why are questions like that on a password reset website lmao April 01, 2023 at 01:20AM

Okay, but, this is like exactly my experience. I can barely believe it. Also nice name <3 April 01, 2023 at 01:19AM

Here’s the timeline: Matched with him on tinder on feb 6th. Started seeing eachother on feb 16th. He asked me to be exclusive with him on March 14th. He’s indicated he wants to ask me to be his girlfriend. I told him I want a grand gesture so this gives me like a 2 ish week window. But my friends bring up how I’ve technically only known him for a little over a month and becoming official might be too fast. During this month we both started hanging out with eachother a lot, to a point where we see each other every other day. We’ve gone out on dates and met eachother friends too. To me it doesn’t feel to fast, it seems right. But now i’m rethinking everything. Submitted April 01, 2023 at 01:13AM Here’s the timeline: Matched with him on tinder on feb 6th. Started seeing eachother on feb 16th. He asked me to be exclusive with him on March 14th.He’s indicated he wants to ask me to be his girlfriend. I told him I want a grand gesture so this gives me like a 2 ish week window.But m...

I have an allo friend. we were talking about sex frequency once (because I was shook over reading something that said you should be having sex multiple times a week) and she was like fuck that. Once a month at most. I've got shit to do. She also doesn't view sex as a need and said she could happily go without. if you think about it though, the allos must likely to talk about sex are the ones that love it. if you don't care about sex, why would you bring it up? and those that hate sex are made to feel 'abnormal.' I've seen people questioning if they're ace saying things like "I don't like sex but still experience sexual attraction, am I asexual?" well, no, of course. Ace is all about the attraction side of things, not the desire to partake in sex. I do think, though, that it shows how sex-averse allos may actually feel rejected from the allo community, or, through the massive amount of misinformation about what it means to be asexual, may ac...

Just saying how I'd deal with it personally (and, to me, it'd be well worth the ban; I'd even make a donation so that everyone sees my comment). A sexualizing remark backed by arrogance would instantly make me lose all respect I had for that streamer, so I wouldn't mind returning some of the humiliation. (And as OP said, talking to them in private might not even be a possibility.) That said, if OP wants to take a nicer and more patient approach than mine, then more power to them. March 31, 2023 at 11:29PM

What to men honestly think of dating a woman in a American who is undocumented. In my dating experience is so far I feel like men have judged me when I have told them I am out of status in this country. I've been here for about 20 years and had benefited from DACA when it was implemented in 2012. While I'm still here undocumented years later I feel that I am ready to have a family however when I start dating someone and become serious with them and disclose my status. It seems like men run away or seem to just go soon for no reason. My question is do men see me as a risk due to my status even though I have genuine intentions and just want a family and to get married. Submitted April 01, 2023 at 12:16AM What to men honestly think of dating a woman in a American who is undocumented. In my dating experience is so far I feel like men have judged me when I have told them I am out of status in this country. I've been here for about 20 years and had benefited from DACA when...

I was 53 and very single. I first read about the term demisexual in a MM romance novel. I didn't know what it meant to I looked it up. Growing up I knew that I had different attitudes towards relationships/interactions but not to the extent that I thought I was different or broken. I was always the friend on the edge of the friendship group. Part of it, but not. I never had a boyfriend but I did snog a few boys here and there. In my 20's I had 3 short term relationships. Lived with one for a few months. I actually crushed on these guys quite a bit before dating them. Never once did I suspect I was asexual. How could I? I had not even heard of the word. Once I learned of the terms, after first researching demisexual, it was a very quick"OMFG, that's me!" I'm talking a couple of days. If it weren't for those 3 relationships it would have been hours rather than a couple of days. I went from grey ace to grey-aro & ace. (I added apl about 6 months later....

It depends on how close you are TBH. I told my family because I'm pretty open with them and just tell them stuff. If you don't talk about NSFW stuff with them really, then I think it'd be natural NOT to tell them. But for me it was just natural to talk about. March 31, 2023 at 01:05AM

When someone tells you “don’t worry there’s other fish in the sea”, remind them there’s a lot of trash too. Submitted March 31, 2023 at 01:04AM When someone tells you “don’t worry there’s other fish in the sea”, remind them there’s a lot of trash too.

