My Boyfriend (20M) broke up with me (20F) seemingly out of nowhere

I have been dating this guy for a couple of months, and everything seemed to be going great. I went to stay at his house the other day and all day he acted normal, nothing seemed off about him at all, he was even talking about stuff we should do over the summer. We went to bed and the next day we planned on getting some food and going hiking since the weather was nice. We woke up in the morning and everything was completely normal, we cuddled for a while and then took a shower and got ready together. Right before we were about to leave he said, "I want to break up," out of nowhere. I thought he was joking at first, but he wasn't. He said, "this is really hard for me to do because I really like you, but I don't see a future with this relationship." I packed all my stuff, he walked me to my car, and we stood there for 15 minutes crying on each other. When I asked him how long he has been feeling this way, he said only a couple of days. He can be really impulsive, so I don't know if he was just lying or really hadn't spent much time in trying to make this decision.

I have never been so blindsided in my life and I really don't know what to think, he was one of the kindest boyfriends I have ever had, and even though we had different interests there were a lot of qualities about us that complemented each other. Since we had only been dating for three months, there were never any fights or issues that came up. Being friends with some of his friends and family members, they all told me that they were shocked and that he hadn't told them that he was planning this. He has also been distancing himself from everyone in the two days since we've broken up. People close to me are telling me that he might have gotten scared, but I don't know what to really think.

I just don't know what to do, I'm so confused and hurt, I have so many questions. I don't know if I should hold out hope that he's going to regret his decision, or just try to forget about it and move on. I just wanted some advice on how I should go about this breakup, if I should reach out to him or have no contact, should I hold onto hope that he will reach out to me? And if anybody has any other insights to offer, about how boys handle breakups or anything like that, I would gladly hear them.

TLDR; My boyfriend of a few months broke up with me even though everything about our relationship seemed to be moving in a positive direction, and I have very strong feelings for him. Should I reach out to him, hold onto hope that he will regret his decision and reach out to me, or should I just move on? And if anybody has any other insights to offer I would gladly take them.



Submitted April 26, 2020 at 11:54PM

I have been dating this guy for a couple of months, and everything seemed to be going great. I went to stay at his house the other day and all day he acted normal, nothing seemed off about him at all, he was even talking about stuff we should do over the summer. We went to bed and the next day we planned on getting some food and going hiking since the weather was nice. We woke up in the morning and everything was completely normal, we cuddled for a while and then took a shower and got ready together. Right before we were about to leave he said, "I want to break up," out of nowhere. I thought he was joking at first, but he wasn't. He said, "this is really hard for me to do because I really like you, but I don't see a future with this relationship." I packed all my stuff, he walked me to my car, and we stood there for 15 minutes crying on each other. When I asked him how long he has been feeling this way, he said only a couple of days. He can be really impulsive, so I don't know if he was just lying or really hadn't spent much time in trying to make this decision.I have never been so blindsided in my life and I really don't know what to think, he was one of the kindest boyfriends I have ever had, and even though we had different interests there were a lot of qualities about us that complemented each other. Since we had only been dating for three months, there were never any fights or issues that came up. Being friends with some of his friends and family members, they all told me that they were shocked and that he hadn't told them that he was planning this. He has also been distancing himself from everyone in the two days since we've broken up. People close to me are telling me that he might have gotten scared, but I don't know what to really think.I just don't know what to do, I'm so confused and hurt, I have so many questions. I don't know if I should hold out hope that he's going to regret his decision, or just try to forget about it and move on. I just wanted some advice on how I should go about this breakup, if I should reach out to him or have no contact, should I hold onto hope that he will reach out to me? And if anybody has any other insights to offer, about how boys handle breakups or anything like that, I would gladly hear them.TLDR; My boyfriend of a few months broke up with me even though everything about our relationship seemed to be moving in a positive direction, and I have very strong feelings for him. Should I reach out to him, hold onto hope that he will regret his decision and reach out to me, or should I just move on? And if anybody has any other insights to offer I would gladly take them.
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