So yah in the last week I have been on tinder and I have had great success. I am not trying to really date I set my info to friends only and I have been searching for people looking for the same. I went out for coffee today with a woman who I made it clear to that I am looking for friends and she was if the same mindset. I am nowhere near ready to jump in a relationship. Now she's texting me saying she wants to go on an official date date with me. That she sees a future with me..... I don't know how I can be more clear with people they I only want friends... Submitted April 30, 2022 at 11:58PM So yah in the last week I have been on tinder and I have had great success.I am not trying to really date I set my info to friends only and I have been searching for people looking for the same.I went out for coffee today with a woman who I made it clear to that I am looking for friends and she was if the same mindset.I am nowhere near ready to jump in a relationship.Now she...

I (35f) have known a man (almost 50??) almost my whole life. He is a former student of my mom’s who kind of out of nowhere became close with our family, he pops in and out. The last time I saw him he had seen my fb status where I had tagged where I was with my family and he just showed up. I just found out he got divorced, idk how long ago. But I am very attracted to him. I never thought about him like that until learning he’s divorced. He’s never ever given me any idea he would think of me romantically but again, he was married. I saw him today. Nothing different about our interaction. I want to ask him out. I know it’s forward for a woman but idk, I wouldn’t mind even grabbing a beer with him sometime truthfully even if it’s not romantic. Is it weird? Should I do it? If I get rejected then I think it’ll be extremely weird… thoughts? Submitted May 01, 2022 at 12:02AM I (35f) have known a man (almost 50??) almost my whole life. He is a former student of my mom’s who kind of out...

Hi, I'm a 25F and I feel kinda stuck at the moment. I've never had a real bf, and it seems like all the guys I come into contact with either overlook me, look down on me, treat me like a last option, ghost, already have a gf, etc. It doesn't help that I'm a dark skinned (black and Indian) woman living in an area where women with the features with the exact opposite of mine (white, blonde, light eyes) are seen as goddesses. I cannot leave because I'm studying grad school and want to get my PhD. I'm studying engineering btw, so there is no diversity in my field. Everyone is always saying how easy it is for women to find guys, but I guess I must not be a real woman because it has been the complete opposite for me. And yes, I do make the first move a lot of times because I won't get anywhere if I sit and wait. I don't think it's my weight or anything because I'm quite thin. I'd love some advice as to how I can spruce up my look since I think I ...

I like her, but don't have feelings for her in that sense. She wants a relationship, i am not ready for it and honestly don't want one with her. How do i tell her it's a "no" without losing her. We made out twice, and had no terms set about us. I like spending time with her and can't afford to lose her Submitted May 01, 2022 at 12:12AM I like her, but don't have feelings for her in that sense. She wants a relationship, i am not ready for it and honestly don't want one with her. How do i tell her it's a "no" without losing her. We made out twice, and had no terms set about us. I like spending time with her and can't afford to lose her

I come to the realization that I’m probably just gonna die alone I hate myself I hate the world I hate everything about life. I hate that I have a disability I hate that I have heart disease I hate that I had a stroke as a baby. The only happiness I get really is by hurting other people. Every time I try to even get a date with a girl I always get rejected or I get the idk maybe bullshit. I’m just sick of it all it just seems like I was just born with bad luck when it comes to dating. I fucking hate seeing all these couples on Instagram just bragging how much they love each other how great life is than you know what it’s like fuck off Submitted May 01, 2022 at 12:12AM I come to the realization that I’m probably just gonna die alone I hate myself I hate the world I hate everything about life. I hate that I have a disability I hate that I have heart disease I hate that I had a stroke as a baby. The only happiness I get really is by hurting other people. Every time I try to even ge...

it took me like 5 minutes to realize by "both" people didn't mean both dancers. April 30, 2022 at 11:17PM

my parents have assumed i (15f) was boyfriend-girlfriend with a boy who - i barely know - i am not even friends with - i do not talk to - i have never talked to in front of them - i have never even touched in front of them - literally the only thing we have in common is that our dads are pastors (and mine isn't anymore) i quickly resolved that misunderstanding but oh my god. they just take marriage and dating as a given, apparently i can't have any boy friends without it being taken as a boyfriend. many, many people have made the assumption that my best friend (17m, online) and i are dating or in a romantic relationship. it's made me extremely hesitant to show anything resembling romantic affection (even in private) to him, despite both of us agreeing that we don't want a relationship and he knows very well that i'm aroace. i'm trying to overcome that hesitation. April 30, 2022 at 11:15PM

