My understanding is it's essentially latex but without proteins that cause the allergies. Submitted March 31, 2020 at 11:55PM My understanding is it's essentially latex but without proteins that cause the allergies.

I wank regularly and just recently started lubing a finger up with some hand cream and fingering my anus whilst masturbating. Could this do any harm and, since I'm straight, should I enjoy this? When I do it, it feels really good but afterwards I feel really ashamed about it - if it's normal why the shame? Submitted April 01, 2020 at 12:07AM I wank regularly and just recently started lubing a finger up with some hand cream and fingering my anus whilst masturbating. Could this do any harm and, since I'm straight, should I enjoy this? When I do it, it feels really good but afterwards I feel really ashamed about it - if it's normal why the shame?

I’m so awkward so i have a simple question... how do you infer to someone/ask them if they wanna sext? Lol does anyone else just feel weird in the beginning but then youre fine once its happening? Submitted April 01, 2020 at 12:13AM I’m so awkward so i have a simple question... how do you infer to someone/ask them if they wanna sext? Lol does anyone else just feel weird in the beginning but then youre fine once its happening?

I don't know if I can describe my problem properly but I will try. I have a problem with my boyfriend when it comes to our sex life. We do have sex (like once a week) and he even initiates sometimes, but he seems so passionless and doesn't really show that he desires me. Like during the day time he never touches me sexually, even our kisses are not passionate (we don't even french kiss anymore, just touching lips for a second with open eyes), when we cuddle It's also really affectionate but not sexy at all. He said that sex is not so important for him. We usually have sex when he wants to please me (It's more important for him that I come than his own pleasure) or when he has erection out of nowhers so he kinda just wants to use that because he is hard already. He also asks me if I want to have sex out of nowhere and as casually as talking about the weather when we do something totally unrelated. I don't understand that because we are together not that long ...

Is it normal to be attracted to girls sometimes and sometimes you couldn’t care less (Male 18) I have been suffering from depression a long time during my adolescence and I would like to know whether it is normal for a heterosexual male to not care at all about girls most days. It’s just during my depression, I saw sexuality as something wrong that i shouldn’t take part in, so I am wondering whether there’s nothing wrong, am I gray ace, is it remnants of the depression, or is puberty not over yet and I should be expecting a change later. Submitted April 01, 2020 at 12:26AM Is it normal to be attracted to girls sometimes and sometimes you couldn’t care less(Male 18) I have been suffering from depression a long time during my adolescence and I would like to know whether it is normal for a heterosexual male to not care at all about girls most days. It’s just during my depression, I saw sexuality as something wrong that i shouldn’t take part in, so I am wondering whether there’s no...

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One thing I noticed over the years is that some girls’ boobs are heavier and harder/fuller to touch while others’ are lighter and softer. Why is this? Submitted April 01, 2020 at 12:29AM One thing I noticed over the years is that some girls’ boobs are heavier and harder/fuller to touch while others’ are lighter and softer. Why is this?

For a while I don't find myself initiating sexting with my finance only because I am more of a visual person, reading sexy messages after a while doesn't add fuel to the fire especially since she always wants to sext or steer conversations into sexual ones. We have talked about this many times throughout our relationship and in her previous relationship, she had sent explicit photos but didn't like the feeling of herself being leaked out like that. Of course, before we started dating I had a bit of a high school horndog phase where most of the women I flirted with or sexted always involved sending pictures back and forth of each other. Once my fiance started dating and become sexually active I yearned for the day she would send me explicit photos but that's when she told me she never would after she did it in her previous relationship. So in the meantime, we sext with words. There have been times where I was turned on by her words but that's once and a while, not e...

