He knew we were home but when he came back he thought we had left as all the lights were off. He claims I left the door slightly ajar and no sound was coming from inside my room, so he walked in. I thought I had closed the door but I guess not. I’m not sure if my girlfriend knows the door may have been ajar. I’m fine I just want to know if I should maybe talk to my girlfriend about it? We acted as if nothing happened after and things were still fun, and we still have plans coming up. But I don’t want any weird tension between her and my dad. He would never intentionally do that. We weren’t nude but underwear and shirt that’s it. Basically should I mention anything else about it or forget it? Thank you. Submitted April 01, 2022 at 01:11AM He knew we were home but when he came back he thought we had left as all the lights were off. He claims I left the door slightly ajar and no sound was coming from inside my room, so he walked in. I thought I had closed the door but I guess not....

Ikr LOL... I love that pic of her <3 April 01, 2022 at 12:14AM

Thank you for saying this. Im an allo on this sub for fun cause yall are cool. And i was just about to ask if someone could explain this post to me cause i was confused how it was possible but ur comment enlightened me and make it make sense. April 01, 2022 at 12:13AM

I (31f) met a dude(25m) online in late February. We hit it off amazingly well, like multiple messages a day for two weeks, big long paragraphs from both of us, compatible in every way we thought to discuss. Both just wanted casual but regular fun, no meeting the parents/friends/etc or expectation of moving in, etc. I don’t want marriage or kids or anything and he’s still at an age where I’m confident he won’t switcheroo on me about it being casual (had that happen before, it sucked). We arranged to meet up on Sunday early March. I was so excited, he seemed into it, got to like 45 minutes before he was supposed to rock up… and then he cancelled. He’d been out with friends the night before, they suggested grabbing lunch, he accepted. I was like “for real?” Bit upset. Very disappointed. He later apologised properly, told me they were very old friends he hadn’t seen in a long time. I was slightly mollified. Then he said he needed a break from the entire site we met on and went radio sile...

So i’m getting to know this guy over text and he’s 100% my type, but I can’t help but self sabotage because deep down i feel nothing is ever going to work so I don’t even bother that much. It makes me sad that i’m so awkward over text, and can’t think of things to talk about, even though i do like the guy. I feel like im being lazy in the relationship and again it’s due to that deep rooted belief that nothing ever works and i end up alone. For example i sent him a video of me dancing, and he responded but didn’t compliment me. Asked him what are his plans for the night and he hasn’t text back. I feel like i messed up. I feel like i can be my best self, but i always end up self sabotaging. Guess i just wanted to rant. Just sad. Submitted April 01, 2022 at 12:12AM So i’m getting to know this guy over text and he’s 100% my type, but I can’t help but self sabotage because deep down i feel nothing is ever going to work so I don’t even bother that much. It makes me sad that i’m so a...

I wanna live in a flower nest now 😭 March 31, 2022 at 11:34PM

I (23F) went on a few dates w another woman(27F) and she seemed to be cool. She invited me over after 6 dates and said she’d cook and we can watch a movie. I get to her place and we are casually talking then she mentions her cat is going through heat and she had to rub one out for the cat. Then asked me if it was weird. I had nothing to say and just nervously laughed. I instantly felt uncomfortable. She got up to use the bathroom about 10 mins in and I left. I’m sorry but am I missing something here? Yes! I thought doing that to a cat is frickin odd! I blocked her #. Submitted March 31, 2022 at 12:15AM I (23F) went on a few dates w another woman(27F) and she seemed to be cool. She invited me over after 6 dates and said she’d cook and we can watch a movie. I get to her place and we are casually talking then she mentions her cat is going through heat and she had to rub one out for the cat. Then asked me if it was weird. I had nothing to say and just nervously laughed. I instantly ...

So I’ve successfully been able to set up a date but it’s not until Sunday. I’m not sure how much or what kind of stuff I should text between now and then. I’d ideally like to save most of the conversation for when we’re in person so I am wondering how to go about this. Can you guys give me some advice about what and how often to message between setting up the date and the date itself? Cheers Submitted March 31, 2022 at 12:16AM So I’ve successfully been able to set up a date but it’s not until Sunday. I’m not sure how much or what kind of stuff I should text between now and then. I’d ideally like to save most of the conversation for when we’re in person so I am wondering how to go about this. Can you guys give me some advice about what and how often to message between setting up the date and the date itself? Cheers

Being a virgin is underrated March 30, 2022 at 11:16PM

He also thinks that it’s impossible for men to be bi, wants trans people to repress their dysphoria, etc etc March 30, 2022 at 11:13PM

Ugh. March 30, 2022 at 11:12PM

Yes March 30, 2022 at 11:12PM

I think for the aromantic, you meant romantic feelings for someone wail ace is the sexual feelings for someone March 30, 2022 at 11:12PM

