Thanks for coming to my Ted talk March 01, 2022 at 12:27AM

In this case, I do think it was a misinterpretation — because I would do something that I intended as romantic, and they would misinterpret it as friendly, because they were seeing things through an allo lens. They did act interested, interested enough to go on 5 dates. However, it is true that in the end we were not compatible. It’s just frustrating, which was the point of my vent. I feel like saying I need to look somewhere else for love is supremely unhelpful. March 01, 2022 at 12:23AM

I'm aego, but I can't get into anything visual at all, because nudity, and also a lot of sexual things seem kind of funny/ridiculous to me as visuals and it pulls me out of it. March 01, 2022 at 12:18AM

I'm fine with people being naked in movies, but it looks funny to me, which I think is not the intent. March 01, 2022 at 12:16AM

I mean, you’re sexually attracted to people so it would just depend on who you’re attracted to. As for the sex not being important, I don’t think there’s a word for that, at least that I know of. It’s most likely just a preference thing. March 01, 2022 at 12:16AM

My immediate reaction for clothes on a first date is usually something like jeans. But it’s kind of uncomfortable when the date is something like watching a movie, so my question is is it’s a bad idea to wear casual sweatpants or something like that on a first date? For context, I have nice sweatpants and I usually wear them from day to day anyway, so jeans are kind of “dressing up” for me Submitted March 01, 2022 at 12:11AM My immediate reaction for clothes on a first date is usually something like jeans. But it’s kind of uncomfortable when the date is something like watching a movie, so my question is is it’s a bad idea to wear casual sweatpants or something like that on a first date? For context, I have nice sweatpants and I usually wear them from day to day anyway, so jeans are kind of “dressing up” for me

You know you're ace if you do not experience sexual attraction. This isn't something that (in a non-ace person) is only felt towards a partner. Allosexual people will feel attraction towards strangers as well, so if you don't then that could be a sign. As for having previously felt attraction, take a look at the ace microlabel erassexual. https://lgbta.miraheze.org/wiki/Erassexual February 28, 2022 at 11:07PM

There's a whole world of drama that's just, not my circus. Not my monkeys. Ahhhhh. So relaxing. But I think my favorite part is having a unique perspective that lets me see things from angles that are hard for allos to imagine. I feel like that part can actually be useful, and interesting. February 28, 2022 at 12:31AM

yeah i’m newly ace and have looked around at ethical non-monogamy as well. it’s very mixed, some people have a great time and some not so much. we’ve still yet to try it, as we are taking it slow, but there has been a lot of discussions on about it, rules and boundaries etc. in mine and my partners eyes, we see it as, yes, just because i don’t have sexual attraction and he does, and we aren’t as sexually active as the “normal” couple is, doesn’t mean we are not compatible. we are compatible in so many other ways. there’s so many other attractions too, romantic, sensual, aesthetic, platonic etc that you can be compatible in and that could be the same for you and your girlfriend. for ethical non-monogamy side of things, at the end of the day, my partner said to me, “it’s just sex, it’s you i’ll be living my life with and coming home to” and for us, it’s definitely worth a try because it could turn out amazing, and it could be the best thing we’ve done. and if sadly, if it doesn’t work,...

Not ever acting like that one person who screams, “I’m gonna die a virgin”or get upset over never having an SO. Back when I was in middle school, people were obsessed with wanting a boyfriend/girlfriend. They would even openly admit it. It was strange as to how they would be more focused on that then their grades. February 28, 2022 at 12:26AM

For me it’s realizing that I have more control over my life. From my perspective a lot of people are always obsessing over sex. I felt weird because it wasn’t like sex took over a large amount of my life. I’m happy with my own interests and not needing to focus all my time on one main thing that it seems most other people do February 28, 2022 at 12:25AM

It's rape culture, too. There's this whole "I know you want it" thing, like they think their crotch magic can conquer all, and "no" just means their target is playing hard to get in some invitation for them to prove they can make anyone accept and enjoy their advances if they just try hard enough. It absolutely does my head in. I don't understand how anyone can think that way, much less act on it. But the media and culture keeps perpetuating that attitude. I believe it's on its way out but I do wish it would die faster. February 28, 2022 at 12:24AM

I'm going out with a coworker later and I want to have things to talk about in advance. Submitted February 28, 2022 at 12:15AM I'm going out with a coworker later and I want to have things to talk about in advance.

Okay, honestly, I’m really shy talking about my relationship life because I feel I’ve always been the one who gets hurt at the end. Okay, I (29M)started dating my ex (27F) in 2020, during the Pandemic, so we didn’t really see each other till the 6th month and we’ve been dating till this January till things happened then we decided to end the relationship. But then I realised that I’ve never been in love. Like I don’t know or have never felt it. I don’t know if it is because I’m not in a relationship then I feel I’ve never felt love. I really need advice on building a relationship with love. Genuine love. Submitted February 28, 2022 at 12:15AM Okay, honestly, I’m really shy talking about my relationship life because I feel I’ve always been the one who gets hurt at the end. Okay, I (29M)started dating my ex (27F) in 2020, during the Pandemic, so we didn’t really see each other till the 6th month and we’ve been dating till this January till things happened then we decided to end th...

