My [21M] mom [41F] reconnected with me after cutting me off because I had a baby with my partner [39F], any advice?

My mom and I had a big argument about my girlfriend being much older than me. She and I had a fling when I was 18 and ended up getting together because we really liked each other. She and I got serious and my mom got so upset that she kicked me out of the house and then cut me pff for what was almost a year. I had a daughter (she’s now 9 months old) with my girlfriend and a few days ago my mom apologized to me and asked me to come by for dinner and that I was welcome to bring my girlfriend and daughter.

I was kinda cautious because she had gotninto a verbal confrontation with girkfriend when they met, but this time she was very nice and she treated her very well. We had a good time and she even offered to let us stay in the guest room since it was real late and I was extremelly tired. Since then she’s been nicer and she started getting along with my partner. I do miss my mom and how close we used to be, but she was the one that cut me off. I do hope things keep getting better, but should I try to keep getting closer with her? Or should I let her be the one who reaches out? So I won’t bother her or anything.

Tl;dr My mom had cut me off and kicked me out of the house after she found out she was much older than me. She reached out again and invited us over for dinner and she was very kind to us. I do want to get close with her again, but should I let her be the one that reaches out, or should I also reach out and invite her over , etc.. ?



Submitted October 14, 2019 at 11:52PM

My mom and I had a big argument about my girlfriend being much older than me. She and I had a fling when I was 18 and ended up getting together because we really liked each other. She and I got serious and my mom got so upset that she kicked me out of the house and then cut me pff for what was almost a year. I had a daughter (she’s now 9 months old) with my girlfriend and a few days ago my mom apologized to me and asked me to come by for dinner and that I was welcome to bring my girlfriend and daughter.I was kinda cautious because she had gotninto a verbal confrontation with girkfriend when they met, but this time she was very nice and she treated her very well. We had a good time and she even offered to let us stay in the guest room since it was real late and I was extremelly tired. Since then she’s been nicer and she started getting along with my partner. I do miss my mom and how close we used to be, but she was the one that cut me off. I do hope things keep getting better, but should I try to keep getting closer with her? Or should I let her be the one who reaches out? So I won’t bother her or anything.Tl;dr My mom had cut me off and kicked me out of the house after she found out she was much older than me. She reached out again and invited us over for dinner and she was very kind to us. I do want to get close with her again, but should I let her be the one that reaches out, or should I also reach out and invite her over , etc.. ?
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