Her video actually prompted me to feel comfortable with coming out March 30, 2022 at 12:01AM

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Theyre just assholes with No lives, its best to block them And report their post - someguy2654 I detect haikus. And sometimes, successfully. Learn more about me. Opt out of replies: "haikusbot opt out" | Delete my comment: "haikusbot delete" March 30, 2022 at 12:01AM

theyre just assholes with no lives, its best to block them and report their post March 30, 2022 at 12:00AM

Demisexual is sexual attraction only after forming a strong bond with someone. Not sure if that 100% fots but it's just a thought. As for being aro... I'm aroace and I can tell you that, for the longest time I always thought love was just friendship but stronger. I never really got why exes can't stay friends because it never occured to me that there could be an emotional element. Does any of that sound familiar? March 29, 2022 at 11:58PM

I’m in my 20s now and still find it weird people my age do that March 29, 2022 at 11:49PM

Been snapping a girl I met once at a McDonald’s for 2 months now. We’ve never met in person. I did ask her out but she ignored the question. Replies to any other message of mine though. Now I’m horny, is “wanna fuck?” too weird of a text? It feels appropriate but my instinct has never done me any service in the past so I ask the fair people of Reddit. Submitted March 30, 2022 at 12:06AM Been snapping a girl I met once at a McDonald’s for 2 months now. We’ve never met in person. I did ask her out but she ignored the question. Replies to any other message of mine though.Now I’m horny, is “wanna fuck?” too weird of a text? It feels appropriate but my instinct has never done me any service in the past so I ask the fair people of Reddit.

Okay, so I’m a 25 year old man for context. I’ve done the casual experience and now I’m ready to settle down. It’s not for me; I want to date with the potential to be married. What’s the right time to ask the important questions? I don’t want to waste my time. Women, I’m specifically asking you this question, I suppose. When is it an appropriate time to start asking real questions? I not want to seem way too serious right off the bat for fear of seeming irrational. I never want my own children, and that’s something I’ve realized from a very young age. This can be a dealbreaker, and that’s fine. Many women want biological children and that’s fine as well. However, I do not. And that’s fine...the problem arises when I figure out when I should bring this up. How do I bring this up to someone? If they make it a topic of conversation that’s an easy answer, but I don’t want to talk to someone on a second date about children because that’s pretty damn forward. I also don’t want either o...

Ha, same! I had my doubts so I thought I'd check out this sub to see if I might be ace. This was the first post I saw and now I'm pretty sure I am lol. March 29, 2022 at 12:06AM

I always say to my partner that I'm with him because he didn't flirt with me. I hate flirting. March 29, 2022 at 12:02AM

I like my men like I like my women . .....2D ♡ March 29, 2022 at 12:00AM

You mean that isn't what it means? March 29, 2022 at 12:00AM

I got one of my heterosexual friends to explain it to me and it still didn’t make any sense 🤣🤣 March 28, 2022 at 11:59PM

I’m confused about this guy.. we’ve been trying to get together. But wonder if he’s interested. Does he seem or sound interested? “Yes, let’s get together . Running late right now but I’ll touch base very soon and we’ll make some plans. What days are you free? I still want to get together soon. I’ll be out of town tomorrow but maybe when I get back or a day this week?” I answered him but I haven’t heard back.. I’m confused..? Submitted March 29, 2022 at 12:14AM I’m confused about this guy.. we’ve been trying to get together. But wonder if he’s interested.Does he seem or sound interested?“Yes, let’s get together . Running late right now but I’ll touch base very soon and we’ll make some plans. What days are you free? I still want to get together soon. I’ll be out of town tomorrow but maybe when I get back or a day this week?”I answered him but I haven’t heard back..I’m confused..?

YAY!!! March 28, 2022 at 11:21PM

Been going out with this girl for about a month now. She slept over last night and we finally did the dirty. Afterwards she said “you’re going to regret that” which is a concerning thing to hear lmao, but I asked why and she said “I’m not looking for something too serious right now, I really like hanging out with you but I just got out of a relationship so I’m not sure how ready I am for something serious” I told her that was fine and she didn’t need to be upset about it (cause she was visibly upset). I would want something serious eventually with this girl, but am willing to take it as slow as she wants. Should I just keep my distance and not be “forcing” something more serious on her? Or just go about the natural progression of causally dating her and see what it turns into. Submitted March 28, 2022 at 01:15AM Been going out with this girl for about a month now. She slept over last night and we finally did the dirty. Afterwards she said “you’re going to regret that” which is a...