A few years ago I had to turn this guy down because I had a boyfriend at the time. When I was healed after that break up I hit him up asking if he was single and I got no reply. Recently matched with him on tinder. He didn’t initiate so I did… I said something along the lines of “so we’re doing ladies first?” Then complimented him on his fashion and said it was effortlessly classy. No response to that either. As a guy how would you have reacted to my message? Was it dumb to say? should I even bother sending another message at this point? Submitted March 30, 2023 at 11:30PM A few years ago I had to turn this guy down because I had a boyfriend at the time.When I was healed after that break up I hit him up asking if he was single and I got no reply.Recently matched with him on tinder. He didn’t initiate so I did…I said something along the lines of “so we’re doing ladies first?” Then complimented him on his fashion and said it was effortlessly classy.No response to that either...

I came across several comments that suggest being transparent with a girl, and discussing your thoughts and emotions can harm your chances of building attraction, and it increases the probability of her sharing your personal information with her friends. But, is this really true? Personally, I tend to be honest and relaxed when I communicate with a girl. I express my likes and dislikes freely, and sometimes, this openness and authenticity help to build a connection with her. However, after reading those comments, I'm starting to question whether being transparent is a bad idea. Should I refrain from being candid with the girls I'm interested in or even my female friends? Moreover, does this mean that a man should keep his thoughts and feelings to himself and create a distance between himself and the girl if things don't work out? Submitted March 31, 2023 at 12:11AM I came across several comments that suggest being transparent with a girl, and discussing your though...

You should go, demi is still ace it doesn't matter if someone's gray ace or sex repulsed they are still equally ace. It would be good to meet others I went to an ace cinema meet and there were only 2 of us (there is more just didn't show) but definitely recommend The only reason I would say against it is if you're in any of the red zones of America that are currently targeting lives of the trans community. March 30, 2023 at 10:52PM

If I gather all explanations I read I could pass as ace, but I am not considering myself ace) that’s the difficulty) March 30, 2023 at 12:11AM

Yes however the person I've been replying to is not. March 30, 2023 at 12:08AM

Sorry sorry sorry for the long paragraphs I (F) met this guy through a mutual friend of ours early November. He came out of a 10 year relationship about 3-ish years ago, didn't date much especially with COVID and all that crap. The first time we hung out was more to meet and get to know each other, not even as a date. It was amazing, we hit it off immediately. Then he asked me out again. We went on more than 5 dates, gradually got more attracted to each other, cuddled here and there tho nothing sexual. His texting pattern got worse by time. I guess that's the honeymoon effect wearing off, no biggie. (he said he's a bad texter and everyone knows that, our friend even asked me once why wasn't he replying for 3 days) He admitted that he really likes me, really attracted to me and whatnot. He used to mention "if you were to be my gf... [-]" so I guess a relationship was possible. We had that talk once, at the start, if we were to ever be in a relationship. Tho ...

Every crush I’ve ever had has led to disappointment and feelings of regret over having wasted my time in liking someone. The older I get, the rarer the likelihood of me developing feelings for someone. I’ve also met a lot fewer guys after college and after I started working remotely due to the pandemic. I have a bad habit of crushing on older men in higher positions and they’re usually not single anyway. I’m naturally pretty introverted and like to be chased. I also don’t seem to have a type - the only commonalities have been white, older male who’s relatively intelligent and pays attention to me. I’m turning 28 in a few months and I’m still a virgin! Freaking out since I want marriage and kids. I’m having trouble with online dating because I can’t seem to feel attraction towards the men I meet. I also feel apathetic towards men in general because I’ve been disappointed every time and think I eventually will be disappointed. Also I like my freedom. Submitted March 30, 2023 at ...