You ever been in a dorm filled with dudes? I'm In the millitary. Dudes got 3 moods Horny,(if gf)love sick,deppressed. April 29, 2022 at 11:07PM

2/M here. Went on my first date of the year yesterday. This woman was very talkative, curious and sprightly. She asked me questions about my Masters degree in music and my practice in experimental music and I inquired about her profession in art auctioneering and her background in art school. She established earlier on Tinder (where we matched) that she had Covid and that she needed to complete her compulsory 7 day isolation before we met IRL(both of us are triple vaxxed btw). However 45 minutes into the date she told me that she was feeling exhausted and made her pretty slow with thinking and conversing. I noticed she was distracting with her phone as we were talking, which led me to inquire whether she gets inundated with work emails (which she admitted so). We pay for our drinks at the bar and go outside and I tell her I like how quirky and conversant she is, to which she is flattered and says she gets a lot of nasty responses from guys. She then asks which direction I am walking a...

Since I've been on dating apps I've always been the one to message first cause I notice if I don't do it I'll never hear from a guy. I don't understand why guys don't message as soon as they get the match notification. I wanted to see if any of my matches would message me first and it's been 3 days and no one has said anything. Why do you guys do this? Like are they not interested in me, or are they too lazy or scared to message? Some guys will literally reply within minutes if I message them first, but if I don't I just never hear from them. It's so frustrating! I don't understand. I'm starting to get to the point where I'm only going to talk to guys who message me first because I feel like the ones that don't are not that into me. Submitted April 30, 2022 at 12:02AM Since I've been on dating apps I've always been the one to message first cause I notice if I don't do it I'll never hear from a guy. I don't u...

So I (M,33) have two small parrots that I love to death (a green cheek conure and a canary winged parakeet both about half way through their expected life cycles of 15-20 years and the CWP is mildly internet famous. I wish I was making that up lol) They have apparently been the reason the last few ladies that I tried to start something SERIOUS AND LONG TERM with weren’t interested or backed out and it almost always followed the “do you have pets question”. The birds seem to be winners with short term partners or anyone that just want to be friends. Maybe most people don’t realize how much time their pets take up, or how annoying dogs and cats can be, or they aren’t giving them the time they actually need, but birds are not that different from dogs as far as the amount of time they require. So, and not that I’d EVER ask a perspective long term partner to give up a pet, I don’t like cats and am indifferent to dogs and I don’t really want either in my life again but I’ve had both and...

Would you be upset at your partner if he/she sent a kissy face emoji “😚” to their best friend who is of the opposite sex? Submitted April 30, 2022 at 12:04AM Would you be upset at your partner if he/she sent a kissy face emoji “😚” to their best friend who is of the opposite sex?

A few months ago I went to a birthday party of a friend and there was a very pretty girl. We only exchanged names and only talked while mutual friends were there since she had a boyfriend and I didn't want to make her feel like I am hitting on her. Few days after the birthday I followed her and she followed me back (phew at least she remembers me lol) But few days ago I overheard she is single again. Here's the problem, when it comes to us getting to talk my friends won't help me at all with her. Another friend told me to just react to her story and try that way, but in my opinion a lot of people are probably trying and I don't want to come out as a weirdo really. I need someone else's opinion on that. Submitted April 30, 2022 at 12:07AM A few months ago I went to a birthday party of a friend and there was a very pretty girl. We only exchanged names and only talked while mutual friends were there since she had a boyfriend and I didn't want to make her fe...

First started as Bi then went to Pan. I'll tell the bi awakening story here. I liked girls alot since the age of 12. A new anime came out in cartoon network I think. Those days are alittle fuzzy. It was Naruto. I was a big fan. And there was this character named Haku. Man oh man. I was friggin in love with Haku. And then that line drop. OH by the way....Im a boy.. My feelings didn't change... I was still into it. But it did make me question myself alot as I was raised as a Christian. I'm agnostic now. April 29, 2022 at 11:07PM

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Just started talking to this guy and he is great to talk to. He is attentive, returns my questions with questions and I really appreciate that. He is attractive to me, though I haven't explicitly told him that - I think if we match on a dating app, mutual attraction is kind of given. What I am slightly weirded out by is the fact that he keeps calling me sexy, you are a babe etc and I am generally very uncomfortable being called babe, baby.... Idk I find it very cringy. It's also compounded by the fact that we haven't met yet (we have a date set for next weekend). Am I a weirdo for finding it odd and how do I deal with compliments like that? I was thinking I'd keep him on read when he throws me such compliments and/or divert to another topic. Would that be considered rude? To clarify, I'd like to keep talking to him and at least go on a date because I do like him so far. Just need advice on how to deal with it Submitted April 29, 2022 at 01:12AM Just started t...