I wish I was ugly, I don't want a bunch of people flirting with me. March 27, 2022 at 11:25PM

I don’t understand why you would have an urge to stay away. It sounds more like sex-repulsion then sexual attraction. March 27, 2022 at 11:25PM

So i went on 2 dates with this girl. She gave me the impression of being the type of girl who doesn't want to rush things and take her time before getting physical with a guy. So i didn't make that much moves in comparison to what i do with other girls( we hugged,held hands, kissed her on the cheek... But i didnt kiss her). Yesterday, i was in a restaurant with my friends and then i was shocked seeing her with her female friend that "everybody has slept with" sitting in a table with 2 other guys. I really lost interest in her when i saw her and i really dont know how to act if we come across each others or if she texts me. Submitted March 28, 2022 at 12:13AM So i went on 2 dates with this girl. She gave me the impression of being the type of girl who doesn't want to rush things and take her time before getting physical with a guy. So i didn't make that much moves in comparison to what i do with other girls( we hugged,held hands, kissed her on the cheek....

I’m sorry your sibling reacted that way. It was unfair to you. I’m also in my 30s and single, and some people are weird about it, but honestly it’s great. I’ve found that acting SUPER confident about being single has helped. Fake it til you make it, you know? March 27, 2022 at 11:24PM

Not really sexual attraction or attraction at all though, that’s just an urge. March 27, 2022 at 11:23PM

Is there any place for people who are on the autism spectrum to find others who are also on the spectrum for dating? I feel like I do not belong on traditional OLD because I am not "normal". I cannot connect with anyone because of my ASD. I want to find someone who understands me. Thank you. Submitted March 27, 2022 at 01:13AM Is there any place for people who are on the autism spectrum to find others who are also on the spectrum for dating?I feel like I do not belong on traditional OLD because I am not "normal". I cannot connect with anyone because of my ASD. I want to find someone who understands me.Thank you.

Not autistic, just dislike sexual activity March 27, 2022 at 12:35AM

im not autistic and im aroace March 27, 2022 at 12:33AM

I feel currently lost. I've been dating this great guy that I truly love and I connected with his children. Right now he's struggling with his mental and emotional health so he put a pause on us. We are back on but things aren't the same and today we talked he reassures me he loves me, wants me and wants to be with me but he expressed that he can't give me the type of love/attention I want because of what he's struggling with mentally and emotionally. It's hard for me because I just want to hangout with him and be around him but most of the time, he just prefers to be alone and he doesn't reach out to me as much. (Isolation, I do it too when I'm depressed). I'm trying to be patient and realize this is no fault of my own but it's hard. People tell me I deserve someone who can give me the love and attention I want but I can't let go because I grew close to his children and I deeply love him. We planned so much of our future together and I...

You believe in astrology, bruh March 26, 2022 at 11:51PM

Thank you March 26, 2022 at 12:33AM

I really don't care. I guess to some people every single injustice matters no matter how small, but this one is just... so nothing. March 26, 2022 at 12:32AM

says who tho March 26, 2022 at 12:30AM

Thank u!! March 26, 2022 at 12:28AM

I don't think it should be punished. people are also creeps however so even if it happens I hope people with boobs are very careful. Love the idea of de-sexualizing the human body just simply existing March 26, 2022 at 12:27AM

A little bit of context: I am 21M, and I met this girl at an event that I was a part and talked to her briefly. I was getting a ton of great vibes from her, she is cute, and seemed like an awesome person. After chatting with her for a while, I took her social media, and that was that. Later on I go to a nightclub the same night, and I find her there with a group of her friends. My buddies and I got a table for the night, so I invite her friends and her to come and dance with us. We end up dancing for a while, but I had to leave the club early because of work the next day, before anything sexual happened. I want to message her right now, and ask her out but I am afraid that it is too soon. Submitted March 26, 2022 at 12:12AM A little bit of context: I am 21M, and I met this girl at an event that I was a part and talked to her briefly. I was getting a ton of great vibes from her, she is cute, and seemed like an awesome person. After chatting with her for a while, I took her social...

You are right, but children are still more vulnerable and less likely to seek help (due to things like fear, shame or just carelessness). Just like we don't trust children's judgment when it comes to alcohol, smoking and driving cars, exposing yourself should not be an option for kids, in my opinion. At least for now, when the breasts are heavily sexualised. March 25, 2022 at 11:35PM

Not so much paying for s*x, but paying for "closeness" like cuddling. Dating today seems like it requires too much investment. I'd hate to jump through a million hoops over a period of months when in reality I just want a little bonding. Like I understand there is a LOT more to relationships and would hate to waste someone's time.. It all seems like too big a commitment for what I want. It also doesn't help that I live in the most boring part of Virginia with no one near my age 21M. What are your thoughts or experiences with this? Submitted March 25, 2022 at 02:12AM Not so much paying for s*x, but paying for "closeness" like cuddling. Dating today seems like it requires too much investment. I'd hate to jump through a million hoops over a period of months when in reality I just want a little bonding. Like I understand there is a LOT more to relationships and would hate to waste someone's time.. It all seems like too big a commitment for w...

