Made two dates weeks ago and I think she forgot them

So I've been seeing this girl for the past 2-3 months in what has been a very weird situation. We're not a couple. Were both working on our lives. Her, far far more than me. I'm ready for a relationship, she's not. I thought I was ok with this for over a month while we continued to see eachother and that I could wait for her and help eachother get over our problems. I genuinely believed this at the time. Now I'm not so sure.

She's become distant the past three weeks. I know for a fact part of its work. Part of it was me being sick. Part of it's her feeling bad and needing time with friends. Now though, she barely texts me back, doesn't call, doesn't bother telling me what's happening until it's happening.

We had a date set for next weekend and one she wanted to setup for may 3ed.... she already told me she forgot about the latter one and she has no idea if she can even do anything that weekend due to conflicting schedules. I'm not happy with that, but fine, whatever, I'll be going out and doing my own thing regardless.

However this coming weekend we made plans a while ago, tickets were bought, shared, and times confirmed. With the way she's been acting recently she hasn't once brought our date up and I have no idea if I should say anything. I'm very sad at the possibility that she forgot and the last thing I want is to be mad at her over it.

I'm conflicted.

The petty part of me wants to say nothing and call her out on her bs if she forgets. The understanding and caring part of me want's to check in and see how I can help and comfort her.

I don't know what to do. I don't want to lose this woman, but I'm also really tired of her not communicating with me properly.

We're both broken people. I have my problems and she has her own. We met eachother at a less than ideal time in each others lives. I acknowledge that.

I don't think I should say anything about our date, but I don't know how to bring it up if she does forget.

At this point I just want to stop thinking about it and let whatever happen happen, but I don't know how.



Submitted April 22, 2019 at 05:38AM

So I've been seeing this girl for the past 2-3 months in what has been a very weird situation. We're not a couple. Were both working on our lives. Her, far far more than me. I'm ready for a relationship, she's not. I thought I was ok with this for over a month while we continued to see eachother and that I could wait for her and help eachother get over our problems. I genuinely believed this at the time. Now I'm not so sure.She's become distant the past three weeks. I know for a fact part of its work. Part of it was me being sick. Part of it's her feeling bad and needing time with friends. Now though, she barely texts me back, doesn't call, doesn't bother telling me what's happening until it's happening.We had a date set for next weekend and one she wanted to setup for may 3ed.... she already told me she forgot about the latter one and she has no idea if she can even do anything that weekend due to conflicting schedules. I'm not happy with that, but fine, whatever, I'll be going out and doing my own thing regardless.However this coming weekend we made plans a while ago, tickets were bought, shared, and times confirmed. With the way she's been acting recently she hasn't once brought our date up and I have no idea if I should say anything. I'm very sad at the possibility that she forgot and the last thing I want is to be mad at her over it.I'm conflicted.The petty part of me wants to say nothing and call her out on her bs if she forgets. The understanding and caring part of me want's to check in and see how I can help and comfort her.I don't know what to do. I don't want to lose this woman, but I'm also really tired of her not communicating with me properly.We're both broken people. I have my problems and she has her own. We met eachother at a less than ideal time in each others lives. I acknowledge that.I don't think I should say anything about our date, but I don't know how to bring it up if she does forget.At this point I just want to stop thinking about it and let whatever happen happen, but I don't know how.
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