Dealing with boyfriend's sexual past

I am a 30F a 30M for almost a year. Recently I learned that he has had over 50 sexual partners in the last 2 years. I know this is before we were together but still I can't help but be hurt by it. 1) I am hurt that I love a man who can treat women like they are nothing more than sexual currency for him to do with what he pleases. That he doesn't care about them as people but for what they can do to him. I constantly wonder how many women he has hurt. I wonder why I am somehow different/liked for my personality. 2) I cant help but compare myself to them. With over 50 women I will never have the best boobs, the funniest jokes, the hottest techniques. It's making me feel insecure. I was happy with who I was before because I have never been with a man who has 50 women to compare me to. Does he think about them while he's with me physially. He has never had to deal with a women with hairy legs or no make up. They're usually gone before he can see the real side of them. 3) I dont know if this can last long term. He says he committed, but he obviously enjoys getting lots of strange. He enjoys new experiences with new people. He enjoys traveling and having them lined up on his Tinder ready to fuck when he gets into town. How can I keep someone like that in interested? In 10/20 years will be be bored of my moves? My stories? My old face? Will he miss his fun days of adventurous women that he swipes to his room like hes ordering on Grub Hub? Will he be tempted to keep his bed warm with a stranger while traveling for work?

I dont mean to slut shame. I know sex is fun and I am for it for other people to do as they please. I am just struggling to accept that man I love did that and what that means for our future. Please help!

TL;DR- my boyfriend's promiscuous past makes me doubt our future.



Submitted September 11, 2019 at 11:53PM

I am a 30F a 30M for almost a year. Recently I learned that he has had over 50 sexual partners in the last 2 years. I know this is before we were together but still I can't help but be hurt by it. 1) I am hurt that I love a man who can treat women like they are nothing more than sexual currency for him to do with what he pleases. That he doesn't care about them as people but for what they can do to him. I constantly wonder how many women he has hurt. I wonder why I am somehow different/liked for my personality. 2) I cant help but compare myself to them. With over 50 women I will never have the best boobs, the funniest jokes, the hottest techniques. It's making me feel insecure. I was happy with who I was before because I have never been with a man who has 50 women to compare me to. Does he think about them while he's with me physially. He has never had to deal with a women with hairy legs or no make up. They're usually gone before he can see the real side of them. 3) I dont know if this can last long term. He says he committed, but he obviously enjoys getting lots of strange. He enjoys new experiences with new people. He enjoys traveling and having them lined up on his Tinder ready to fuck when he gets into town. How can I keep someone like that in interested? In 10/20 years will be be bored of my moves? My stories? My old face? Will he miss his fun days of adventurous women that he swipes to his room like hes ordering on Grub Hub? Will he be tempted to keep his bed warm with a stranger while traveling for work?I dont mean to slut shame. I know sex is fun and I am for it for other people to do as they please. I am just struggling to accept that man I love did that and what that means for our future. Please help!TL;DR- my boyfriend's promiscuous past makes me doubt our future.

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