What do you think of this text I made following a date?

2/M here. Went on my first date of the year yesterday. This woman was very talkative, curious and sprightly. She asked me questions about my Masters degree in music and my practice in experimental music and I inquired about her profession in art auctioneering and her background in art school. She established earlier on Tinder (where we matched) that she had Covid and that she needed to complete her compulsory 7 day isolation before we met IRL(both of us are triple vaxxed btw). However 45 minutes into the date she told me that she was feeling exhausted and made her pretty slow with thinking and conversing. I noticed she was distracting with her phone as we were talking, which led me to inquire whether she gets inundated with work emails (which she admitted so). We pay for our drinks at the bar and go outside and I tell her I like how quirky and conversant she is, to which she is flattered and says she gets a lot of nasty responses from guys. She then asks which direction I am walking and we promptly part when I establish I am going in the opposite direction.

I later text to her:

“Just so we’re on the same page, was that a ‘I am genuinely tired and would be keen to see you again’ or a ‘I’m no longer interested and let’s leave it at that tired’? “

Her texting towards the end left me a little suspicious and I was a little skeptical that someone fully vaxxed would still feel wearisome after fully recovering from COVID. I am also autistic and favour direct communication. I am attempting to implement this more into my social interaction. I am not all that concerned whether I come across as a dick in this text, I am just demonstrating what I highly value in relationships from the get go.

UPDATE: she said she was genuinely tired and wants to leave it at that.



Submitted April 29, 2022 at 11:59PM

2/M here. Went on my first date of the year yesterday. This woman was very talkative, curious and sprightly. She asked me questions about my Masters degree in music and my practice in experimental music and I inquired about her profession in art auctioneering and her background in art school. She established earlier on Tinder (where we matched) that she had Covid and that she needed to complete her compulsory 7 day isolation before we met IRL(both of us are triple vaxxed btw). However 45 minutes into the date she told me that she was feeling exhausted and made her pretty slow with thinking and conversing. I noticed she was distracting with her phone as we were talking, which led me to inquire whether she gets inundated with work emails (which she admitted so). We pay for our drinks at the bar and go outside and I tell her I like how quirky and conversant she is, to which she is flattered and says she gets a lot of nasty responses from guys. She then asks which direction I am walking and we promptly part when I establish I am going in the opposite direction.I later text to her:“Just so we’re on the same page, was that a ‘I am genuinely tired and would be keen to see you again’ or a ‘I’m no longer interested and let’s leave it at that tired’? “Her texting towards the end left me a little suspicious and I was a little skeptical that someone fully vaxxed would still feel wearisome after fully recovering from COVID. I am also autistic and favour direct communication. I am attempting to implement this more into my social interaction. I am not all that concerned whether I come across as a dick in this text, I am just demonstrating what I highly value in relationships from the get go.UPDATE: she said she was genuinely tired and wants to leave it at that.

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