So, to me that's you being sex positive. That's it. I am an allo possibly demi because I have a very low libedo and have to have genuine feelings for my mate. But I do only imagine my mate doing these things to me...but maybe that's a demi thing. I don't do it with strangers. I only want my bae. March 29, 2023 at 10:53PM

I thought my brain was malfunctioning while trying to read that 😂 But I’d say it’s pretty likely. There does seem to be an unusual amount of asexuals who identify as asexual. March 29, 2023 at 10:52PM

I’ve seen it browsing around sometimes and even referenced in convos IRL. But I’m not entirely sure what the asker would be looking for. For example, someone financially stable, stable job, pays own bills, own place, has own friends, have hobbies etc. But is that bringing something to the table or just exhibiting stability? Would it be more mental/emotional? Like they are self aware or emotionally intelligent for example Or are they simply asking “what can you do for me”? Like can you cook, clean, be my personal support system etc Really just wondering lol Submitted March 29, 2023 at 01:12AM I’ve seen it browsing around sometimes and even referenced in convos IRL. But I’m not entirely sure what the asker would be looking for. For example, someone financially stable, stable job, pays own bills, own place, has own friends, have hobbies etc. But is that bringing something to the table or just exhibiting stability?Would it be more mental/emotional? Like they are self aware or emo...

I doubt you have a PhD if you don’t know how statistical probability works. March 29, 2023 at 12:44AM

Anything related to sex is just gross even seeing some naked is like just why. Yeah i do get hard if it means what i am expecting its okk if its just hugs and cuddle but sex is nope March 29, 2023 at 12:43AM

Over my high school years I've flirted with people a couple times but never anything past that, but just last week someone I didn't know that well asked me on a date. Just to lay out myself so it's easier to imagine the situation, I have always had extremelllly bad anxiety and something very bad happened to me earlier this year that only furthered it. I have to give myself some credit though, I'm pretty good at hiding it, but that might've been my downfall. Anyway me and this person went on a movie date, and it was my first ever date, it went pretty well I think. They want to keep talking to me though, and it has been giving me debilitating anxiety since they asked me. I don't really know why honestly, not to get too deep but my father left when I was around 13 so it may have given me some attachment or self worth issues or something, I dunno I'm just trying to find out why I'm like this (Although ive had extreme anxiety ever since I was a little kid, n...

Autism also isn't a mental disorder. March 28, 2023 at 11:25PM

:o Me too!! Have you played the story yet? March 28, 2023 at 01:18AM

I 18(f) have been dating Ryan (24M) for three months now. I really like him and I can see a future for the two of us quite easily (he's brought up living together and things like that too) However, he has been married before and she left him a couple years ago. He hadn't been with anyone after her until me and it's been one of the reasons he was so against going out in the beginning, because she really messed up his self-esteem. Whenever he talks about it (casual conversation) I can tell it hurt him a lot that she left so I always just say things like "I'm right here" or "I've got you" But I don't know what actually happened. Like I said, she's brought up in causal conversation but that's it. Like, I'll suggest we go to the beach or something and he'll say he's only been a few times with his ex-wife because he doesn't really like the beach. It's very casual but I'd like to know what happened or how he feels ...

As others have said, I doubt it's actually less but rather it never crosses their mind due to societal pressure. And lack of awareness on the attraction vs libido and the SAM. March 28, 2023 at 12:13AM

I desperately wanted children… March 28, 2023 at 12:11AM

​ So, the title pretty much speaks for itself. I (soon to be 20AMABNB) recently hung out with a guy (21M) that Ive been talking to a lot lately. We had a pretty good time, went and played arcade games, bought ice cream, and had pretty good banter. We clicked super well. However, I was very casual in asking to spend time together, and ended up asking to hang out with him instead of asking to go on an *actual* date with him, and I'm really mad at myself for it. I've never really been in a relationship before, or even went on a real date for that matter. Both because I was, and honestly still somewhat am conventionally ugly, and because I have bad social anxiety so I fear/dread making first moves, and lack the knowledge to in general. I like this guy, I genuinely do and want to mutually explore the notion of going steady with each other. But I don't know shit about dating, and I don't know how to ask him to hangout again, but as in an *actual*, full on date. If anyone...