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My current bf/ guy im seeing is very successul and smart which is all impressive and everything but im not that much… He is surrounded by good looking smart girls all day that he can talk about his work stuff with whereas I cant really understand. I got interviewed for a role that was almost at his level today and it went so badly. I had to do a case study and the worst part is I went into it thinking I would smash it. I worked hard and still got nowhere… I feel very stupid. I cried all day. And its making me want to break up with this guy because I feel so inferior to him. I dont really know why he sticks around. Im pretty certain he must be cheating as he is really good looking too. Weve not yet slept together Submitted March 25, 2022 at 01:15AM My current bf/ guy im seeing is very successul and smart which is all impressive and everything but im not that much… He is surrounded by good looking smart girls all day that he can talk about his work stuff with whereas I cant real...

I know that this is probably not the intention, but the way this is phrased seems needlessly confrontational. March 25, 2022 at 12:07AM

i (f23) have a date with a guy (m52) tomorrow and i’m kinda nervous. i’ve dated older guys before and they’re kinda my type, but this is the oldest i’ve been with. i’m just worried that i’ll seem to young/immature to him. We’ve texted a little bit and he seems super kind and nice. i haven’t been on a first date in a while. we’re meeting at a restaurant and i got A LOT of questions. if i get there first, do i wait for him or just get us a table? what if he gets there first and got us a table already? when i see him do i greet him with a handshake or a hug? what questions do i ask him? how long should the date last? how long after the date should i text him? do i drink on the date? how many drinks should i order? (sorry this is a lot of questions) Submitted March 25, 2022 at 12:15AM i (f23) have a date with a guy (m52) tomorrow and i’m kinda nervous. i’ve dated older guys before and they’re kinda my type, but this is the oldest i’ve been with. i’m just worried that i’ll seem to...

So, I've been dating my girlfriend for goin on 6 months, but, on the first month she got cancer, not vibes, so, we've been having a long distance relationship, that... was its on struggle, now, onto the question, how the hell I get back into the groove of dating? or.. what do I do? like... what should I do? Submitted March 24, 2022 at 01:15AM So, I've been dating my girlfriend for goin on 6 months, but, on the first month she got cancer, not vibes, so, we've been having a long distance relationship, that... was its on struggle, now, onto the question, how the hell I get back into the groove of dating? or.. what do I do? like... what should I do?

Came across A-Cafe on tumblr recently, not sure how functional it is yet. March 24, 2022 at 12:30AM

I don't know.i just like cake March 24, 2022 at 12:30AM

So I recently started talking to this Guy. He is from El Salvador and his first language is not English. My question is twofold. Are Salvadoran people touchy people? Like touch, hug, ect is that normal. Also, is it normal for them to apologize for everything? Like I know English isn't your first language. Why should you apologize when you speak to me. I can always translate your text if I dont understand it. Just be you ok. No need to apologize. Is that normal for them?? Submitted March 24, 2022 at 12:11AM So I recently started talking to this Guy. He is from El Salvador and his first language is not English. My question is twofold. Are Salvadoran people touchy people? Like touch, hug, ect is that normal. Also, is it normal for them to apologize for everything? Like I know English isn't your first language. Why should you apologize when you speak to me. I can always translate your text if I dont understand it. Just be you ok. No need to apologize. Is that normal for them...

I honestly like the Gnome aspect (the D&D master inventors, crafters, tinkerer's kind) because of the fact that then we can make golems to support our subterranean fortress cities (think normal medieval cities with massive walls and towers and such, place it underground in like a massive cave, and then make it even more fortified and that's what I'm thinking) it would be wonderful! March 23, 2022 at 11:12PM

My boyfriend (21M) and I (20NB) have been together for exactly 7 months now. I think I could speak for us both when I say that this is the best relationship either of us have ever been in! He goes beyond to do things for me and make me feel loved and he spares no effort in our relationship. However, we live in a small, tight-knit community where everything seems to get around and it was common knowledge that even before we started dating, BF had an obvious thing for Katie for about a year. Katie had Tyler really young and often brings him into my boyfriend's work (her father runs the operation so they spend time with him). I don't know how old he is, but he's a toddler. BF is obsessed with Tyler and loves him to death, so much so that for a really long time, a picture of him and Tyler was his Lock Screen on all of his devices. At the beginning of our relationship BF would always show me pictures of Tyler that he took when he got back from working, but I think he stopped w...