During quarantine, I (20m) would text/snap this one girl (20f). We agreed to meet when quarantine was over/when school reopened. She would send (unsolicited) risque pictures to me often and on some days sent 30+ snaps to me. We had many long conversations together late into the night. She even would often ask me about my mental health and told me things like "I'm always here if you need someone." However, when school reopened a year after we started talking to each other, she passive-aggressively turned me down when I asked to meet up. She say things like "yes definitely," but then "I need to check my schedule," but then still talk to me a ton. I asked one last time, and she responded "why?" and then said yes, then said maybe later, then ghosted me all together without explaining anything. This whole time I was polite, didn't push, and made clear that if she didn't want to meet that it was okay. I've talked to many people since ...

i'll be honest, the teenage years where i thought i was allo and constantly looking for a relationship were absolutely miserable. all the energy going into that was draining straight out of my mental health. edit: is that what dysphoria feels like? April 28, 2022 at 11:51PM

Just reiterating this is 100% consensual! Also not saying hypnosis does or does not exist just that she’s into you acting like you are! Submitted April 29, 2022 at 12:13AM Just reiterating this is 100% consensual! Also not saying hypnosis does or does not exist just that she’s into you acting like you are!

I met a guy on Tinder in October 2021. We chatted here and there before finally meeting up IRL in February 2022. When we first started talking he said we are nothing more than FWB (focusing on my pleasure)...but he started showing interest in my life and telling me personal details about himself. Each time we see each other things get more and more intense. Our most recent meet-up he kissed me for the first time (twice!). It completely took me by surprise since he refused to kiss me the previous times, but I kissed him back. Since the kiss he has been awkward with me. How should I feel about this? I don't want to catch feelings if he doesn't actually have an interest in me. Sadly I think I'm starting to let my guard down. Submitted April 29, 2022 at 12:15AM I met a guy on Tinder in October 2021. We chatted here and there before finally meeting up IRL in February 2022. When we first started talking he said we are nothing more than FWB (focusing on my pleasure)...but h...

INFP April 28, 2022 at 12:51AM

it's confusing because my body wants to enjoy the reciprocating, but my brain doesn't like it April 28, 2022 at 12:51AM

Hi everybody … I think I might have problems to share my intimacy with a partner. In fact, its recent. I have dating a lot of men during the past two years , searching about a serious relationship, I am a 26F and sometimes it leads to sex if the connection is good , I clearly shared my intentions at first. I must admit, Ive been use and some guy wasnt honest at all. But for the past few months , I have sexual desire to please myself alone but I dont have desire to share my intimacy with someone. I just want to know what to do , if you have ever felt this and if you have tips . Right now, I have dating a guy 4 times and his interest seem honest and I am very interested and I find him very sexy but I am not feeling like Having sex with him and not only him but any guy… I dont know what to do… I would love to take this relationship deeper , I could tell him maybe… I dont know Submitted April 28, 2022 at 12:01AM Hi everybody … I think I might have problems to share my intimacy with ...

This man asked me to hangout recently and I said yes because I like him and I also hear from others that he likes me back. But it took forever for us to ask each other for our phone numbers mainly because of our anxiety. He tells me he has really bad social anxiety and I was wondering if any of you had any advice or experience that could help me get to know him better and open him up a bit more. Submitted April 28, 2022 at 12:02AM This man asked me to hangout recently and I said yes because I like him and I also hear from others that he likes me back. But it took forever for us to ask each other for our phone numbers mainly because of our anxiety. He tells me he has really bad social anxiety and I was wondering if any of you had any advice or experience that could help me get to know him better and open him up a bit more.