Ok I get it :-) February 26, 2022 at 11:26PM

So this girl and I matched on a dating app (bumble) last night. She’s good looking and she’s really into me which is great and all… but then she gave me her Instagram (I didn’t ask her for it) and I found out she has a 3 year old kid… the girl is 22.. and I’m 25. Is her having a 3 year old son a red flag situation 🚩? I’m looking for a girlfriend not one who is already a mother… Any advice is greatly appreciated. Submitted February 27, 2022 at 12:13AM So this girl and I matched on a dating app (bumble) last night. She’s good looking and she’s really into me which is great and all… but then she gave me her Instagram (I didn’t ask her for it) and I found out she has a 3 year old kid… the girl is 22.. and I’m 25. Is her having a 3 year old son a red flag situation 🚩?I’m looking for a girlfriend not one who is already a mother…Any advice is greatly appreciated.

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Pretty much everyone in the main cast can be considered neurodivergent (ADHD being the other one). February 26, 2022 at 11:24PM

I got introduced to porn very young with magazines and then went to video a few years later. Watch enough porn and it's like having every channel avaliable but still having a difficult time trying to find something to watch. I hardly watch porn nowadays and I can see how someone wouldn't like porn. We're all different and not watching porn isn't a bad thing. February 26, 2022 at 11:20PM

I would say people favor attractive (like even aesthetically, like pretty) people more often even at a subconcious level, but I also think people tend to like you a lot more (sometimes find you more attractive) if you show you’re confident. You’d be surprised how far confidence goes (but it can be hard to be confident I know) February 26, 2022 at 11:18PM

I thought that nobody feels attractions and others just fake it better than me. February 26, 2022 at 11:18PM

Basically she been stressed recently and some what distant so I asked her whats up, and she responded with that. She wants to talk in person and we will probably talk on Monday. I'm worried she's lost interest, I plan to take it respectfully of course but is there anything I can do in in these next two days? Submitted February 26, 2022 at 01:14AM Basically she been stressed recently and some what distant so I asked her whats up, and she responded with that. She wants to talk in person and we will probably talk on Monday.I'm worried she's lost interest, I plan to take it respectfully of course but is there anything I can do in in these next two days?

I approve ☺️ February 26, 2022 at 12:17AM

Yesss, & cacti are a vibe February 26, 2022 at 12:15AM

Basically, in the past I never really put myself out there due to self esteem and confidence issues which I have since gotten past but now I realise I basically have the relationship experience of a 14 year old... Submitted February 26, 2022 at 12:15AM Basically, in the past I never really put myself out there due to self esteem and confidence issues which I have since gotten past but now I realise I basically have the relationship experience of a 14 year old...

I agree 😁its good for poc to have there own safe spaces February 25, 2022 at 11:13PM

WELL WE ALLOSEXUAL MOTHERFUCKERS LOVE U February 25, 2022 at 01:55AM

Happy cake day!😀 February 25, 2022 at 01:54AM

(Repost cus used my account which has my name in it haha) I (23M) was working with this girl (21F) for a few months in a bar but quit before Christmas and only seen her once since. She's the first person that I really felt I wanted to pursue something with since my ex broke up with me 2 years ago, haven't dated anyone since. But problem is that the first time we hung out for work drinks when she first started i got super drunk, we ended up leaving together and I tried to kiss her. Didn't remember in the morning until I spoke to someone else I worked with who she'd told. Obviously felt really bad and apologised and she seemed to actually fine about it, but I still a bit embarrassed and guilty. But even after that happened we would still talk a lot during our shifts and we'd occasionally text as well and I sort of felt like we were flirting but I was never sure as she's a very bubbly person and seems to get on really well with everyone. Also she's super gorg...

yes, i have panic attacks, but no, i don’t have a condition & i don’t need help. February 25, 2022 at 12:51AM

I was quite surprised myself at the team names they chose when I checked the quiz. They're a creative bunch lol February 25, 2022 at 12:51AM

I finally decided to come to this subreddit because I’ve been thinking about this for months. I generally consider myself straight, I have only ever had relationships with men. However, nearing the end of my last relationship with a guy, I noticed that I couldn’t help but admire my best friend. Her and I have been so close since we were 3 years old and we grew up together. Here and there I have had some passing thoughts about her that were maybe a bit different than what I usually would. After I ended my relationship with that guy (for a completely unrelated reason), I found myself contemplating it more and more. I notice myself staring at her more, which I’ve never done before. She’s bisexual, but is only recently exploring her sexuality. There’s been a few times where she has mentioned a bad sex story or something she’d wish someone would do to her, and immediately my first thought is something along the lines of “I could do that, but better.” Whenever she talks about someone she li...

I like erotic fiction as well, but I also get that dirty, unsettled feeling from reading it. I think for sex repulsed asexuals it's about finding our limits, asking what can we do in the moment as well as how will it make us feel later. Experiments are necessary and we need to be kind to ourselves. February 24, 2022 at 12:27AM

Heyo, 21F here, on 75mg of Zoloft, have been for a while now. I go through periods where I feel like I genuinely feel myself getting aroused and it’s amazing but then I go through periods where nothing turns me on, at least not a lot. Is this normal? I have the best partner who is very understanding but I feel bad because I feel like I’ve taken my frustrations out on him a bit - it has made my communication during sex a little rusty. I don’t want to disappoint him, I want him to be satisfied, and I want to have more sex! I just wish it didn’t take so much for me to get in the mood :( Submitted February 24, 2022 at 12:15AM Heyo, 21F here, on 75mg of Zoloft, have been for a while now. I go through periods where I feel like I genuinely feel myself getting aroused and it’s amazing but then I go through periods where nothing turns me on, at least not a lot. Is this normal? I have the best partner who is very understanding but I feel bad because I feel like I’ve taken my frustrations ...

