Throw the whole man away sweetie :( I'm sorry January 01, 2022 at 02:28AM

I'm so sorry he did that. It's not ever ok. Your boundaries matter af January 01, 2022 at 02:28AM

You meet someone; beautiful, smart, compassionate, fun, funny and you’re blown away.. then you meet someone even more beautiful, funny, interesting… then someone even more so, and so on. At some point you need to commit to one person. How though? How do you stay with one person long term if you’re crossing paths with people you find better in certain ways? What if you find them to be significantly better? Is that unfair on your current partner to be thinking like that? I know there will always be someone you find more attractive out there, there will always be someone more funny, more intelligent etc so if this is your mindset you’ll never be satisfied. Submitted January 01, 2022 at 02:08AM You meet someone; beautiful, smart, compassionate, fun, funny and you’re blown away.. then you meet someone even more beautiful, funny, interesting… then someone even more so, and so on.At some point you need to commit to one person.How though?How do you stay with one person long term if ...

I got a 95 January 01, 2022 at 12:42AM

I’ve got a short list of possible deal breakers in regard to dating and need to know if they’re pretty bad enough to diminish my chances with women. Honestly if my chances are slim I’d rather not waste my time. Please be honest Here’s my list: - living with parents -no dating experience -job as a waiter/server -still in college -slightly overweight (6’1”, 250) - no social media profiles Submitted January 01, 2022 at 12:14AM I’ve got a short list of possible deal breakers in regard to dating and need to know if they’re pretty bad enough to diminish my chances with women. Honestly if my chances are slim I’d rather not waste my time. Please be honest Here’s my list: - living with parents -no dating experience -job as a waiter/server -still in college -slightly overweight (6’1”, 250) - no social media profiles

I used Taimi and liked it but not many people in my area January 01, 2022 at 12:41AM

I personally cannot relate to women who say, “sex doesn’t have to mean anything”, and do not agree at all. But I feel that’s an unpopular opinion today. I was wondering if all these women with “casual” outlooks on sex have any success with actual relationships. I am not referring to online matches or “hook-ups”. I mean serious relationships. Are girls with triple digit body counts something you look for? Submitted January 01, 2022 at 12:15AM I personally cannot relate to women who say, “sex doesn’t have to mean anything”, and do not agree at all. But I feel that’s an unpopular opinion today. I was wondering if all these women with “casual” outlooks on sex have any success with actual relationships. I am not referring to online matches or “hook-ups”. I mean serious relationships. Are girls with triple digit body counts something you look for?

(30M) I met my first love when I was 17. Had kids at age 20 and 21. I stayed with her until I was 24, but eventually left her after a seven year relationship. I haven't really dated since. I aquired full custody of both of my children and have mostly been focusing on raising them while building my career. My logic for waiting so long to start dating is that I will have much better options later in life if I don't have young children and am more financially stable. Sometimes I feel like when the time comes and I do start dating, girls are going to think It's weird that I have only been with one person before. So my question is, is it a turn off to find out a guy has very little experience dating other woman or is it a good thing? Submitted December 31, 2021 at 02:14AM (30M) I met my first love when I was 17. Had kids at age 20 and 21. I stayed with her until I was 24, but eventually left her after a seven year relationship. I haven't really dated since. I aquired ...

That you just 'haven't found the one' December 31, 2021 at 01:35AM

This just made me realize something. There are people who believe people with autism/autists (using both terms because I know different people have different feelings on which fits) cannot feel sexual attraction. There are also people who believe that humans cannot not feel sexual attraction. That heavily implies something about people who believe both statements. Like believing either is bad and people who believe the original have a high chance of looking down on people with autism/autists but the combination of both scares me. December 31, 2021 at 01:33AM

I 31F just broke off my wedding over my ex 33M wedding. Sorry for the post I'm a little tipsy. We were 2 weeks away from the wedding and looking at my fiancee you could see he could've been a virgin. The other day I got a message from his brothers wife. It was a picture of their (my ex and her) daughter. She told me he also has a son but with both kids his parental right were terminated. To make matters worse she posted the whole drama on FB. I was embrassed. He doesn't have a place to go or any money (he's on disability) so I told him he can sleep downstairs. I blocked her bc she kept texting me about the kids. I love kids and want my own. Everyone says I need to kick him out but I feel bad. Am I stupid or an asshole? Plus I told him I'm not with him Submitted December 31, 2021 at 01:15AM I 31F just broke off my wedding over my ex 33M wedding. Sorry for the post I'm a little tipsy. We were 2 weeks away from the wedding and looking at my fiancee you could...

