I need some real brutally honest advice from some women

Okay ima just be straight up…im a 23 yr old light skin male and I rarely get laid. I can vibe w people and talk w them all day but when it comes to approaching women about like dating or sex I fall flat on my face. My personality is goofy af so I play w people a lot like for instance a new girl at my job.. I be like okay I see you w those glasses looking all cute ima have to borrow yours cause I’m blind af like see that sign over there I can barely see it so one day you gonna go for you glasses and their gonna be gone. And she be laughing and shit but idk how to go further than that.

I’m ngl when people bring up anything sexual I blank. Like okay I got my haircut, my hair used to be long and now I got the fresh cut w a fade and everything. I was talking to this girl she like oh dam you cut your hair I’m like yeah I had to let it go cause I was getting too much shut stuck in there.

And she’s like..getting shit stuck in there why be doing after work? You be all up in it huh? (And this is where I fall off) you know how Steve from American dad acts w girls that’s me when girls say sexual shit to me. I be blanking hard. And people be like ooo you gotta be straight up but it’s like how?

I genuinely care about people so I get invested in their stories and I don’t wanna be a creep. Cause I’ve heard some of the shit other dudes say to girls and it’s whack af. Like oh are you a squirted like wtf?

I see girls giving me eyes and shit but idk what to do w it. I got skills but idk how to show them off. I ain’t even gonnna lie most girls at my job aren’t looking to date and that’s more my style. I’m down w hookups but idk how to go about it. I get nervous when it comes to that. Sex was always taboo growing up and people expect me to be this smooth light skin mofo. I need some brutal advice from some women please don’t hold back cause my mans needs help🙏🏾🙏🏾



Submitted February 16, 2022 at 01:14AM

Okay ima just be straight up…im a 23 yr old light skin male and I rarely get laid. I can vibe w people and talk w them all day but when it comes to approaching women about like dating or sex I fall flat on my face. My personality is goofy af so I play w people a lot like for instance a new girl at my job.. I be like okay I see you w those glasses looking all cute ima have to borrow yours cause I’m blind af like see that sign over there I can barely see it so one day you gonna go for you glasses and their gonna be gone. And she be laughing and shit but idk how to go further than that.I’m ngl when people bring up anything sexual I blank. Like okay I got my haircut, my hair used to be long and now I got the fresh cut w a fade and everything. I was talking to this girl she like oh dam you cut your hair I’m like yeah I had to let it go cause I was getting too much shut stuck in there.And she’s like..getting shit stuck in there why be doing after work? You be all up in it huh? (And this is where I fall off) you know how Steve from American dad acts w girls that’s me when girls say sexual shit to me. I be blanking hard. And people be like ooo you gotta be straight up but it’s like how?I genuinely care about people so I get invested in their stories and I don’t wanna be a creep. Cause I’ve heard some of the shit other dudes say to girls and it’s whack af. Like oh are you a squirted like wtf?I see girls giving me eyes and shit but idk what to do w it. I got skills but idk how to show them off. I ain’t even gonnna lie most girls at my job aren’t looking to date and that’s more my style. I’m down w hookups but idk how to go about it. I get nervous when it comes to that. Sex was always taboo growing up and people expect me to be this smooth light skin mofo. I need some brutal advice from some women please don’t hold back cause my mans needs help🙏🏾🙏🏾
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