18M who is really struggling with girls at university

So I've been at uni for a couple weeks now and was hoping to do something with a girl in freshers week, however, I didn't get a single bit of action. I'm a 5'8 skinny guy and I genuinely don't know if I'm good looking or not (I've been told I look like everyone from Tyler the Creator to Rami Malek to Zayn). I dress well and have good hygiene so it's not like I put girls off. I've also made some really good female friends at uni already, something I've never had before and I do think I'm a pretty funny guy who can make people laugh and am very sociable. During freshers week, I got drunk and went clubbing every night. On the first night, I told a girl who I preed with that I thought she was fit and tried to escalate but she didn't want anything. I met a cute girl on the 2nd night and danced with her in the club but when I asked if she wanted to sit with me/ get some air/ have some alone time she wasn't interested. I met another cute girl on the 3rd night and turned out she had a boyfriend. By the 4th night I'd lost confidence and just danced with friends and had a really great time and did the same on the 5th night. Meanwhile it seems like there are some other guys here at uni who are definitely getting with girls and having sex (granted not everyone).

What am I doing wrong compared to these guys? Am I just ugly and have been overestimating my looks? I've made out with 2 girls in my life but one wasn't really a looker and I only did it to get my confidence up and cos we were both drunk. Before you tell me to lower my standards, the 3 girls I approached have been of different levels of attractiveness.

Overall I'm happy with the way uni has started because I've made some really good close friends already and I finally have close female friends (I never did before as I went to an all boys school). However, I've started to develop feelings for one of these close friends now and because of my 3 experiences so far at uni I'm scared to ask her out as I feel like I'll just be rejected (she's very good looking and pretty superficial) and it'll not only ruin what we have but lower my confidence even more. I also feel like it's harder for me being an ethnic minority and that a lot of the time, white girls just straight up aren't interested: which really sucks cos they are the majority here. I don't know I guess I just thought it would be easier because I've made out with 2 girls before and I've had girls tell me that I'm good looking (but also others have said I'm ugly and I'm starting to feel like this is the truth). I posted on amiugly last year and got the comments '6.5/10', 'chaotic neutral' and a girl my age who had also posted saying I was cute. I'm not even interested in hookups now and just want a girl who is willing to give me a chance and date me but I guess girls just don't feel that way about me. I'm starting to feel like I'm their straight "gay best friend".

Things are only going to get worse now that freshers week are over because all the girls are going to start getting into relationships and there's not as much time for clubbing/meeting new people as my uni course has started (I'm doing a very difficult course at a very prestigious university which will only make things more difficult). I just wanna know what I should do about all of this. Should I confide in the female friends I've made and ask them if there's anything wrong with me or will that just creep them out since I've known them for all of 10 days? Should I just ask out the girl I'm close with despite the very high chance of being rejected? Is there any things I should be doing to better myself? Please help me cos I don't wanna have to end up asking my parents to get me an arranged marriage 10 years down the line. It's probably clear but I'm a non-religious British Pakistani guy in the UK btw.

TL;DR! Started university and have been rejected by 3 girls in freshers week while other guys are having sex. Don't know what's wrong with me and don't wanna end up alone.

Submitted October 14, 2019 at 11:48PM

So I've been at uni for a couple weeks now and was hoping to do something with a girl in freshers week, however, I didn't get a single bit of action. I'm a 5'8 skinny guy and I genuinely don't know if I'm good looking or not (I've been told I look like everyone from Tyler the Creator to Rami Malek to Zayn). I dress well and have good hygiene so it's not like I put girls off. I've also made some really good female friends at uni already, something I've never had before and I do think I'm a pretty funny guy who can make people laugh and am very sociable. During freshers week, I got drunk and went clubbing every night. On the first night, I told a girl who I preed with that I thought she was fit and tried to escalate but she didn't want anything. I met a cute girl on the 2nd night and danced with her in the club but when I asked if she wanted to sit with me/ get some air/ have some alone time she wasn't interested. I met another cute girl on the 3rd night and turned out she had a boyfriend. By the 4th night I'd lost confidence and just danced with friends and had a really great time and did the same on the 5th night. Meanwhile it seems like there are some other guys here at uni who are definitely getting with girls and having sex (granted not everyone).What am I doing wrong compared to these guys? Am I just ugly and have been overestimating my looks? I've made out with 2 girls in my life but one wasn't really a looker and I only did it to get my confidence up and cos we were both drunk. Before you tell me to lower my standards, the 3 girls I approached have been of different levels of attractiveness.Overall I'm happy with the way uni has started because I've made some really good close friends already and I finally have close female friends (I never did before as I went to an all boys school). However, I've started to develop feelings for one of these close friends now and because of my 3 experiences so far at uni I'm scared to ask her out as I feel like I'll just be rejected (she's very good looking and pretty superficial) and it'll not only ruin what we have but lower my confidence even more. I also feel like it's harder for me being an ethnic minority and that a lot of the time, white girls just straight up aren't interested: which really sucks cos they are the majority here. I don't know I guess I just thought it would be easier because I've made out with 2 girls before and I've had girls tell me that I'm good looking (but also others have said I'm ugly and I'm starting to feel like this is the truth). I posted on amiugly last year and got the comments '6.5/10', 'chaotic neutral' and a girl my age who had also posted saying I was cute. I'm not even interested in hookups now and just want a girl who is willing to give me a chance and date me but I guess girls just don't feel that way about me. I'm starting to feel like I'm their straight "gay best friend".Things are only going to get worse now that freshers week are over because all the girls are going to start getting into relationships and there's not as much time for clubbing/meeting new people as my uni course has started (I'm doing a very difficult course at a very prestigious university which will only make things more difficult). I just wanna know what I should do about all of this. Should I confide in the female friends I've made and ask them if there's anything wrong with me or will that just creep them out since I've known them for all of 10 days? Should I just ask out the girl I'm close with despite the very high chance of being rejected? Is there any things I should be doing to better myself? Please help me cos I don't wanna have to end up asking my parents to get me an arranged marriage 10 years down the line. It's probably clear but I'm a non-religious British Pakistani guy in the UK btw.TL;DR! Started university and have been rejected by 3 girls in freshers week while other guys are having sex. Don't know what's wrong with me and don't wanna end up alone.