Is She Just A Bad Texter, or Not Into Me?

Apologies if this is the wrong sub or if this is rambly.

I matched on Tinder with a beautiful girl who had a really interesting bio. After some nervous hesitation I finally messaged her, and to my surprise she fairly quickly messaged back with a thoughtful response. Since then, we have been talking back and forth for the past several weeks, but I am still having a hard time figuring her out.

Our conversation patterns have changed a bit since we first matched, but here's what I notice at the moment. I will send her a message and she will usually respond very quickly (often within the minute I send it, although sometimes a couple hours later) and her response will be enthusiastic, but she will very rarely add any follow-up questions to continue the conversation. I will sometimes take literal days to come up with new responses and still, when I send it, she will chime back in with a thoughtful answer almost immediately, which makes me think she must at least have some interest in me.

I've noticed that when I occasionally don't add any questions to my message, she will start to ask about me (and just as enthusiastically as when she talks about herself). I also remember, after a few days of not sending her a response, I got a text from her along the lines of "how's your night going?" which was really nice. I have already asked her out- I had found a way to make it come up in conversation if she "potentially would like to arrange something" (it sounded more natural in context, I promise), and she said that she would "potentially" be into that, then she suggested coffee. I wonder if she's taking it slow because she's still trying to parse out if I'm not a murderer or if she is just stalling because she only wants to talk and not meet up.

I guess it doesn't really matter in the long run, but she's super cute and sweet and I like talking to her and would like to take her out and get to know her better in person. Do we think she's being polite and feigning interest? Or is it just a matter of shaky text etiquette?

Submitted April 22, 2019 at 02:12AM

Apologies if this is the wrong sub or if this is rambly.I matched on Tinder with a beautiful girl who had a really interesting bio. After some nervous hesitation I finally messaged her, and to my surprise she fairly quickly messaged back with a thoughtful response. Since then, we have been talking back and forth for the past several weeks, but I am still having a hard time figuring her out.Our conversation patterns have changed a bit since we first matched, but here's what I notice at the moment. I will send her a message and she will usually respond very quickly (often within the minute I send it, although sometimes a couple hours later) and her response will be enthusiastic, but she will very rarely add any follow-up questions to continue the conversation. I will sometimes take literal days to come up with new responses and still, when I send it, she will chime back in with a thoughtful answer almost immediately, which makes me think she must at least have some interest in me.I've noticed that when I occasionally don't add any questions to my message, she will start to ask about me (and just as enthusiastically as when she talks about herself). I also remember, after a few days of not sending her a response, I got a text from her along the lines of "how's your night going?" which was really nice. I have already asked her out- I had found a way to make it come up in conversation if she "potentially would like to arrange something" (it sounded more natural in context, I promise), and she said that she would "potentially" be into that, then she suggested coffee. I wonder if she's taking it slow because she's still trying to parse out if I'm not a murderer or if she is just stalling because she only wants to talk and not meet up.I guess it doesn't really matter in the long run, but she's super cute and sweet and I like talking to her and would like to take her out and get to know her better in person. Do we think she's being polite and feigning interest? Or is it just a matter of shaky text etiquette?