Been approx 1 year since I [28M] ended things with someone [26F] who I genuinely would have married and built a life with and since then, I feel fine by myself but in the women I’ve spoken with as potential future partners or dates I’ve gone on, I often am uncertain in that I don’t entirely feel like they’re someone I could build a life with. I think that because of how intense and deep my last relationship was, I feel a bit skeptical / guarded in other future ones. Am I the only one who feels this after a relationship? Tell me it gets better lol. Submitted March 23, 2022 at 01:15AM Been approx 1 year since I [28M] ended things with someone [26F] who I genuinely would have married and built a life with and since then, I feel fine by myself but in the women I’ve spoken with as potential future partners or dates I’ve gone on, I often am uncertain in that I don’t entirely feel like they’re someone I could build a life with. I think that because of how intense and deep my last rela...

…I don’t think they know what the word “introvert” means March 22, 2022 at 11:37PM

Well, maybe someone should educate them about it. I never said it was from maliciousness. And do you really think it’s allos posting aro stuff on ace subreddits? Most of it comes from aroaces who aren’t aware that asexuality and aromanticism aren’t the same thing. March 22, 2022 at 11:37PM

As it happened to me (M33 back then, 37 now), many men that just get out of a relationship fall into the mistake of getting into the dating pool ASAP. As I have seen in myself and many cases of friends and relatives, that’s a huge mistake. Not gonna stop for too long on the part of “healing and letting go of the ex” because many people writes about it, but I’d like to explain why I think it just basically messes up with your game. There was a huge before/after once I understood all of this: So the first thing I did was to make sure I've fully healed from my past relationship. Otherwise, I'd bring a lot of emotional baggage that will simply stop me from truly enjoying the great experiences that I could have meeting new women, since I'd be constantly comparing, dreading or missing, and that took my ability to be present away from me. Now, once I felt that part was done, I started to enjoy being on my own, before thinking on any tricks, places or dating apps. I enjoyed bein...

Gen z March 22, 2022 at 11:36PM

How do you make it not feel like a waste of time when you’re not into casual sex and want a long term relationship when most people in the dating pool can’t decide what they want for breakfast? Maybe I need to be more patient. I’ve been on less Dates as time goes on because I’m learning what to look out for and stay away from. I started off going on very sketchy dates but now that never happens anymore so I’m ok with going on less dates. But I’m burnt out. People are hot and cold and I just am not that interested to begin with. How do you deal with dating burnt out? I don’t think I’m ready to give up just yet. Submitted March 22, 2022 at 01:06AM How do you make it not feel like a waste of time when you’re not into casual sex and want a long term relationship when most people in the dating pool can’t decide what they want for breakfast?Maybe I need to be more patient. I’ve been on less Dates as time goes on because I’m learning what to look out for and stay away from. I starte...

Yup. I'm pretty pissed. We've been on multiple dates and had an amazing connection, at least that's how I felt. First time she cancelled for a pretty good reason but left me in the dark about it until the afternoon of our date and I had to ask her for her to even tell me she couldn't see me. After cancelling I asked her, "You're still interested in seeing me right?" Because it felt odd that I had to wait around all day to get an answer. She ignored me all day which really bothered me. Tried texting again later and calling that night but no response and I gave up. She apologized in text the next day and explained she was hesitant because of shit she went through in her past. We talked through all of it and I forgave her asking her to re do the date next week. The date rolls around and what do you know, I'm still not getting an idea of if I'm seeing her or not. Called her in the AM to try and figure out what we're doing for the day and no res...

I (19F) just had the most awkward time tonight at my ‘guy friends’ (19M) house. He’s usually a really nice and shy guy and I consider myself very passive, not one to speak out and on the shy side myself. We started talking about a month ago and hung out a few times before today as well, he actually even asked me to be his girlfriend today. I initially said yes (impulse, I didn’t mean it idk why I said it) but then I thought about it and said that we should slow down and get to know each other more. It’s only be a month, like I mentioned earlier. Anyways, today we were just hanging out and he was acting a little weird, scooting closer to me, moving around where ever I moved, etc…I guess he was trying to make a move but didn’t know how, which I didn’t realize until now. Then all of sudden he put his arm around me which I didn’t mind, then he started to rub my arm, which I also didn’t mind. But then he just randomly started to rub my shoulders lightly and then when I didn’t say anything,...

If I'm looking for serious people and not screwing on the first date why lie about your looks with old ass profile pics before we meet your age and your income when I told you exactly what I'm looking for and you don't fit the bill stop pretending because then I'm going to hate you for wasting my time and lying to me! Ugh Don't do this men! And when i say Im not submissive you wont be GQ enough to MAKE ME submit how is it anyone thinks they can do that shit???? Submitted March 22, 2022 at 01:13AM If I'm looking for serious people and not screwing on the first date why lie about your looks with old ass profile pics before we meet your age and your income when I told you exactly what I'm looking for and you don't fit the bill stop pretending because then I'm going to hate you for wasting my time and lying to me! Ugh Don't do this men! And when i say Im not submissive you wont be GQ enough to MAKE ME submit how is it anyone thinks they can do...

