Asked a girl if she'd like to grab dinner sometime and got "potentially." not sure what to make of that.

So, I have a coworker that I am on friendly terms with. For the most part we don't communicate much outside of work, but we have several common interests and I have developed a little office crush. I didn't think much of it and wasn't going to act on it. However, I'm starting to think we could get along really well and would like to get to know her better outside of work.

I'm about to go on a trip and she agreed to watch my pet. When I go to drop it off we have a friendly chat for about 45 min and then I muster up the courage to ask if when I get back if she'd like to grab dinner sometime, as a thank you for watching my dog, but pretty clearly implied to be a date. She says, "potentially" and kind of wobbles her head. I'm not sure how to respond to that and drop it right there and steer back to idle chitchat which lasts for another half hour. It never got awkward, so I was happy about that. Then I head out.

What do you all think that could mean? I'm thinking of it as a delayed no, but just didn't want to be mean or was caught off guard. I feel like it's not as bad as like, "I'm not sure, I'm super busy," or something evasive like that. It seems more negative than positive to me. Oh well, guess we'll find out when I get back and follow up with her.



Submitted April 24, 2019 at 03:34AM

So, I have a coworker that I am on friendly terms with. For the most part we don't communicate much outside of work, but we have several common interests and I have developed a little office crush. I didn't think much of it and wasn't going to act on it. However, I'm starting to think we could get along really well and would like to get to know her better outside of work.I'm about to go on a trip and she agreed to watch my pet. When I go to drop it off we have a friendly chat for about 45 min and then I muster up the courage to ask if when I get back if she'd like to grab dinner sometime, as a thank you for watching my dog, but pretty clearly implied to be a date. She says, "potentially" and kind of wobbles her head. I'm not sure how to respond to that and drop it right there and steer back to idle chitchat which lasts for another half hour. It never got awkward, so I was happy about that. Then I head out.What do you all think that could mean? I'm thinking of it as a delayed no, but just didn't want to be mean or was caught off guard. I feel like it's not as bad as like, "I'm not sure, I'm super busy," or something evasive like that. It seems more negative than positive to me. Oh well, guess we'll find out when I get back and follow up with her.
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