I know some aces are able to enjoy sex without sexual attraction, but how do they? Sexual attraction doesn't really affect enjoyment of sex from what I've heard. The answer is, experimentation. You have to get familiar with your body and what physical sensations are pleasurable to it if you want to enjoy sex. You can do this alone or with a partner, but be open with your partner about what you're going through/feeling. If you thought you'd enjoy something and you didn't, switch up what you're doing/ask then to switch. Consider bringing toys into it as well; sometimes partnered toy playing can help hit the spots people have a hard time stimulating. Eta: don't force yourself to go through with something just because you think you should. That's the fastest path to resentment. Just experiment with different things as long as you want to. December 31, 2021 at 12:45AM

What do you mean by "the conversation got shot down"? Because I can interpret this in two very different ways. Either: they don't know what asexuality really is, you couldn't explain it very well, and the conversation kind of ground to a halt, in which case maybe you can give them some reading material or take them through the steps of how you found out you were ace; or they got angry when you brought it up and you're scared that if you bring it up again they'll get angry again, in which case that's a massive red flag with 'Abuse!' written all over it and I urge you to get help, for instance by googling your country's abuse hotline number and calling it; even if you're not sure that it's abuse, there's no harm in talking to someone about it. December 31, 2021 at 12:44AM

I started drinking at 14, and I became sick of it by the time I was 18. I'm 19 now, and every girl I talk to goes clubbing and drinking at bars and stuff as their only hobby, or activity. I think it's ruining my dating luck, because it's not as if I can hang round with them and just drink water. It would be creepy aswell. Let me know what you think. Any advice would be great Submitted December 31, 2021 at 12:15AM I started drinking at 14, and I became sick of it by the time I was 18. I'm 19 now, and every girl I talk to goes clubbing and drinking at bars and stuff as their only hobby, or activity. I think it's ruining my dating luck, because it's not as if I can hang round with them and just drink water. It would be creepy aswell. Let me know what you think. Any advice would be great

So I (20M) want to text my crush, but don’t know what to ask to start a conversation because I haven’t texted her over Christmas break. I’m thinking of asking her how her break has been so far or asking her if she’s seen this tv show I’m watching because this character reminds me of her. What should I text her? Submitted December 30, 2021 at 02:09AM So I (20M) want to text my crush, but don’t know what to ask to start a conversation because I haven’t texted her over Christmas break. I’m thinking of asking her how her break has been so far or asking her if she’s seen this tv show I’m watching because this character reminds me of her. What should I text her?

Or not? Submitted December 30, 2021 at 02:14AM Or not?

Saaaame!! I think this is aego? Not sure, but same. December 30, 2021 at 12:30AM

Guy I used to date was falling for me but I didn’t feel the same so things ended a couple of months back but we remained friends and we was texting last week and he took a couple of days to respond to one of my messages but he came back asking me a question and seeing how I was but I basically cut him off I know what slow responses mean I don’t have time for that especially since we aren’t dating anymore… then he text me again on Christmas to say merry Christmas (why would he do this?) so I just said the same back and he never replied? What is this all about??? Why text merry Christmas and not even acknowledge me saying it back or try to continue a conversation? TL;DR! Why would a guy I used to date text me merry Christmas so I reply with the same and then he ghosts me? Male aged 30 female aged 28 Submitted December 30, 2021 at 01:10AM Guy I used to date was falling for me but I didn’t feel the same so things ended a couple of months back but we remained friends and we was text...

Hi so I’m really interested in a girl we been talking only small and we met in school could I try to date her atleast 18 years old I am Submitted December 30, 2021 at 01:11AM Hi so I’m really interested in a girl we been talking only small and we met in school could I try to date her atleast 18 years old I am

Well, I’d rather not “fuck them”, actually. ;) Wish my family wasn’t so wound up and conservative. My father always has to make a comment about how “we don’t approve of this” if two characters of the same sex... gasp kiss in a tv show. December 30, 2021 at 12:29AM

First hey I hope you’re day is going well and thanks for taking a minute to read this. So 2019, Christmas party, I met this chick while out smoking a cig. I could use any number of adjectives to describe her but that’s irrelevant, we’ve all had love at first sight enough to know it isn’t that special. She’s gorgeous, artistic, sarcastic and incredibly witty. Anyways we only talked for a minute before going back to the party. I followed her on IG the next day, no accept. Fast forward to today, or a couple weeks ago (thanks for sticking with me through the expected run on sentences and lack of pizazz) She randomly accepts my request, and we start to DM. Pretty innocent, she told me she almost immediately started dating someone from that party, an old friend of mine actually, and that they’d very recently broke up. I said we should get drinks and she said she wasn’t looking to date right now, idk where the convo went from there, rejection from someone in that position doesn’t make me f...

