Someone showed strong signs of interest but passive-aggressively turned me down

During quarantine, I (20m) would text/snap this one girl (20f). We agreed to meet when quarantine was over/when school reopened. She would send (unsolicited) risque pictures to me often and on some days sent 30+ snaps to me. We had many long conversations together late into the night. She even would often ask me about my mental health and told me things like "I'm always here if you need someone." However, when school reopened a year after we started talking to each other, she passive-aggressively turned me down when I asked to meet up. She say things like "yes definitely," but then "I need to check my schedule," but then still talk to me a ton. I asked one last time, and she responded "why?" and then said yes, then said maybe later, then ghosted me all together without explaining anything. This whole time I was polite, didn't push, and made clear that if she didn't want to meet that it was okay.

I've talked to many people since her, but it still bugs me that she showed such strong signs of interest, says she definitely wants to hang out, but then completely ghosts me without explaining. It's been months since last we talked but I still can't get over her and worry I'll fall for someone who disregards me again. The reason I'm asking is because I want to know for future reference how to improve.

Submitted April 29, 2022 at 01:13AM

During quarantine, I (20m) would text/snap this one girl (20f). We agreed to meet when quarantine was over/when school reopened. She would send (unsolicited) risque pictures to me often and on some days sent 30+ snaps to me. We had many long conversations together late into the night. She even would often ask me about my mental health and told me things like "I'm always here if you need someone." However, when school reopened a year after we started talking to each other, she passive-aggressively turned me down when I asked to meet up. She say things like "yes definitely," but then "I need to check my schedule," but then still talk to me a ton. I asked one last time, and she responded "why?" and then said yes, then said maybe later, then ghosted me all together without explaining anything. This whole time I was polite, didn't push, and made clear that if she didn't want to meet that it was okay.I've talked to many people since her, but it still bugs me that she showed such strong signs of interest, says she definitely wants to hang out, but then completely ghosts me without explaining. It's been months since last we talked but I still can't get over her and worry I'll fall for someone who disregards me again. The reason I'm asking is because I want to know for future reference how to improve.