His closest friend is the most beautiful girl I have ever met

I (28F) have been seeing a guy (27M) for a few months. He has told me that he's not seeing anyone else, that he is looking to settle down and properly date with me, and I'm hoping this would become something long-term. He's also introduced me to a couple of his friends (they all know that we're dating). Which I do appreciate.

A few weeks in seeing, I noticed that majority of his friends are girls. He did explain that there's nothing going on and nothing will ever go on between them. I do believe that friendship can exist with one's opposite sex, and that in itself doesn't bother me much. I told him he's a rare breed, but I understand that they're all your close friends and I'd be happy to meet them too/ get to know them if that also makes him happy.

Then there is this one girl, one of his closest friends now. She's the most beautiful girl that I have probably ever met (could easily be taken as a model/actress) , extremely successful in her career, surrounds herself with nice things including expensive brands. She's not the most outgoing/socially friendly type, but cool/pretty chill, and is kind to me. I don't mind hanging out with her and her friends, but to be honest I feel inferior next to her and slightly out of place; we just live in a different world and value different things in life, which is fine, it happens. But in addition to how she makes me feel, the below happens which actually bothers me:

1. He mentions her name frequently when we're together: (1) tells me they spend time together alone (e.g. "I went to help her get a new car", "I went with her to check out her new apartment"). (2) expresses how highly he thinks of her (e.g. she's one of the smartest person I know, I want to reach her level career-wise etc), and (3) just brings her name up in random moments (e.g. "you should try this game she plays it too")
2. When I see his phone, probably 95% of the time there's a text from her.
3. We planned a weekend ski trip together; he invited her to join us right there in front of me. Without asking me beforehand. Which she said she couldn't because she was planning to go with different friends (also mutual friends of his) to a different ski location that weekend.
4. Then the next day he texts me that if there's no cancellation fee, can we also change our trip and join her group instead. Because more the merrier.

I've never been the jealous type nor someone who's uncomfortable when the guy has female friends. But this just makes me really confused; I don't understand the thought process around this. Should I just trust him and let this go? What should I do. How should I approach him if I am to talk to him about this?

Submitted February 22, 2022 at 01:09PM

I (28F) have been seeing a guy (27M) for a few months. He has told me that he's not seeing anyone else, that he is looking to settle down and properly date with me, and I'm hoping this would become something long-term. He's also introduced me to a couple of his friends (they all know that we're dating). Which I do appreciate.A few weeks in seeing, I noticed that majority of his friends are girls. He did explain that there's nothing going on and nothing will ever go on between them. I do believe that friendship can exist with one's opposite sex, and that in itself doesn't bother me much. I told him he's a rare breed, but I understand that they're all your close friends and I'd be happy to meet them too/ get to know them if that also makes him happy.Then there is this one girl, one of his closest friends now. She's the most beautiful girl that I have probably ever met (could easily be taken as a model/actress) , extremely successful in her career, surrounds herself with nice things including expensive brands. She's not the most outgoing/socially friendly type, but cool/pretty chill, and is kind to me. I don't mind hanging out with her and her friends, but to be honest I feel inferior next to her and slightly out of place; we just live in a different world and value different things in life, which is fine, it happens. But in addition to how she makes me feel, the below happens which actually bothers me:He mentions her name frequently when we're together: (1) tells me they spend time together alone (e.g. "I went to help her get a new car", "I went with her to check out her new apartment"). (2) expresses how highly he thinks of her (e.g. she's one of the smartest person I know, I want to reach her level career-wise etc), and (3) just brings her name up in random moments (e.g. "you should try this game she plays it too")When I see his phone, probably 95% of the time there's a text from her.We planned a weekend ski trip together; he invited her to join us right there in front of me. Without asking me beforehand. Which she said she couldn't because she was planning to go with different friends (also mutual friends of his) to a different ski location that weekend.Then the next day he texts me that if there's no cancellation fee, can we also change our trip and join her group instead. Because more the merrier.I've never been the jealous type nor someone who's uncomfortable when the guy has female friends. But this just makes me really confused; I don't understand the thought process around this. Should I just trust him and let this go? What should I do. How should I approach him if I am to talk to him about this?