Hi fam! This post is intended to be a discussion of sorts... How has your dating life changed to deal with social distancing rules? I've seen posts on Tinder where guys are offering to share thier toilet paper with me. I'm regularly using 😷 in chats. I told one guy I couldn't meet up with him because of the social distancing rules and he told me that was a dealbreaker. Okkayy.... Anyway, I'd love to hear from y'all. Did you update your profiles? I've seen multiple guys on Tinder who are in a face mask and I can't decide if its responsible or if that's a sign they're a hoarder? Are video chat dates weird? I don't know. Work sent me home and I finally have free time to date and I'm already not great at the dating anyway, and I have no clue how to deal with this new wrinkle. Thoughts? Submitted March 31, 2020 at 11:55PM Hi fam! This post is intended to be a discussion of sorts... How has your dating life changed to deal with social dista...

Waiting till it's over / not at all? Park dates? Going for a walk? What are your thoughts on a first date venue? Let's hear some ideas! Submitted April 01, 2020 at 12:06AM Waiting till it's over / not at all? Park dates? Going for a walk?What are your thoughts on a first date venue? Let's hear some ideas!

Ah, I get that. I've also been thinking about myself in the LGBT+ community a lot recently, mostly due to second-guessing myself... and I would certainly say I am too :) April 01, 2020 at 12:23AM

Well he also didn't explain it correctly. But it still doesn't change the fact that people are making fun for no reason ... April 01, 2020 at 12:22AM

It's likely that she knows it's a pride flag but may not know which pride flag. At the very least she probably suspects it has a coded meaning. It's up to you if you want to open a dialogue about it. April 01, 2020 at 12:22AM

Is the ace ring custom content? It looks really good! April 01, 2020 at 12:19AM

on, no, no worries. ... it's just something that I too have wondered you know. since, well, I know I'm a weirdo (... in a lot of senses). April 01, 2020 at 12:15AM

They're honestly just disrespecting everything relevant to this tweet. I'm demi myself, also a demi lovato fan, and I don't need this.. I can get wanting to be funny, but this is just disrespectful. April 01, 2020 at 12:10AM

Have you considered calling child services anonymously to see what they say? Pose things as a hypothetical question, tell them what’s happened to you and ask what options “someone in that position” should do. April 01, 2020 at 12:10AM

Right...so in that case there really shouldn't be a problem with there being a way to distinguish 0 attraction from the rest of the community, right? It's like how there are separate gay and lesbian flags, even if some people use the rainbow flag to represent that, because in reality, it represents the whole community and doesn't immediately mean gay/lesbian. The ace flag is also unspecific, representing the whole ace community, and doesn't really specifically mean 100% asexual, even if some people use it that way. April 01, 2020 at 12:07AM

There's a Demi person on there who thinks it's a "tumblr made up term" and that their sexuality is actually a preference. Seriously, are they just trying to distance themselves from demisexuality to avoid the erasure and abuse it suffers or are they actually just allo but saying they're demisexual to avoid backlash for being bigoted, either way it's wrong. It reminds me of people like my brother who are somehow gay and homophobic at the same time, and try to earn rep with homophobes by being "one of the good ones" April 01, 2020 at 12:06AM

Probably, this seems pretty accurate. April 01, 2020 at 12:01AM

oh indeed, and I never meant to say you were! just on the topic of the difference between romantic and non-romantic :) sorry if I made you uncomfortable! April 01, 2020 at 12:01AM

Oh gosh, I love Todd's arc in BJH. I'm glad you identify with our community! This is why representation is so important to us, it helps people become aware of these concepts and their own feelings. So long as you're comfortable with the label and you feel it helps you, you're very welcome here! My inbox is open if you have any questions. :) April 01, 2020 at 12:01AM

This confirmed my ace-specness thank you March 31, 2020 at 11:57PM

Really crazy good spring break Hi so this is my first post on here and it might be a long one I (20F) have never been sexually promiscuous as I was raised in the church where sex is “supposed to be with a man and a wife”. I’ve always been the good girl who does well in school and I’ve never been to a party. I’ve been with my current boyfriend (23M) for 2 and a half years even though we’ve known each other for about 10+ years. He was raised in church too and I love him but sex was always something he didn’t wanna push me to do, but still wanted. We decided to have sex about a year or so ago (took my virginity) and it was great. Well... A few months ago, he confessed to me that he’s had a sex addiction for a long time and that he cheated on me numerous times since we started dating. Because I love this man and he’s super close with my family (like I’ve wanted to marry this guy for over a year), I decided I would give him a chance to fix himself and his addiction but if it happens aga...