Hi there! Six months ago, I've finally gathered all my courage to ask a girl, that I've known for 12 years, out for the first time. We knew each other, bot not on a truly personal level. One time, we were supposed to go to a cinema with our friend group, but to our surprise, no one had the time to come. We both wanted to see the movie really badly, but we thought that the meeting with our friends got canceled. So I went and send her this: "Hey, it might seem weird, because I've never done this before, but don't you wanna go see the cinema with me? I know that it's not with our friend group, but I'd love to go. Wanna join me?". And she somehow agreed. It was by far the most random thing that happened to me. We both ended up really enjoying that movie and our time together. It was really heartwarming. Then I asked her out again. We went out for a walk this time. And again and again. Yesterday, we've been on around 15-20 unofficial dates/walks/coffe...

I matched with girl who I had a fling with about 8 yrs ago. We were surprised to have connect again and have been talking for a few weeks. She seems more mature and looking for something more serious. We only went over each other’s places and never been on a real date, we are essentially strangers. Should I start over and be formal like dating someone new? Or should to sort of pick up where things left off and be more flirtatious and comfortable around her. I usually waited at few dates before hooking up with someone, so this situation is a bit awkward for me. Submitted December 30, 2021 at 12:11AM I matched with girl who I had a fling with about 8 yrs ago. We were surprised to have connect again and have been talking for a few weeks. She seems more mature and looking for something more serious. We only went over each other’s places and never been on a real date, we are essentially strangers. Should I start over and be formal like dating someone new? Or should to sort of pick up...

I had been seeing this guy for almost two months when he said this to me. We never agreed to be in a committed relationship, but we sure acted like it. We would go on dates, hold hands and kiss in public, spend every weekend together, and hooked up a lot. All of a sudden, he tells me what is mentioned above in the title. I won’t lie, I kind of got mad and started to believe that he really was playing me. With that in mind, I hooked up with someone else that I met on Hinge. I recognize that this was likely just protest behavior on my part, and I didn’t really like the Hinge guy. Anyways, he found out and got really mad. He told me that he genuinely liked me and that I played him. He pulled that “we were working towards a relationship” argument at this point. He also called me all kinds of other names like “fake” and trashy. If you were in my shoes, would you believe him? Would you believe he genuinely wanted to date you? OR would you not believe a word he says and run? Submitted De...

We have been friends for half a year and she posted something on her snap story saying 2021s almost over if you want to say anything to anybody then repost this. i reposted to see if she would say anything to me and she asked me first. i was thinking of asking her out over snap right then but thought I would wait and post to see if I should over snap or wait a couple for school for in person. I lied and said its a tough question and I would let her know soon Submitted December 30, 2021 at 12:13AM We have been friends for half a year and she posted something on her snap story saying 2021s almost over if you want to say anything to anybody then repost this. i reposted to see if she would say anything to me and she asked me first. i was thinking of asking her out over snap right then but thought I would wait and post to see if I should over snap or wait a couple for school for in person. I lied and said its a tough question and I would let her know soon

How do you know I'm not ace December 29, 2021 at 03:52AM

Nahh I´m ace myself, I know better how diverse aces can be than you random person. December 29, 2021 at 03:51AM

Shire sounds like it December 29, 2021 at 03:51AM

So much ignorance. December 29, 2021 at 03:50AM

Going through a tough phase December 29, 2021 at 03:50AM

Oof yes, I mistook aesthetic and romantic attraction for sexual attraction. My second rotating experience was quite different. After a couple of times it left me feeling worse than before I went there, so I stopped completely. I have zero desire for casual sex these days. Dealing with libido on my own gives the same level of satisfaction. I also relate to being uninterested in dating because, ugh, I just don't want to go there with anyone right now even though I am alloromantic. December 29, 2021 at 02:34AM

I read a bunch of x Reader and I genuinely enjoy them. It's mostly the focus of the personal attention and central focus of yourself to me rather than the actual smut part, and they have made me question my asexuality purely because I'm reading them, but I like the sensual parts of it. Porn is a completely different story however. Absolutely not. December 29, 2021 at 02:32AM

