I [32 M] had amazing, regular, text communication with [32F] of 3 dates but she has suddenly pulled back. Not the first time while dating. Can anyone relate to being on either side of this?

This has happened a couple times in a row now with girls im trying to date, and definitely in the past. So we'd have seen each other a couple times over the course of a couple weeks, conversations going great, she starts face timing me sometimes, we've slept together. We're texting every day. And then suddenly I feel a difference, she's not texting me during the day, or asking me what im up to. I still get something, but it's an obvious departure from where things have been at. I'm pretty good at keeping pace with someone so I just let it slow down but it's hard to adjust to since I was enjoying the steady, positive momentum we were having.

The last time we hung out we had fun, she told me nice things about me and complimented me. Said she was happy I kissed her on the first date. But then lackluster communication. I really dont like feeling like I'm playing games but after a pretty minimal response from her on sunday I'm giving it a few days of no texting to try and not get ahead of myself... so far no word from her either.

Obviously I'm wondering if she's losing interest, but I'm also wondering if my communication style lends itself to this happening. I've been told many times that I'm extremely easy to talk to and am all around an excellent communicator by girls I've dated and it's super flattering and something I've come to take some pride in. I enjoy lots of conversation and texting and banter, so it's easy for lots of conversation to start happening. It's a very balanced amount of conversation, and if anything (after the first week) she initiated it more often, she would send me pictures of what she's up to throughout the day and like I said, started initiating face time calls.

It was after our last facetime call that she made a comment about how we've been talking a lot and within a week I felt her pull back. This very thing happened with the last girl I tried to date as well, and I wonder if I'm indulging in too much conversation/texting between seeing eachother this early on. If it's becoming too much and suddenly two weeks into it the girl gets sorta freaked out by how involved we're acting, maybe? I'd love for a girl to comment on this. Do you ever freak yourself out with how much you're getting involved with someone and emotionally step back?

TL/DR: Conversation is easy and often in the beginning and picks up a lot of steam before dropping off and leaving me wondering what happened.

Submitted September 10, 2019 at 10:58PM

This has happened a couple times in a row now with girls im trying to date, and definitely in the past. So we'd have seen each other a couple times over the course of a couple weeks, conversations going great, she starts face timing me sometimes, we've slept together. We're texting every day. And then suddenly I feel a difference, she's not texting me during the day, or asking me what im up to. I still get something, but it's an obvious departure from where things have been at. I'm pretty good at keeping pace with someone so I just let it slow down but it's hard to adjust to since I was enjoying the steady, positive momentum we were having.The last time we hung out we had fun, she told me nice things about me and complimented me. Said she was happy I kissed her on the first date. But then lackluster communication. I really dont like feeling like I'm playing games but after a pretty minimal response from her on sunday I'm giving it a few days of no texting to try and not get ahead of myself... so far no word from her either.Obviously I'm wondering if she's losing interest, but I'm also wondering if my communication style lends itself to this happening. I've been told many times that I'm extremely easy to talk to and am all around an excellent communicator by girls I've dated and it's super flattering and something I've come to take some pride in. I enjoy lots of conversation and texting and banter, so it's easy for lots of conversation to start happening. It's a very balanced amount of conversation, and if anything (after the first week) she initiated it more often, she would send me pictures of what she's up to throughout the day and like I said, started initiating face time calls.It was after our last facetime call that she made a comment about how we've been talking a lot and within a week I felt her pull back. This very thing happened with the last girl I tried to date as well, and I wonder if I'm indulging in too much conversation/texting between seeing eachother this early on. If it's becoming too much and suddenly two weeks into it the girl gets sorta freaked out by how involved we're acting, maybe? I'd love for a girl to comment on this. Do you ever freak yourself out with how much you're getting involved with someone and emotionally step back?TL/DR: Conversation is easy and often in the beginning and picks up a lot of steam before dropping off and leaving me wondering what happened.