That line stung. :( February 23, 2022 at 11:34PM

Whoa. This explains a fair amount about me. But it leaves me with some questions as well. Like, okay, so I definitely am the responsive type, but now what? And can I fix it a little? February 23, 2022 at 11:33PM

I have a plan, it’s illegal for “Ethical reasons” right now, but I’m planning on cloning! February 23, 2022 at 11:32PM

I was surprised that most anime watchers are horny, I am from japan, and everyone seems decent February 23, 2022 at 11:32PM

He could be Demisexual or Greysexual or fully Asexual but occasionally experiencing sexual attraction or maybe what seemed like sexual attraction was another type of attraction like sensual attraction either way only he can say what orientation he identifies as so if he chooses to identify as Ace accept that February 23, 2022 at 11:27PM

STOP!!!!! The ace urge to have a dragon tattoo is increasing. I just don't have any tattoos, because i know that i'll regret it after the hype pass, i'm always like this, but a dragon tattoo would have an important meaning, so... February 23, 2022 at 12:21AM

I’ve been on 4 dates with a new man who I met on bumble and we have had sex. He doesn’t seem like much of a texter generally and there have often been a few days between texts but he always seems keen in person. He is also spacing out dates every couple of weeks but usually because of weekends away or existing plans. I felt like last week I was doing all of the initiating so took a step back. I have not heard anything from him since and it has been 3/4 days, although this has happened in the past (5 day gap) and we started talking again to arrange another date. I would usually write this off as not interested but on our last date he suggested we were exclusive and that it would be over if I was involved with anyone else Is this a ‘slow burner’ or does it seem like I could be wasting my time? Submitted February 22, 2022 at 11:01PM I’ve been on 4 dates with a new man who I met on bumble and we have had sex.He doesn’t seem like much of a texter generally and there have often be...

A few weeks ago I was on the dating app, hinge and swiping right/left on the profiles. I swiped right on this guy not realizing what would happen next. I then looked more into his profile, and it said he went to the same college as me. I was like why am I getting a guy from near my college town? We chat back and forth a little, and he even looks oddly familiar. It’s confirmed we went to the same school, however he’s 1/2 years older than me. We talked about how we wanted to go on a date together, then I realized he lives in Syracuse. I was like how am I getting you from Syracuse when I’m in NYC, and you saw my profile from where you are. I then realized my profile was accidentally located near my college town and I never changed it. I told him, and we thought it was so funny. Anyways, he’s like I can totally drive down one weekend to see you. I was all for it! We swapped phone numbers, and then I got his Instagram. That’s when my jaw dropped. He had a kid on his account that looked e...

I kissed my girlfriend for the first time a while ago and it was BAD, she clearly didn't enjoy it at all and I realized I was bad at it, I can't believe I'm asking this, but HOW TO KISS? I'm sorry if this is the wrong sub, please let me know where can I get help with this situation if this isn't the place Submitted February 22, 2022 at 06:53PM I kissed my girlfriend for the first time a while ago and it was BAD, she clearly didn't enjoy it at all and I realized I was bad at it, I can't believe I'm asking this, but HOW TO KISS?I'm sorry if this is the wrong sub, please let me know where can I get help with this situation if this isn't the place

I (28F) have been seeing a guy (27M) for a few months. He has told me that he's not seeing anyone else, that he is looking to settle down and properly date with me, and I'm hoping this would become something long-term. He's also introduced me to a couple of his friends (they all know that we're dating). Which I do appreciate. A few weeks in seeing, I noticed that majority of his friends are girls. He did explain that there's nothing going on and nothing will ever go on between them. I do believe that friendship can exist with one's opposite sex, and that in itself doesn't bother me much. I told him he's a rare breed, but I understand that they're all your close friends and I'd be happy to meet them too/ get to know them if that also makes him happy. Then there is this one girl, one of his closest friends now. She's the most beautiful girl that I have probably ever met (could easily be taken as a model/actress) , extremely successful in her...

Mostly raised by a single parent and I feel like I never really had someone teach me how to date and I had to discover/learn for myself. I didn't grow up watching a loving relationship so had to find it for myself. Wondering if being raised by a single parent has affected anyone else. Submitted February 23, 2022 at 12:27AM Mostly raised by a single parent and I feel like I never really had someone teach me how to date and I had to discover/learn for myself. I didn't grow up watching a loving relationship so had to find it for myself. Wondering if being raised by a single parent has affected anyone else.

and then feeling sensual attraction towards masc people and some type of romantic attraction towards femme people and also fantasising. lol i’m mostly confused i guess. February 22, 2022 at 11:50PM

Fair point. February 21, 2022 at 11:42PM

yes that’s basically what I feel I will check this out, thanks 🙏 February 21, 2022 at 11:40PM

You could be graysexual (or gray-asexual). This label means you identify in between asexual and allosexual. People may use this label if they experience sexual attraction very rarely, only under certain circumstances, or fluctuate between having and not having sexual attraction (source: https://acesandaros.org/learn/the-asexual-umbrella ) Good news is, your bf sounds super accepting and supportive. I don’t think you need to worry about him so much. He seems okay either way in regards to sex. So, try to experiment a little and see how it goes. Take as much time as you need and don’t progress further than you’re comfortable. As for your bf thinking your body is gross, that’s not very likely. He obviously cares for you and most guys are just happy they’re seeing a naked person at all. And you won’t be an expert at kissing or anything else until you practice. Everyone starts off not quite knowing what they’re doing, but you’ll learn. Or you’ll decide it’s not for you. Either way, you’ll...

