries need to be enforcable/enforced to be properly effective, so be clear and firm w what you are comfortable and not comfortable with, and then makes sure you enforce that boundary by disengaging with that person or if you feel it was an honest mistake restating your boundaries and giving a warning and then disengaging if they continue w the topic. Its not you...

So, I got out for prison in December after 3.5 years. It was awesome getting out, I’ve achieved many of my small goals since getting out: working full time, saving a bunch, getting a gym membership, going to meetings, and doing stand up comedy whenever I can. The one thing I have yet to accomplish? Having sex/finding a girl. Needless to say, it’s a problem but also one I’m not sure I should even focus on. Relationship can cause problems, especially when I’m just getting my shit together. Also, a month after I was sentenced my girlfriend of 3 years passed away, so that was sad. BUT I shaved my bush after waiting four years and it needs to be appreciated!! I was at a pub waiting to do a set, and met this really cool girl. She’s pretty, funny, and we got along super well. And she was there to do her second set ever, which is pretty cool. I was hesitant to do my jokes about prison because I thought it would immediately blow my chances of ever hanging out with her again, whether that be a...

IMO, an act is only sexual if there is intent to arouse one's self and/or partner. Like, one person's platonic foot massage is a foot fetishist's idea of foreplay. An exhibitionist gets off on being seen naked, but to a nudist it's just the default. A finger in the ass from a partner is sexual, but a prostate exam from a doctor is (hopefully) not. It's all about the context. May 26, 2023 at 11:33PM

Dear all my SO wants to break up because we learned how to boil eggs differently. Usually when eggs are boiled by me, I poke a hole in the shell with a needle. SO rather likes to boil them hard on lower temperature untouched. Recently I recognized them being cracked in the water and not being prepared with hole in the shell. I've been told that the eggs have always been prepared by that. SO breaks up now, because I argue about that. How is this trait of SO called? Regards Submitted May 27, 2023 at 12:13AM Dear allmy SO wants to break up because we learned how to boil eggs differently. Usually when eggs are boiled by me, I poke a hole in the shell with a needle. SO rather likes to boil them hard on lower temperature untouched. Recently I recognized them being cracked in the water and not being prepared with hole in the shell. I've been told that the eggs have always been prepared by that. SO breaks up now, because I argue about that. How is this trait of SO called?Regards...

I’m young and have so much to learn so be patient. Tomorrow is my last day of high school. My last day to see my ex whom I’m still suffering from the break up. I’ll be moving from the US to Europe for 3-4 years. I’m not over her because she is the cutest thing I’ve ever seen. I’m mature enough to know we aren’t meant for each other and she isn’t what I need/want emotionally. It stings a little to know I will never ever have her because she is the only one of herself in the world. That’s where the “there’s plenty of fish in the sea” saying comes in. I’m trying to get my hopes up with that quote. Thinking that there will be even better! And man I’m going to be living in flippin Europe there are tons of girls there! I’ll be okay. Can I hear your success stories? Thank you Submitted May 26, 2023 at 02:12AM I’m young and have so much to learn so be patient. Tomorrow is my last day of high school. My last day to see my ex whom I’m still suffering from the break up. I’ll be moving fr...

I’m bajsexual, can you please explain? May 26, 2023 at 12:32AM

Yesterday, I visited a hamburger restaurant and was enjoying some fries when a girl passed by me several times. Eventually, she chose a different table to sit at. As I glanced in her direction, she also looked back at me and started talking to her friend seated across from her. Shortly after, both the girl and her friend giggled and simultaneously glanced towards me. I'm curious about the significance of their actions and what they might imply. Initially, I felt like they were mocking me, so I chose to disregard the girl's actions, even though I found her appearance attractive and I am currently single. Do you believe that those actions could have been a form of signal or indication? Submitted May 26, 2023 at 01:15AM Yesterday, I visited a hamburger restaurant and was enjoying some fries when a girl passed by me several times. Eventually, she chose a different table to sit at. As I glanced in her direction, she also looked back at me and started talking to her friend se...

With clear communication, boundaries etc. Ever had a positive experience? What were the circumstances? Submitted May 26, 2023 at 12:05AM With clear communication, boundaries etc. Ever had a positive experience? What were the circumstances?

