What do I do? I feel stuck

Hi, I'm a 25F and I feel kinda stuck at the moment. I've never had a real bf, and it seems like all the guys I come into contact with either overlook me, look down on me, treat me like a last option, ghost, already have a gf, etc. It doesn't help that I'm a dark skinned (black and Indian) woman living in an area where women with the features with the exact opposite of mine (white, blonde, light eyes) are seen as goddesses. I cannot leave because I'm studying grad school and want to get my PhD. I'm studying engineering btw, so there is no diversity in my field. Everyone is always saying how easy it is for women to find guys, but I guess I must not be a real woman because it has been the complete opposite for me. And yes, I do make the first move a lot of times because I won't get anywhere if I sit and wait.

I don't think it's my weight or anything because I'm quite thin. I'd love some advice as to how I can spruce up my look since I think I really need a good makeover since I've had the same hairstyle and clothes since I was 17 or 18. I can link a picture here: https://imgur.com/a/39trynC

I have tried talking to guys of all backgrounds and ethnicities, and always fail. Don't bother telling me to go on dating sites because I have PTSD from it and have extreme anxiety when I go on one that I always delete my account after 30 minutes. It's not like I get any matches anyway. The few that I do get either never answer, give one word answers, or ghost, so I'm pretty sure they're bots or something. I hated putting in all the work and knowing it was all for nothing

What do I do? Should I just accept that I'm ugly and there's nothing I can do at the moment. I know guys want a sexy hot woman that they can be proud of showing off, whereas that seems to be the opposite for me. Guys treat me so differently than how they treat my friends and other girls and it really takes a toll on my confidence. Please give me some advice.



Submitted May 01, 2022 at 12:02AM

Hi, I'm a 25F and I feel kinda stuck at the moment. I've never had a real bf, and it seems like all the guys I come into contact with either overlook me, look down on me, treat me like a last option, ghost, already have a gf, etc. It doesn't help that I'm a dark skinned (black and Indian) woman living in an area where women with the features with the exact opposite of mine (white, blonde, light eyes) are seen as goddesses. I cannot leave because I'm studying grad school and want to get my PhD. I'm studying engineering btw, so there is no diversity in my field. Everyone is always saying how easy it is for women to find guys, but I guess I must not be a real woman because it has been the complete opposite for me. And yes, I do make the first move a lot of times because I won't get anywhere if I sit and wait.I don't think it's my weight or anything because I'm quite thin. I'd love some advice as to how I can spruce up my look since I think I really need a good makeover since I've had the same hairstyle and clothes since I was 17 or 18. I can link a picture here: https://ift.tt/wChG1mA have tried talking to guys of all backgrounds and ethnicities, and always fail. Don't bother telling me to go on dating sites because I have PTSD from it and have extreme anxiety when I go on one that I always delete my account after 30 minutes. It's not like I get any matches anyway. The few that I do get either never answer, give one word answers, or ghost, so I'm pretty sure they're bots or something. I hated putting in all the work and knowing it was all for nothingWhat do I do? Should I just accept that I'm ugly and there's nothing I can do at the moment. I know guys want a sexy hot woman that they can be proud of showing off, whereas that seems to be the opposite for me. Guys treat me so differently than how they treat my friends and other girls and it really takes a toll on my confidence. Please give me some advice.
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