If nothing else was accomplished today I can at least be sure of my asexuality based on my grievous misunderstanding of sexual attraction. Mahalo! December 29, 2021 at 02:32AM

In my experience, there is no reason to be ashamed of, or not to be opened about your asexuality. It's just who you are. Look at it on a positive way, you won't be used for sex by anyone. That said, I can relate in not finding someone. I have other things along side being body fluid repulsed of it's entirety to feel this way. December 29, 2021 at 02:31AM

A fair bit of the early 20s phase was "for sport" for me, not completely without attachment because some of them I liked romantically, but I would have been just as content having a game night or doing something else fun together. The mid-30s phase was different, it was like I was trying to hang on in a dysfunctional way to a sense of normal.. I quickly discovered after two partners that it most definitely was not for me anymore. That's wild that multiple partners believed you were asexual. I didn't come to that conclusion until quite recently in my late 30s. December 29, 2021 at 02:30AM

My BF and I have been together over 3 years. He agrees it’s weird but says it’s because it was a very expensive ring and she probably wears it for materialistic reasons vs sentimental (She is a proud gold digger and loves to flash anything expensive) However she is also a monster ex wife. She had an affair, he left, and when that went south she wanted him back. And suddenly started wearing the ring again And ever since it’s been an attack on me trying anything to get me to leave him or him to leave me. I dont believe she wears it for materialistic reasons. I truly feel she wears it as a possessive statement. Or a hit at me (she waves her I was his wife flag a lot) Is it cringe? Or does my dislike for her cause me to feel weird about it? Submitted December 29, 2021 at 02:06AM My BF and I have been together over 3 years. He agrees it’s weird but says it’s because it was a very expensive ring and she probably wears it for materialistic reasons vs sentimental (She is a proud gold...

Sexuality can change throughout your life so yes, you can become asexual if you were once allo and you can change back as time goes on. Just don’t try to force anything and just do what’s comfortable with you. You’re welcome here as long as you want to stay. 👍😊👍 December 29, 2021 at 12:44AM

My gym crush (m21) and I (f32) finally hooked up a couple weeks ago. I know the age difference is pretty big but I’m into younger guys and he looks older. We had an ice cream date first after which I wasn’t sure about him however he continued to pursue me through text. I decided to give him another shot and he came over to watch movies and we hooked up, he said he really liked me, wanted to date me and all these cute things. The next night he took me on a date to dinner and to look at Christmas lights and we had a great time. He stayed over at my apartment that night. The next couple days he kind of started to be distant towards me and said he wanted to slow things down. I was confused because I thought we were on the same page and he was the one saying all these things to me. We ended up hanging out one more time and hooking up and again he was distant after and not answering my texts. When I saw him at the gym a couple days later I asked what his deal was and he said he wanted to be...

Yeah it’s a blue and orange sunrise flag December 29, 2021 at 12:44AM

So I have gotten coffee and hung out with this girl a couple times and today I asked her on a date and she said this “Date? It sounds so official and serious! 🌹” Is this a good or bad thing? Unfortunately she has Covid right now so the date won’t happen soon but that reply really threw me off Submitted December 29, 2021 at 12:14AM So I have gotten coffee and hung out with this girl a couple times and today I asked her on a date and she said this “Date? It sounds so official and serious! 🌹”Is this a good or bad thing? Unfortunately she has Covid right now so the date won’t happen soon but that reply really threw me off

Oooh! That's good. Most of mine are kind of uncommon so I feel like they'd understand? I love Calliope, Sasha, Avalon, and Quincy. So I feel like they could kinda go either way? Maybe? December 28, 2021 at 03:43AM

Why do people think it's okay to say something like that? Throw the whole person in the garbage December 28, 2021 at 03:42AM

Well first of all the fact that I didn’t even know what asexuality was, second of all the fact that I feel romantic attraction towards men. December 28, 2021 at 03:42AM

Jamie, Mason, Kristen, Alex, These are all options. I really like androgynous names, because they sound the best. But ya know if they do decide to change what they are, they dont have to hate the gendered name I gave them. December 28, 2021 at 03:41AM

Sexual attraction is attraction on the basis of sexual desire or the quality of arousing such interest. If you feel no sexual attraction towards people, you are asexual. If it is variable or difficult to explain, look into some of the microlabels under asexuality. However, based on what you’ve said, it’s most likely that you just feel dysphoria about your genitalia.. which.. same. Regardless, you’re valid and I’m sorry sex weird :/ December 28, 2021 at 03:40AM