I love the ring and im now going to go and forge one May 25, 2023 at 11:06PM

What is a no- go? What is okay? Lunch with a friend of a different gender. Is this okay if mentioned before hand? Or they don’t have to report? Posting flirty replies on opposite gender socials- ok or no? Texting but not seeing opposite gender friends and exs- yes or no way? Submitted May 25, 2023 at 01:16AM What is a no- go? What is okay?Lunch with a friend of a different gender. Is this okay if mentioned before hand? Or they don’t have to report?Posting flirty replies on opposite gender socials- ok or no?Texting but not seeing opposite gender friends and exs- yes or no way?

if being a virgin is the only reason you want to have sex then don’t! you should only do it when you feel ready and 100% comfortable with it. i know it’s hard getting into the dating scene, but if he’s really a good guy for you then he’ll understand if you don’t feel ready yet May 25, 2023 at 12:06AM

My boyfriend and I were planning to go to the gym and he told me to “look cute and put ur makeup on and hair and stuff so I can show u off” And I’m like put makeup on? Not to say I haven’t to the gym but usually not intentionally. Usually after I like go to work or school and am too lazy to wash my face before the gym How would y’all take this? He said he didn’t meAn if that way but how else am I suppose to take it 🥲 Asking me to look nice vs cover up my face feel like very two different things 🥲 idk if I’m being too dramatic but my feelings are hurt by the request. Also he said I never try to look good for him. Like I do but he doesn’t see me everyday and when he does we are going to work out or I come over his house late and we just lay in bed and watch movies. It’s not like I never look nice it’s just majority of the time we don’t do shit 😭 Not to mention I’m honestly just busy and exhausted and stressed all the time from going school full time. I am also in flight school s...

There’s none near me May 24, 2023 at 11:10PM

I know the feeling dude. I’m 19 and got really lucky with my current bf. He’s not ace but it doesn’t effect our relationship and he’s happy without sex in our relationship. Best of luck to you tho. Ace people are pretty uncommon unfortunately. Try and find some ace spaces. Idk about what that looks like for guys but godspeed to you May 24, 2023 at 11:10PM

Eh, it's worth learning your own body. Go full send and give 'er a shot. If it's a bit icky, you only need to clean up once. Your body is probably still wired to enjoy the mechanical aspect of it and release dopamine into the ol brain. May 24, 2023 at 01:15AM

I (25M) work rotating 12 hour shifts on a three week on and one week off rotation where I swap between days and nights. I've been wanting to get back into the dating scene again, but outside of dating one of my coworkers (non-option because that would be too messy and complicated if things go downhill), I really don't see how to start and maintain a relationship without the time issue coming up constantly. Any advice would be appreciated. I've been single for a couple years now after my last GF split to go jetsetting to the other side of the country so I'm also a little out of practice with flirting or how to approach women. Submitted May 24, 2023 at 01:07AM I (25M) work rotating 12 hour shifts on a three week on and one week off rotation where I swap between days and nights. I've been wanting to get back into the dating scene again, but outside of dating one of my coworkers (non-option because that would be too messy and complicated if things go downhill), I...

(Sorry in advance for my long answer!) The estimate is that 2% of both sexes are some type of asexual. Where the huge gender difference happens isn't relevant to asexuality. Men on average have a much higher libido than women. It's important to note that there is zero connection between asexuality and libido. Asexuality is an absence of sexual attraction for a partner, while libido is a general impulse to have sex, that isn't connected to a partner. While this may be confusing, there are some asexuals who have a very high libido, since libido and asexuality are separate. In that case, they love to have sex, but seeing a potential partner has absolutely no effect on them, it's just that they "feel the urge", without a nearby person ever being the cause. For them, a "sexual fantasy" about a certain person doesn't exist (but a generic urge for having a particular intimate activity could exist, just not tied to who it would be with). Another d...

So for context right now I have a friend who I'm not quite sure if she likes me or not, I asked her on a date a few months ago now and she said no. However recently (I would say within the last month) we've been getting really close and I've noticed that a lot of those barriers that were up before are now gone. She seems to want to do a lot with me, and we're together so often to the point that people already think we're dating, but I'm not sure if that means anything at all and that maybe I'm just looking too deep into things. Any advice? Submitted May 24, 2023 at 12:12AM So for context right now I have a friend who I'm not quite sure if she likes me or not, I asked her on a date a few months ago now and she said no. However recently (I would say within the last month) we've been getting really close and I've noticed that a lot of those barriers that were up before are now gone. She seems to want to do a lot with me, and we're togethe...