So my cousin on my mother's side recently got married to her boyfriend of 10+ years and it was a really nice wedding where I was her bridesmaid, but the story starts if we backpedal to a month ago. (I'm really bad at telling stories so sorry in advance.) Part of the wedding preparations was the RSVP website, so when my cousin shared the link with me, I looked through it. One of the pages was dedicated to the bridal party and groomsmen, so we all had our pictures on there. There was one guy I thought who was cute and it turned out that he's the groom's cousin. Fast forward a little bit, the bride's brother (also my cousin) was also one of the groomsmen and he went to the bachelor party. They pretty much all got drunk and started talking about the bridesmaids who they'll be paired up with based on height order. My cousin messaged me and asked me if I'm dating anyone and I tell him that I've never dated anyone, but then he just leaves it at that, which I...

I talked to this girl on a dating app a few years ago when she ghosted me. A month or so ago we matched again and she seemed familiar, but I forgot that we talked and what happened. We went on two dates (where she told me and apologized about the ghosting) and then we both got busy for a while. Two days ago she texts me and says she doesn’t feel a romantic connection to which I say, OK. Then she tells me that she would still want to hang out and smoke weed with me and we pick Wednesday after work. Today she cancels on me last minute with the exchange below. I’ve been feeling angry at people lately so I’m wondering whether my reaction was appropriate? Hey Jiayi, are we still on for today? I'm done with work at 5:30 so I'm good any time after that Hey Davor Yea I'm still down to hang out for a bit What's your address? I probably won't be free until after 6 No worries, drop by whenever you're free Sorry something came up and I have to watch someone's dog ...

Hey all. As it says in the title, I (27M) live with my dad and would like to start dating but obviously feel pretty unsure about it. A little context: My mom passed away in 2017 when I was 22, ever since I have stayed at home with my dad. I wouldn't say he needs me to take care of him or anything, he doesn't. But leaving him alone doesn't sit well with me because I feel guilt about leaving him to take care of the house and the dogs by himself. Obviously, he's a grown man and he raised me and of course there was a time he was living by himself and managed just fine. That said, he is getting on in years and there are times he worries me. I would like to add that aside from leaving him alone, there isn't much keeping me from moving out. I have a good job with a good paycheck, I pay bills, pay taxes, lots of adult stuff. I've never lived by myself but I'm capable of being independent enough to make it. The bottom line is this: I want to date and start MY life...

I've been hanging out with a girl I met on bumble for almost 2 months. We haven't talked about what we are or anything serious yet, but have slept together, grabbed drinks, dinner, and went on a picnic. Is it ok for me to get drinks with a different girl? Submitted April 28, 2022 at 12:14AM I've been hanging out with a girl I met on bumble for almost 2 months. We haven't talked about what we are or anything serious yet, but have slept together, grabbed drinks, dinner, and went on a picnic.Is it ok for me to get drinks with a different girl?

No idea. Anhedonia is a bitch. April 27, 2022 at 02:39AM

I've (22F) met up with a classmate(21m) from college two or three times over the past month. He asked me first to meet up outside of class and when we do meet up, we either go for a walk or hang out in his dorm room. He's a very lovely guy and we got on really well but I just can't tell what his intentions are. On one hand, there are some basic level flirting going on such as compliments, eye contact and hugging goodbye. But neither of us have moved beyond that since the first time we met up and I'm wondering if he intends to just be friends with me or maybe is too shy to make a move. Is there any way to differentiate between friendly hanging out and wanting to be more than friends? Submitted April 27, 2022 at 01:36AM I've (22F) met up with a classmate(21m) from college two or three times over the past month. He asked me first to meet up outside of class and when we do meet up, we either go for a walk or hang out in his dorm room. He's a very lovely guy...

I agree with this. I'm in my early 50's. Growing up there was no sex-ed in my school. No readily available resources for anyone questioning. Queer was a hateful slur for most of my life (that I hadn't even heard TBH). It's since been re-claimed, however many older generations of the queer Australian community hate the term still. I've always felt different to everyone I knew. I didn't self-examine because I didn't know to self examine my sexuality. So I'm a late bloomer, I guess. But that means that I am straight-passing. I supconsciously learned to blend in. To have the right responses, make the right jokes, pretend to have the same feelings. I feel that the younger generations experiences are completely different to my own. April 27, 2022 at 01:04AM

Please put the Powerpuff girls in front of this. Or even better, the Powerpuff girls but themed as different ace umbrella flags April 27, 2022 at 01:04AM