I'd been making progress with this girl (before all of this) and my virginity was looking a little bit precarious. When it comes to sex, will I be expected to take her from behind, or will it likely be missionary? In my fantasies, it's always been missionary, doggy has always seemed a bit too feral for me. Submitted March 30, 2020 at 11:48PM I'd been making progress with this girl (before all of this) and my virginity was looking a little bit precarious.When it comes to sex, will I be expected to take her from behind, or will it likely be missionary? In my fantasies, it's always been missionary, doggy has always seemed a bit too feral for me.

I Used Vaulty for a while but backup is limited, so maybe u can suggest me something better with more features like random slideshow and auto rotante screen to fit the picture. Do you know something good? Submitted March 31, 2020 at 12:01AM I Used Vaulty for a while but backup is limited, so maybe u can suggest me something better with more features like random slideshow and auto rotante screen to fit the picture. Do you know something good?

My girlfriend and I have been together for around 5 months now, and this hasn’t always been an issue. When we first started having sex, everything was fine, but I believe as she started getting more comfortable around me, she stopped taking care of her vagina as well. Some days, when I lay my head down on her thighs I can smell it, and it has this really wonky, indescribable smell that literally makes me want to throw up. This makes me completely turned off to the idea of going down on her. She has told me that she showers usually once every other day, and she told me that she only uses water to clean her vagina. Am I being too judgmental? Submitted March 31, 2020 at 12:02AM My girlfriend and I have been together for around 5 months now, and this hasn’t always been an issue. When we first started having sex, everything was fine, but I believe as she started getting more comfortable around me, she stopped taking care of her vagina as well. Some days, when I lay my head down on he...

Title pretty much sums it up. So my bf and I haven’t seen each other for quite a while due to the current situation. Because of it, we have gotten much more sexual over text, and he has mentioned that we can start sending nudes to each other as long as I’m comfortable with it. Honestly the thought of receiving and sending nudes to each other really turns me on, but I’m just too afraid of the consequences of sending them. I have pretty remarkable spots on my body that most of my friends know about. So I feel that even if I don’t show my face, people will still recognize me if my nudes get leaked. Now, trust is a HUGE part of it, and I know that I should trust my bf when it comes to these stuff. But, I guess what makes it really hard for me to trust him is probably my abusive ex, let’s call him Dick. Me and Dick dated for only a couple of months (less than half a year) and during this time he had crossed boundaries I constantly had to put in order to keep me safe during sex. He would...

So we were talking about AM boners and my boyfriend (33) claims it’s his body’s response to having to pee - since it’s harder to pee with a boner, his body creates one so he doesn’t have to get woken up in the night to use the bathroom; the boner essentially allows him to hold it 8-9 hours until he wakes up naturally. I always thought guys had AM boners because their bodies are wired to want to reproduce at all hours & they probably had a sex dream or just woke up horny. Do any other guys buy this “boner to block pee” theory, or is my boyfriend just full of shit?! Lol & thank you in advance. Submitted March 31, 2020 at 12:05AM So we were talking about AM boners and my boyfriend (33) claims it’s his body’s response to having to pee - since it’s harder to pee with a boner, his body creates one so he doesn’t have to get woken up in the night to use the bathroom; the boner essentially allows him to hold it 8-9 hours until he wakes up naturally. I always thought guys had AM b...

Looks for some sex position ideas with recommendations. We’re lookin to keep it fresh! Or anyone know of a site with visuals for this kinda thing? Submitted March 31, 2020 at 12:06AM Looks for some sex position ideas with recommendations. We’re lookin to keep it fresh! Or anyone know of a site with visuals for this kinda thing?

