My boyfriend is moving across the country for a job and we cannot live together until 4 years from now

My (19 F) boyfriend (19 M) and I have known each other since 14 and have been dating for a couple years now. It’s been a rocky start as in high school we weren’t the most mature but we have figured our relationship out for the most part. He just graduated from trade school in a condensed 1 year program that gave him a variety of trade licences’. He liked being at college but did not enjoy what his program would require him to do as a job. He mostly went into the program because his mom pressured him, instead of taking a year off to figure out what he should do. He’s been considering doing an apprenticeship to get a different licence and to get paid while doing it but this would mean we would have to do long distance. I’m getting my bachelor degree, 5 hours away from where we both went to high school, so we are already doing long distance and it isn’t easy. He just got offered a job, in a field he’s never tried but is interested in, across the country where he will do an apprenticeship. I’m happy for him to be given this opportunity but this would mean we wouldn’t be living together till I graduate and move to him. We talked before about him moving to where I live, but where I’m living, French is needed to get a job. Now because he has been offered a job which is across the country, he feels more stable in life and is going to take it. I’m worried for our relationship because going from 19 to 23 is a big change in personality and growth. I want to still be with him because I feel like I really do love him and we’ve gone through so much but long distance seems very challenging especially being that far away. What should I do?

Tl;dr: my boyfriend is moving across the country for a job and we cannot live together until 4 years from now because of my schooling. I’m nervous that because that time frame is longer than our relationship has been (but not since we’ve known each other) it won’t work out because of long distance.

Submitted September 06, 2019 at 11:55PM

My (19 F) boyfriend (19 M) and I have known each other since 14 and have been dating for a couple years now. It’s been a rocky start as in high school we weren’t the most mature but we have figured our relationship out for the most part. He just graduated from trade school in a condensed 1 year program that gave him a variety of trade licences’. He liked being at college but did not enjoy what his program would require him to do as a job. He mostly went into the program because his mom pressured him, instead of taking a year off to figure out what he should do. He’s been considering doing an apprenticeship to get a different licence and to get paid while doing it but this would mean we would have to do long distance. I’m getting my bachelor degree, 5 hours away from where we both went to high school, so we are already doing long distance and it isn’t easy. He just got offered a job, in a field he’s never tried but is interested in, across the country where he will do an apprenticeship. I’m happy for him to be given this opportunity but this would mean we wouldn’t be living together till I graduate and move to him. We talked before about him moving to where I live, but where I’m living, French is needed to get a job. Now because he has been offered a job which is across the country, he feels more stable in life and is going to take it. I’m worried for our relationship because going from 19 to 23 is a big change in personality and growth. I want to still be with him because I feel like I really do love him and we’ve gone through so much but long distance seems very challenging especially being that far away. What should I do?Tl;dr: my boyfriend is moving across the country for a job and we cannot live together until 4 years from now because of my schooling. I’m nervous that because that time frame is longer than our relationship has been (but not since we’ve known each other) it won’t work out because of long distance.