My sister [F18] and mother [F55] think I ruin family time

My sister and mother think I ruin family time.

For a while, I’ve [F21] had problems with my mother [F55] and my sister [F18]. I’ve always felt like my mother favored my sister a lot more than me. This happened a lot in my childhood and I’ve tried to ignore it now that we’re both in college (same school).

We both came home for the weekend, and the same things happened a lot. It’s not so much a lot of big things but a lot of little things. It hurts to see them leave the room together away from me to talk privately. My mom also always asks her what she wants to do and not me. Then they make plans and I have to ask to be included. My mom doesn’t really acknowledge me a lot when both me and my sister are there.

For example, we got into an argument Friday night because I felt they were insulting me by making fun of my height and my boyfriend by saying things like “it’s weird that you’re taller than him don’t people think that’s weird?” and saying other things about him and I. I told them to stop saying “I think that’s kind of rude” several times but they didn’t stop. Instead my sister just said “god you’re so sensitive lighten up”. And my mother agreed. Then my mom suggested we all separate which meant they both went into the kitchen so my mother could complain about me ruining family time while I cried in the living room.

To my sister, everything I do is wrong. I take too long looking at granola in the grocery store or I’m not answering the door fast enough for trick or treaters because I’m eating. And then she’ll just continue to pick at me. The weird thing is, she only does this when I’m at home with our mom near us. At school, she calls me a lot and always asks me questions. She used to call me fat and annoying a lot, too and my mom wouldn’t stop her.

I’m not sure what I should do or if I’m overreacting. I can be sensitive sometimes but it just makes me feel really sad and childlike when my mom blames me for ruining perfect family time. I feel like I just don’t belong because I don’t want to be teased about certain things. Should I just get over it? Or should I not talk to my family as much? I really wish I could do more things with them but it feels a lot like they don’t want me there. They don’t talk to me much, preferring too talk to each other and it just hurts me.

Tl;dr I feel like my mom always favors my sister. How do I get over it?

Submitted November 03, 2019 at 11:48PM

My sister and mother think I ruin family time.For a while, I’ve [F21] had problems with my mother [F55] and my sister [F18]. I’ve always felt like my mother favored my sister a lot more than me. This happened a lot in my childhood and I’ve tried to ignore it now that we’re both in college (same school).We both came home for the weekend, and the same things happened a lot. It’s not so much a lot of big things but a lot of little things. It hurts to see them leave the room together away from me to talk privately. My mom also always asks her what she wants to do and not me. Then they make plans and I have to ask to be included. My mom doesn’t really acknowledge me a lot when both me and my sister are there.For example, we got into an argument Friday night because I felt they were insulting me by making fun of my height and my boyfriend by saying things like “it’s weird that you’re taller than him don’t people think that’s weird?” and saying other things about him and I. I told them to stop saying “I think that’s kind of rude” several times but they didn’t stop. Instead my sister just said “god you’re so sensitive lighten up”. And my mother agreed. Then my mom suggested we all separate which meant they both went into the kitchen so my mother could complain about me ruining family time while I cried in the living room.To my sister, everything I do is wrong. I take too long looking at granola in the grocery store or I’m not answering the door fast enough for trick or treaters because I’m eating. And then she’ll just continue to pick at me. The weird thing is, she only does this when I’m at home with our mom near us. At school, she calls me a lot and always asks me questions. She used to call me fat and annoying a lot, too and my mom wouldn’t stop her.I’m not sure what I should do or if I’m overreacting. I can be sensitive sometimes but it just makes me feel really sad and childlike when my mom blames me for ruining perfect family time. I feel like I just don’t belong because I don’t want to be teased about certain things. Should I just get over it? Or should I not talk to my family as much? I really wish I could do more things with them but it feels a lot like they don’t want me there. They don’t talk to me much, preferring too talk to each other and it just hurts me.Tl;dr I feel like my mom always favors my sister. How do I get over it?