As a now 21y.o who had (and still has) these exact insecurities, here's my take on it: You are the #1 person to care about in your life. Your boundaries are established with only yourself in mind and should be respected. Cross the line = get shot (figuratively) Being ace really feels intimidating, but don't see it like ace vs. allo . It's more like ace & gays & lesbians & bisexuals & heteros & pans & omnis (so on and so forth). I'll let you in on a secret: as Ace F, you can date lesbians, bisexuals, pans, omnis and heteros. Everyone has trouble dating, yet your (a)sexuality shouldn't be a reason to be ashamed. Quite the contrary: gays, lesbians and bisexuals say it openly; it makes it easier to navigate dating, people who aren't into them just walk away by themselves. Being open about who you are is the best way to date in a self-affirming way, and increases the chances of finding someone with whom you are compatible. Patience. Dat...

Hey everyone, I know this might a stupid question or I'm overthinking everything but I'm pretty new to dating in general so any advice on anything is greatly appreciated :) So here's the situation, I [M19] met this really cool girl [F20] on Tinder. We immediately hit it off and moved on to talk on our Instagram accounts. After talking for a day or so, we made plans and went on a coffee date. According to me, it went pretty well, we had a lot in common and surprisingly there wasn't any awkward silence. We made plans to watch a movie at but didn't go too much into detail as to when or where. After the date I walked with her most of the way to her place since we apparently live pretty close by and... I think I fucked up but not too hard I hope. When we said goodbye I could tell she wanted me to make a move but earlier she told me she had been in contact with someone who had covid and I needed to get on a plane the next day to see my family and I couldn't risk it...

just curious we just hanging, but if i was just like “wanna fuck?” would that be bad ? Submitted December 28, 2021 at 02:12AM just curious we just hanging, but if i was just like “wanna fuck?” would that be bad ?

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I don't understand why women don't take me seriously im 23 in community college I have my own place I live in a small college town and the girls here don't seem to wanna talk to you unless your in a frat house or drinking at bars I have went to a few bars it's usually dull loney and no girls mostly unless it's a college bar but even then half the girls iv met forget to add my snap chat back or add me wake up next day to unadd me I don't really have much experience im a decent looking guy I would say 6ft 1 i am confident as well I don't have problems approaching women the problem is the women don't seem interested and don't talk to me more then 3 mins or less iv even tried going out with buddy's to make it a little easier but then the bros just take the girls I end up talking to home so i dont understand i want to find a real long term connection with someone but I guess nobody wants to build something real here 😊iv tried dating apps too but the...

Confusing romantic and aesthetic attraction for sexual attraction and confusing arousal for sexual attraction. December 28, 2021 at 12:38AM

Is sharing furniture a sin? December 28, 2021 at 12:38AM

Why do so many guys charm, say what they want to us women to hear, sleep with us then bail? And don’t act as interested as before, they then pop up a month later acting like they are again? I don’t get why guys do that.. Submitted December 28, 2021 at 12:13AM Why do so many guys charm, say what they want to us women to hear, sleep with us then bail? And don’t act as interested as before, they then pop up a month later acting like they are again? I don’t get why guys do that..

No, not saying that every ace or aro is like that, just that the post asked every ace person personally about what they experience as an ace person. December 27, 2021 at 01:42AM

How do I date? I haven't been in a relationship since highschool and I'm not entirely sure how to do it outside of school. I like chillin at home and I don't go out much. I've tried some dating apps but they either don't work or I'm to impatient idk 🤷. Any advice? Submitted December 27, 2021 at 01:14AM How do I date? I haven't been in a relationship since highschool and I'm not entirely sure how to do it outside of school. I like chillin at home and I don't go out much. I've tried some dating apps but they either don't work or I'm to impatient idk 🤷. Any advice?

Hey guys so my guy is feeling under the weather. He’s not in town for me to comfort him. I texted today to see how he was feeling & he said “I’m feeling blah”. I don’t know how to reply lol. I know I’m overthinking but can you help a girl out ? Thanks! Submitted December 27, 2021 at 01:15AM Hey guys so my guy is feeling under the weather. He’s not in town for me to comfort him. I texted today to see how he was feeling & he said “I’m feeling blah”. I don’t know how to reply lol. I know I’m overthinking but can you help a girl out ? Thanks!

oh gosh, I think you're maybe getting a bit ahead of yourself! Step one: ask them directly about their comfort level with sex. Aces aren't a monolith and maybe your ace ex was touch/sex averse but that doesn't mean this new person is! Could be you two are perfectly compatible. If not, have a conversation about both of your boundaries and then determine whether or not you can sustain a relationship while maintaining both of your needs. There is a lot of communication that needs to happen in any relationship in regards to intimacy, but you have to start the conversation :) December 26, 2021 at 11:44PM

