My boyfriend acted weird when I slept over

My boyfriend and I are both 17 (I'm a girl & he's a boy) and have been dating for 8 months. He is all around great, amazing, sweet, kind and really thoughtful and super attractive (not that it matters but still). So I slept over at his house for the first time and it was a little weird, for what I was expecting at least. His parents left earlier in the day to my boyfriend's grandparents and wouldn't be back till the next day, I fully expected to have sex with my him. Not only did he seem uninterested in sex I wasn't even sure if where I going to sleep at one point, I mentioned that I would sleep in his bed and he looked shocked for a moment then sorta played it off as it was the plan all along. He's usually super affectionate always giving me hugs, kissing me and cuddling with me and just pretty touchy in general. We both got in his bed and he just turned over and went to sleep, nothing not even a kiss. We slept on opposite sides of the bed and every time I tried to get close or try to hug him I was met with a pillow muffled “get off of me”. The next morning he's all lovey dovey again. Maybe he is just not ready for sex and us scared that me sleeping in the same bed with him is going to lead to that? I don't know it was weird for me, I expected to do stuff two 17 year olds would do when home alone



Submitted December 18, 2019 at 12:09AM

My boyfriend and I are both 17 (I'm a girl & he's a boy) and have been dating for 8 months. He is all around great, amazing, sweet, kind and really thoughtful and super attractive (not that it matters but still). So I slept over at his house for the first time and it was a little weird, for what I was expecting at least. His parents left earlier in the day to my boyfriend's grandparents and wouldn't be back till the next day, I fully expected to have sex with my him. Not only did he seem uninterested in sex I wasn't even sure if where I going to sleep at one point, I mentioned that I would sleep in his bed and he looked shocked for a moment then sorta played it off as it was the plan all along. He's usually super affectionate always giving me hugs, kissing me and cuddling with me and just pretty touchy in general. We both got in his bed and he just turned over and went to sleep, nothing not even a kiss. We slept on opposite sides of the bed and every time I tried to get close or try to hug him I was met with a pillow muffled “get off of me”. The next morning he's all lovey dovey again. Maybe he is just not ready for sex and us scared that me sleeping in the same bed with him is going to lead to that? I don't know it was weird for me, I expected to do stuff two 17 year olds would do when home alone
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