I wear an ace pride bracelet personally. I was gonna get a ring but then I saw my bracelet and fell in love lol. I should probably get a ring too soon. I've heard some people wear a silicone one. Apparently you can get them rather cheap. April 27, 2022 at 01:03AM

I’m not much into adult shows myself as it’s pretty much always sex jokes and I get tired of it pretty quick. I do watch some anime and some other shows though some can get pretty violent sometimes. One anime that I know is pretty violent and has a couple of characters with a revealing dress code but otherwise not sexualized is Demon Slayer. I got it recommended to me by a random cashier in Box Lunch and I absolutely loved it. April 27, 2022 at 01:02AM

Pal I consider us queer ² lol. In a society that's so dominated by sex to the point that almost every piece of adult media references or even includes it in some way, one of the strangest things you could possibly be is ace. Hell, I consider us queer ² because our experience is strange even within the queer community, as sex is a big thing for basically everyone else in it. I'm not a straight person, so I identify more with being queer. There are straight aces out there though and they're entirely valid, I think people should just use whatever label fits them best :))) April 27, 2022 at 01:01AM

some days ago i was waiting in the bus stop and saw this girl across the street who i thought had a cool style, she was with some friends, then a few minutes later she and one friend came to the same bus stop i was, they were talking and were looking back at me, we made a lot of eye contact, after some minutes i stepped back because i thought it was weird to look at each other, i saw them looking for me and then they walked to another bus stop where busses were emptier, so i just waited for my bus for like 10 minutes and when i enter the bus they were there and i got nervous and choose to sit in the back. When i left the bus they left too and as i was walking to my home one of them came and asked for my number, i was literally shaking, but she didn't notice because it was cold, she saw my first name and said her second name was the same, then we walked the same way and she asked where my house was. while i was having lunch she texted me, basically asked me where i study, we laughe...

Depends where and how intense April 26, 2022 at 12:32AM

So I have been texting this guy for like a week now, we are “planning to meet” this weekend. But everytime we talk is like 8hrs+ 🥲, well atleast for him to reply back to me. I don’t want to sound desperate or anything, it’s just kinda frustating to be interested in someone… few days he just replied after one full day. And I totally understand that people have different style of texting and are busy in their daily life. He did apologize one time and we kinda flirted as well during the time we talk, so I don’t know should I continue the convo and meet up..? Thank you so much for reading!! Submitted April 26, 2022 at 12:07AM So I have been texting this guy for like a week now, we are “planning to meet” this weekend. But everytime we talk is like 8hrs+ 🥲, well atleast for him to reply back to me. I don’t want to sound desperate or anything, it’s just kinda frustating to be interested in someone… few days he just replied after one full day. And I totally understand that people have...

I (f/22) just started talking to a guy on hinge and he asked for my number first, which I appreciate, but I’m slow to give out my number nowadays until I know him better. Which is a better option social media wise to give a guy to keep the conversations going, Instagram or Snapchat? Submitted April 26, 2022 at 12:09AM I (f/22) just started talking to a guy on hinge and he asked for my number first, which I appreciate, but I’m slow to give out my number nowadays until I know him better. Which is a better option social media wise to give a guy to keep the conversations going, Instagram or Snapchat?

I am 21F and I just started dating my ace girlfriend. She has told me about how she experiences being ace and a lot of what she talks about makes a lot of sense to me. I have had sex with my other girlfriends but it never really felt right. I experience sexual attraction but when I am having sex all I want is for it to end. I haven’t had sex in 4 years because I never considered I might be grey ace. I still am not really sure if I am grey ace or if I just don’t enjoy sex. Do I count as grey ace? Is it something else? I really just feel like I don’t really fit anywhere. April 25, 2022 at 11:41PM

Feeling a bit alienated by common allosexual behaviour is something many asexuals experience, while I would assume that it's uncommon for allos. And yes, it appears that "I kinda want to bang the person I just saw for the first time" is a common allo experience. From what information you gave us, I do not believe your experiences with that guy could give you a fear from relationships so deep that it would explain the lack of crushes and attraction. I'd assume that even if a bad experience caused a kind of fear of relationships, it wouldn't change your ability to feel attraction. Meanwhile, the scenario, that you had a bad experience, because you didn't have the feelings nor knowledge to handle the situation due to not feeling the way others do, seems quite logical in my opinion. Masturbating and appeciating sexual content can be part of an asexual experience. Actually it's probably what many aegosexuals experience ( Glossary , if you need). Not every fo...