Was watching a YouTube video about an ace guy talking about his experiences, not expecting to get anything from it except a better understanding of ace people, and to my surprise it was like he was describing me. Even looking back, we're very similar on the ace spectrum. December 26, 2021 at 11:44PM

I’ve had this same question for the same reasons. I know that in terms of privilege I have a lot. I only romantically date men so the stigma of how I present in public is basically non-existent. I wouldn’t want to take up safe spaces meant for those whose sexual and/or gender identity has caused them actual harm. Mostly I don’t even talk about it. People just assume I’m a run of the mill spinster. December 26, 2021 at 11:44PM

Heh, when I wrote this, I was the only person who chose "I'm OK with having sex and kissing". Actually, I didn't have neither of this, but I would like to try. I'm just lazy and not horny enough. Just like that. Also I'm OK with masturbation, especially with masturbator. As for just cuddling, it wouldn't be enough for me. December 26, 2021 at 11:44PM

logging in on an alt here lol, but yes I do. Literally kept me from thinking I was ace for years. I thought I was just fucked because it was all that turned me on and sex didn't even cross my mind. maybe tmi but this is an alt so dgaf but I'm into omorashi, so I don't think your foot fetish is all that embarrassing in comparison lol December 26, 2021 at 11:40PM

I (M25) use hinge to meet women in my area, and I'm beginning to feel bored of it. I want to branch out to other apps, but I'm not sure which one to try. I've used tinder and bumble in the past. What's your favorite dating app? Submitted December 27, 2021 at 12:10AM I (M25) use hinge to meet women in my area, and I'm beginning to feel bored of it. I want to branch out to other apps, but I'm not sure which one to try. I've used tinder and bumble in the past. What's your favorite dating app?

LOL'd! Thanks man! TIL December 26, 2021 at 11:40PM

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He told me from the start he doesn't want an open relationship, but I was fine with it as long as his requests were only no penetration and no bjs. Also, as a demi I don't even know if it could work for me, never had occasional sex in my life and always refused any opportunity when I was single. They were at least situationships and my feelings were always involved a bit. December 26, 2021 at 12:25AM

Had a few amazing dates with this girl, i started becoming a little to easy and suffocating, kinda killed all the attraction, now after a few days of silence can't ask her out becouse you know "suffocating", so i need to break the tension with some humour, i will probably end up using my humour but i am curious about what would you say. So, what would a good starter/joke be to break the silence and tension and stop her from being so difficult(no overused cheesy lines please) ? Submitted December 26, 2021 at 01:15AM Had a few amazing dates with this girl, i started becoming a little to easy and suffocating, kinda killed all the attraction, now after a few days of silence can't ask her out becouse you know "suffocating", so i need to break the tension with some humour, i will probably end up using my humour but i am curious about what would you say.So, what would a good starter/joke be to break the silence and tension and stop her from being so difficu...

ah. what country you in then? if the stargate program is revealed to earth that means when the super hive was destroyed and atlantis landed in the ocean it couldn't be covered up. it's a perfect segue tbh. also found out my fellow sex-repulsed with same kink ace friend from algeria is still alive! she's been in the hospital since she vanished! but alive! December 26, 2021 at 12:25AM

I went on a great first date with a guy Ive known through friends for a few months. We went to a wine and cheese bar with him last Sunday. We ended up going back to his to watching a movie, falling asleep and having sex in the morning. We had a lot of hobbies in common and conversation flowed easily. In the morning he made breakfast and asked if I wanted to hang out and watch another movie. The following day he texted me a pretty standard how are you and we talked for a second until the conversation naturally died out. Today he texted me hey and we texted back and forth a few times before he kind of ended the conversation with a merry Christmas. I can’t really tell if he wants to see me again/go on another date because he hasn’t actually asked me to hang out. Any suggestions on how to handle this? Am I just being strung along while he looks for other options? Submitted December 26, 2021 at 12:14AM I went on a great first date with a guy Ive known through friends for a few months...

I went with a friend to eat açai , and me and the girl who worked at the place we had a exchange of glances but i didn't find the courage to ask her out and i'm still trying to find the courage to do it , any advices ? Submitted December 26, 2021 at 12:14AM I went with a friend to eat açai , and me and the girl who worked at the place we had a exchange of glances but i didn't find the courage to ask her out and i'm still trying to find the courage to do it , any advices ?

