Is ”timing” a real thing?

Back in 2016, I (f25) was 18y old and just about to leave for college. It was my last night in my hometown and I was shopping for some last minute stuff for my new place. The next morning I packed my car and drove to a city where I currently still live.

Few months later I come back to my hometown to see my friends band play. Outside the venue, I meet someone (then 19y). It was the cashier from my last-minute shopping trip. He had approached me because he actually remembered me from the store few months back. We got to talking which led to a few small dates, but eventually he called it off due to the fact that he had just broken up with someone else. Actually it was that very same morning of the consert.

After a few months, he reached out again and this time we did date. At this point we are 19-20y. Only problem was that I was studying 300km away and he had to complete national defence service for a year. Worst time to date someone. We tried to sustain it for a while but it ended soon. I remember being very hurt by this.

Over the years, we have occassionally run into each other at conserts or festivals etc. and every time the issue was timing. I wasn’t over someone. He moved abroad. We both dated someone else etc.

It’s now 7 years later and we haven’t had any contact for over two years. I turn 26 soon and he just turned 28. We’ve both been single for a while and yesterday he reached out to me again.

So Reddit, do I say yes to this date? Is ”right time” a real thing? Or am I chasing something that should be let go?

Thank you for your opinions and for reading this far. (sorry for english, this is not my first language)

Submitted March 22, 2023 at 01:15AM

Back in 2016, I (f25) was 18y old and just about to leave for college. It was my last night in my hometown and I was shopping for some last minute stuff for my new place. The next morning I packed my car and drove to a city where I currently still live.Few months later I come back to my hometown to see my friends band play. Outside the venue, I meet someone (then 19y). It was the cashier from my last-minute shopping trip. He had approached me because he actually remembered me from the store few months back. We got to talking which led to a few small dates, but eventually he called it off due to the fact that he had just broken up with someone else. Actually it was that very same morning of the consert.After a few months, he reached out again and this time we did date. At this point we are 19-20y. Only problem was that I was studying 300km away and he had to complete national defence service for a year. Worst time to date someone. We tried to sustain it for a while but it ended soon. I remember being very hurt by this.Over the years, we have occassionally run into each other at conserts or festivals etc. and every time the issue was timing. I wasn’t over someone. He moved abroad. We both dated someone else etc.It’s now 7 years later and we haven’t had any contact for over two years. I turn 26 soon and he just turned 28. We’ve both been single for a while and yesterday he reached out to me again.So Reddit, do I say yes to this date? Is ”right time” a real thing? Or am I chasing something that should be let go?Thank you for your opinions and for reading this far. (sorry for english, this is not my first language)