I met this girl last weekend while I was on a trip and we seemed to hit it off. She kept telling me that she had to work next weekend but she wanted me to come and see her. She said there would be plenty of time to talk at her job and that she wouldn’t be busy. I got her Snapchat but she doesn’t seem to use it very often bc she hasn’t responded to me yet. I was just wondering if I should drive out and see her without saying anything or would that be weird? Submitted March 28, 2023 at 12:15AM I met this girl last weekend while I was on a trip and we seemed to hit it off. She kept telling me that she had to work next weekend but she wanted me to come and see her. She said there would be plenty of time to talk at her job and that she wouldn’t be busy. I got her Snapchat but she doesn’t seem to use it very often bc she hasn’t responded to me yet. I was just wondering if I should drive out and see her without saying anything or would that be weird?

Yes, romantic attraction would be more like a crush? For me it's just wanting to start dating someone (without having sex). That doesn't mean I love them yet, I just want to get to know them better in that way. March 27, 2023 at 12:52AM

just went on a date. told him i wasn’t looking for anything intimate. said it was ok. show up to the date.... and he’s asking me for a handjob. why are they always expecting something fucking sexual? why can’t two heterosexual people of opposite genders, have a platonic relationship?! i honestly blame myself, but its not my fault for being attractive? i dont even know what to say at this point. Submitted March 27, 2023 at 01:12AM just went on a date. told him i wasn’t looking for anything intimate. said it was ok. show up to the date.... and he’s asking me for a handjob. why are they always expecting something fucking sexual? why can’t two heterosexual people of opposite genders, have a platonic relationship?! i honestly blame myself, but its not my fault for being attractive? i dont even know what to say at this point.

I've been on four dates with a guy. Our fifth date is scheduled for this Friday. His dating profile says "better in person" whereas mine says "big texter". Even before our first meeting, there has only been one time he has reached out for "proof of life" and I've reached out to make sure the dates were even still on to which he enthusiastically replies he's looking forward to them. Our dates are usually a week apart and lasts several hours with flowing conversation and fun. I'm fine initiating texts and he usually replies in a few hours; however, for me it's odd to not hear from someone for days at a time. Is this the new norm, especially for people that aren't into small talk? I do plan to bring this up with him as the gaps in communication are putting me off. Submitted March 27, 2023 at 12:15AM I've been on four dates with a guy. Our fifth date is scheduled for this Friday. His dating profile says "better in person...

Isn’t the “P” also for pansexual/panromantic? March 26, 2023 at 11:36PM

https://www.idrlabs.com/asexuality-spectrum/test.php Estrangement from sexual culture, lack of romantic attraction, and averison to sexual behavior were all tied. I wouldn't exactly consider myself aromantic however? I'm just not looking to date anyone right now. March 26, 2023 at 11:32PM

This this this entirely! It is absolutely, entirely, 10000% the abusive partners fault, NOT yours. You are not broken, you are not flawed for being asexual or for being sex repulsed! You are a perfectly awesome person, and you deserve so much better than this. You deserve respect, you deserve happiness, you deserve love, and that ain't it. I hope you're able to get out and safe, and I wish you the best March 26, 2023 at 11:27PM

Last night my brother was at a bar for a friend's birthday. I ended up showing up with a friend. It was mostly people we all went to high school with. I remembered all of them except for one, who I didn't recognize at all. He was really attractive. He shook my hand when my brother introduced us. When he said his name I responded confirming what his last name was, to make sure I knew him from high school. I told him he looked nothing like I remembered him. My friend said "Is that a good thing or a bad thing?" And I just said "We'll find out!" Lmao 🤦🏻‍♀️ He and I glance at each other a few times. We are sitting at opposite ends of the bar. Later, I go over to my brother to ask him when he wanted to leave. He happens to be standing near this attractive guy. I am waiting for my brother to finish a conversation with someone else. The attractive guy and I are making eye contact and laughing over the conversation we are overhearing. Before I even get a chan...