I (21F) haven’t openly dated a man in front of my family yet. I currently have a secret boyfriend that I met on a dating app. We have been talking for over 4 months and have met up and go on dates in secret...we want to move towards a real relationship. He’s understanding of my situation. The issue is that my mother is soo overprotective when it comes to my dating life. She is always asking if there are any men in my life or any guys I’m talking to. She wants me to have a boyfriend but no guy is good enough for her. Whenever I mention a guy that I know, she freaks out. I can say, “Oh yeah, a guy at church was telling me about his antique toy car collection and he has quite a few”. She will get all paranoid and say, “Oh that’s weird, is he trying to date you? Stay away from him”. One of my mutual friends has a taxidermy fox that I told her about, and she freaked out about him even though we are literally just mutual acquaintances from a work friend. Any hobby/interest she doesn’t like...

yeah i don't identify as one because it's my CHOICE, as it is yours. and every other ace. we still belong to it by default but don't need to identify with it! December 25, 2021 at 12:32AM

18M, just started to be able to physically enter my college this past semester, and now that I’m on break I’ve been thinking about relationships. I’ve had a few girlfriends in the past, and I think they may reflect my insecurities. Long story short I got cheated on in most of them. I know it was all high school but it kind of fucked up my personal feelings towards on relationships. I absolutely feel nothing romantically even toward women who are genuinely good people and are into me. I’m not sure what’s wrong with me but I just can’t see myself dating anyone any time soon, especially since i probably have trust issues now. But I still feel sexually “alive”, and I just want delve into hookups and casual sex. I’ve never slept around before or had friends with benefits, but the idea of it sounds perfect. I feel like I’ll be in the same situation emotionally even half a decade from now , but that may just be my lack of life experience talking. Im wondering, is it normal to sleep around a...

"Do not perceive me. My pronouns aren't." December 24, 2021 at 11:38PM

Recently went to grab dinner with this girl. After seeing me, she ordered wine which I kind of thought was a positive sign so I ordered a drink too. The dinner went really well. Afterwards, I asked if she wanted to order dessert. She said that we should go to another place, which she suggested, so I was like cool. We walked to the new place and got our dessert and ended up walking and talking for another 2 or so hours. It was really great and we had a lot in common, similar values, etc. Talked a lot about our past partners. At one point I told her I really enjoy talking to her and she said she also enjoys talking to me. She suggested we should definitely hang out more. At the end, when I had to leave, she suggested driving me back to her place so my uber home would be a bit closer. We just sat in the car chatting more before I left. ​ I asked her if she wanted to hang out again next week and she said yes. When I suggested a museum, she asked me if it's ok if she brings her siste...

Yes. I’ve even been pinned an honorary queer badge by lgbt members and I still feel like I don’t need to ID with them December 24, 2021 at 11:37PM

Cock enjoyer Based December 23, 2021 at 11:45PM

So here's the thing I have been texting this girl from my university from past 1 month and we have gone out 3 times together since last week after our finals, the problem is I had feelings for her from the beginning I used to see her in our online classes and slid in her DMs and started flirting with her but she was not receptive at all, so I didn't push her and thought we would be good friends since she and I share a lot of common interests, recently during our finals her tone changed and she would flirt back a little, so I asked her when we first went out if she was remotely interested in me she had to tell me now, she said she isn't but sees me as a friend, at this point too I am fine with it, yesterday we were hanging out and she was more open and was telling me about her ex boyfriend and how she has hard time trusting men and when I was about to leave she asked me "what are we??" I had moved on and suppressed my feelings for her, but now I don't know wha...

Relationship and Tinder thing, happened to me with my ex and I didn't know what to do and broke out Cal Cunningham's historically sexy line December 23, 2021 at 11:43PM

Hello, I have a huge insecurity about having no experience. I want to be able to come to terms that every girl I meet will have a past and that I will never have that. For example, I met a girl who I really like who has had a ton of hookups and ex boyfriends. I think she likes me but I have an insecurity where I feel like I don’t want to be with her because she has more experience that me. I know this is ridiculous and I want to get past this. The way I see it is that I feel really bad about myself because I don’t have a past where as she fell in love with other people and had “fun” with others while I had absolutely no one. I’ve always thought that I could meet a girl and we could be each other’s “first everything” but I want to come to terms that chances of this very unlikely. I’ve gotten too old now for this to happen. I want to be able to accept this and not feel guilty about it. Please help me out, thanks. Submitted December 23, 2021 at 01:07AM Hello,I have a huge inse...

