Boyfriend [20M] of four years tells me [21F] to workout to make my butt bigger.

Throwaway because my boyfriend uses reddit and knows my account.

I want to preface this by saying that I love my boyfriend very much and I know he loves me but I can’t help but feeling insecure about this.

My boyfriend is very much into thick girls with nice juicy booties. He makes this very obvious. I myself am pretty curvy in the hips, but my butt lacks volume. I never used to care about my lack of behind until I started dating him 4 years ago. Now he doesn’t outwardly say my butt is unattractive, but he’ll make comments.

For instance, just yesterday we saw a girl working out outside (doing squats and such), then he said “why don’t you do booty exercises to grow your butt?” I just kinda half laughed and changed the subject. This is not an isolated experience. One time we played a drinking game just the two of us and one of the questions was “if there was one thing you could change about me what would it be?” (Now I understand this is a very leading question that is most certainly going to hurt someone’s feelings, but I didn’t want to be a pussy and not ask the question and ruin the game.) And he, being the very honest man he is, said “you could use some extra meat on your ass.” I was drunk and ran to the washroom to cry. He was mortified and did apologize. I don’t think he was trying to be mean, we were both drinking, but this must be how he truly feels.

Now what bothers me about this is the fact that he pursued me knowing I didn’t have a big butt, it wasn’t a secret. I would understand if I used to workout all the time and I had a big butt and then I got lazy and lost it. It’s not even like I’m overweight or anything. It makes me uncomfortable that he pushes me to workout when I have no desire to. Of course I’d love to have a bigger butt and a plethora of other things, but I am actually quite happy with my body as it is. It makes me kinda sad how I find him so attractive and there really is nothing I would change about him, yet I feel like he isn’t happy with me naturally.

I am a pretty emotional person and can get insecure from time to time. I cry and we talk and I say how I don’t feel sexy or whatever. He is very aware that I am insecure about my butt around him. Why does he say things like “you should workout” completely unprovoked, it isn’t like I mope around saying I wish I had a big butt. What I wish, is that he accepted me.

TLDR: Boyfriend of four years likes big butts and he makes little comments about how I should workout to make my butt bigger. Makes me sad.

Submitted April 26, 2020 at 11:18PM

Throwaway because my boyfriend uses reddit and knows my account.I want to preface this by saying that I love my boyfriend very much and I know he loves me but I can’t help but feeling insecure about this.My boyfriend is very much into thick girls with nice juicy booties. He makes this very obvious. I myself am pretty curvy in the hips, but my butt lacks volume. I never used to care about my lack of behind until I started dating him 4 years ago. Now he doesn’t outwardly say my butt is unattractive, but he’ll make comments.For instance, just yesterday we saw a girl working out outside (doing squats and such), then he said “why don’t you do booty exercises to grow your butt?” I just kinda half laughed and changed the subject. This is not an isolated experience. One time we played a drinking game just the two of us and one of the questions was “if there was one thing you could change about me what would it be?” (Now I understand this is a very leading question that is most certainly going to hurt someone’s feelings, but I didn’t want to be a pussy and not ask the question and ruin the game.) And he, being the very honest man he is, said “you could use some extra meat on your ass.” I was drunk and ran to the washroom to cry. He was mortified and did apologize. I don’t think he was trying to be mean, we were both drinking, but this must be how he truly feels.Now what bothers me about this is the fact that he pursued me knowing I didn’t have a big butt, it wasn’t a secret. I would understand if I used to workout all the time and I had a big butt and then I got lazy and lost it. It’s not even like I’m overweight or anything. It makes me uncomfortable that he pushes me to workout when I have no desire to. Of course I’d love to have a bigger butt and a plethora of other things, but I am actually quite happy with my body as it is. It makes me kinda sad how I find him so attractive and there really is nothing I would change about him, yet I feel like he isn’t happy with me naturally.I am a pretty emotional person and can get insecure from time to time. I cry and we talk and I say how I don’t feel sexy or whatever. He is very aware that I am insecure about my butt around him. Why does he say things like “you should workout” completely unprovoked, it isn’t like I mope around saying I wish I had a big butt. What I wish, is that he accepted me.TLDR: Boyfriend of four years likes big butts and he makes little comments about how I should workout to make my butt bigger. Makes me sad.