This is hilarious! 😂🤣😂🤣 May 23, 2023 at 11:06PM

I mean this in the best way, but do not associate physical arousal with desire, especially when you're sharing intimacy with that person. I feel like this is an incredibly important distinction to be made when this topic comes up, and it's also the plight of many a male asexual. Being relaxed, simple physical touch (in the case of being touch starved especially), nervousness, and even just the wind blowing right are all causes of them. May 23, 2023 at 01:11AM

Most of my younger days I was desperate to find a companion. I felt like I needed one to feel whole. I tried and failed most of my teens and young adulthood to find a woman who would love me. After years of desperation I finally found someone at the ripe age of 26. After 2.5 years it crashed and burned and I got stuck in this terrible dating pool again. I took a break to heal but after a while I gave it another go. And what I realized that dating is even more toxic and mentally destructive than I remembered. And what I finally realized after 30 years is that I don’t need anyone else to be happy. I do just fine on my own. Always have. I’m done letting other’s opinions of me drag me down. If no one else wants to love me, I’ll love me. It’s that simple. It’s that easy. You guys can all have each other. I’m tapping out. Submitted May 23, 2023 at 02:12AM Most of my younger days I was desperate to find a companion. I felt like I needed one to feel whole. I tried and failed most of my...

I’m officially done with dating anyway but I was reflecting and notice behavior with SOME men I’ve spoken to. My ex (5 years ago) used to say, “you probably wouldn’t want me.” Then I helped him go to therapy because he was severely depressed. He had a lot of issues which I get we all do, but eventually it became too much because I was dedicating majority of my time to make sure he’s ok. Then I swiped with some guy on tinder a long time ago and the first thing he says is, “I’m too ugly, why would you want to talk to me?” I unmatched because he was really putting himself down so much to the point it was annoying. Then if you read my last post on this subreddit, this guy says, I wouldn’t want him anyway because he’s, “pretty messed up.” I have a few more stories but I’m not typing all of that. I notice a trend but here’s my theory… I think it’s a manipulation tactic to get me to feel sorry for them? And it worked 😭 at least for my ex it worked lol. I should seek therapy myself becaus...

Maybe ask the therapist if they know what the A in LGBTIAPQ+ stands for to see how educated they are May 23, 2023 at 12:17AM

Hey y’all, I need help with something because I’m really not sure how to proceed in this situation. So, a little background, I planned a vacation/family visit in another city a few weeks ago. Last week I was a little bored and decided to download a dating app to meet people from this destination, make some connections, maybe set up dates/hangout with locals and etc. I [29F] matched with this guy [33M] who told me that he would actually be visiting my city for a few days with friends. He didn’t invite me to do anything right away, but we chatted a little throughout the weekend and ended up setting up a coffee “date” (still not sure if it was a date date or just handing out to meet irl). It was fun enough and I walked him to the place he was staying. We exchanged phone numbers and planned that when I visit his city, a few weeks from now, we’d go get cocktails, hiking and some fun stuff. He texted me saying he had a good time and I said likewise. So, I don’t know if I should try maki...

Amen. Also hetro-romantic here. Male attention is a hell of a drug May 22, 2023 at 01:17AM

My partner (m 48) is a well known sex therapist in our area and I (f 33) develop software/websites and run my own business. We met in 2017. We are driven, intellectual, and sensitive people, but we are just not getting along. I’d love some help. He is stoic. I am expressive. He has “fatigue.” I can stay up for 98 hours straight working on something. He could have sex once a month and be fine. I want it 3-5 times a week. We were poly and he shut it down to mono 2 years ago. Then I gained 20 lbs and he said he wasn’t attracted to me. We barely have sex now and always in the dark. I’m directly writing this post after he walked in on me masturbating - he hasn’t before. I was going to be very quick after my shower. He left the room after giving me a kiss. And is now watching American Idol. He didn’t ask to join. He didn’t invite me to watch Idol with him. I feel like he’s avoidant and just want to understand how to handle him better because he’s bright, funny, and practical, and wort...

