My (25f) partner (27m) has purposely made me sick

Throwaway account. My partner came down with a cold a few days ago. I've tried to look after him as best I could but my immune system is rubbish so even a cold would leave me bed bound for a week, so I've tried to stay away from him as best as I can as at the moment my body cant handle being ill with a cold (I also have fibroyalgia and having a pretty intense flair up). He doesnt seem to understand and as a 'joke' has been sneezing and coughing in my face. I would understand if this was an accident but he purposely turns his head towards me when he sneezes/coughs and he doesnt cover his face. This morning I realised my throat was really sore and my whole body was aching beyond belief. I also get globus sensation (the feeling that there's a lump in my throat) when I'm ill and its caused me to throw up multiple times today. Now I'm struggling to get out of bed because I'm in agony from my joints and I cant keep any food down. I'm so angry because he did this on purpose knowing the affects this has on my body- a few months after we got together I came down with the flu and was nearly hospitalised because of it- but he's getting angry back because he says he was joking/ it was an accident and he says that I'm just trying to cause an argument, also it doesnt matter because I dont work so I can rest the whole time I'm ill whereas he has to go to work and suffer. The worse part is I was supposed to go to a family event next week after christmas, some of whom I havent seen in nearly 5 years, and he doesnt want me to go because he's not allowed to go, but he denies the fact he's made me ill so I cant go as he knows I can be wiped out for weeks at a time whith even the simplest of illnesses. Do I have a right to be angry?

TL;DR boyfriend had a cold, gave it to me on purpose knowing it has a really bad affect on me and tells me I have no reason to be angry because he was only joking and I dont have to work through it unlike him. I also have a family event that he doesnt want me to go to because he wasnt invited but he denies the fact he's made me ill so I cant go but I dont believe him. Am I allowed to be angry?



Submitted December 18, 2019 at 12:27AM

Throwaway account. My partner came down with a cold a few days ago. I've tried to look after him as best I could but my immune system is rubbish so even a cold would leave me bed bound for a week, so I've tried to stay away from him as best as I can as at the moment my body cant handle being ill with a cold (I also have fibroyalgia and having a pretty intense flair up). He doesnt seem to understand and as a 'joke' has been sneezing and coughing in my face. I would understand if this was an accident but he purposely turns his head towards me when he sneezes/coughs and he doesnt cover his face. This morning I realised my throat was really sore and my whole body was aching beyond belief. I also get globus sensation (the feeling that there's a lump in my throat) when I'm ill and its caused me to throw up multiple times today. Now I'm struggling to get out of bed because I'm in agony from my joints and I cant keep any food down. I'm so angry because he did this on purpose knowing the affects this has on my body- a few months after we got together I came down with the flu and was nearly hospitalised because of it- but he's getting angry back because he says he was joking/ it was an accident and he says that I'm just trying to cause an argument, also it doesnt matter because I dont work so I can rest the whole time I'm ill whereas he has to go to work and suffer. The worse part is I was supposed to go to a family event next week after christmas, some of whom I havent seen in nearly 5 years, and he doesnt want me to go because he's not allowed to go, but he denies the fact he's made me ill so I cant go as he knows I can be wiped out for weeks at a time whith even the simplest of illnesses. Do I have a right to be angry?TL;DR boyfriend had a cold, gave it to me on purpose knowing it has a really bad affect on me and tells me I have no reason to be angry because he was only joking and I dont have to work through it unlike him. I also have a family event that he doesnt want me to go to because he wasnt invited but he denies the fact he's made me ill so I cant go but I dont believe him. Am I allowed to be angry?
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