I’m in a similar situation where I have a (mostly) nonjudgmental family, but I don’t find coming out to them necessary. I have mentioned being asexual when it came up in natural conversation, but that’s it. I (AFAB) started dating a transgender girl, and no explanation was necessary. I didn’t need to explain my whole sexuality or romantic orientation (which is good, because it’s complicated!). They just accepted that I was dating a girl, and that was fine. I think only my mom and girlfriend know that I’m nonbinary, but again, I don’t really care if it comes up in conversation. I’m just not going to sit everyone down and come out to them, because none of that really changes much about me or how I want them to interact with me. March 22, 2022 at 12:43AM

I went on a date yesterday, was really nice and seemed like he had a great time. I still haven’t heard from him since the date, it’s been 12+ hours, I’m just wondering what the “time limit” to get a text back if he is interested? He is older (30+) than what I’m used to date and barley use social media. Submitted March 22, 2022 at 12:14AM I went on a date yesterday, was really nice and seemed like he had a great time.I still haven’t heard from him since the date, it’s been 12+ hours, I’m just wondering what the “time limit” to get a text back if he is interested? He is older (30+) than what I’m used to date and barley use social media.

I've been crushing big time on my college classmate for maybe 3 months? There are definitely possible signs of interest on his end. Small things like us matching on Tinder once, him offering me a ride the first time we ever had a one on one conversation, him asking if I was getting coffee twice, many looks in class etc. Most recently he eavesdropped on a conversation between my friend and I, in which I jokingly said "God, why can't I meet someone NICE" and he turned around and laughed. He seems a bit nervous around me. He also tends to look at me whenever he says something in class or loudly infront of our classmates, almost like he wants to gauge my reaction. It could all be in my head but idk...I get a vibe. Thing is, we have literally TWO weeks of class left. And then a month of exams. We've only become friendly with each other in the last 3/4 weeks of class. I'm torn between well if he wanted to he would just ask me out and he hasn't so there's ...

I’m young I know I’ve also had girlfriends in the past but lately it seems like something about me or the people around me has changed like women say they like me but then play with my heart and make me feel like shit then I’m left at the end of the day feeling alone time and time again I know a relationship isn’t the salvation to fix my loneliness but I don’t think I’m a bad person I feel like I’m a great person to be with so why am I always treated so badly Submitted March 21, 2022 at 01:15AM I’m young I know I’ve also had girlfriends in the past but lately it seems like something about me or the people around me has changed like women say they like me but then play with my heart and make me feel like shit then I’m left at the end of the day feeling alone time and time again I know a relationship isn’t the salvation to fix my loneliness but I don’t think I’m a bad person I feel like I’m a great person to be with so why am I always treated so badly

That or neither? Honestly well groomed is the most aesthetically pleasing. As well as having even/symmetrical features. March 20, 2022 at 11:54PM

This isn't the 50s lol March 20, 2022 at 11:54PM

F(25) and M (22) were on the date at the cinema for the second time. He took me home. Then we talked and something happened in the car. After the act, we talked about how he can't talk to other girls somewhere in the club or elsewhere because he spent most of his time at the PC. He is shy- ​ ​ so I told him "how to reach girls". When he took me to the house, when I said goodbye, he said to me, '' Do you know what they say? after evil something good will come ''. because I've been through a lot of bad things. and then he told me that he wanted a girl like me and that he finally wished me a normal guy ​ I'm so confused. I have a tight stomach out of it. Can u give me some advice? thank u Submitted March 21, 2022 at 12:12AM F(25) and M (22) were on the date at the cinema for the second time. He took me home. Then we talked and something happened in the car. After the act, we talked about how he can't talk to other girls somewhere in th...

Overwhelming relief. Disbelief. It was such a turbulent time for me, questioning. I am very happy now. March 20, 2022 at 11:53PM

Actually getting good representation? Of course it's news! March 20, 2022 at 11:53PM

i thought of hisoka from hxh lol March 20, 2022 at 12:54AM

So, I started talking to this guy and after talking everyday for a month he asked me out and we we're gonna go to the movies on a Saturday. One day before the "date" he said he had a party to go on Saturday, and asked me if we could go on Sunday because of that. I said I wasn't available on Sunday and he said ok. This was Friday morning. On Friday night he told me he had a discussion with his dad and he wouldn't let him go anymore, but I think it was a lie and he went to the party instead. After this, we talked only a few times only because I texted him and he doesn't seem interested anymore. Should I be direct and ask him about it or... idk Submitted March 20, 2022 at 01:03AM So, I started talking to this guy and after talking everyday for a month he asked me out and we we're gonna go to the movies on a Saturday. One day before the "date" he said he had a party to go on Saturday, and asked me if we could go on Sunday because of that. I sa...