WAIT... I knew about cake.. I literally know what it means.. but I was today years old when I realized what that song meant... Omg 😭 May 22, 2023 at 12:08AM

I am 30 years old man who haven't been in a relationship before for multiple reasons including some kind of social anxiety + traveling! Used online dating for 2 years and been to many dates but no relationship because me or them didn't want to continue. This is my only way to talk to/approach women in life and I gave up Submitted May 22, 2023 at 12:16AM I am 30 years old man who haven't been in a relationship before for multiple reasons including some kind of social anxiety + traveling! Used online dating for 2 years and been to many dates but no relationship because me or them didn't want to continue. This is my only way to talk to/approach women in life and I gave up

My stomach and intestine and their burning pain after eating would have somethign to say about that. May 21, 2023 at 10:14PM

WILD TOHHH May 20, 2023 at 11:56PM

*People who have casual sex exist* "Im not interested in casual sex" "Oh, wow, look at the attention seeker. You just want to medicalize everything" Good thing i dont give a fuck what people like these think. May 20, 2023 at 11:54PM

I (28f) met this guy 3 months ago through a mutual friend. I liked him and he seemed to have liked me, too. A month later I started texting him about general stuff, but since it was very smooth, I cut to the chase and asked him about a meeting. He enthusiastically agreed and the tone of the conversation immediately switched to more personal. We met, it was very nice, even romantic at times, although we didn't kiss or anything. A week passes, we text everyday, but no further plans are made, so I ask him again for a meeting, this time with a plan to state my intensions clearly. But seeing him very infatuated with me I got cold feet and decided to leave things at that. Another two weeks passed since then and he still didn't ask me to meet in person. In the meantime, however, the mutual friend went out with him and was unequivocally told, that likes me indeed, since the first time even. What do I make of it? Supposing he has serious intentions, I really dread the pace we move at ...

I went on a 2nd date with this really cute guy. We were cuddling on the couch and everything and he asked to kiss me. I let him down and said it was because I was “just being awkward” and not because I didn’t want to kiss him. If I see him again, what should I say to make him know I want to kiss him and am ready? Submitted May 20, 2023 at 11:44PM I went on a 2nd date with this really cute guy. We were cuddling on the couch and everything and he asked to kiss me. I let him down and said it was because I was “just being awkward” and not because I didn’t want to kiss him. If I see him again, what should I say to make him know I want to kiss him and am ready?

I’m 21m and also in college. There’s a particular girl I’m cool with buh she gives me this weird vibe. We don’t have the best convos in person and on phone but every time she meets me she hugs me and look straight into my eyes with a smile and starts a convo. Also she comes to me whenever she sees me and likes being around me but actually I don’t do much when she’s around me like I’m barely even trying. I don’t know if she’s into me but doesn’t want to say or what :/ Submitted May 20, 2023 at 11:58PM I’m 21m and also in college. There’s a particular girl I’m cool with buh she gives me this weird vibe. We don’t have the best convos in person and on phone but every time she meets me she hugs me and look straight into my eyes with a smile and starts a convo. Also she comes to me whenever she sees me and likes being around me but actually I don’t do much when she’s around me like I’m barely even trying. I don’t know if she’s into me but doesn’t want to say or what :/

I am overweight. And I am trying to lose weight, but food addiction is something I struggle with. Nevertheless, I truly think I am pretty (my parents and older folks in church been calling me beautiful since i was young). My therapist said i look nice too...but men never approach me at any places I go to... What can I do aside from losing weight to get professional men to approach me at events and open venues like wineries? Submitted May 21, 2023 at 12:01AM I am overweight. And I am trying to lose weight, but food addiction is something I struggle with. Nevertheless, I truly think I am pretty (my parents and older folks in church been calling me beautiful since i was young). My therapist said i look nice too...but men never approach me at any places I go to...What can I do aside from losing weight to get professional men to approach me at events and open venues like wineries?

I 21M have really been struggling in the dating scene and really have no idea where to start. I like to think I am a good person, have a good future, and am very funny. I have had a couple girlfriends in the past and they have more fell in my lap than me actually getting them so I have no real experience in the chase. I have tried things like tinder to no real success and that is not really how I’d like to meet girls anyways. I guess I am just looking for a relationship instead of just lucking into one. I am open to answering any other questions you may have Submitted May 21, 2023 at 12:16AM I 21M have really been struggling in the dating scene and really have no idea where to start. I like to think I am a good person, have a good future, and am very funny. I have had a couple girlfriends in the past and they have more fell in my lap than me actually getting them so I have no real experience in the chase. I have tried things like tinder to no real success and that is not really ...