I will do thanks! February 21, 2022 at 11:35PM

Basically title. I have been approached quite a bit and some stories are quite funny, so I bring it up sometimes if the context is right. Or sometimes I like to joke about how despite a lot of guys approaching me no girls ever hit on me or seem to be interested (I’m bi, it’s a struggle). I mentioned it to someone I was seeing, and he seemed a bit offed by it. The focus is definitely not like “omg so many ppl are after me” but more like “oh lord u won’t believe what this guy did once, and this other guy, do they have no social skills?” Submitted February 22, 2022 at 12:11AM Basically title. I have been approached quite a bit and some stories are quite funny, so I bring it up sometimes if the context is right. Or sometimes I like to joke about how despite a lot of guys approaching me no girls ever hit on me or seem to be interested (I’m bi, it’s a struggle).I mentioned it to someone I was seeing, and he seemed a bit offed by it. The focus is definitely not like “omg so many ppl a...

The worse bit is that it isn't just the other students so of the TAs have made arophodic and aphobic comments too. February 21, 2022 at 11:35PM

Oh, of course. People should be making sure their preferences align February 21, 2022 at 11:34PM

Hahaha isn't that aggravating? I'm lowkey pissed at my friend because after I discovered asexuality in college, I told her I was ace and she just said, "oh yeah, me too, I was the token ace in my high school friend group." Well, thanks for giving me a heads up, best friend whom I've known since 5th grade! It's just funny how you can know someone so well and yet the obvious 2+2 goes right over your head sometimes February 20, 2022 at 11:29PM

Tl;dr we’ve known each other since elementary school, and have been hanging out every week/other week recently, but live on opposite sides of the country. I don’t think I should tell him how I feel because logistics are an issue. What do folks here think? Some details: I (26F) am interested in this guy (27M), and have a feeling the sentiment is reciprocated. He’s the first man I’ve liked in my adult life (great personality, fun to hang out with, can talk about a ton of topics, etc.) and this is the first time I’ve ever been physically attracted to someone too. As much as I like him and he says he would love for a girl to ask him out, I can’t bring myself to communicate my feelings to him/ask him out because we live in different parts of the country (he’s in my home city, I’m elsewhere). I’m trying to change jobs now, but I’m not sure how long relocation will take. I also really don’t wish to cause any stress/discomfort to him in the off chance he doesn’t feel the same way, plus if...

I feel absolutely pathetic when saying this because I feel like i've missed out on some much. My mental health hasn't been the best since my childhood so as a teen I didn't feel the need plus I had tons of body insecurities and teen sex wouldn've been lame and awkward so no regrets on that, but during college nobody I liked ever cared about me in that way. Now that I would like to date someone I realize i'm clueless and feel like a child. Submitted February 21, 2022 at 12:09AM I feel absolutely pathetic when saying this because I feel like i've missed out on some much.My mental health hasn't been the best since my childhood so as a teen I didn't feel the need plus I had tons of body insecurities and teen sex wouldn've been lame and awkward so no regrets on that, but during college nobody I liked ever cared about me in that way. Now that I would like to date someone I realize i'm clueless and feel like a child.

I really want a girlfriend or at least some sort of connection with the opposite sex but feel like going on night outs is the only way of doing that. It's the one thing I really don't like and also seems the only way of meeting somebody. It would make sense if I didn't do anything else but I have lots of hobbies and interests. You can meet someone through all sorts of ways, (I do understand that) like shops, on the train, through friends, dating apps etc... However I haven't had any luck on dating apps and the other ways of meeting someone out and about is just awkward and feels impossible to do. I am good at holding conversations and being polite but I am just quite introverted and so the initiations of dating someone is the hardest part for me. Any help is appreciated Submitted February 21, 2022 at 12:13AM I really want a girlfriend or at least some sort of connection with the opposite sex but feel like going on night outs is the only way of doing that. It...

Met the most wonderful man. At first, I got butterflies, felt amazing the slightest touch, wanting to touch and kiss all the time, very high sexual desire, kissing was amazing, holding hands all the time. I’ve dated him for 8 months and we’ve got very comfortable, but I no longer look at him and feel sexual urge. Kissing doesn’t feel amazing anymore. And I don’t get butterflies when he touches me anymore. I don’t have the same desire for sex as I did before but I don’t have much of a libido atm for anyone else either I am happy and comfortable with him but unsure why the strong feelings of attraction fade and I no longer want sex as much, sex doesn’t seem as exciting as at first? I even feel less cuddly with him Is this normal over time that relationships actually can feel boring and platonic?? Submitted February 21, 2022 at 12:13AM Met the most wonderful man. At first, I got butterflies, felt amazing the slightest touch, wanting to touch and kiss all the time, very high sexu...

I started talking to this girl pretty recently. We met through work and she recently quit and after that I texted her on snapchat and had a conversation which eventually led to her saying she would be down to hang out sometime if I was. I said yes but she never looked at that message but she did look at my story. 2 days after that I message her and ask her to hang out and she seemed pretty excited to hang out. We hung out today and after that I sent her a message and she has once again, looked at my story posts, but has ignored my message. What does this mean? Submitted February 21, 2022 at 12:14AM I started talking to this girl pretty recently. We met through work and she recently quit and after that I texted her on snapchat and had a conversation which eventually led to her saying she would be down to hang out sometime if I was. I said yes but she never looked at that message but she did look at my story. 2 days after that I message her and ask her to hang out and she seemed p...

