I asked my friend: “you good?” Because I got home from work walked through the door and said “hey!” And she didn’t say anything. Now there’s an awkward silence.

I’m a 22 year old (female), she’s a 20 year old (female). I chose to ask her if she’s okay. She always seems like she’s in a bad mood. I have a job, she doesn’t at the moment. I pay rent to her husband for letting me stay here at their apt. He’s never home because he is a CDL truck driver. I told her I was going to Walmart and she said: “Okay! While your there you should set up a bank account too so you have one, I think it’s first convince bank that’s in there” ... I was like I’m not going to go through the bank they have there, then she says: “Okay that’s good! and well find a better one then lol” She kind of seems like she’s mad at me or something so when I got home I asked her: “you good?” and she was like: “Yeah why... Why do you keep asking me that?” I said: “Because it seems like you’re mad at me...” and I should’ve said because I care about you... But she’s weird with “feelings and emotions”. It’s very quiet right now... It got awkward after that, she seems like she’s mad now... It’s so weird!!! I’m just not going to ask if she’s okay.. I feel like I am bothering her because now it’s quiet. I live here till I get an a car and an apt., things should be okay and will get better but I feel like she gets mad at me because I like to go shopping. I ask her if she wants to go and she does sometimes but she never has money. I feel like she has to ask her boyfriend for money. I don’t know I feel like she depends on him so maybe she’s self reflecting on her life with him...who knows.. I’m single I like being single and maybe she envies the fact that I have freedom. Idk.

TL;DR My friend always seems like she doesn’t seem to have a care in the world...doesn’t really show emotion...always telling me what to do...maybe I’m wrong...I asked her what’s wrong and now she’s ignoring me about it... Which is weird to me.



Submitted March 31, 2020 at 12:03AM

I’m a 22 year old (female), she’s a 20 year old (female). I chose to ask her if she’s okay. She always seems like she’s in a bad mood. I have a job, she doesn’t at the moment. I pay rent to her husband for letting me stay here at their apt. He’s never home because he is a CDL truck driver. I told her I was going to Walmart and she said: “Okay! While your there you should set up a bank account too so you have one, I think it’s first convince bank that’s in there” ... I was like I’m not going to go through the bank they have there, then she says: “Okay that’s good! and well find a better one then lol” She kind of seems like she’s mad at me or something so when I got home I asked her: “you good?” and she was like: “Yeah why... Why do you keep asking me that?” I said: “Because it seems like you’re mad at me...” and I should’ve said because I care about you... But she’s weird with “feelings and emotions”. It’s very quiet right now... It got awkward after that, she seems like she’s mad now... It’s so weird!!! I’m just not going to ask if she’s okay.. I feel like I am bothering her because now it’s quiet. I live here till I get an a car and an apt., things should be okay and will get better but I feel like she gets mad at me because I like to go shopping. I ask her if she wants to go and she does sometimes but she never has money. I feel like she has to ask her boyfriend for money. I don’t know I feel like she depends on him so maybe she’s self reflecting on her life with him...who knows.. I’m single I like being single and maybe she envies the fact that I have freedom. Idk.TL;DR My friend always seems like she doesn’t seem to have a care in the world...doesn’t really show emotion...always telling me what to do...maybe I’m wrong...I asked her what’s wrong and now she’s ignoring me about it... Which is weird to me.
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