My Boyfriend (20M) and I (19F) got in an argument that was basically me overacting due to illness and I apologized shortly after but now nothing

My boyfriend and I are college students and we both have separate on campus apartments. Since this current year has started I have spent basically every night at his because his apartment is closer to my classes, I’m friends with his roommate and his roommate’s girlfriend and I just genuinely enjoy being in his apartment with him. Anyway, a couple days ago I came down with a terrible flu/sinus infection. Like fever, pain, almost constant painful coughing and sneezing. I was and still am in hell. I’m not in the best mental state when I’m ill. I’m not sure if many people are but I’m normally very smiley and happy so at least for the majority of the day I stick that illness depression into kinda like a growing ball of duck tape and go about my day.

But today it was very bad mentally...I couldn’t seem to my process my professors when they were lecturing and I stared at my TF for about 5 or more min before I understood her very simple question. Also some other small things sucked but meh. Then I stopped by my apartment and I got a message from my Boyfriend. He basically said hey I have a headache, am tired and have a runny nose probably allergies but can you stay at your place tonight.

And I agree what I did next is probably mostly an overreaction... I snapped. I was snippy in text and then I kinda sulked over there and packed the things I needed. I may have over packed and not really acknowledged him while he tried to ask what was up. But I was pissed. I do love this man very much and in many ways I see being around him as a sense of comfort and safety. He is my best friend. But, in my head, It was the same as being told I don’t care if you’re cold get away from the fire if that makes any sense? In my distress and illness the last place I wanna be is in my room alone working. I let him help me carry my bags to my apartment because I might have been upset but I wasn’t completely stupid I could barely breathe. Once we finally got to my apartment, we ended up having a argument over why I was upset. A bunch of things were said nothing particularly angry...we’re not really like that just more upset and it ended in a basically I guess I’ll see you when I see you.

After he left I calmed down and I ended up sending him an apology basically saying what I said here. But all he responded with was a short very politician sounding thank you for saying that and talking about that. Perhaps we do need some space. That is far from normal. We are very similar people and as you can probably tell long paragraphs are our thing. I do apologize for the long winded post but I’d appreciate any advice you can give.

TLDR : I haven’t been in the best mental state and I overreacted to something my boyfriend did when I shouldn’t have. I realized shortly after my mistake and apologized but I’ve gotten very little in response and that’s not normal. What should I do?

Submitted September 10, 2019 at 11:41PM

My boyfriend and I are college students and we both have separate on campus apartments. Since this current year has started I have spent basically every night at his because his apartment is closer to my classes, I’m friends with his roommate and his roommate’s girlfriend and I just genuinely enjoy being in his apartment with him. Anyway, a couple days ago I came down with a terrible flu/sinus infection. Like fever, pain, almost constant painful coughing and sneezing. I was and still am in hell. I’m not in the best mental state when I’m ill. I’m not sure if many people are but I’m normally very smiley and happy so at least for the majority of the day I stick that illness depression into kinda like a growing ball of duck tape and go about my day.But today it was very bad mentally...I couldn’t seem to my process my professors when they were lecturing and I stared at my TF for about 5 or more min before I understood her very simple question. Also some other small things sucked but meh. Then I stopped by my apartment and I got a message from my Boyfriend. He basically said hey I have a headache, am tired and have a runny nose probably allergies but can you stay at your place tonight.And I agree what I did next is probably mostly an overreaction... I snapped. I was snippy in text and then I kinda sulked over there and packed the things I needed. I may have over packed and not really acknowledged him while he tried to ask what was up. But I was pissed. I do love this man very much and in many ways I see being around him as a sense of comfort and safety. He is my best friend. But, in my head, It was the same as being told I don’t care if you’re cold get away from the fire if that makes any sense? In my distress and illness the last place I wanna be is in my room alone working. I let him help me carry my bags to my apartment because I might have been upset but I wasn’t completely stupid I could barely breathe. Once we finally got to my apartment, we ended up having a argument over why I was upset. A bunch of things were said nothing particularly angry...we’re not really like that just more upset and it ended in a basically I guess I’ll see you when I see you.After he left I calmed down and I ended up sending him an apology basically saying what I said here. But all he responded with was a short very politician sounding thank you for saying that and talking about that. Perhaps we do need some space. That is far from normal. We are very similar people and as you can probably tell long paragraphs are our thing. I do apologize for the long winded post but I’d appreciate any advice you can give.TLDR : I haven’t been in the best mental state and I overreacted to something my boyfriend did when I shouldn’t have. I realized shortly after my mistake and apologized but I’ve gotten very little in response and that’s not normal. What should I do?