We’ve met 4 times over 2 months now, and every time we meet it’s absolutely electric, so much sex and eye contact and cuddling and talking. The last two times were so amazing and the last time we both said we love each other. And we’ve said we’re exclusive She texts me 24/7 EVERYTHING seems perfect apart from this one thing. - She’s often too busy to see me? She lives in Oxford and I live in London, but as I said she can only see my like once every 2 weeks. She normally comes to London. I’ve been patiently waiting to see if this would change, but we fallen out last night (Friday) because she’s going away for 2 weeks (Sunday), so I was desperate to see her Friday night, offered to go to Oxford even for a few hours, but she said we couldn’t because she was ‘stressed’ about packing and getting ready. I found that really upsetting, because I know I’d prioritise her above anything else and make sure we saw eachother, and I can’t understand why she wouldn’t want to do the same? Anyway n...

(crosspost from /r/blackmen ) i thought it was interesting but even though I dont agree with his views I see were the op is coming form towards other races of women. whenver I see an attractive woman thats another race my first thought is 'is she into black guys?' and I think back to things like statistics and guys I know both irl and online who succeed and fail the poster talked about a black guy who went crazy, almost killed people and then killed himself because he kept getting rejected by asian girls. I cant imagine being rejected 1500 times. _____________________________________________ There was already a thread about that, but the replies were awful, like I wish I could find a more polite way to put it, but it was literally stomach churningly garbage. No actual advice was given, a few of the posts seem to be subtlety blaming the OP. The thread was about a YOUNG black man and the most upvoted post is literally just saying "wait until you're 30 and they'...

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for me i feel like it's quite the opposite ( i mostly identify with demisexual, so not really 100%) that's the only way i could ever be able to sleep with someone, and that's the only way i can view sex without getting extremely uncomfortable with the idea of it. it would just be an extension of my love for them, and wouldn't be a product of some more naturalistic "carnal" desire( carnal sounds too harsh, i am sorry, i just feel like that's how i tend to view it in my mind most of the time) i hope this makes sense March 25, 2023 at 11:30PM

Not too many tantric wizards out there. It's getting more popular though. More power to em, I have other hobbies. March 25, 2023 at 11:30PM

28 yo F here; I started a FWB and it’s been hard since I just got out of a long term serious relationship. What makes it hard is that when together in-person, he gives me everything I was looking for from my ex. I just feel so wanted and “loved”. He makes me feel like the only girl in the world. We laugh a lot and everything feels so natural and easy. He calls me sweet nicknames and is the perfect gentleman whether or not we go out or stay in. He gives me butterflies and I just want to keep spending time with him and getting to know him. He texts me ‘good morning!’ every day but the rest of the text conversation is so stale. When he expresses the needs alone time, he still asks me about my day bc he says he’s interested. He doesn’t ask me questions about myself and he only wants to link up once a week. When I ask him on spontaneous hangouts he always says, “I would but ___”. He works night shift so I try to be understanding and accommodating but I feel confused. When I brought it up, ...

So for the first time in a year, I [M21] am going on a date with someone [F20]. This is also my first time going on a date with someone I met on a dating app. I have very little experience with dating and quite frankly, little experience meeting new people, possibly my biggest flaw. Another big and painful flaw is I get attached to someone very easily. I will NOT be doing this this time. My last date was with my high school crush a year ago, with a 5 year gap from the last time we met. I went head over heels too quick, thinking she had to be the one. She wasnt, I got attached and became too needy, after the 3rd date she decided to end it which was fair enough. I've learnt from this mistake and was the best thing I got out of those dates. I'm taking what I've learnt from the past and bringing it with me. What I need help with is finding that balance between needy and disinterested and when to notice where you're at. Submitted March 25, 2023 at 12:38AM So for t...

