I'm pretty sure my friend is being emotionally manipulated by his girlfriend and I'm not sure how to tell him.

***I Also posted this in r/relationship advice, but I wanted more input, so I'm posting here, too.

I've got a friend that I'm pretty sure is being emotionally manipulated by his girlfriend, and I'm not sure how to tell him...

Any time he asks for time alone with her, she claims that he is trying to take time away from her two year old son; even if he is asking for lunch while her son is at daycare or dinner after her son has gone to bed.

Any time they argue she throws his past relationships in his face: "if this was X you wouldn't have said that".

She doesn't ever tell the whole truth at once (immediately after having sex one day) "I might have HPV", and after he got upset and stewed about it for two weeks: "well, I had one PAP that came back unusual, but I've had two or three since then that came back completely normal"

** this woman was physically and mentally abused and repeatedly raped by her ex husband, so there is a little reason for this next one:

Any time they argue she shrinks back/away and tells him she doesn't feel safe with him, even if he hasn't moved or raised his voice.

He has asked me what he should do, and I want to be completely honest, but I'm just not sure how to say this so it doesn't sound like I just want them to break up. (Which I think is the best option.)

Edited to add: they've only been together for 3 months, amd she doesn't seem to think there's anything wrong with her actions.



Submitted December 18, 2019 at 12:13AM

***I Also posted this in r/relationship advice, but I wanted more input, so I'm posting here, too.I've got a friend that I'm pretty sure is being emotionally manipulated by his girlfriend, and I'm not sure how to tell him...Any time he asks for time alone with her, she claims that he is trying to take time away from her two year old son; even if he is asking for lunch while her son is at daycare or dinner after her son has gone to bed.Any time they argue she throws his past relationships in his face: "if this was X you wouldn't have said that".She doesn't ever tell the whole truth at once (immediately after having sex one day) "I might have HPV", and after he got upset and stewed about it for two weeks: "well, I had one PAP that came back unusual, but I've had two or three since then that came back completely normal"** this woman was physically and mentally abused and repeatedly raped by her ex husband, so there is a little reason for this next one:Any time they argue she shrinks back/away and tells him she doesn't feel safe with him, even if he hasn't moved or raised his voice.He has asked me what he should do, and I want to be completely honest, but I'm just not sure how to say this so it doesn't sound like I just want them to break up. (Which I think is the best option.)Edited to add: they've only been together for 3 months, amd she doesn't seem to think there's anything wrong with her actions.

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