I [25/F] was ghosted by my SIL [35/F] after she had twins, and now family dinners are awkward.

I need some advice on some family relationships. To preface I'm generally a very trusting person, but also a very closed person. I won't show my true self to people very easily, but I'm also very easy-going. That's what makes me think I didn't offend my SIL to get ghosted.

Before my SIL became pregnant last year we weren't super close, but we did hangout occasionally. After she became pregnant with twins we started to become closer. I'd go over to help with things she needed, and hangout together while doing it. I thought we were becoming friends, and we'd text regularly. After her babies were born I was over multiple times a week, everything seemed fine, and we'd just chill and I'd help with baby stuff. As the months went on she healed, and she insisted she wanted time alone with the babies before she went back to work. We'd still see each other a few times a month, and text. As the months went on she suddenly didn't reply to my texts anymore, and we have pretty much zero contact.

If this was a normal friendship I wouldn't care. I'd chalk it up to people drift apart, and that's fine. I know people get busy with babies, but I feel hurt and used. She got close to me when she needed something, and when she healed ghosted me. I know she still regularly sees her other friends. Like daily.

How do I move forward without it being super awkward? I don't want to mention it to my family because it will create unnecessary drama, but I find it so hard to be around her now. I don't like being around someone who I feel hurt and used by, but here we are. Any ideas?

TLDR: Thought me and SIL were friends, got ghosted, but I still see her at family gatherings. It's awkward for me.

Edit: Thought I'd add that she doesn't seem mad at me at all at family gatherings. She doesn't really talk to me, I don't start conversations because I feel hurt.

Submitted October 14, 2019 at 11:25PM

I need some advice on some family relationships. To preface I'm generally a very trusting person, but also a very closed person. I won't show my true self to people very easily, but I'm also very easy-going. That's what makes me think I didn't offend my SIL to get ghosted.Before my SIL became pregnant last year we weren't super close, but we did hangout occasionally. After she became pregnant with twins we started to become closer. I'd go over to help with things she needed, and hangout together while doing it. I thought we were becoming friends, and we'd text regularly. After her babies were born I was over multiple times a week, everything seemed fine, and we'd just chill and I'd help with baby stuff. As the months went on she healed, and she insisted she wanted time alone with the babies before she went back to work. We'd still see each other a few times a month, and text. As the months went on she suddenly didn't reply to my texts anymore, and we have pretty much zero contact.If this was a normal friendship I wouldn't care. I'd chalk it up to people drift apart, and that's fine. I know people get busy with babies, but I feel hurt and used. She got close to me when she needed something, and when she healed ghosted me. I know she still regularly sees her other friends. Like daily.How do I move forward without it being super awkward? I don't want to mention it to my family because it will create unnecessary drama, but I find it so hard to be around her now. I don't like being around someone who I feel hurt and used by, but here we are. Any ideas?TLDR: Thought me and SIL were friends, got ghosted, but I still see her at family gatherings. It's awkward for me.Edit: Thought I'd add that she doesn't seem mad at me at all at family gatherings. She doesn't really talk to me, I don't start conversations because I feel hurt.