I (20F) feel so ashamed for asking for money to my parents today

I moved out of my parents house in the beggining of the year to study in my dream college. When i got accepted i couldnt believe my eyes, i spent a whole year studying for the exam, my parents were so proud of me and were so much supportive.

But the problem were that the college was a 6 hour away from my home, so i needed to move out. I have made my own savings specially for this moment and i thought i got everything ready.

Boy... was i wrong. For some personal reasons, everything went wrong the first 6 months and i was forced to use my savings more than i planned to and now im flat broke. Im usually very responsable with my money, so when i assured my parents that i got it, they believed me. (They were offering help in case i didnt have enough to cover my expenses in the process of looking for a room).

I recently got a job but the pay doesnt cover half of my expenses, and i think ill be in trouble with my credit card soon.

I didnt tell my parents half of what was going on until today, so even though they know i spend more than what i was expecting, they thought i was ok. The reason i avoided telling the whole truth so long is bc now that i moved out, they finally started to spend their money on things they couldnt while paying for my education. Theyre reforming their house and planning vacations and they seem so happy on the phone telling me these things.

Yesterday there were no food in my house. None today as well. I was thinking maybe i can hold on until my paycheck next week, with some fruits i would buy with the credit card. The card got declined, and i went home without anything. Thats when i called my mom and i just cried so much i dont even know how she understood me. She is so loving, and tried to calm me down for almost an hour. She told everything to my dad and he rushed to put some money into my account and bought a plane ticket so i could come home for the weekend so i could talk better and feel better. Im waiting for my flight now.

I dont deserve such loving parents, and im so ashamed how everything turned out. If i could have a piece of advice of you guys i would appreciate so much. So sorry for this long story.

TL;DR - moved out of my parents house, thinking my savings would be enough. Now im broke and had to ask for money when theyre got new expenses to deal with



Submitted September 06, 2019 at 11:17PM

I moved out of my parents house in the beggining of the year to study in my dream college. When i got accepted i couldnt believe my eyes, i spent a whole year studying for the exam, my parents were so proud of me and were so much supportive.But the problem were that the college was a 6 hour away from my home, so i needed to move out. I have made my own savings specially for this moment and i thought i got everything ready.Boy... was i wrong. For some personal reasons, everything went wrong the first 6 months and i was forced to use my savings more than i planned to and now im flat broke. Im usually very responsable with my money, so when i assured my parents that i got it, they believed me. (They were offering help in case i didnt have enough to cover my expenses in the process of looking for a room).I recently got a job but the pay doesnt cover half of my expenses, and i think ill be in trouble with my credit card soon.I didnt tell my parents half of what was going on until today, so even though they know i spend more than what i was expecting, they thought i was ok. The reason i avoided telling the whole truth so long is bc now that i moved out, they finally started to spend their money on things they couldnt while paying for my education. Theyre reforming their house and planning vacations and they seem so happy on the phone telling me these things.Yesterday there were no food in my house. None today as well. I was thinking maybe i can hold on until my paycheck next week, with some fruits i would buy with the credit card. The card got declined, and i went home without anything. Thats when i called my mom and i just cried so much i dont even know how she understood me. She is so loving, and tried to calm me down for almost an hour. She told everything to my dad and he rushed to put some money into my account and bought a plane ticket so i could come home for the weekend so i could talk better and feel better. Im waiting for my flight now.I dont deserve such loving parents, and im so ashamed how everything turned out. If i could have a piece of advice of you guys i would appreciate so much. So sorry for this long story.TL;DR - moved out of my parents house, thinking my savings would be enough. Now im broke and had to ask for money when theyre got new expenses to deal with
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