Girlfriend doesn't want sex anymore, what can I do ?

Hey everyone first time posting to reddit so I'm sorry if there is anything wrong with what I put.

So a little bit of information. We are both in are mid 20's, Shes a teacher and I'm stock controller, In my free time I'm doing open university work, In her free time she likes to read, We dont really socialise, or go out much. We do everything together, And have been together for nearly 6 years.

Over the past two years I've seen a decline in how much sex we have, I'm quite sexual in terms of I always want it, I seem to be asking a log recently and keep being declined.

I've asked her why and she simply keeps saying not in the mood/ she just doesn't feel like it.

Shes been doctors to check her bloods to make sure there isn't anything there and she was all okay.

I finally lost it last night though after weeks of asking why, and she said she just doesn't have any interest in sex, she doesn't find it as amazing as i do.

So i asked her straight away, would you rather just brake up ?

Her response was no, she said she still loves me and wants to be with me, she just doesn't like sex.

But I cant understand why, I'm not trying to be big or anything but when we have sex, she seems to orgasm, I always take care of her needs, I go downstairs for a good 10 minutes until she comes or squirts, she then gets a good 10-15 minutes which usually ends in her squirting more or not being able to take anymore.

But she doesn't do the same for me, plenty of times I've stopped because shes getting sore and I've had to wank finish.

I've tried being supportive, and understand it all but I cant go on with just having sex once a week or twice if I'm lucky, I love her dearly i would die for her, this isn't a joke I honestly would, before dating we where best friends and always hanged out.

We still are best friends and I love her and she loves me and I want to make this work, I'd be lost without her so, no I will not dump her and move on if that's a suggestion.

Any help, honestly would be greatly appreciated.



Submitted April 16, 2019 at 06:35AM

Hey everyone first time posting to reddit so I'm sorry if there is anything wrong with what I put.So a little bit of information. We are both in are mid 20's, Shes a teacher and I'm stock controller, In my free time I'm doing open university work, In her free time she likes to read, We dont really socialise, or go out much. We do everything together, And have been together for nearly 6 years.Over the past two years I've seen a decline in how much sex we have, I'm quite sexual in terms of I always want it, I seem to be asking a log recently and keep being declined.I've asked her why and she simply keeps saying not in the mood/ she just doesn't feel like it.Shes been doctors to check her bloods to make sure there isn't anything there and she was all okay.I finally lost it last night though after weeks of asking why, and she said she just doesn't have any interest in sex, she doesn't find it as amazing as i do.So i asked her straight away, would you rather just brake up ?Her response was no, she said she still loves me and wants to be with me, she just doesn't like sex.But I cant understand why, I'm not trying to be big or anything but when we have sex, she seems to orgasm, I always take care of her needs, I go downstairs for a good 10 minutes until she comes or squirts, she then gets a good 10-15 minutes which usually ends in her squirting more or not being able to take anymore.But she doesn't do the same for me, plenty of times I've stopped because shes getting sore and I've had to wank finish.I've tried being supportive, and understand it all but I cant go on with just having sex once a week or twice if I'm lucky, I love her dearly i would die for her, this isn't a joke I honestly would, before dating we where best friends and always hanged out.We still are best friends and I love her and she loves me and I want to make this work, I'd be lost without her so, no I will not dump her and move on if that's a suggestion.Any help, honestly would be greatly appreciated.
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