When guys say, “you deserve so much better than me,” are they saying it because they mean it? Or is it just their nice way of saying fuck off? Submitted May 20, 2023 at 02:16AM When guys say, “you deserve so much better than me,” are they saying it because they mean it? Or is it just their nice way of saying fuck off?

I (31f) have never been in a relationship or dates. I’ve had a few hookups but nothing serious. I do not think I’m ugly but I am an introvert. I do not know what to do… Does anyone have any useful advice for me? (Excuse my English please) Submitted May 20, 2023 at 01:10AM I (31f) have never been in a relationship or dates. I’ve had a few hookups but nothing serious. I do not think I’m ugly but I am an introvert. I do not know what to do… Does anyone have any useful advice for me? (Excuse my English please)

You explained your view, and it works. The symmetry is nice, and yes I know the "legal" definition of Asexual. Let's keep it. But with only three colors, grey white and purple, it'd be a damn pretty flag. That's all I gotta say. Garlic bread. May 20, 2023 at 12:12AM

I'm looking for some advice or perspective or opinions on this current situation. I'm holding my breath for the judgment, but figured I'd turn to my fellow redditors regardless since I'm over thinking this. I (39m) met this bomb girl (23f) about a month ago. We instantly hit it off and started having sex pretty quick. We work alternate schedules so we've only been seeing eachother once or twice a week. Certainly feels like a hookup situation, but potential to grow. I recognize the age gap so my expectations are kind of tempered. The first night i met her she was somewhat dolled up. After I got her number, we had a date where she was really smoking hot. However, every date, meetup, hookup, etc, this girl has stopped wearing any makeup, has glasses, and looks fairly different. I understand this is shallow AF, but I do have other options and I was really digging this girl at first. Now I'm wondering if there is more to this situation. Is there something behind ...

I’m becoming one in December and I want to fulfill my role of supporting and management to the best of my very limited abilities… But what’s it like? It’s my first time moving in with someone other than my neglectful family. Also I’m an autistic virgin that’s obsessed with math and economics. Submitted May 20, 2023 at 12:12AM I’m becoming one in December and I want to fulfill my role of supporting and management to the best of my very limited abilities… But what’s it like? It’s my first time moving in with someone other than my neglectful family. Also I’m an autistic virgin that’s obsessed with math and economics.

yes, absolutely May 19, 2023 at 12:29AM

My boyfriend and I have been dating for a. Few months now and met each other friends. One of his friends who I have met and came to one of my parties is celebrating his birthday! So I was at his place and we were talking and his roommate says we’re hosting the pre, you should come.. I look at my bf and he’s like oh I didn’t invite her yet cause I don’t even know what we’re doing. I brought it up to him and he’s like we didn’t even confirm anything (which is true) and then today he calls me saying oh they confirmed the pre at their place but don’t know where they’re going out. And I brought it up as a joke saying wow u didn’t even invite me .. ur roommate did .. and then said it again and he didn’t say anything. And I’m like ok wtf?? So now I’m mad and upset cause wth .. Would u be mad? Submitted May 19, 2023 at 12:11AM My boyfriend and I have been dating for a. Few months now and met each other friends. One of his friends who I have met and came to one of my parties is cel...

Communication, communication, communication. Until you have the first conversation of boundaries and what type of physical contact and romantic gestures are acceptable, ask if it's ok for them. Check in as things progress to make sure they truly are comfortable with where things are going. Make sure your partner knows you want them to speak up if they feel you're inadvertantly getting too excited about something or unconsciously pressuring them. Make sure you check in with yourself as well. Don't deny your needs just to make them happy. If you find yourself wanting some kind of contact or interaction that hasn't happened yet, talk to them to see if this is something that could be comfortable or something you can find a happy compromise on. It's possible your ace partner could want to try things but didn't know it was an option or just need time to consider it on their own. May 18, 2023 at 11:53PM

I want to try to distance myself from him for the next two weeks after next week. We've been emotionally dependent on each other for too long and I think the last time I physically hung out with my other friends was Halloween 2021. I was also busy with college and a part-time job, but I chose to spend all my free time with him when I know I shouldn't have. I needed a healthy balance. May 18, 2023 at 11:53PM