You could perhaps go to a family therapist so your mom can have a second opinion. Though not every therapist is supportive towards aces so perhaps look for one that is lgbtq friendly. February 20, 2022 at 11:27PM

remember, sexuality is unique to everyone. In my opinion, it should be broad categories. Asexual, bisexual, gay, straight. I just don't think minor shut like the preference of not having sex with strangers is its own sexual orientation. You don't have to fit yourself into these extremely specific little categories, just be yourself and like what you like. February 20, 2022 at 12:16AM

I told my parents a few years ago that I was Ace and they think it's something trendy and I'll eventually get over it. How disappointed they will be lol February 20, 2022 at 12:13AM

Relationship goals February 20, 2022 at 12:01AM

I guess cupio would be most accurate for me. Sex has a purpose that I do desire, but in general "why though" lol February 20, 2022 at 12:01AM

I’m just saying it sounds like a sex addict in the making. Just like drinking or smoking multiple times a day can lead to an addiction. Or, if you’re like me, eating bad food all of the time can lead to a food addiction. Having sex multiple times daily can lead to it, I’m not saying it’ll 100% happen, but it’s more likely than if you do it less frequently. February 19, 2022 at 11:58PM

Are there any enfjs here February 19, 2022 at 11:55PM

So there is this girl in my Psych class that I'm absolutely mad for. She's unfortunately always last in and first out so I need to do it before class ends. Here is what I'm thinking; I sit in the desk in front of her Pretend I didn't bring a pen Ask for hers Use pen to write on a note card "Wanna grab lunch?" Say thank you and hand her the pen with note attached Just to punctuate how I planned this out I then pull out my own pen from my pocket. Thoughts on this plan? Submitted February 20, 2022 at 12:11AM So there is this girl in my Psych class that I'm absolutely mad for. She's unfortunately always last in and first out so I need to do it before class ends. Here is what I'm thinking;I sit in the desk in front of herPretend I didn't bring a penAsk for hersUse pen to write on a note card "Wanna grab lunch?"Say thank you and hand her the pen with note attachedJust to punctuate how I planned this out I then pu...

Don't you know that leftist have all been turned queer by vaccines and the 5G mind control waves emitted by their rainbow flags? SMH my head.... February 19, 2022 at 01:11AM

For context I really like this girl when we first started talking it was perfect then the first time I met her it was easy and not awkward at all. After the first time I spent every night there for at least 2 weeks straight. But randomly she says she doesn’t want a relationship and I ask her what she wants and she says she doesn’t know but likes talking to me. We keep talking I try giving her space because maybe shes burnt out we still text daily and she says she misses me but I try to make plans to do something and she says “idkkk I don’t wanna like be mean to u just cause I get irritated man and I still been being irritated” so I say “you just don’t wanna hang” she said no that’s not it and idk.Then she just changes the conversation so I Try to see if she just doesn’t want to hurt my feelings by saying “if you really get that irritated around me then just say you don’t wanna hang” then she says “it’s fr everybody I’m just not a people person” in her defense she really isn’t she hate...

Thank you!!! February 19, 2022 at 01:10AM

I met a girl 6 years ago, she worked at a store with my friends girlfriend that’s how we met. I liked her, we were seeing each other for about 4 months, her life became hectic and she decided we should stop seeing each other. A couple of months went by and I began to talk to a new girl who was a sister to a friend of mine and she also previously dated the same friend whos girlfriend worked with the previous girl I dated. I told him that we were dating and he did not take it well he freaked out and threw a hissy fit. After a couple of weeks he reached out to me through text and told me he’s going to get his revenge by going to where the previous girl worked and hook up with her. I didn’t think anything of it because I thought it sounded crazy.now 6 years later I reconnected with the girl and I asked her what happened why haven’t I heard from her in six years and she told me that my friend told her that I hated her because she started seeing him. So for six years she had not spoken to m...

Hey welcome! February 18, 2022 at 11:21PM

There's an anime out there about a 20+ year old man is with a 15 year old boy... Already fighting the idea that people in the LGBT+ community aren't pedophilic, stuff like that doesn't help... Maybe anime is a mistake sometimes. February 18, 2022 at 12:29AM

I (23f) went on a date with a guy (26m) 4 months ago and after the 3th date i said i dont wanna continue because i think he was too dominant but we can stay friends. We started hanging out as friends and i started getting to know him more. He turned out not the streotype that i imagined. We have been hanging out like 2 times a week generally and soon we have a trip together. At this point we have a good friendship and i started to like him more than friends. I am not sure if he is dominant in the dating but not that dominant in the friendship. Idk if i misjudged him. Now I dont know if it is logical to tell him how I feel. He met all of my friends and we are hanging out together. I dont want to ruin this. I also have no idea if he would have any intention in this way. What should I do? Submitted February 18, 2022 at 01:13AM I (23f) went on a date with a guy (26m) 4 months ago and after the 3th date i said i dont wanna continue because i think he was too dominant but we can stay ...