I’m gonna preface this by saying the guy in question is my former TA (teaching assistant for a college class). We’re the same age (I’m 26F, he’s 26M), he’s no longer my TA, and we got along famously this year—to the extent that I’d almost be more shocked if he didn’t like me. We talked every day, emailed a ton outside of class, and connected over some shared interests. There were also a couple moments when I DEFINITELY felt he was flirting. At the very least, I’m almost positive he knows I like him. This is all ethical and fine since the class is over, but it’s still kinda “controversial”. So, there’s a little bit of gray area here. I worked up the nerve to ask him to meet up after the holidays, and he said yes and that we should grab a coffee together. This will be the first time we’ve met outside of class, and so I really don’t know what this meeting is and I don’t know how I would ask. We’re technically getting together to talk about books and shared interests, and he said yes to...

Hey everyone, I am seeking relationship advice. I have been dating a cardiologist fellow. We matched on bumble and have been seeing each other for the last 17mos. He was in 2nd year fellowship when we first met and is currently doing his program in my state. He is originally from another state. When we first started seeing each other, I was very clear with him about not wanting a "casual relationship". I had also inquired about if he was in a relationship of any kind or married or divorced or had kids. He had said no to all of this. While we were together, we were seeing each other about every 2wks (RED FLAG! I know) and I didn't find it weird because I thought perhaps I was accommodating to his very busy schedule. Because I am also in the medical field (not a physician), i knew that being in a fellow program isn't easy so I was trying to be this very understanding partner. But, after having dated him for 9mo, I stumbled on his social media and came across this wo...

This man texted me long ass paragraphs, talked to me on the phone for hours about work, life passions, family etc and we made each other laugh. He was also physically attracted to me and asked me out for coffee.I texted him and now no response. WTF?!? What a waste of my time. Why did he do that? Submitted December 23, 2021 at 01:14AM This man texted me long ass paragraphs, talked to me on the phone for hours about work, life passions, family etc and we made each other laugh. He was also physically attracted to me and asked me out for coffee.I texted him and now no response. WTF?!? What a waste of my time. Why did he do that?

I (22F) have been dating this guy (28M) for a couple of months now and sometimes when we’re talking he’ll just bring up that I’m Asian out of nowhere. To give it more context, he’s not Asian and is from a different country. Like he’ll say things like “my Asian babe” or something along those lines and I find it kinda weird, but I also thought maybe it’s a cultural difference?? I’m not sure. Submitted December 23, 2021 at 01:16AM I (22F) have been dating this guy (28M) for a couple of months now and sometimes when we’re talking he’ll just bring up that I’m Asian out of nowhere. To give it more context, he’s not Asian and is from a different country. Like he’ll say things like “my Asian babe” or something along those lines and I find it kinda weird, but I also thought maybe it’s a cultural difference?? I’m not sure.

Saying "you haven't met the right person" is like telling a lactose intolerant person they just haven't drank the right type of milk yet December 23, 2021 at 12:27AM

As others have said, it's definitely tasteless and tacky. On top of that, it gives me a "this person is on their first outing in public and has never talked to a real person face-to-face before and only sees other people as sexual objects" vibe. That's not how all the people who wear them are, but the level of tastelessness and implied sexualization of the hoodies makes them give off that feeling. December 23, 2021 at 12:26AM

I’ve been having a rough week recently and I’ve decided to get back in to marsturbation. Any tips and/or tricks? I’m not fruity so dong give me any of those ideas. Submitted December 23, 2021 at 12:53AM I’ve been having a rough week recently and I’ve decided to get back in to marsturbation. Any tips and/or tricks? I’m not fruity so dong give me any of those ideas.

So I (17M) am a timid, socially awkward mess, who either doesn't know how to start up a conversation or doesn't know when to stfu when in a conversation I do know about. I wouldn't say I'm attractive, but Definitely not ugly either (I could be worse, but definitely could've been better) but earlier this year, I met a girl one of my classes that I never really paid much attention to. There wasn't anything interesting about her that caught my interest so just like everyone else since I had no friends in that class, I ignored her and just did my work as quickly and effectively as possible so that I had to do nothing for the rest of the class. Later on though, she randomly decided to talk to me out of the blue asking me about my interests. Me, being one not liking to share information out of embarrassment just told her a half-truth in that I didn't really have one and that I'm mostly open to anything. Shockingly, I learned that we both shared having a cert...