How to handle different sexting ideals?

For a while I don't find myself initiating sexting with my finance only because I am more of a visual person, reading sexy messages after a while doesn't add fuel to the fire especially since she always wants to sext or steer conversations into sexual ones. We have talked about this many times throughout our relationship and in her previous relationship, she had sent explicit photos but didn't like the feeling of herself being leaked out like that. Of course, before we started dating I had a bit of a high school horndog phase where most of the women I flirted with or sexted always involved sending pictures back and forth of each other. Once my fiance started dating and become sexually active I yearned for the day she would send me explicit photos but that's when she told me she never would after she did it in her previous relationship. So in the meantime, we sext with words. There have been times where I was turned on by her words but that's once and a while, not every time she initiates the conversation. I know this makes me sound ungrateful and unappreciative but I love and appreciate my fiance's body especially when we are alone together I make that known. It becomes difficult to do when all we do is sext with words and not pictures, especially since I know I'd get riled up every time. I am very considerate of her perspective of why she doesn't want to but it's just hard for me to sext with only words after a while :/. Like I said I already sound selfish and unappreciative but with this whole crisis happening we decided to stop hanging out to prevent the spread of the illness and because my dad has many medical conditions that could put him at risk.

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TL;DR: My girlfriend only likes sexting with words and I am starting to lose interest in that. She already told me she doesn't feel comfortable doing it and I've already tried adapting to just sexting with words but it's not the same without pictures being sent. I would love to hear from a woman's perspective on how I could sympathize with her or if others want to advise how I should approach this.

Submitted April 01, 2020 at 12:30AM

For a while I don't find myself initiating sexting with my finance only because I am more of a visual person, reading sexy messages after a while doesn't add fuel to the fire especially since she always wants to sext or steer conversations into sexual ones. We have talked about this many times throughout our relationship and in her previous relationship, she had sent explicit photos but didn't like the feeling of herself being leaked out like that. Of course, before we started dating I had a bit of a high school horndog phase where most of the women I flirted with or sexted always involved sending pictures back and forth of each other. Once my fiance started dating and become sexually active I yearned for the day she would send me explicit photos but that's when she told me she never would after she did it in her previous relationship. So in the meantime, we sext with words. There have been times where I was turned on by her words but that's once and a while, not every time she initiates the conversation. I know this makes me sound ungrateful and unappreciative but I love and appreciate my fiance's body especially when we are alone together I make that known. It becomes difficult to do when all we do is sext with words and not pictures, especially since I know I'd get riled up every time. I am very considerate of her perspective of why she doesn't want to but it's just hard for me to sext with only words after a while :/. Like I said I already sound selfish and unappreciative but with this whole crisis happening we decided to stop hanging out to prevent the spread of the illness and because my dad has many medical conditions that could put him at risk.​TL;DR: My girlfriend only likes sexting with words and I am starting to lose interest in that. She already told me she doesn't feel comfortable doing it and I've already tried adapting to just sexting with words but it's not the same without pictures being sent. I would love to hear from a woman's perspective on how I could sympathize with her or if others want to advise how I should approach this.