Seriously, that scene was mega out of place. Even when I was reading it was just… “what?” February 18, 2022 at 12:25AM

Long story short (ish) - me and this guy met 6 months ago, hit it off extremely well. My fear avoidant behavior kicked in, I got anxious as we got closer and asked for space. He then realized he wasn’t ready to be in a relationship. We stopped talking for a little bit. A big issue we had was that I still lived at home and did not have the freedom to explore the relationship in ways we both wanted (old fashioned, middle eastern dad). He didn’t understand the limitations and I was too busy still trying to live by my dads rules to do anything about it. Meeting and then losing this guy was the wake up call I needed, I think. So anyways. During this time I finally decided to see a therapist regarding issues I’ve been having with myself, my family dynamic, and my relationship anxiety tendencies. The truth is, I am in absolutely no place to be in a relationship - not with him or with anyone. I deleted the dating apps. I started to focus on myself. In short. I’m in a MUCH better place men...

I’m sure that she got a LOT of exposure from people in high school and middle school.. sex/porn/masturbation/etc end up getting discussed a ton there.. February 17, 2022 at 11:30PM

I 20(m) have been talking to a girl 19 (f) for about a week and asked her out. She said she "I might be able to." But that was the end of that and said "Okay awesome. I'll definitely let you know!!" We talked back and for I'm the only one initiating. 5 days later I ask if we both have have interest in each other. ( I don't think she is interested because she doesn't ask, only answers) And ask if she really does intend to go on a date. She said "Yes, we maybe able to soon enough. My schedule is just so jampacked." But she post stuff on snap of her just hanging with family after her job which she said she is off around 3 to 4pm then proceeds to exercise after Submitted February 17, 2022 at 01:15AM I 20(m) have been talking to a girl 19 (f) for about a week and asked her out. She said she "I might be able to." But that was the end of that and said "Okay awesome. I'll definitely let you know!!" We talked back and ...

Because more people know about allies that A-spec peoples February 17, 2022 at 12:27AM

I was searching Toronto in this subreddit lol!! February 17, 2022 at 12:26AM

In them saying we don’t experience the same level of discrimination they are literally discriminating against us. Maybe not the SAME but bi people experience biphobia within the community too February 17, 2022 at 12:24AM

Thank you, that clears things up! February 17, 2022 at 12:22AM

Then, everything changed when the Ace Nation attacked. February 17, 2022 at 12:21AM

I’ve been seeing this guy for a couple weeks. He’s gorgeous, so sweet listens to my problems and all my trauma, we click so well, the chemistry is ridiculous. I hadn’t felt like this about anyone in a long time. I’m myself around him. But In all honesty I don’t know that much about him other than he’s Russian and has two little brothers and works at a gym. So I was stalking his Instagram tagged pictures and I saw he was in one with a friend of mine, so naturally I asked her what she knew about him. Her response gave me chills. Apparently he’s been to prison for three years for getting into a fight at a local night club, not only that but he apparently stole from all of his ex girlfriends, broke into their houses and bleached all their clothes. I am terrified. I’m currently on holiday for the next week and he’s not with me. He calls me everyday and texts me constantly, I don’t know what to do?! How do I get out of this situation? He’s obviously dangerous. If all this is true that is, b...

“Ik better” lmao no u don’t. Show me someone right now that I like in that way. I’m waiting. February 16, 2022 at 12:24AM

Okay ima just be straight up…im a 23 yr old light skin male and I rarely get laid. I can vibe w people and talk w them all day but when it comes to approaching women about like dating or sex I fall flat on my face. My personality is goofy af so I play w people a lot like for instance a new girl at my job.. I be like okay I see you w those glasses looking all cute ima have to borrow yours cause I’m blind af like see that sign over there I can barely see it so one day you gonna go for you glasses and their gonna be gone. And she be laughing and shit but idk how to go further than that. I’m ngl when people bring up anything sexual I blank. Like okay I got my haircut, my hair used to be long and now I got the fresh cut w a fade and everything. I was talking to this girl she like oh dam you cut your hair I’m like yeah I had to let it go cause I was getting too much shut stuck in there. And she’s like..getting shit stuck in there why be doing after work? You be all up in it huh? (And this...

I'm 25 and still ace, still not done the dirty, still have no intention to. I find major flaws in the given theory and have evidence to back up my statement 😁 February 16, 2022 at 12:23AM

so i am 19F & i have noticed my love life completely fall down over the past few years. I used to be quite naive and not say anything to guys about my preference etc , i used to be very sweet & charismatic at the age of 17/18. Well now i have noticed a massive shift on me, i was speaking to a guy today and we were meant to meet up & we ended up changing the date around.. so we have a date planned for this week but i had said to him something about a preference i have and i don’t like that he has it. I am way too honest & forward i think, i come off as rude and defensive when i genuinely am not 90% of the time i am joking back & not getting rowdy if they start banter. I don’t understand myself , it’s gone from having dates weekly to me blocking guys because they reschedule a date or something minor. i don’t know what has changed about me to do this but i am so straight forward and honest to the point maybe it’s not attractive because i come off as rude or defensive,...

