“Grabbing a coffee” - date or not?

I’m gonna preface this by saying the guy in question is my former TA (teaching assistant for a college class). We’re the same age (I’m 26F, he’s 26M), he’s no longer my TA, and we got along famously this year—to the extent that I’d almost be more shocked if he didn’t like me. We talked every day, emailed a ton outside of class, and connected over some shared interests. There were also a couple moments when I DEFINITELY felt he was flirting. At the very least, I’m almost positive he knows I like him. This is all ethical and fine since the class is over, but it’s still kinda “controversial”. So, there’s a little bit of gray area here.

I worked up the nerve to ask him to meet up after the holidays, and he said yes and that we should grab a coffee together. This will be the first time we’ve met outside of class, and so I really don’t know what this meeting is and I don’t know how I would ask. We’re technically getting together to talk about books and shared interests, and he said yes to that and that he’d be happy to meet up. But like, as a date or what?

What can I ask/how can I feel the situation out to determine the nature of the coffee meeting without making a total idiot of myself? 😂💀

Submitted December 23, 2021 at 01:07AM

I’m gonna preface this by saying the guy in question is my former TA (teaching assistant for a college class). We’re the same age (I’m 26F, he’s 26M), he’s no longer my TA, and we got along famously this year—to the extent that I’d almost be more shocked if he didn’t like me. We talked every day, emailed a ton outside of class, and connected over some shared interests. There were also a couple moments when I DEFINITELY felt he was flirting. At the very least, I’m almost positive he knows I like him. This is all ethical and fine since the class is over, but it’s still kinda “controversial”. So, there’s a little bit of gray area here.I worked up the nerve to ask him to meet up after the holidays, and he said yes and that we should grab a coffee together. This will be the first time we’ve met outside of class, and so I really don’t know what this meeting is and I don’t know how I would ask. We’re technically getting together to talk about books and shared interests, and he said yes to that and that he’d be happy to meet up. But like, as a date or what?What can I ask/how can I feel the situation out to determine the nature of the coffee meeting without making a total idiot of myself? 😂💀