THIS. I once showed a guy a picture of a funky squash I found at a pumpkin patch, that I really liked and thought was cute. He said, and I quote: "damn what are you doing with that later🥵" I was disgusted. April 25, 2022 at 01:43AM

Keep in mind, I'm a girl as well n have NO idea if she's gay or not😅. I ALSO have no classes or any mutual friends with her. So plz help me out on what I should do or how to approach her well. Submitted April 25, 2022 at 01:15AM Keep in mind, I'm a girl as well n have NO idea if she's gay or not😅. I ALSO have no classes or any mutual friends with her. So plz help me out on what I should do or how to approach her well.

first of all its desperately :| second of all ye sure i can be your friend :D April 25, 2022 at 12:26AM

hey guys! I need some advice on my relationship and where it should be in the future? So, I’ve been dating my boyfriend for about six years and everything is going smoothly. We live together, we have a pet, we hang out with both of our families and friends. However, he hasn’t asked me to go ring shopping. Now I know a lot of people are going to say well he shouldn’t? But he doesn’t even know my ring size. i’m at the point in my life where I’m about to graduate graduate school and about to start a new job, I feel as if I am ready to be engaged at this point in my life. He says that he will be proposing soon and already knows how he’s going to do it? But how is he going to do that if he doesn’t know my ring size, because I don’t even know mine. I see all my friends and family around me getting engaged and going ring shopping together, I just feel some type of way. Submitted April 25, 2022 at 12:12AM hey guys! I need some advice on my relationship and where it should be in the futu...

Would you use the cars or some dinosaurs??? April 24, 2022 at 11:30PM

I have fairly big anger issues, I get mad easily and I get really fucking mad when it happens. It’s gotten to the point where my girl could be messing and joking around but I get pissed off and then we don’t talk for a while. I really have 0 idea what to do. I’ve tried anger management and meditation and shit and it didn’t work. I need help because I’m gonna fuck up my relationship because of my fucking problems and this girl is the only girl I’ve ever loved and the only person I’ve ever loved so much. Please just give me some advice so I can try fix myself Submitted April 24, 2022 at 01:12AM I have fairly big anger issues, I get mad easily and I get really fucking mad when it happens. It’s gotten to the point where my girl could be messing and joking around but I get pissed off and then we don’t talk for a while. I really have 0 idea what to do. I’ve tried anger management and meditation and shit and it didn’t work. I need help because I’m gonna fuck up my relationship because ...

Is cheesecake a cake or a pie? April 24, 2022 at 12:28AM

So I (M25) have been doing my own thing for the past couple months. Gym, work, friends, minor hobbies, thats it. I'm open to meeting people but not really a primary focus at the moment. But I have no idea what is happneing with my luck. Recently had met a girl at an event a friend of mine had at her college so I went to visit. We talked, flirted, danced and turns out we have similar tastes in alot of stuff. Anyways, I asked her I could get to know her better and take her and she said yes. So we get to know eachother over a few weeks I go visit my friend here and there and see her of course. We don't go out though since the last month of school has her busy but is down after. I go back one weekend for a party. Things take a weird turn when my friend introduces me to her other friends, mostly women, and they proceed to start aggresively flirting. It's drunk college girls so nothing uncommon but I just wasn't interested. Anyways my friend tells everyone I'm looking f...

By the logic of you can't know until you have tried most straight people would go as possible bi until they have tried gay sex. That is not how it works. Allos feel sexual attraction before their first time so no you don't need to try it to know April 23, 2022 at 11:29PM

Came out my immediate family last year. They said they accepted me but then started making homophobic and aphobic remarks towards me, basically stating that I’ve been “brainwashed by TikTok” (yes they actually said this) and that I’m just going through a phase because I’m lonely. I’m in a same sex relationship and I mentioned this was when I came out. Regarding my relationship, they tried to convince me that my feelings toward my boyfriend weren’t real and that I only “think” that I feel romantic attraction towards him because, again, I’m apparently “lonely”. If anyone loses any brain cells reading this, I don’t blame you. April 23, 2022 at 11:28PM