I was unsure about myself so I did some research on the LGBTA wiki. I found asexuality (which I had heard of before) and it fit. After that I constantly questioned it and did more research, but I always ultimately came back to asexual. I would find microlabels that almost fit, but were never quite right. Finally (several years later) I had done so much research that I knew no existing microlabel worked for me. So I put all my research together and coined a new ace microlabel that I felt described my experience. February 15, 2022 at 11:22PM

I'm a female in her 20s dating men. When I've only gone on one date with a guy, even if I've had a nice time, I'm worried I'm not showing I'm interested enough. I'm usually a little reserved on first dates, trying not to get too invested too fast, or come on too strong, etc. I'm just getting to know a person! And I want to act in a way that feels organic to me. At the end of the date I'll say what a great time I had. A few dates recently, I've gone on and they've gone really well. The guy will say he had a great time at the end, or even that they want to see me again. I'll say great, I'd like that too. And then I never hear from the, again? I'm worried if there's something I'm doing on my end to show a lack of interest. Or maybe the guys just aren't that interested in me. I've found too in these cases, that if they don't text me within a day, and/or I'm the one to text first, it's pretty much guarante...

When someone sexually propositions you or asks you out on a date and you try to come up with a plausible excuse that will make them go away without asking any further questions February 15, 2022 at 12:05AM

Ah cool. Katy Perry is a good singer. Thank you. I needed that. You do the same. February 15, 2022 at 12:04AM

I (25F) recently come out of a long relationship and am sort of new to the OLD game. I met this guy who I think is very attractive.. although, he doesn't text much and talks a lot about himself... I'm having a hard time telling if he's just not into me or just doesn't have great social awareness (He's kind of nerdy) and I should message him. Things that told me he was interested - Used the extend feature on Bumble when time was running out. - Asked me out for drinks early than what we had previously scheduled. - Bought our drinks (which came out to about 50 dollars because I got wine) - Seemed excited to talk to me. - We went back to his place and hooked up. He seemed interested in what I liked and what I wanted/ how to make me cum. - A couple minutes later we went for round two. - Tells me how hot/ attractive I am. - Tells me the next day that it was super fun and when I thanked him for drinks he said, anytime. - When I asked if he wanted to see me again he said ...

Basically, In school i had a crush on this girl but never said anything because I was very shy in school. She had given fairly obvious signs she liked me and I others even said it to me. Now 2 years out of school I’m talking to her as friends (we were always very good friends) I want to tell her I like her but she’s known for being a bit of a F Girl. To be honest I’d rather hook up etc but not be serious because I know I’d get hurt. I haven’t really got anything to lose by telling her because we’re not close enough that it would ruin the friendship if I told her. I’m just curious as to what’s the best way to tell her Submitted February 15, 2022 at 12:15AM Basically, In school i had a crush on this girl but never said anything because I was very shy in school. She had given fairly obvious signs she liked me and I others even said it to me. Now 2 years out of school I’m talking to her as friends (we were always very good friends) I want to tell her I like her but she’s known for b...

Yeah, I know I should move on and I definitely made a lot of the arguments that you mentioned to them, but I'm also just so tired of letting people get away with invalidating aces, I guess? I'm also generally an argumentative person, so I find it hard to let go of things... Obviously I don't view being ace as a disorder, and even if I did I would see it as an advantage as you said, so that wouldn't really bother me. Thanks for the validation anyway :D February 14, 2022 at 11:46PM

Personally all I ever wanted was a guy on whom to focus pour all of my affections, who likes all the same things I like. Like get high with, share leftover pizza, play cards, give back rubs to each night, make love to every day and have six babies with It took me a long time to find that... (Well I do not have six babies yet but not for lack of trying) I mean Sheesh Why is it so much to ask for someone's devotion? Is being devoted to just one person really so hard, so scary, so horrible? Submitted February 14, 2022 at 02:15AM Personally all I ever wanted was a guy on whom to focus pour all of my affections, who likes all the same things I like. Like get high with, share leftover pizza, play cards, give back rubs to each night, make love to every day and have six babies withIt took me a long time to find that... (Well I do not have six babies yet but not for lack of trying)I mean SheeshWhy is it so much to ask for someone's devotion?Is being devoted to just one person...

SO SWEET ILL CRY February 14, 2022 at 01:16AM

I’ve been seeing this girl for a few weeks now. We used to be friends in high school and we recently started seeing each other again. We went on a few dates, we text/facetime daily and I think she has some kind of interest in me. One thing’s for sure, I really like her. Is it weird if I do a little something for Valentine’s day? Bring her coffee after school and spend some time with her or something like that. I’m not sure if she’s expecting something from me. Submitted February 14, 2022 at 01:16AM I’ve been seeing this girl for a few weeks now. We used to be friends in high school and we recently started seeing each other again. We went on a few dates, we text/facetime daily and I think she has some kind of interest in me. One thing’s for sure, I really like her. Is it weird if I do a little something for Valentine’s day? Bring her coffee after school and spend some time with her or something like that. I’m not sure if she’s expecting something from me.

Yep! I'm sex neutral honestly. I'll have it but I could also never have it again and be toaly fine w that. February 14, 2022 at 12:21AM

Hi. Can someone please help me understand my own feelings. So there is this girl and I know she is into me. But I’m not sure if I’m into her… but somehow I kinda am…like she is so cute and sweet to me . I am not really physically attracted to her and she is a bit childish but she is cute /has a cut face. I dunno if it would be a good idea to get into a relationship. I thing my judgement is flawed anyway. I want a relationship I want to feel love because I never was in a relationship. So I dunno if It is smart to get into a relationship. Pls help me. Sry if my text is a bit weird or this is the wrong place for this question. I just don’t want to give her hope and then brake it off because I’m not sure. That would be just an shit move. Submitted February 14, 2022 at 12:15AM Hi. Can someone please help me understand my own feelings. So there is this girl and I know she is into me. But I’m not sure if I’m into her… but somehow I kinda am…like she is so cute and sweet to me . I am n...