That's basically where I am too. Being sex-repulsed on top of gray-ro ace means the chances of me finding someone are extremely slim. I'm open to it if it happens, but not something I'm seeking out. March 20, 2022 at 12:10AM

I (20M) became good friends with this girl (20F) in September, but I caught feelings for her in January. I found out yesterday that she’s talking to another guy that I know. She’s not the most emotionally stable person right now and has been going through a really hard time. I want to be there for her to help as a friend, but it hurts to see her, knowing she doesn’t have feelings for me. I want to tell her that I have feelings for her, but that I need a break from being friends with her for a bit until I get over her. I want to do this in the nicest way possible because I know that she really values our friendship and she’s going through a tough time. I don’t want to hurt her more. How do I do this? Submitted March 20, 2022 at 12:16AM I (20M) became good friends with this girl (20F) in September, but I caught feelings for her in January. I found out yesterday that she’s talking to another guy that I know. She’s not the most emotionally stable person right now and has been going ...

Depends on the app. Tinder is the hookup app but I've had good success with okcupid for finding queer people of varying sexual and romantic orientations including ace. March 19, 2022 at 11:21PM

Today, I was training at the community center. After 4 hours, I was laying on the ground and this girl from my school walks over, stands over me, and asks “Down for the count, huh?” and then stepped over me and walked away. What do y’all thinks meant? Submitted March 18, 2022 at 04:20AM Today, I was training at the community center. After 4 hours, I was laying on the ground and this girl from my school walks over, stands over me, and asks “Down for the count, huh?” and then stepped over me and walked away. What do y’all thinks meant?

Soo there’s this girl that works at a dispensary I go to and she has been my tender a couple of times and we’ve had small conversations here and there, last night I decided to ask for her number… so I go into the store and I’m waiting in line, I look up from being on my phone and she’s looking at me and smiles at me I smile back and this rush of anxiety hit me, my hands started shaking, and I started to overthink everything, so she calls me to her register everything went normal but I just couldn’t ask for her number when I would think about asking her the anxiety would get worse. There was a lot of people in there too so that made the anxiety worse. She speaks a different language that I also speak idk if it’s weird to ask for her number in that language, I feel like it would be easier and less stressful. Submitted March 18, 2022 at 04:21AM Soo there’s this girl that works at a dispensary I go to and she has been my tender a couple of times and we’ve had small conversations her...

I met a girl 17 years ago… when we started talking (like every night on the phone) she was 18 and I was 25. We became great friends and grew very close, but because of the situation I had to scale back the contact and she did not like that. A few months later we started talking again and it dwindled because she went off to college. Over the years we would keep in contact and see each other when she came home. She then moved away again for her master’s degree and eventually landed in NYC. I would visit periodically (I’m originally from there - lived in FL for a long time) and we would go to dinner, catch a show, etc. Our friendship never blossomed passed that, although each time we saw each other the connection grew stronger. Fast forward to December 2017… by this time I moved to Texas and she was bouncing between our home area and NYC. When we were both in FL we would always set some time aside for each other, usually dinner and we would spend hours together. Well this dinner was ju...

I’ve been working at a company for about 6 months. It’s a seasonal position and my last day is next Friday. I’ve noticed a very handsome man that works in the warehouse area and I work in the office. When we see each other it’s always just a simple hello or good morning. We had a short conversation through the company’s chat system a couple of weeks ago and literally that’s the most interaction we’ve had. But today when I logged in I had a missed message from him that said “We barely met and you’re already leaving :(“ I wasn’t sure how to take it, if he was just being nice or might be interested. Any advice on this? I would definitely like to get to know him more especially since we won’t be working together anymore. Submitted March 19, 2022 at 12:14AM I’ve been working at a company for about 6 months. It’s a seasonal position and my last day is next Friday. I’ve noticed a very handsome man that works in the warehouse area and I work in the office. When we see each other it’s...

I’ve tried Tinder, Hinge, OkCupid and I’ve come to the conclusion that dating apps are not for me. The entire process just feels inorganic and frustrating to deal with. The conversations feel forced, there’s barely any level of consistency with these men, and my experiences consist of “great on paper, but not attractive irl” syndrome, where their profile is full of check marks but when I meet in person, I’m just not feeling them. I just want to try dating men irl now as meeting them in person as opposed to website feels more genuine and just makes more sense imo. So please give any tips or advice that you can offer. Submitted March 19, 2022 at 12:16AM I’ve tried Tinder, Hinge, OkCupid and I’ve come to the conclusion that dating apps are not for me. The entire process just feels inorganic and frustrating to deal with. The conversations feel forced, there’s barely any level of consistency with these men, and my experiences consist of “great on paper, but not attractive irl” synd...