Throwaway account here so I don't get snooped on for sharing my question. Last week I messaged someone from reddit after a comment they made that I read on r/sex thinking nothing more than it was gonna be a bit of messaging fun, however, one thing led to another and we happened to live in the same city and I was really intrigued! Especially by what he wrote in his comment, he seemed to know exactly what he was talking about. Half of me was thinking is this guy actually like this? Is he what he describes in his comment? Now I have met people off of tinder before but not on a whim like this. So fast forward through some private messaging on here and texting we met up for a drink at a local cafe place for the sake of meeting in a public opening at first, got chatting about a few kinks, likes and dislikes in the bedroom and finally got to his place and it was ON. And oh my god I have never been taken like that before in my life! I felt ravished unapologetically, it was just so spont...

My wife told me that she is not interested in sex with me anymore for the past year. The past year has been very stressful on both of us and my mood has been pretty bad. Just looking for advice on how to see if there is anything I can do to make her have that passion for me again? Submitted March 31, 2020 at 12:10AM My wife told me that she is not interested in sex with me anymore for the past year. The past year has been very stressful on both of us and my mood has been pretty bad. Just looking for advice on how to see if there is anything I can do to make her have that passion for me again?

We are very inexperienced when it comes to sex and have only been making out, she expressed that she wanted to lose her virginity with me this week. What should I do to prepare for it, we will be using condoms, I have gotten latex and non latex one and I am not sure if I should get lube or if it would ruin our first time(should I get water or silicone based ones if I do) Also I have shaved about 2 weeks ago and I am unsure if shaving again right before the deed would be a good idea. I would be grateful for any advice from experienced people Submitted March 31, 2020 at 12:17AM We are very inexperienced when it comes to sex and have only been making out, she expressed that she wanted to lose her virginity with me this week. What should I do to prepare for it, we will be using condoms, I have gotten latex and non latex one and I am not sure if I should get lube or if it would ruin our first time(should I get water or silicone based ones if I do) Also I have shaved about 2 weeks ag...

Hi everyone, I’m hoping this is an okay thing to post in this subreddit; I’ve tried to post in other more specific subreddits but they aren’t quite as large as this one and I’m hoping for a wide variety of answers if possible. I put it in the title as well but I’ll write it again to be safe: This post is largely about sexual assault and healing, there will be no descriptions or anything but it contains mentions of SA, thank you. Anyway, here we go: About 7 months before my girlfriend and I met, she was assaulted (we’ve been together for about a year and a half at this point). I will not go into detail and I really don’t have that much detail as I’ve been sure to never bring it up and never ask questions unprompted (also we are in our mid-late 20’s, for reference) Anyway, we have sex probably once a month on average and it is always wonderful, intimate, and mind-blowing. There are times when she has been triggered during sex and (obviously) we immediately stop when this happens and ...

I’m a 35 yr old male, married for 4 yrs with one young kid. I’m coming to terms with the reality that my marriage is actually falling apart. I just don’t know what to do, I love our daughter deeply and don’t want to ruin her childhood, or risk being cut off from her. When I first met my wife, I was head over heals in love with her. We had a relationship for about 3 yrs before we got married. We had great sex at the start and used to have fun going out socializing etc...i couldn’t see any thing wrong in her. Where we are now couldn’t be more different, even factoring in the toll a child takes on your life and relationship, it’s really all changed. My wife causes me so much stress, she’s manages to make everything so bloody stressful, like even choosing the colour of some curtains etc... I seems like we can never disagree without her losing her temper. Feels like bitterness and sniping remarks run through the day regularly and arguments can go nuclear when I don’t have the energy to s...

I’ll try to make the backstory as short as possible. I (31F) have know my friend, we’ll call him Steve (39M), for 15+ years. 7 of those years we were off and on. Timing has always been our main problem. I broke it off the last time and we didn’t speak for about 5 years, our longest stretch of no contact. A few months ago I worked up enough liquid courage to reach out to him and we’ve been talking ever since. For a while we were in that “text every morning, call every night” phase until, suddenly, he started ignoring me completely. Depression, he said, which I understand completely. It just threw me how out of the blue and severe it was. Centimeter by centimeter I’ve been trying to pull him back in but it hasn’t been the same. Which brings us to today. I am crazy about this man. I have been since the first day we met. When we weren’t speaking, even when I was in relationships or married, he was never far from my mind. I’ve done several really mushy gushy romantic type things to show...