I have been talking and having sexual engagement with this guy, for about 4 months, but he typically goes “home” to visit. But will never respond to me. I get it, he’s with family and yada yada. But yet he is CONSTANTLY posting stories on Snapchat? Am I over thinking this? Or I have a right to be a little frustrated? Submitted February 13, 2022 at 01:15AM I have been talking and having sexual engagement with this guy, for about 4 months, but he typically goes “home” to visit. But will never respond to me. I get it, he’s with family and yada yada. But yet he is CONSTANTLY posting stories on Snapchat?Am I over thinking this? Or I have a right to be a little frustrated?

It took me a long time (asexual or socially blind; you decide) for me to get why people who hate each other could possibly have kids. I used to ask myself "How the hell did my mom and dad have me, heck even my brother, when they couldn't even stand each other?" February 13, 2022 at 12:27AM

We’ve been chatting since Xmas and met on tinder, haven’t met yet for a few reasons mainly health on my end, plan to have sex and sexted kind of but chat about other things mostly. He’s out right now and shared a story taking shots, two guys and two girls so obviously it makes me think its a double date, BUT I have no reason to be jealous but I am, I feel way to insecure for this shite like how do people have casual sex and not care? I see it all the time on this sub and we haven’t even had sex get lol I’m such a loser Submitted February 13, 2022 at 12:11AM We’ve been chatting since Xmas and met on tinder, haven’t met yet for a few reasons mainly health on my end, plan to have sex and sexted kind of but chat about other things mostly. He’s out right now and shared a story taking shots, two guys and two girls so obviously it makes me think its a double date, BUT I have no reason to be jealous but I am, I feel way to insecure for this shite like how do people have casual sex and n...

This question is for men who are currently dating multiple women I need advice. Whenever one of them women you are dating starts to get jealous of the other women and starts saying indirect stuff how do you handle it? I currently have 4 girls that I am dating they all know I am seeing other women. But recently 1 of them is starting to get jealous whenever she sees me on a date with other women on Instagram.. The other 3 girls dont get jealous but I have 1 smthst is starting to get jealous and push to be exclusive. What's the best way to handle that? Do I jsut let her go and replace her or do I remind her that I like her but I am exclusive to no one. Submitted February 13, 2022 at 12:13AM This question is for men who are currently dating multiple women I need advice. Whenever one of them women you are dating starts to get jealous of the other women and starts saying indirect stuff how do you handle it? I currently have 4 girls that I am dating they all know I am seeing other ...

I have no idea, but I am quite sure that you should feel free to use the label for as long as it fits you. It is most certainly the case that nobody would have the right to challenge you on it. We've never seen the inside of your head. How could we possibly know you better than you know yourself? February 12, 2022 at 11:28PM

Everyone misses out on something in this life. The world is too big and diverse, and we humans are too small and limited. You may be missing out on some things, even things that other people find important, but in exchange, you'll find your own things that will be important to you, and there will be others missing out on them. February 12, 2022 at 12:35AM

Hello, So I’ve been talking to this guy (22M) I really like from Egypt for awhile. He’s super kind and funny. I’d really like to ask him out, however I’m a Caucasian girl (19F) from America and I’ve dated a guy for three years in a male centric culture (he was Mexican). He ended up being physically and emotionally abusive to me when I turned 18 because I did not want to get married and have kids yet because I’m young and it’s not how my culture (Norwegian and Italian) is. I wanted to go to school and I was very clear about it from the start of the relationship. Well anyways it has been a year past that and I met this really kind Egyptian guy (he’s from Cairo) and I really like him. So far he has not shown any red flags, he’s just really silly and pretty open which is nice. He’s hinted that he likes me and I like him back however, with my last relationship I guess I’m a bit scarred. I don’t want to be hurt like that again. I know that Islamic culture is pretty strict especially toward...

I mean, being on OF doesnt change your sexuality nor does it deny it, if you want to start it, go ahead Also, I love you confidence! Keep it up <3 Edit: autocorrect sucks -_- February 12, 2022 at 12:35AM

I went on a first date and thought it went great from what I could tell. He said we should get dinner next time. Constant texting afterwards with him mentioning “dinner next time,” a couple more time. So I thought all was well. About 5 days went by but he didn’t set it up, so I asked if he wants to go out again. He said yes and we set a date. The day before, he canceled saying he had some work thing that he forgot about. I’m not 100% sure I believe him but maybe. We kept texting having good conversation/joking/laughing daily but he didn’t ask to reschedule. Another week went by, no mention of rescheduling. I finally got annoyed, and said I was enjoying texting but it would be nice to meet in person if that’s something he actually wanted to do and if not that was ok too. He said “why would you wait for me to ask to reschedule - you could have asked yourself!” I thought that was kind of a lame response given I was the one who asked him and he canceled. I feel like anyone would wonder...

Sometimes it adds something to the story but it honestly usually doesn't. It's even more frustrating because I'm Dutch and for some reason EVERY Dutch movie in existence feels the need to have a very explicit sex scene. It's almost a "we do it because we can" kind of thing but everyone hates it 🤣 February 11, 2022 at 11:25PM

I think that's pretty normal. It's uncomfortable when people make incorrect assumptions about me when it comes to most things. February 11, 2022 at 12:19AM

What's the third flag besides your user? Obviously it's something on the acespec but I can't recognize the specific flag. February 11, 2022 at 12:18AM