I'll do it but I won't like it? April 23, 2022 at 01:24AM

I had a partner for roughly a year and a half, which for what it's worth, it included having sex a bunch. Was it enjoyable? Barely. I enjoy my own company way better. Did I think I was sexually attracted to him? Yeah. Was I? No. Turns out I'm demisexual, and after a two year friend (and my breakup), I found out what sexual attraction is supposed to feel like. I'm tired of how little we're being taught about what sexual or romantic attraction. I thought wanting x and y to be my friend was a crush. I thought feeling comfortable around someone meant I liked them romantically. Can you blame me? When people hypersexualize babies for so little as stare at a person of the opposite sex, we're just teaching them and nearby children that liking how a person looks means you have a crush on them. I suffered for years bc I thought my emotions were those worthy of a relationship, while all they were was the comfort that I'm "normal". "This is what it's...

I’m in my twenties and I’m a regular average or slightly above average dude. I don’t got a six pack or anything, but I think I have a nice face and I’m graduating college with a degree in engineering. However, not once in my entire life, I’ve never had any “success” with any women. I have been on 3 first dates with women I’ve met on tinder. I have not met one person in real life who has been into me. All my social circles throughout my life have been filled with men, wether it be highschool friends or a college major where 80% are guys. Im generally well liked by everyone and maintain a good reputation. I’m very good at making friends, I have a lot of acquaintance type friends, but im talking about making REAL friends. I have no problems socializing with people. However even though I am able to make friends very easily with people (guys). I can NEVER form any type of relationship with a girl other than a mere acquaintance. You would think if I just talk to a lot of girls things w...

Same here - I think :) April 23, 2022 at 12:12AM

I’ve been dating this guy for about 3 months now. He’s in a boys trip and he sends me snips of his day and what not. Is this normal. It feels nice to be in the loop or is he trying to make me jealous. I feel like I’m overthinking this Submitted April 23, 2022 at 12:12AM I’ve been dating this guy for about 3 months now. He’s in a boys trip and he sends me snips of his day and what not. Is this normal. It feels nice to be in the loop or is he trying to make me jealous. I feel like I’m overthinking this

A brief history, me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years, living together for 2. Since moving in I feel like we have taken a nose dive! Just about every section in relationship is suffering and I've offered to fix things, change things, end things, you name it... Bottom line he thinks we can continue work on us and that every thing will work itself out.... With that being sad, he turns 50 this wknd and will be having a big party 1 state over, where he moved from. I've gone back and forth way too many times on if I should go or not. I know most of you are gonna think I'm an awful girlfriend to but go but just last night we broke up, we're back together today but this is us! I don't want to be around his family and friends and have to pretend we're happy and celebrate him. He plans on going early in the day which means I'm gonna have to go later and show up alone, I already feel like he's gonna act like I'm not even there because when he...

Asked out a girl I work with and she said yes. We text on a daily basis and she knows I like her a lot. We click really well and she laughs at my jokes. When I asked her if she likes me back she said she wants to get to know me better. What does it take to know each other well enough? How will I know she likes me? Also.. I really want to hold her hand but I am not sure if that's okay to do yet. Submitted April 22, 2022 at 01:13AM Asked out a girl I work with and she said yes. We text on a daily basis and she knows I like her a lot. We click really well and she laughs at my jokes.When I asked her if she likes me back she said she wants to get to know me better.What does it take to know each other well enough? How will I know she likes me?Also.. I really want to hold her hand but I am not sure if that's okay to do yet.

This is an old canard of theirs. And we still bring up the same thing you said. Do marriages that can't reproduce count? What about women who have gone through menopause? Do they lose all of their rights? No one ever had a good answer. April 22, 2022 at 12:43AM

Yeah, that's fair. I don't know any ace person irl (at least no one open about it), I have only talked to aces online in websites where the population is mostly american. Just curious, where are you from? April 22, 2022 at 12:42AM

A nicely organized and Dewey Decimaled (or LC for those into that) personal library would definitely be a turn-on for me. I'd at least stare lovingly at it for hours. April 22, 2022 at 12:40AM

I just got her number before break and we’re talking a decent amount. I was wondering how to talk to her in real life when we see again because we have gotten closer over text. Submitted April 22, 2022 at 12:11AM I just got her number before break and we’re talking a decent amount. I was wondering how to talk to her in real life when we see again because we have gotten closer over text.

