Trying to figure out next steps/if I should take a next step

I [22f] met a guy on a dating app [24m] and after about 10 days of talking, we decided to meet. He asked me if I wanted to go over to his house and watch a movie, and as much as I saw the movie as just a pretense, I also really wanted to prove myself wrong because he seemed like someone I would want to know more.

We spent some time picking out a movie to watch, and we ended up picking his favorite movie. We started the movie sitting slightly apart, and we talked through the beginning of the movie. He would comment on the movie and then ask a question about me and I would ask it back. It was good conversation and a good movie, and around the middle of the movie, we got more comfortable with one another. He wrapped his arm around my side and held my hand that I had draped over my stomach. More towards the climax, he brought his other hand over and held me super close. The movie was getting really good so there was less conversation by that point, and it was really obvious that I wanted to see the end of the movie and he wanted me to as well. We ended up finishing the movie in that position and we talked about the ending for a few minutes without moving.

He asked me if I wanted to go home or wanted to watch something else, and I said that I wanted to watch something else. I liked his company and our conversation, and to be very very honest, I missed this kind of physical touch. He asked me if I wanted to lie down, and I did, and we continued watching in a spooning position and talking some more. Close to the end of the second movie though, he started to softly kiss me on the neck a few times and my heart was racing. When the credits came up, I turned onto my back to face him and thought for a few seconds whether I should kiss him or go home, and I ended up telling him that I should go home because I wasn’t sure if that would be a signal to hookup, which I didn’t want to do. He didn’t seem too disappointed or anything. He walked me home and told me to let him know when I got into my apartment. When I texted him, he replied with a short answer and there was no more messaging after that.

I texted him first the day after, and he told me he had a busy day, and his messages were both short and delayed. I wasn’t sure if he was really busy and could not get to his phone, or no longer interested. He did respond to all of my texts though. It’s been three days since then, and we haven’t talked. I want to talk to him, but if he’s not interested, I don’t want to bother him and I just want to forget about him.

It’s been some time since I dated, and the last time I did, the guy who I met for quite a few dates called it off shortly after we slept together. I’m not sure if I was trying so hard to not make that happen again that I made him feel as though I was not interested or if he’s just not interested in me.

Do I text him first, yet again, and try to strike up another conversation, do I wait, or do I forget about this person altogether?



Submitted April 22, 2019 at 11:59PM

I [22f] met a guy on a dating app [24m] and after about 10 days of talking, we decided to meet. He asked me if I wanted to go over to his house and watch a movie, and as much as I saw the movie as just a pretense, I also really wanted to prove myself wrong because he seemed like someone I would want to know more.We spent some time picking out a movie to watch, and we ended up picking his favorite movie. We started the movie sitting slightly apart, and we talked through the beginning of the movie. He would comment on the movie and then ask a question about me and I would ask it back. It was good conversation and a good movie, and around the middle of the movie, we got more comfortable with one another. He wrapped his arm around my side and held my hand that I had draped over my stomach. More towards the climax, he brought his other hand over and held me super close. The movie was getting really good so there was less conversation by that point, and it was really obvious that I wanted to see the end of the movie and he wanted me to as well. We ended up finishing the movie in that position and we talked about the ending for a few minutes without moving.He asked me if I wanted to go home or wanted to watch something else, and I said that I wanted to watch something else. I liked his company and our conversation, and to be very very honest, I missed this kind of physical touch. He asked me if I wanted to lie down, and I did, and we continued watching in a spooning position and talking some more. Close to the end of the second movie though, he started to softly kiss me on the neck a few times and my heart was racing. When the credits came up, I turned onto my back to face him and thought for a few seconds whether I should kiss him or go home, and I ended up telling him that I should go home because I wasn’t sure if that would be a signal to hookup, which I didn’t want to do. He didn’t seem too disappointed or anything. He walked me home and told me to let him know when I got into my apartment. When I texted him, he replied with a short answer and there was no more messaging after that.I texted him first the day after, and he told me he had a busy day, and his messages were both short and delayed. I wasn’t sure if he was really busy and could not get to his phone, or no longer interested. He did respond to all of my texts though. It’s been three days since then, and we haven’t talked. I want to talk to him, but if he’s not interested, I don’t want to bother him and I just want to forget about him.It’s been some time since I dated, and the last time I did, the guy who I met for quite a few dates called it off shortly after we slept together. I’m not sure if I was trying so hard to not make that happen again that I made him feel as though I was not interested or if he’s just not interested in me.Do I text him first, yet again, and try to strike up another conversation, do I wait, or do I forget about this person altogether?
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