It’s rape. May 18, 2023 at 11:52PM

This is a lot of info of what he wants and little of what you want. But what is there is that you want him to change and be different...and he is not changing. And to be honest being in a relationship with someone you want to change isn't going to end well. He is who he is and you are who you are, and if you want him to be different and he doesn't you need to accept that and move on. Dumping hurts, but you can't change people, they have to want to change. Sorry for throwing that out, but like, this clearly sucks for you, and I hope you feel better. May 18, 2023 at 11:52PM

Yeah around my period I get very into masturbating but sometimes I masturbate even when my libido is low cause I do it when I'm really bored May 18, 2023 at 11:51PM

So I sent a voice note and I somewhat said, I really don't know why I said it but it was "yeah that's bad, is it really (persons name)" and she went did you really say my name . Then she went sad and stopped replying to me saying she wanted to go to bed. We were talking about her past experiences with boys and that happened and she got mad at me. She said she doesn't feel very appreciated and that she is tired of making all the moves, which she did to get my attention. I don't know what to do because I'm not dating her and I am in another country because of vacation. She said she wanted some alone time and left my message on seen. I don't want to lose her because I already screwed by saying another gurls name than hers and she forgave me on that. I don't know what to do Submitted May 17, 2023 at 11:51PM So I sent a voice note and I somewhat said, I really don't know why I said it but it was "yeah that's bad, is it really (person...

I got some terrible news today. And today was the day I was going to try to go thirty minutes on the treadmill without stopping. Made it to 6 before I started to tear up a little bit. Just wanted to ask. Submitted May 17, 2023 at 11:51PM I got some terrible news today. And today was the day I was going to try to go thirty minutes on the treadmill without stopping. Made it to 6 before I started to tear up a little bit. Just wanted to ask.

I have been dating the girl I dreamed of for 5 months and I have a problem. I have a 50/50 chance of puking before I see her and sometimes when I see her due to anxiety. Usually I have a way higher chance of puking if I have food in my stomach. I also am not able to have s* because of my performance anxiety and I just go soft. It's horrible. I can't break up with her b/c she's so sweet it would destroy me to see her heartbroken. How can I fix this? Someone help. Submitted May 17, 2023 at 11:53PM I have been dating the girl I dreamed of for 5 months and I have a problem. I have a 50/50 chance of puking before I see her and sometimes when I see her due to anxiety. Usually I have a way higher chance of puking if I have food in my stomach. I also am not able to have s* because of my performance anxiety and I just go soft. It's horrible. I can't break up with her b/c she's so sweet it would destroy me to see her heartbroken. How can I fix this? Someonehelp.

So today, after a tennis match with my high school team, we went out to get CFA. I’m waiting in line & a girl in front of me (who’s with her friends/teammates) turns around and asks me if I’m on a sports team, and if so, what type. I tell her the team, ask her about her sports team (lacrosse), and talk a bit more about the games we’ve played. I’m kind of new to the whole dating thing, but was she giving me a hint to ask for her number or just being friendly? Thanks for the advice! Submitted May 17, 2023 at 11:55PM So today, after a tennis match with my high school team, we went out to get CFA. I’m waiting in line & a girl in front of me (who’s with her friends/teammates) turns around and asks me if I’m on a sports team, and if so, what type. I tell her the team, ask her about her sports team (lacrosse), and talk a bit more about the games we’ve played. I’m kind of new to the whole dating thing, but was she giving me a hint to ask for her number or just being friendly? Th...

TLDR: I have a 'date' with a girl from Hinge who lives an hour and a half away. We scheduled a date already but I'm no longer comfortable with meeting up, so I want to cancel- but she's bringing her two friends that are a couple for a double date and I don't want to ruin her friends' time. I matched with a girl on Hinge (we're both college-aged, I'm in uni and she's not), who lives roughly an hour and a half away. We were texting for quite a while and I was genuinely expressing quite a bit of interest in her hobbies- eventually we ended up calling for several hours. I did enjoy talking to her, but it was slightly off putting when she started texting me pretty often- she'd text me things like "yippee I'm now going to get dinner" or "i am getting ready for work", followed up by "i am heading to work yippee" and then multiple consecutive texts about how her shift at work was going. I said I had class every day and...

I've seen so many of these quizzes! o yo uknow the link?? May 17, 2023 at 11:04PM

It’s probably not worth engaging with someone who is determined to misunderstand you and not accept that romantic attraction and sexual attraction are different things, and also that it’s possible for one to not experience sexual attraction to anyone May 17, 2023 at 11:03PM