I was out of a LDR/LTR of 5 years a month ago. It was a mutual break up. And since then I have been working on better myself, mentally, physically, emotionally, explore new hobbies. I am also taking time off work, so I have lots time on my hand to have fun and self improve. Anyway, after the break up, I was on a dating app looking to meet new people/fun dates/fwb, but nothing serious. It's my first time using dating app, and I had a few meh dates and some fwbs. Nothing really worth mentioning. I have been very careful about separating sex and emotional attachments. Getting back on topic, last week I matched with this really cute guy, my type 100% (I know it's superficial, but he is really beautiful for fwb.) While we exchanged texts, he was respective, honest, straightforward and attentive. We went on first date this Monday for a drink. He is even more beautiful in person, and a total gentleman, funny, caring and understanding. We have similarities, and it was an instant co...

I make a ton of sex jokes but I can understand the struggle April 21, 2022 at 01:05AM

I've (26F) been seeing a guy (28M) for 5 weeks now. We talk, whether texting or phone, everyday and night and we see each other 3-4 times a week. It's obvious we both really enjoy each other and aren't seeing other people. The last two weekends we have spent the entirety of together. I've even met his friends. All in all, we behave as though we are boyfriend and girlfriend but I understand it's still early on in the scheme of things. I was wondering when you think is a good time line to bring up the "what are we?" / "Do you see this becoming serious and having a label" conversation? And how do I go about approaching it? Thanks in advance :) Submitted April 21, 2022 at 01:15AM I've (26F) been seeing a guy (28M) for 5 weeks now. We talk, whether texting or phone, everyday and night and we see each other 3-4 times a week. It's obvious we both really enjoy each other and aren't seeing other people. The last two weekends we have ...

Even if you did "find the right person" and suddenly didn't feel ace anymore, it doesn't change that you feel that way now. It might be worth explaining to her that, even if you later find out you're allo , as of now, you're ace, and that best describes your experience April 21, 2022 at 12:21AM

Is it sunk or mega sunk for me? Submitted April 21, 2022 at 12:14AM Is it sunk or mega sunk for me?

You’re welcome! April 20, 2022 at 11:04PM

I am 26M I got out of a 2 year relationship in December. She was gorgeous and I have had trouble recovering. I don’t know how to meet or escalate with women anymore. Submitted April 20, 2022 at 01:14AM I am 26M I got out of a 2 year relationship in December. She was gorgeous and I have had trouble recovering. I don’t know how to meet or escalate with women anymore.

also: be ace, aim for the face April 20, 2022 at 12:44AM

Mine is generally along the lines of “People who think they can change someones sexuality by sleeping with them should go fuck a cactus and see if that awakens anything in them”, although I don’t know if I’d have the confidence to actually say that someone April 20, 2022 at 12:44AM

Break up - how to move on and start living again - help needed ! (Gay) (26 year old male) Bad breakup - how do I move on (gays) Long story… I’m sorry. But help is really needed I have been with a guy, named “Alex” for 2 years. I met him on tinder and knew immediately I was in love. I’ve never been in a relationship, had a positive intimacy experience or was even comfortably out yet. I wasn’t attracted to anyone I have ever met before, but this was the one first to me. Went on a date, went great. I thought he was awesome and just was attracted to everything about him. He was basically your typically masculine guy. Loved guns, was super knowledgeable about life skills, had a great social network, and loved his job and outside hobbies. He seemed to have it all. We officially started dating 6 months later (not sure if we were both busy, he ghosted me a couple times and he might have still been in a relationship but that’s later to come). It was amazing. We hung out and I stayed over ...

I want to settle for a guy I know because I’ve been single for almost 8 years and I can’t wait any longer. I’ve a lot going on in my life and I just want a distraction. I’m just at a very confused point and I think just dating someone to pass time is the solution. Submitted April 20, 2022 at 12:15AM I want to settle for a guy I know because I’ve been single for almost 8 years and I can’t wait any longer. I’ve a lot going on in my life and I just want a distraction. I’m just at a very confused point and I think just dating someone to pass time is the solution.

Both! Aego fits for enjoying porn and the idea of sex. Sex-favorable (accidentally wrote positive, still fairly new to all of this!) means that you’re not put off by the idea of sex or indifferent to it, you would like to have sex (some aces can enjoy sex for a multitude of reasons besides sexual attraction). So there are sex-favorable aces that aren’t aego because they don’t enjoy porn or other typical mental stimuli that allos enjoy! April 19, 2022 at 11:23PM