So I have been speaking to this lady (23m) for a few weeks now and things were going well, some personal chats, lil bit of flirting and some standard risky selfies. All good in my books, however the last week there have been two things. Thing 1 is that things have been moving quite quickly with her suggesting mainly that we set a load of future dates and put them all in a scrapbook so we have "memories for the future" and her buying a matching couples necklace set when we haven't even had a first proper date. This is way too much too fast in my opinion as I'm sure most reasonable people would agree and I voiced these concerns to which I felt she kinda backpedalled and agreed with me that she wanted to take things slow. I want to preface thing 2 by saying that I have made it crystal clear that I am under a lot of personal stress at the moment due to issues I won't go into detail here but I feel like every other message I get is a complaint about something, or unl...

Honesly it’s annoying that people are telling them to ditch their girlfriend and are assuming that needs aren’t being met when it’s stated that OPs gf does them favours/services them willingly it’s , OP feeling disgusted by their sexual urges is emotions they need to work through somehow because that is the root cause of the conflict need to have a discussion with their girlfriend or a therapist or something as clearly it’s not doing their mental health any good, but it shouldn’t automatically mean the death of a relationship that clearly means a lot OP. With reassurance from their girlfriend and a bit of time to think things over I’m sure this doesn’t have to end badly between the two of them. March 25, 2023 at 12:06AM

Can I DM someone for advice ? Submitted March 25, 2023 at 12:15AM Can I DM someone for advice ?

Who the fuck needs love when I got alcohol and a pool table Submitted March 24, 2023 at 01:07AM Who the fuck needs love when I got alcohol and a pool table

So, I got ghosted by a girl. After 2 weeks she finally decides to text me back. She didn’t apologize for taking 2 weeks to answer, instead all she said was something like hey I won’t be in class today do you mind passing me the notes when u got time?” She is acting extremely nice through text and don’t know what she is trying to do at this point. Should I still pursue her or should I just give up. I would really like to keep talking with her, but I just don’t know anymore. Also one more thing, what should my message be towards her after I send the notes? Submitted March 24, 2023 at 01:13AM So, I got ghosted by a girl. After 2 weeks she finally decides to text me back. She didn’t apologize for taking 2 weeks to answer, instead all she said was something like hey I won’t be in class today do you mind passing me the notes when u got time?” She is acting extremely nice through text and don’t know what she is trying to do at this point. Should I still pursue her or should I just give...

Definitely agree with you! March 24, 2023 at 12:06AM

So the guy(23M) that I(26F) have been seeing for the past 6 months has claimed since the beginning of our “relationship” that he’s not ready for a serious relationship or label with anyone. He says basically he has always talked to girls for a few weeks and then ends things so they don’t get too attached, but he’s been seeing me this long because he likes me a lot. I’ve attempted to end things with him twice but he begs for me to not leave him because he so say likes me so much and wants me in his life. Usually I would see this type of situation and run, but his actions are so confusing! We spend his one night off work together weekly, he takes me on very nice dates, gets me thoughtful gifts all the time, and now we’re going on a vacation together this weekend. I’m now starting to really get strong feelings for him and I don’t know what to say to him. Is the “not ready” thing an excuse to use me or can someone really like another person but not be ready? Submitted March 24, 2023 a...

So there’s this girl in my class that I like, and we talked a couple times. I wanted to ask her out next class but it’s going to be on Zoom. So what I’m wondering is: would it be weird to ask her out through DMs? The last thing I want is to come off as a weirdo so if anyone could weigh in I’d appreciate it Submitted March 24, 2023 at 12:15AM So there’s this girl in my class that I like, and we talked a couple times. I wanted to ask her out next class but it’s going to be on Zoom. So what I’m wondering is: would it be weird to ask her out through DMs? The last thing I want is to come off as a weirdo so if anyone could weigh in I’d appreciate it

Funny story, I officially learned about it and identified myself as Ace around 2020 but around 2017 I jokingly expressed myself as an asexual human being who reproduces through budding because I just felt like saying that and because I just really love basking in the sun lol March 23, 2023 at 11:17PM

The first thing that springs to my mind is "Have you ever gone shopping, looked at something on the shelf and thought 'Oh, that looks good, I could go for some of that', bought it, and then it's sat in your cupboard for weeks or months until you actually felt like eating it? Being graysexual can be kind of like that" but that doesn't really cover the whole range of graysexual, so I don't know how good it is. March 23, 2023 at 01:07AM

