My boyfriend can't cum with a condom on.

Hello Reddit. I rarely ask questions on here but this is something that I really need advice on as I feel my relationship depends on it.

So my boyfriend and I have been together for like a month now and have started having sex.

Obviously to be safe I ask him to use condoms as I don't take birth control (it's not very common where I'm from, the side effects) and they prevent STIs.

However my boyfriend does not like using condoms. If I don't demand it he will never even consider it. He says he can't cum with them on and he really never has cum with it on while having sex. He always stops to beg me if he can take it off when he's close to coming, but I just can't let him go in raw. I'm too afraid of falling pregnant and/or catching diseases. The worst part is, I don't even feel comfortable with a condom either! After a while it starts to hurt me and I even feel tempted to just let him in raw. But I know we need to be safe.

The fact that he never asks for the condom and was way too comfortable with the idea of penetrating me raw the first time we did it, leads me to believe that in his previous relationships and/or hook-ups he was going raw in every girl and I don't feel safe with that. But he's my boyfriend and I need to please him or the relationship may end.

I'm wondering if I'm the problem, if it doesn't feel good to be in me....

Does anyone have any advice? I'm desperate. Suggesting we do an STI test may insult him and it's also pretty expensive and we're young in our early 20s so we could barely afford it.

Thank you in advance. I'm sorry if my situation is weird and dumb.



Submitted December 18, 2019 at 12:16AM

Hello Reddit. I rarely ask questions on here but this is something that I really need advice on as I feel my relationship depends on it.So my boyfriend and I have been together for like a month now and have started having sex.Obviously to be safe I ask him to use condoms as I don't take birth control (it's not very common where I'm from, the side effects) and they prevent STIs.However my boyfriend does not like using condoms. If I don't demand it he will never even consider it. He says he can't cum with them on and he really never has cum with it on while having sex. He always stops to beg me if he can take it off when he's close to coming, but I just can't let him go in raw. I'm too afraid of falling pregnant and/or catching diseases. The worst part is, I don't even feel comfortable with a condom either! After a while it starts to hurt me and I even feel tempted to just let him in raw. But I know we need to be safe.The fact that he never asks for the condom and was way too comfortable with the idea of penetrating me raw the first time we did it, leads me to believe that in his previous relationships and/or hook-ups he was going raw in every girl and I don't feel safe with that. But he's my boyfriend and I need to please him or the relationship may end.I'm wondering if I'm the problem, if it doesn't feel good to be in me....Does anyone have any advice? I'm desperate. Suggesting we do an STI test may insult him and it's also pretty expensive and we're young in our early 20s so we could barely afford it.Thank you in advance. I'm sorry if my situation is weird and dumb.
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