We’re not dating anymore, but I want to ask this question for when I date other guys in the future. This guy and I were not official only dated a month, but from my side I thought it was going to be there. So one night we were cuddling and talking, and I was talking about how I didn’t know what Marigolds were. The conversation then led to me saying “Just for future reference, don’t buy me flowers as I don’t know really how to take care of them”. He got very mad at me, and told me “I wasn’t gonna buy them for you in the first place” in a very harsh tone which made me almost cry. He ended things with me a week after that. I’m pretty inexperienced with dating, him being my first in a lot of things. That scenario has been making me wonder for months since it happened, should I tell a guy about my preferences in flowers before or after we officially begin dating? Did I do something wrong by telling him that? Is it normal for a guy to get mad over something like that? Submitted March 19...

I think discussing psychology mental disorders is pretty fun March 18, 2022 at 11:32PM

Well, that sounds like a lovely time to me... March 18, 2022 at 11:30PM

This is quite hard for me it only just fully set in, for some reason I was always in denial about it March 18, 2022 at 01:22AM

I’m attracted to all genders but unlike pan I have some sort of preference in gender, which for me is women and non-binary people . I’d still definitely date a man but I’d rather have a woman or non-binary person March 18, 2022 at 01:22AM

I(17m) have a crush on my best friend(16f). She's funny smart kind and extremely adorable. Whenever I talk to her I feel happy and that we'd be a good couple. I'm tempted to ask her out but I'm not confident in myself at all since I've never had a gf before. How do I ask her out and not look like a loser? Submitted March 18, 2022 at 12:14AM I(17m) have a crush on my best friend(16f). She's funny smart kind and extremely adorable. Whenever I talk to her I feel happy and that we'd be a good couple. I'm tempted to ask her out but I'm not confident in myself at all since I've never had a gf before. How do I ask her out and not look like a loser?

yes same! March 18, 2022 at 12:19AM

my best friend, let's call her Diana (f28), has had some tough luck with her previous partners. lately, she told me she has a choice between either starting over and finding someone new (she really wants to start a family soon, so realistically this could be a challenge) or starting back up with her ex who is essentially a tyrant. she loves him, but he's got a very closed minded attitude that women should be slaves to their husbands. i am scared that she decides to go that route she will ultimately divorce him, so i am trying to encourage her in any way possible get out there and start seeing someone new. i have been in a relationship for 10 years, so i don't even know where to start to give her advice. she's over dating apps... the only thing i can think of is sending her lists of events coming up in our area that have to do with her interests (conferences, workshops, the gym, etc) so that she can have a more suited pool of men to choose from, but i don't even kn...

This title is kinda misleading as I have already asked her on the date after texting for three days, as I have researched online that three days is optimal for initial texting before meeting someone. We have been texting for several hours per day after I finish my work usually at night, because I work from 9 to 5 as developer and don't have much time for texting. She rejected me because she said it is too early and she is not that comfortable, which is obviously completely fine to me, and I said that we should then talk more online before going out. My question is how long should I wait then before asking her out again, now obviously you are not her you do not know when she will feel comfortable to go out with me, but if you've been in the similar situation maybe I can make in my brain some time interval that would help me. Submitted March 18, 2022 at 12:14AM This title is kinda misleading as I have already asked her on the date after texting for three days, as I have ...

So I (m20) have one of my first actual dates planned for next Sunday. We are going to go to the mall so she can go shopping, have some lunch together, walk around and then go to her place to watch a move or series. But at work right now I don’t feel like going anymore. I haven’t talked to her, it just came really random. I was supposed to go and pick her up, which is a 20 minute drive, then basically go back to where I came from, but instead of going left somewhere, i have to turn right. This is another 20-30 minute drive, to then park in the center off the city, which is gonna be really crowded because it’s a Sunday, and also payed. After that if we go to her place I have to meet and introduce myself to her parents. And I just feel like I don’t want to do all of that, because i basically know it’s not going to turn out to be anything because I suck at dating and I’m not the relationship type of person. I was thinking of faking a positive COVID test to tell her I can’t come anymo...

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Hey guys, I am Jewish and my girlfriend is Episcopalian. Among Jews I know this seems to be common and for many it doesn't seem to be an issue. For me, I have been concerned for a while now that this could come up as an issue between us in the future. I have anxiety that my children could end up growing up without the Jewish faith. I know, haven't been dating for that long enough but I am afraid top continue to become that serious. I just do not know how to go about solving my issue. My girlfriend is amazing in every other aspect and if she was Jewish, this wouldn't ever become a concern of mine. I just am very proud of my Judaism and afraid of losing that. I don't want to celebrate Easter of Christmas, I feel awkward and out of place. I also wish I had a significant other that can participate in my Jewish tradition with. I have never talked with her about it, but I am afraid that it will be a very awkward conversation to have and I don't want any conflict with her...