I, (F 18), have been working at my job for almost a year now. I have made a few friends from the place and sometimes we'll hangout outside of work. There's this one guy though, (M 19), that is closer to me than others. Usually my group of coworker friends will hang out in one large group, but he typically tries to make plans to hang out with just the two of us without the others. There's just some things he does that makes me question whether or not he's into me. Like him and I talk all the time, like consistently throughout the day. We snap and text one another. He's number one on my best friend's list and I'm number one on his. He goes to the gym a lot and will send me his work out pics. He also talks to me about his day and asks about mine. He's super caring and is always wondering what I'm up to. At work when I get stressed out due to some of the customers we have to deal with, and he's always walking up to me asking if I need a break, if I ...

I (20F) never experienced adolescent love; I was quiet and asocial. Now that I am opening myself to relationships and sexual connections, I know that I will never be someone's first love, likely not their first relationship. People often cast a rosy light over former relationships. In my case, this is especially true, as his (22M) first relationship was awful, second near-perfect (ended by extrinsic circumstances), his experience of "real, unconditional love". (This is a more general problem, however, with being an inexperienced woman.) It is childish, but the stabbing thought comes each time: I will never be enough, he will always wish for that one to be rekindled, I am a limp, inadequate replacement for what he would truly prefer. I can never offer the wholeheartedness of those past loves. (This is perhaps aggravated by the fact that this is currently a casual, non-exclusive relationship.) How can I manage these feelings, this futile retroactive envy? In my healthier ...

Congrats! Mines coming on Friday! March 22, 2023 at 11:33PM

For reference we are both in our late 20s. So I've been hanging out with this girl recently. We get along very well and at first I thought maybe she was interested in me, but she kept saying things like I hate being codependent, it's bad to rely on other people, etc. So I guess she is probably not wanting to date so I've been keeping it pg. I'm generally not platonic friends with girls but I would be/am with her which is definitely a new experience. First time I went to her place she wouldn't even let me wash my cup saying that she prefers to do it. A few weeks later and we are at her place again and she asks if I'll cook dinner for her which of course I'm happy to do and she's telling me about her dating app idea while eating the food I made. Which is basically find a guy who can do services for you, do services for him,???, dating?... I'm thinking is she talking about this? I've paid for two of her meals at restaurants and now she's off...

Wondering about this too I've had gay experiences before March 22, 2023 at 01:04AM

The shader is worth it March 22, 2023 at 01:04AM

Back in 2016, I (f25) was 18y old and just about to leave for college. It was my last night in my hometown and I was shopping for some last minute stuff for my new place. The next morning I packed my car and drove to a city where I currently still live. Few months later I come back to my hometown to see my friends band play. Outside the venue, I meet someone (then 19y). It was the cashier from my last-minute shopping trip. He had approached me because he actually remembered me from the store few months back. We got to talking which led to a few small dates, but eventually he called it off due to the fact that he had just broken up with someone else. Actually it was that very same morning of the consert. After a few months, he reached out again and this time we did date. At this point we are 19-20y. Only problem was that I was studying 300km away and he had to complete national defence service for a year. Worst time to date someone. We tried to sustain it for a while but it ended soo...

About 4.5 years ago, I (35m) went on a date with a guy (32m) that went great. Really good conversation, lots in common, and I could feel a major spark. Only problem was I had just gotten out of a 3.5-year relationship (like a week before the date) and was still needing a lot time to process that before I was ready for anything serious. He asked when we could hang out again, and I was going out of town that weekend so I said we could hang when I got back. He pulled the old, "You're gonna make me wait a week to see you again?" I relented and agreed to a second date that week, which also went great. I remember he went out of his way to call me when I was out of town just to chat, and when I got back in town, things took off. We were hanging out a few times a week, sleeping at each other's places a lot, having sex, meeting each other's friends, etc., and it was great. Even gave me a key to his place. (He was in residency and would have to get up at like 4:30am, so on...