My dad owns a big construction company and he makes tons of money. I help manage it (I direct the workers to where they are going to work and what has to be done. He’s been working for us for like 3 years now and he’s a very hard worker. He’s hot, smart, a good person, and he is a college student too. I asked him out on a date because I really like him and I don’t think he took it seriously. He told me I was trying to prank him or joke with him and he said he thinks that just becauss I make a lot of money and I am American (he didn’t say any kf this in a bad way to me he more or less was putting himself down based on his social status) while he is “poor” and Latino. I think that he is probably thinking that he isn’t good enough or something, but I could probably help him out a lot and I like him. Well I never got a yes or a no and I’m really confused and kind of frustrated. Should I try again and ask him out? Or what? We didn’t get to talk about it in detail because we were both rus...

I’m a 22 year old (female), she’s a 20 year old (female). I chose to ask her if she’s okay. She always seems like she’s in a bad mood. I have a job, she doesn’t at the moment. I pay rent to her husband for letting me stay here at their apt. He’s never home because he is a CDL truck driver. I told her I was going to Walmart and she said: “Okay! While your there you should set up a bank account too so you have one, I think it’s first convince bank that’s in there” ... I was like I’m not going to go through the bank they have there, then she says: “Okay that’s good! and well find a better one then lol” She kind of seems like she’s mad at me or something so when I got home I asked her: “you good?” and she was like: “Yeah why... Why do you keep asking me that?” I said: “Because it seems like you’re mad at me...” and I should’ve said because I care about you... But she’s weird with “feelings and emotions”. It’s very quiet right now... It got awkward after that, she seems like she’s mad now....

Story time: I'm [19F] a first year undergrad at uni, in that time I made friends with the few good people on my course. One in particular [19F] & I hit it off. I feel we get on like a house on fire, but she has a BF whom came with her to the uni and whom is absolutely harmless as people go. Yada yada, around Halloween I confess to her after drunkenness & walking her back that I wanted to kiss her, she said nah but would've if they werent together. I keep being kinda semi-overtly flirty with her because she found it funny, so I take that as something of a greenlight to continue as I thought we were both having fun; going to watch movies at mine often about Less Than SFW Topics (think Secretary) , being playful with my poor purchases from lovehoney, drinking lightly, all that good stuff. Next semester it's the case that she's evidently grown out of the fondness for me about the "i would if I didnt have a BF" and puts the foot down as it were, saying t...

Pardon me, because it's Long. We were in a FWB type of relationship for one year, he [38M] was recovering from a divorce, I [36F] had and still have mental illness and a low self-esteem and I couldn't see myself as worth enough to be his partner. For nearly one year, I never asked. I never questioned. I dodged any proposal that was more than casual. Our son thought otherwise. Just when we were going to break up and go separate ways, I was pregnant. We ruled out a termination, and he insisted to try to know each other better and co-parent this little bundle of surprise. Unfortunately my pregnancy was not simple, between therapy and bed rest, we grow distant. He was working crazy hours to make up for the paternity leave and holiday time, I was stuck in a bed all day. Baby arrived early but healthy. I am not going to suggest that being a mother, fixed me or something, but, my mind changed a bit. For the first time in my life I am important to someone. I can do stuff and be pro...

Major conversation with partner last night. Not really intentional. I'm curious y'all's take on this scenario (note this is not the scenario of us or anyone we know...but it's a real situation and led to a big conversation about the nature of trust and lying). Situation. This girl is dating a guy long distance. He comes to visit and gets stuck with her during quarantine. His trip is obviously extended indefinitely. They have been dating about 6 months - she says he's her bf but doesn't say whether they have had the "exclusivity talk." He has mentioned a female friend to her that he doesn't talk to anymore...she gets the sense it was more than what he's saying. She looks at his phone and see evidence that it was at least an emotional affair situation (the other woman is married but her bf was single at the time) if not a physical relationship too. She sees that they last spoke a few weeks before she got together with the guy. She approaches hi...